I feel so stupid lol âşď¸ but i really need to ask this, i am 16-17 and i wanna be more girly and like lil'woman, how can i? Thank you soooo much again đ
 Oh! You want to be more âgirlyâ ? Well, Iâm going to take in fact what girly normally means in this sense and use it like that ahhah! Donât feel stupid, though.
You have your own style that is unique to youâŚetc. You donât have to be something else, though if you are currently not happy with yourself and are working on self improvement, I encourage you to do so. Letâs start with some basics on what âgirlyâ or âfeminineâ is!Â
Girly is basically acting in very feminine and liking feminine things. However, there is MUCH more to it than just the look. Iâm going to start off with the more âmatureâ side of things, as you said you wanted to be more like a woman (which includes maturity) and then we can work on other things! Itâs not just a style, itâs a mindset. The âfuck you iâm going to get my goalsâ mindset.
/Note: None of this is set in stone. This is just my opinion on to help her grow into a stronger and more mature woman.
Do not take shit. Walk with your head high and smile. If someone puts you down, ask yourself:Â âIs this a logical problem or is it opinionated?â If it is opinionated, ignore it. If it is logical and backed with evidence and reasoning, take it into factor and make note to work on that.
Learn to treat yourself. Itâs okay to want to spend a little extra money on yourself sometimes.
Be independent. Donât rely on others to get things done for you. Your homework is your homework. Your job is your job. Be independent and donât rely on them to do it for you!
Treat yourself and others with respect. I have a rule, instead of just âyou have to earn my respectâ I say: âI respect until you disrespect, and at that point, I drop all respect Iâve had for you.â
Fight immaturity with maturity. If someone is being messy as hell, fight back with maturity. Give no fucks. Show no mercy. When they call you a name and try to fight, if you want to piss them off AND come off as mature, say something like:Â âHonestly, I have goals to reach. I donât have time for you to be immature and try to ruin that for me.â And walk off.
Donât be afraid to break sometimes. It happens to the strongest of people. There is no way I could count how many times I sat in bed at night trying to stop crying. Cry, and afterwards, take a deep breath and tell yourself that youâll get through this.
DO NOT let people dictate who you are. Donât let these little boys or girls tell you that you need to look like this or that. Donât let them tell you who you should be. Not even your parents are allowed to tell you who to be. If they try, pretend to obey but do the exact opposite. Be who YOU are.
Get your schoolwork done, babe. Seriously this is important, it isnât about the grades. Itâs about furthering your knowledge and showing everyone that you can do what they think you canât.
Have fun! Have fun if you want, but be safe.
Do everything with confidence, even if you have to fake it!
Follow your passions. Maybe you like dance, singing art, makeup or whatever else. Do it.Â
Remember that if anyone ever says you fucked them, that only gives you power.
If youâre giving an assignment wednesday and are told you need it finished by friday, work on it wednesday. Cut off all distractions and work on that assignment. Afterwards, write down everything you didnât understand. The next day, spend time learning about what you didnât understand and proofread the assignment 3 times. This applies for ALL days.
Exams coming up soon? Stop staying up all night studying. Study in 10-15 minute intervals with 5 minute breaks. Quiz yourself every hour to find your weak links and then study those. What are you scared of failing most? Focus on that.
Youâre 16-17. You know about sex. You know how it works. You may have already have sex. This is okay. All I ask of you is to be safe. Do NOT rely on someone to have condoms, if you need, go buy them yourself. Know how to do things safely. Remember: Kink isnât spontaneous, itâs safe words. Anal isnât a quick slip, itâs reading articles on how to do it and lube. Be safe, be real.
In the case that you get pregnant: Breathe. Make your choices. Do what you need to do and always remember that you can run in my askbox and talk to me about everything. I will always be here to listen. You can also read articles and such on parenting advice, how to do it as a teenager..etc.
Iâm telling you the above because Iâve had friends who got pregnant at 15-16 or 17 and didnât know what to do.
Donât slut shame  or talk bad about girls who want to have sex and have lots of it. Instead, encourage them to do it safely.
Donât put anyone down that isnât as popular as you. Bring them up.Â
Being sweet will get you a long way.
Act twice your age if you want to look really mature in front of all the teachers and shit. Literally you can read articles..etc. on maturity.
Remember that maturity does not mean you canât have fun.
If you feel depressedâŚetc. talk to someone. Donât be silent.
One of the first signs I ever had of anorexia was that I craved the disorder. Which means I literally wanted to be it. Little did I know it was going to drag me through hell. If you have these thoughts, get help.
Do not be afraid of going to get help from a professional.
/Note: Â Take notes on these. Take them to heart. Carry them with you like a blankie to a baby and donât let go of them.
âAll flowers must start as sprouts.â - Â Me
âTo fight or to cower down, that is the question. The question in which you should answer from the ground, even face down in the dirt, bloody and bruised from life with a smirk. Because to fight when youâre down is the most courageous thing.â - Me
âAnd she will bow to no one nor anything, and the day she does, you should fear.â - Me
âLearn the rules like a pro so you can break them like an artist.â - Picasso
âDonât run backwards, no never, even if it breaks down, oh better.â - Tomorrow
âIf you feel like youâre going to crash, accelerate you idiot.â - Nevermind
âYou donât need a âreasonâ to live. Live because you can. Live because in the end, even if it hurts, you donât need a reason to live. All that matters is that youâre here.â - Me
âIf I ever break through the wall of failure, people will be in awe at the sight of me rising from nothingness.â - Me
âSome girls are full of heartache and poetry and those are the kind of girls who try to save wolves instead of running away from them.â - Nikita Gill  //Be one of those girls. - me//
If you want to truly live, you have to be tested, whether by yourself or the cruel game of life. - Me
Stop living in fear of what might happen and start living in what is happening. - Me
âDonât fashion me into a maiden that needs saving from a dragon. I am the dragon and I will eat you whole.â - Unknown
âShe spun herself a crown of gold, thrones of bones and citadels, to the deaf stars she screamed: make me queen or Iâll make you bleed.â M.J.
âYouâre masking past failure with your present success and itâs both beautiful and terrifying, like watching a witch write your name in the stars.â A.Ashstar
Lmao thereâs a lot from me but most of them have literally kept my best friends from dying so I added them anyways.
âTouch me and youâll burn.â - Margaret Atwood
This photographers work will inspire you
 âYouâre worth it, youâre perfect, you deserve it, just work it.â - 21st Century girlÂ
Now we can get on to the typical âstyleâ or such. This is just some stuff that Iâve accumulated. However there is so much more to it. You dress how YOU want to dress. Do what makes you confident. But if you want, I do have a polyvore. (celestial-sweets). Now onto some style recommendations to embrace your femininity! When most people think âfeminineâ they think âdressâ when I think feminine, I think âgorgeousâ. There will be a massive variety under this. So you can wear whatever you want and still have style recommendations.
/Note: I feel the need to say that you should wear whatever makes you confident and comfy again.
Tucked in tank tops and body suits with jeans
White skinny jeans look amazing with this look
Get your glitter lipstick on if you want boo yes work it
Normally they donât add a lot of highlight but i you want, yesss
Wavy/curly hair looks gorgeous with this style
Heels (usually black or tan) are a hella yes
Mascara and nude eyeshadow
Do the above with this new style too, itll work
But also if you wear bodycon itll be hella looking baddie
thigh high boots happen a lot
with matte eyeshaodw but with a really clean glitter
 and gradient brows ive noticed
 but the best part about this look is that you can be casual with it and look like youâre some kinda goddess i swear
 literally if you toss on some highlighter, a pair of ripped jeans and a shirt with some adidasÂ
or likea bomber jacket, a sports tank and shorts, with adidas and some like nude lipstick, brown mascara and highlgihter
 you will literally glow like you have never glown before
Crop tops are a thing with this look yall
Toss on like a crop top hoodie and a cropped tank and boom
oh oh oh and if you wear an oversized plain white t shirt with like a pair of jean shorts
honestly tho and with this, you wanna have very very light eyeliner like
just tightline the top, light mascara, aa clear gloss on your lips
you will be a glowing boo without even trying
 AND DUDE A MESSY BUN YES
 but if your hair is too short for that thatâs okay boo i understand,Â
itlls still look cute as fuck
Heels, strappy ass heels,
Small chain necklaces with tiny pendantsÂ
A ring or two, with some shiny bracelets
dresses dresses more dresses
soft curls or straight hair works well
a black scarf paired with a button up shirt and some black slacks and a pair of heels will make you look like a business woman
but a black pleated one works too
stockings go well with this look
TBH tho just wear what you wanna wear. Â
Remember to put an outfit together super easily you can stick to basic colors like black/tan/gray/white and throw something on so quick to look fancy
Also to be honest any fancy undies will make you feel so much more feminine i swear
 like i have some lace ones with poka dot and i cry they make me feel so good
Bbut if you want to look very mature then you should look at business womenâŚetc. take notes on style from it and how to present yourself.
/Note: yes boo get ur self care
Coconut oil your legs like hella
Donât forget to brush your teeth darling
Organize and clean your room once a week
Get your dishes out of the room EVERY DAY
Go to bed at a reasonable time if you have school okay
Wash your clothes when the basket is almost full, not full. But almost full. And learn how to properly wash them.
Go on a walk once a week or do some kind of activity
all this is so stereotypical but idgaf
If thereâs somewhere you want to go, start saving a little bit of money to go there
When you wake up, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you love you.Â
Ttake your damn vitamins boo bear. Like vitamins and nutrition support can help you so much more than you would know.
Donât overwork yourself.
Love yourself, love myself. - RM
Okay boo thatâs all the advice I have! Literally just have fun, much love dear. Always remember you can come to my ask box!! Have fun! Love yourself!!!
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