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[shnowyfox]

it would be so awesome

it would be so cool

[pocket-deer-belly]

Tbh not knowing anything about what feminizing hrt does in my opinion also betrays just a lack of knowledge on what estrogen does during puberty. Like hey if you didn’t know that feminizing hrt doesn’t affect the vocal chords what else do you not know about like, women in general

[catboybiologist]

It's both.

People don't understand hormones as a core signal for development, they understand them as "a drizzle of something that makes women emotional sometimes"

That is both a failure to understand cis women's health and a failure to conceptualize trans women's bodies as having any similarity to cis women's bodies.

[intelligentchristianlady]

A bus may have only a couple of passengers, especially at the beginning or end of its route. But let's also take fuel efficiency into account.

[foxoftheasterisk]

If there's one person on a bus because that person cannot or doesn't want to drive, the bus is succeeding.

[luckyladylily]

I read a study once on the fuel efficiency of various types of commuter vehicles (car, bus, train) on a per person basis and the number of people needed riding public transit to match the "efficiency" of cars is shockingly low. A bus needs to carry like 3-4 people to be fuel efficient, and trains require 2-3 per train car. Both often carry two dozen or more during peak hours, more than justifying any perceived requirements for efficiency for the train or bus to provide service the entire day.

[brightlotusmoon]

[qcharlie]

i think we should talk about degendering more as a very real form of transphobia. you should not be calling a trans woman "they" when she's explained her pronouns to you. you should not be calling her a "person" instead of a woman. she's not too gnc, she's not too androgynous, you're not "confused" about her identity, you're degendering her. I fear we've gotten to a point we've forgotten the very basics of this movement is "trans women are women" and "trans men are men", and not just "trans people are someone who's pronouns you have to memorize so you don't offend them." you see her as a man in a dress and it pisses me off

[plumberrypudding]

another Black trans woman was found murdered, louisiana this time, and the news is consistently misgendering her in all the reporting. her name was marlow trottie and she was only 35 and she was a woman. don’t let them erase her womanhood.

edit: i’m not messing around here if i get even a whiff of anything short of full unconditional love, grief, and welcoming acceptance of and for this woman i’m immediately blocking you. i’m not entertaining anything, i’m not hearing anyone out, there will be no benefit of the doubt. sorry but we’re past that. love and accept Black trans women Unconditionally with Zero questions asked or simply do not speak on my post.

[mousidy]

We should extend that post that's like "straight women will be like 'i wish i didn't have to date men' well you don't have to date men" to "you don't have to date TMEs".

Like don't get me wrong I think it's ok to have a relationship with someone who doesn't have the same level of privilege as you and it can work, but I feel like so many transfems put up with a lot of transmisogyny from their partners because they're scared of being abandoned. And it's like no girl they don't deserve you. It's better to be single than to be with someone who treats you like garbage.

If you're TME and you're dating someone who's TMA the bare fucking minimum is to educate yourself on transmisogyny. Who do they think they are lmao.

🎯

[mousidy]

You're point about desiring transgression vs inherently being transgressive was excellent. I would reblog it but my tme partner fell for the whole "transmisogyny is terf nonsense" thing and they would call me out if I reblogged anything like this, but I felt compelled to voice my appreciation for the post. (sorry if im out of line!)

I hope it crosses their dash incidentally and makes them think and change their mind, and/or you get out of there and live free

[shaveyoureyebrows]

The Humble AI Artist - I HATE AI art!! I hate it I hate it I hate it!!! Anyway I'll be back for more cold takes this evening at 6PM

[mom-spores]

did anyone else watch that miniseries on paramount+ ?

[kayla-denker]

My roommate is transmasc. We were just talking about their reluctance to use the men's bathroom even as they "pass" more and more as a man, which is starting to cause people to give them concerning looks when they use the women's. They said they still use the women's because they feel more comfortable there. Which is fine, we shouldn't have gendered bathrooms anyway. But I told them "you might not feel as safe when you eventually get 'accused' of being a trans woman in the women's bathroom." To which they replied "oh, I'll lust lift my shirt and show them my mastectomy scars. That'll prove I belong in there."

Oh but "everyone is subjected to transmisogyny," right?

This is the point of TME/TMA. This is why non-transfeminine people aren't subjected to transmisogyny.

I can't fall back on my AGAB to "prove I belong" in women's spaces.

[hoodiegal]

"if someone confronts me about being a trans person in the wrong bathroom, i'll just expose myself to them" is an incredibly TME thing to say

[blackrosevictoria]

I'm firmly of the opinion that transmascs who are even halfway decently passing need to stay the fuck out of the ladies room.

This trans guy I know who has a fucking beard and mustache got the cops called on my group of friends for being in the ladies room. Luckily management was on our side, but me and my transfemme friend were PISSED because he just endangered the both of us through this stupid thoughtless behavior.

[hauntedfragmentgeode]

Queer unity has been trying as hard as possible to downplay any possible transfem issue. Pay gap adding up to thousands a year? Not a big deal. V coding? Never mention it. Trans women are much more likely to be sent to an early grave than their male counterparts? Stop bringing that up. Trans people collaborating with kiwifarms? Just internet drama.

You know what IS an important issue? Getting called a fucking birthday boy. They get all hands on deck about it. They will write VERY long posts about how important it is you not use it, and that anyone who does must be punished as severely as possible

There's only one explanation. The lives of trans women are so worthless to them, so fucking disposable, that a trans man getting invalidated is actually more important to them. That's how these people, who demand we view them as family and allies, who think we should be ready to die for them, view us.

I know people who treat house flies with more respect than that.

[carriebeepo]

forever reminded of this fucking yt reply i got in a thread abt transmisogyny, this kinda attitude is so common. even when you do bring up shit that disproportionately or exclusively affects transfems the response is "what abt me" or downplaying it

[claire-the-apocalypse]

"Damn, v-coding sounds terrible... I hope they don't do that to trans men, too!" Because obviously it's *bad* when it happens to trans women, but oh dear god, THINK OF THE TRANS MEN that this might hypothetically happen to in a different situation!! I'm going to fucking cry. Trans women are so unvalued, these people look at the reality that trans women have to wake up to every single day, and they respond with "yeah, it's terrible when the sex slave gets raped. That must really hurt! But god, imagine if a HUMAN was raped instead? HORROR!"

[kayla-denker]

TME people have no idea the damage that the constant state of living under transmisogyny does to our mental health. Before I show any any amount of strength, physical or emotional, before I ever be assertive or confident, before I ever stand up for myself, before I ever do any of the things that cis women get rightfully praised for by other feminists, I have to wonder if its going to get me violently misgendered and used as proof of my "male socialization" by those around me.

But then if I do the opposite by making myself smaller, meeker, quieter, when I don't stand up for myself, when I be the model form of femininity that's supposedly expected of me, I get accused of "wearing femininity as a costume" or "perpetuating misogynistic standards for women."

We are constantly, every minute of our lives, subject to a catch-22. And being around TME queer people doesn't change any of this.

[pixeljade]

I feel like theres a tendency amongst TME trans folks to view and portray masculine features in TMA folks as a challenge to perceptions of gender but honestly to me it just feels like we're being used as a prop to further your own goals, and that it seems infinitely more radical to portray any transfem as openly enjoying femininity, because femininity is so rarely celebrated, instead portrayed as a cage or a costume.

Like. When us transfems get assaulted or murdered, it is not because we have stubble. We had stubble before coming out, it was never punished then. We get assaulted and murdered because we are embracing femininity.

So yeah. Stop drawing your transfem characters looking like a guy in a dress, you're literally just perpetuating transmisogyny and pretending its good because you use the right pronouns.

[musiicpix3l]

Yes yes i know love is love. But they are still killing CHILDREN. over this.

[fluffmugger]

"Love is love" is a milquetoast cishet marketing phrase

Pride is a FUCK YOU to a society that wants us dead.

[mousidy]

On the subject of "dump your puppygirl" and I am sorry to still be talking about it, maybe we should not and if you think so feel free to discard this ask.

One thing I have seen both Tara and her defenders repeatedly assert is that it is "material analysis" and that that is what makes it not wrong. But it isn't? It's completely anecdotal. That is the polar opposite of material analysis.

Material analysis is based on material evidence. Like say, a study on wage gaps (familiar to you no doubt) or just anything with actual real observable evidence. A story someone told is not and cannot be considered material analysis, that makes no sense at all.

she's gotten good at capturing the language and aesthetic of a revolutionary to peddle some pretty garden variety ableism and transmisogyny. she seems dead set on winning the hearts of liberals who want to be told their conservative beliefs are transgressive without actually having to change them

[mousidy]

she tried to send the wolves after me for changing my tune about her, but I've had a resounding 0 wolves show up. she's been trying to scapegoat several other transfeminists too. she tags so many of her posts with #isff. on another platform she blamed someone else for the same article that she said on here was my fault. she's really not helping by claiming transfem dissenters are faking their disabilities either. she does not demonstrate an interest in the well-being of other trans women

like to be honest I hope she just takes a breath and chills for a minute to reassess. no wolf-throwing needs to be done. if we're to build a movement and fight our oppression, we can't be weaponizing the very same oppression against each other by guiding our oppressors' ire toward our detractors. how can you be a transfeminist at all if you're ok with weaponizing transmisogyny as long as it's eating the faces of trans women you don't like?

[mousidy]

well put 🙃

[cannibal-flowerbomb]

Hey I support you being trans but I seen a lot of stuff in your blog that is hateful and sexist towards men assuming all men are the same so all I'm asking is please stop being hateful or sexist towards men please and thank you

I don't like men because I'm a dyke hope that helps.

[cannibal-flowerbomb]

.......What does me being trans have to do with your misogyny-

[cannibal-flowerbomb]

Hold on stop wait it's late this just sunk in fully

Is the implication you're putting in front of me that your support for my gender identity somehow hinges on my opinions about men

Anon.......... oh Anon that's not okay.

[the-gas-station-mirror]

A transfem Jack as a gift to the Pain Gravy server. While I personally lean more towards transmale Jack, I think Jackie is very pretty and deserves a forever road trip with her favorite people.