sweet like sugar xoxo

England. part time wild child, full time sugar baby

[gallerysugarbae]

Desperation does not belong in the sugar bowl.

You just took a financial hit and nothing is looking up. You need money, fast. You heard about Seeking Arrangement and What’s Your Price and it doesn’t seem too bad, going on dates and getting a few hundreds, maybe more? Going to casinos on weekends and cashing in thousands?

Stop. Look at yourself in the mirror. Are your nails done? Is your back straight? Is your house clean? Are you mentally strong, are your meds refilled? Have you truly exhausted all other options for income? 

Or are you depressed? Are you too exhausted to call it resumé season, are you afraid you don’t have the strength for long waitressing shifts, do you just want to have a nice filet mignon and feel pretty, feel valuable?

Don’t even make a profile. Don’t even think about it.  Realize that you are already in a bad place, and that going on a date with an older man that you (due to your fears, your insecurities) will immediately detest will only make it worse. You will be rated on a scale of attractiveness from one to ten, from $150 to $15,000, and believe me, the $15,000 only exists in your mind.

It exists because this lifestyle is glamorized. Because one girl got that amount once and now all the newbies think they automatically deserve it. 

You deserve what you get away with. 

Depressed, insecure, inexperienced girls come into the bowl and get caught up in cheap, emotionally involved pay for play. 

You may think you’re getting away with $500 and a lobster bisque. But if you are in the bowl out of desperation, if you are not the type of woman cut out for this, you are also leaving with sexual micro-trauma, possible sexual aversion, a cynical outlook on the sugar daddy demographic, triggering gifts (you’ll never want to wear that lingerie again), intensified daddy issues, possibly even Stockholm syndrome. 

Oh, and you’ll lie. You’ll tell people he’s a platonic sugar daddy (because you can’t bring yourself to even think about the sex). You’ll glamorize it all. You’ll keep your destroyed self esteem to yourself and pretend that jacuzzi selfies make it better. 

Sex work can be fulfilling and enjoyable. But it can also be traumatic and bring you down lower than you already are. 

[brownsugarny]

Every girl needs to read this if they are thinking about joining the bowl. Couldn’t have said it better myself. Bravo.

☆ Brown Sugar NY ☆

[soflobrat]

This

[southsunsugar-deactivated201810]

Had to reblog! So very well said!

[luckyluxbaby-deactivated2018090]

You deserve what you get away with. 

[sweetforeignsugar]

Not Everyone Can Be a Sugar Baby

So I saw this post earlier to brownstatuesquesugarbaby and it really stuck with me enough that it’s still bothering me now. Without roasting the anonymous asker over the coals which is never my intention, the anon did say something that really bothered me which is that she or he is afraid of becoming addicted to sugaring because you receive the money for “little to no work”…

Now that strikes me as being a little shady, but I digress. I wanted to first address that point by saying sugaring is hard work. It’s exhausting emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally. There is a massive amount of time you spend prepping and bettering yourself that you don’t get paid for, you have to deduct it out of whatever allowance your SD deems you worthy enough. The job doesn’t come with benefits. There is zero job security. You get jerked around a lot. You have to constantly worry that if anyone discovers what you do that it will literally ruin your life. You have to basically be an actress most of the time. Like any other person who works in a sales industry (because this is a sales industry, you are the product, the salesperson etc.) you have to develop a thick skin and be creative in your sales pitches. I could really go on and on and on.

Which brings me to this point: not everyone can be a sugar baby. I’m not even talking about, “oh you aren’t pretty enough” or whatever non SBs think I’m talking about. First, no matter what you look like, somebody finds you attractive. Second, whatever stereotype you have of a Sugar Baby, throw it out of your head. I’ve been in this long enough to know that SBs come from all nationalities, all walks of life, all shapes and sizes, all educational backgrounds, etc. There is no stereotypical SB so throw that out of your pretty little head right now.

People don’t talk about this enough, but most girls aren’t successful. In my experience, and this is all I have to go on because there’s no numerical data out there on this, but in my experience most girls are not successful at being SBs. And we, the girls on the internet who glamorize this lifestyle, need to be more honest and say that for every one of us, there’s another girl who failed.

Not everyone can be a successful SB because it’s hard. It takes an emotional toll so hard that it takes someone with a lot of steel in them to stand up to it. You’re going to be rejected. You’re going to be hurt and taken advantage of. You’re going to eventually develop feelings and have to realize that what you have with that person isn’t real. It’s difficult to lie to your friends and family. It’s difficult feeling isolated and alone. It’s difficult feeling the judgment of the general public. It’s difficult to keep trying and keep looking and keep putting yourself out there when things fall apart.

To be a SB, you have to be able to bury your emotions. You have to be able to put aside your real feelings, slap on a fake smile and play the part of the fantasy. You have to be able to manipulate without feeling guilty. You have to be intuitive enough and intelligent enough to know what your SD or POT’s next move is so you can stay ahead of him. To be a really successful SB, I think you have to be a little bit cold-hearted, you have to have some steel in you, you have to be charismatic, you have to be manipulative, and you have to be a good actress. 

This isn’t romance, this is a job. It’s a job with its own challenges, and it’s a job that not everyone can do. 

So when you say something like, “I want to get into sugaring because it looks so easy and fun!” you’re being insulting and also, you’re in for a rude awakening.

[sugarandthecity-blog1]

👏🏻👏🏼👏🏽👏🏾👏🏿

[kamonra]

This is the money pentacle. Reblog and unexpected money will come to you!

[darkcocosb-blog]

Shiiiiit. I reblogged, and I got $750 in two days for basically nothing! The first day this client/POT asked my agent to invite some girls and I to his end. We basically sipped wine and left with $500 each. He called me yesterday and we took a ride on my highway and gave me $250😂😂😂. Money blogs everyday any day!

[soflobrat]

Won’t chance it.

[br0wnsugarandspice]

Yo this shit works not even gonna front like I didn’t just get money

[tastelikehoney-sb-deactivated20]

Let me reblog this 2x then 😂

[nudiemuse]

Do the thing pls

[quickweaves]

im screaming it worked lmfao

[hunter-dahl-deactivated20161208]

Not to be a “tumblr witch” but I’ll try anything twice

[dunsparce]

Guys…. I didn’t think it would work but wtf….I just checked my email…

I have an extra $600 I didn’t have before ;____;

[witchoncampus]

Fuck it, I need the money 😂

[hoeelise]

Fuccckkk need!!

[okiesugarr]

Let me tell y’all something about sugaring in a poor rural state.

This is just a rant, not directed at anybody in particular, I guess part just reminding the SB community to be a little more gentle on those in different situations that you won’t ever understand, and part getting some sadness and disappointment off my chest.

I see a lot of y’all posting things like “omg, y’all are ruining it for everybody else! What kind of girl is out here accepting $150 a meet?? If everybody would raise their prices, we’d all do better!”

Here’s why that doesn’t work, and is demeaning to those of us who live in places like Oklahoma:

When I set my income filters to $1 million/year within 150 miles of Oklahoma City, do you know how many results show up?

20.

And when I make sure they’re premium, so they can even read a message that I send?

2.

Two men.

There is one man in OKC. One in Tulsa.

And that’s it.

Now, obviously, when I add on the 500k, 400k, 300k a year profiles, that number increases. But I still don’t have a lot of options.

I get messages every day, offering me $150 a meet. $200 a week. And yeah, it’s insulting. It’s frustrating. I cried this morning after turning down FOUR men who messaged me interested and then all offered me less than $200 per meet. Now, I could have taken all four of those offers. Met with four men a week for the foreseeable future and collecting an allowance from all of them, and still only be making $800 a week.

And please keep in mind that I say this as a tall, thin, blonde-haired, blue-eyed, white woman.

I’ve gotten some great allowances in the past. I’ve gotten $1000 a meet. But that’s not normal here, and more often than getting through a negotiation, I get blocked when I mention a number that high.

I guess what I’m saying is this: we can’t all demand more. Because there’s not always enough money. If I could sugar in NYC, I know I would be making bank. But I can’t right now. Maybe someday I’ll have enough money for that, but right now, I have to put up with $100-200 offers every single day.

And it makes me feel like shit, when I see you guys in bigger cities make more money in a month than I’ve held in years. So stop saying that if you accept less than $xxx, you’re not an SB, or that we need to ask for more, as though we’re doing you some type of disservice, because I’ve been asking for more from the second I got into this game and it doesn’t always work out that way.

When I think about the amount of money I could have right now by just saying yes to all those low offers and working my ass off, wearing my emotional energy down to the bone, I’m not sad. I’m happy that I chose myself and my well-being over all of that.

But don’t tell me I just need to ask for more. Because in places like Oklahoma, there just isn’t “more.” There isn’t even enough to go around.

[brwnsugababexo-blog]

Omg the best thing I’ve read all day!

[rosesandsugarco-deactivated2020]

🗣truth!! i have to remind myself that while my ppm isn’t nearly as high as girls in NYC neither is my rent🤷🏾‍♀️ a NICE 2 bed loft in a big city near me is around 1,200 👀

[glitternotbitter-blog1]

The best and realist thing I’ve read! This goes for the SB’s in England I see girls who live in London requesting £800-£1000 but if you live outside of London very rarely does any guy offer you above £400 ppm. Not a dig at anyone just bit of a reality check

[rarelytheresorry]

You gonna get that job, get that car, house/apartment, and then you gon find you a lil boo who gon listen and y’all gon be happy.

Reblog it into existence

[mynameinyamouth]

Just in case any of you girls have an overnight this weekend.

[kaylafox07-blog]

If you’re a man like this please kindly OFF yourself thanks.

[hathor77]

Sounds like bravado, not to say they’re not sick in the head and probably wouldn’t attempt this on anyone they could find :(

[sweeterrthansugar-blog]

Incase any of y’all need a reality check on how the majority of these guys think

[thatsugarbabymaya]

Heres a reality to all the new sugar babies

[whorenextdoor-nyc-deactivated20]

Holy shit, what the fuck. 

[saintserine]

this is a reality for every single sugar baby. Make sure you understand this shit before getting into it.

[oriental-sugar]

Babes y'all need to stay safe and alert. Men are sick predatory creatures.

[thequeenofsunflowers-deactivate]

May Money Find You. Like to charge, reblog to cast!

[sugarsugarandchivalry]

Beware girls

[samanthajonessb]

How did you find this?? Some notable posts from the thread. Ladies these men are professionals/hobbyist. They do this for fun, for sport. It’s disgusting and frightening. Please please be careful. “My total cost after sleeping with 7 people in three weeks (all on the first “date”) is around $220 bucks. •Noticed a lot of guys mentioning how women will say how great it is to have a young attractive guy on the site. I realize the majority of women who say that are lying to stroke that ego (guilty!) But please please lie about how great the men on the site are. Don’t tell them that the men are flaky or stand you up or cheap. A question and answer-•”What do you do after the first date?”- “disappear” One user asked this question- do they bring up the “arrangement” on the first date, what do you say? This was the response- “Sometimes they do on the first date, sometimes they do beforehand. I tell them “I don’t discuss such things before seeing if we have a connection. It makes the relationship transactional. I have zero desire for a hooker.” That usually get’s them off the subject as most SB’s don’t want to be considered an escort. I use the word hooker for shock value as it is not PC in today’s world. It conveys the fact I look down on hookers with disdain, both raising my value and showing I want more than just a pump and dump. (Little do they know) And if she really is a hooker she’ll blow herself out by bringing it up again later.” - Another response - “I do essentially the same thing. “We need to see if we have a connection first.” During the date, I’ll dangle the possibilities in front of her. I’ve traveled a lot so I will discuss some of my adventures and ask her what places she’d like to visit. I’ll even ask her if she has a passport and if she’d consider taking a weekend trip with me. Of course these bitches eat it up. “We can spend a weekend in New York sometime, maybe somewhere in Europe if it’s a long weekend. I prefer Budapest and Prague over Paris; Paris is overrated. Do you have a passport?” Some chicks want money upfront. These girls are probably legit hookers and just get ignored. If she wants to talk money after the bang, then I’ll bullshit her and pretend to negotiate. Then I disappear. It’s easy to stall for a week or two and then say you met someone else, especially if you establish upfront that you have a very busy travel and work schedule. To avoid a false rape charge That night or the next day after the bang, I always send a message similar to the following: “Hey, I had a good time last night, I’m glad we met. We should set up something regular.” They always respond with something positive such as “I had a good time too, let me know when you’re in town again”. The types of chicks who go on SA seem like the type to make a false rape charge when the money doesn’t materialize. This is insurance against a rape charge. The hamster is much stronger in Sugar Babies than in most women.” - referring to women as bitches and broads - pump and dump - never actually give a girl money. Show her money, take her to fancy lounges.

[thatssugarmoneyhoney-deactivate]

Please reblog this every time it shows up on your dash because their will always be a new sugar baby who needs to read this. Please be safe girls! These man can be absolute monsters and you always need to be knowledgable of their games. Don’t ever let them take advantage of you. Always stay one step ahead and always be aware of your situation and surroundings!

[zucker-fraulein-deactivated2015]

Watch out for swindlers. 

[blondebombshellescort-deactivat]

MOST of the men on SA are dudes who cannot afford dates with escorts. There was a whole thread on a hobby board about how guys (who have never seen escorts because they are cheap as fuck) get unsuspecting SBs to fuck them. SA is a cesspool, literally.

[daddiesdatebabies]

This is too true for me not to repost.

[queenb-irdie]

Did you ladies see the post about “how to avoid a rape charge?!” Fuck these douche bags!

[sweetlilsugar-deactivated201512]

Ugh that one in particular freaked me out. This is so gross and scary ))): I know you guys are smarter than to to fall for their shit. Don’t be afraid to call them out on it, either.

[ebonybella-deactivated20160716]

ladies, please be careful! xo

[upstatesugar]

for the newbies…. a must read

[thegoddessislove-deactivated202]

When a man tells you he needs this or needs that because he has trust issues or wants a connection first…. bounce baby. Ain’t no one got time for fuckbois.

[thecurvycourtesan]

PLEASE, please read this garbage. Don’t go to hotel rooms, don’t give him a hand job in the car, don’t do SHIT sexual with him prior to when you feel ready and prior to the money.

I don’t care if he’s dangling a literal $1M in front of you, these old white geezers are the worst and are willing to scam you and your pussy.

Be safe and be smart.

[swtbabykay]

Be safe and be smart

[sophisticatedsugar]

You have two choices...

You can either:

Dream about the sugar lifestyle, or

Live it

The choice is yours. I know, without a doubt, which one I’m choosing.

[londonscourtesan-deactivated201]

Sick of SA

Stop telling me you’ve never done this before but yet your profile has been up for 2 years? 

[gqa1]

Reblog In 5 seconds for good luck

[nullelemental]

​this worked last night lets go for round two

[sbmisstaylor-deactivated2020031]

The One Thing No One Tells You About Sugaring : The Gamble

When you sit on your computer at home and see constant money, fashion and luxury posts, you fail to remove your rose colored glasses in reality. For some of you, you just made your SA profile, have gone on POT dates and maybe are in a very happy relationship with someone. But what happens when reality starts to hit? When your emotions start to play a part. When seeing young happy couples start to make you upset? 

Many will make a front to conceal the emotions that they once had or have but suppress them for followers. 

“Pfft, I’d rather date a ugly rich guy for money, not be some broke ass!”

“4k in my account! Thanks daddy!!”

Recently my best friend and I have hit a block or two when it comes to sugaring, we began to think as two wonderful vanilla men came into our lives. Both of which we would have happily been broke for, but what happens when they find out? What happens when there comes a chance when you have to be honest when you accidentally post something that you wouldn’t think they would see?

This dears, is the gamble of sugaring. You really have to think about your time frame. 

You’re gambling your safety, identity, job security, friendships and potentially anything real outside of your sugar life until you decide to end it. It sucks. 

What bothers me more on social media in general is that girls, especially on this post (guaranteed) will make you feel about about having feelings, to tell you not to sugar because you failed in one way or another. Yes, I agree sugaring isn’t for the feint of heart but the greatest success comes from the worst part of failure. 

Here’s what I have to say to those girls FUCK YOU AND DON’T FOLLOW ME. 

You don’t get heartbroken from the Sugaring men or life you have, you get broken from the vanilla men and life you don’t have. 

My tips for you if you encounter this problem. 

Weigh your options out, remember why you sugar and ask yourself is it worth the risk? 

Be careful. Research him, give out a burn number, manage both sugaring life and personal life accordingly and intelligently. 

Hope this helps

sbmisstaylor

[glitternotbitter-blog1]

Midweek motivation

- Sorted my wardrobe out and put together all my outfits for my meets and my SD.

- Created a new seeking arrangement profile, new bio, new photos - slay 💅

- Invested more time in my health - preparing meals, hitting the gym four/five times a week.

Keep hustling girls

[f0reignluxe-deactivated20221120]

To the married men who want the physical and emotional investment from young, attractive, intelligent women and the security of having a wife at home (for free): fuck off

What you’re not gonna do is attempt to guilt me for wanting shit from your lying, cheating ass. If you can’t afford to cheat with young, attractive, and ambitious women then fuck off.

:)

[play6irl]

[thug-gifs]

Reblog this within 10 seconds and unexpected extra money will cum to you this week

[theluxeblonde-deactivated201601]

The hardest part of being an Sb is this

(In my opinion) All of your fairy tale moments.. The ones you swear would be with the perfect guy? Some will happen with an old man you’re using for money. Sex doesn’t matter, faking emotions is whatever, but when he creates a fantasy that you wanted with someone else, be it a candlelit beach dinner, a private jet flying to Maui, or even your first apartment - it’ll be him. And it will be bittersweet. So just be ready.

[citrine8-deactivated20160610]

I’m sorry but holy shit. This. This is it, put into words. Too real

[seasugarsea]

I wouldn’t say it’s the hardest, but it definitely leaves you shook.. just experienced this in Thailand

[hollywoodbelle442-deactivated20]

I’ve never related to anything so much on the sugar baby tag ever. Thank you for posting. This really gets me so down sometimes and is the reason I consider flaking on dates and giving up on the SB life. But you have to keep going. Stay in the trenches. Maybe it’ll get better, we tell ourselves. Maybe.

[gemsandluxe]

the reality of this lifestyle isnt as glam as you think

[scramdamn-deactivated20250812]

There's no feud between escorts and sugar babies

Just real hoes helping pseudo-hoes out.

[whatisdisdotcom]

Any SB feuding with any escorts can get out. Those girls are the same ones who fall for the salt who say “I don’t want this to be transactional” and end up with no allowance.