GoldenSuga

[germansugarbaby]

How to snare a Millionaire

How to snare a millionaire: Sick of working as a shop girl, Kim reinvented herself with the sole aim of landing a rich husband - and got one

Last spring, I flew to New York for a date with a man I had not met before.

I came about this article where this 40year old women managed to snare a not only rich but also young AND good looking guy! 😳😍Here are her action steps:

“No man is going to look at a woman he believes is simply after his money, so I had to pretend I had my own.

Secondly, I needed to know where rich people ate, and where they holidayed. I needed to educate myself.

find out about the best restaurants and the most luxurious resorts, and I got books from the library on etiquette.

If I was going to convince someone that I had the same life as them — and, more importantly, that I could fit into their world — I needed to know the places that they were talking about, and exactly how to behave.

Finally, I knew I had to look the part. It’s no good having a beautiful voice if you’re dressed head-to-toe in High Street clothes.

I decided that I would focus on building up an expensive look to be worn only on dates.

Instead of buying from designer shops, I spent hours scouring eBay.

I bought a second-hand Mandalay dress (sexy but classy), plus a few designer accessories, including a second-hand Christian Dior bag and a Louis Vuitton holdall.

For weeks I sent these vague emails, giving him very little information about me but finding out more and more about his life.

I described my job as being for a ‘cosmetics house’ (rather than a local pharmacy) and didn’t give away too much about my background.”

If you’ve been following my posts, you already know these action steps/strategy, but it’s alway encouraging to see proof that they actually work😉

So put it in to practice and get that bag ladies!👜🙌🏻

[bisou-bisou-bisou-bisou-deactiv]

When a guy tells you he’s not comfortable with “paying for sex”… Smooth as fucking silk.

Don’t quote this verbatim, however I recall a long Tumblr post that says something along the lines of this, but I’ve waited so long to be able to say it. It speaks volumes on how I feel. Came from the heart first.

Think for yourself and the rest will follow.

**He just named me a number that is actually acceptable and usable as an allowance. I’m not getting my hopes up, however, I am patting myself on the back for taking ugly thoughts and spinning them into beautiful words with this man. He’s the POT from the park walk the other day. I told him that I don’t like people that can’t take “no” for an answer, he said he “never meant to make me uncomfortable” blah blah blah… He has consistently hit me up since the date. This could all be a ploy, of course, to continue to keep my attention, and I will follow up with what happens next. The red flags are imminent and everywhere, however I want to see how far he is willing to take this.**

[boujiebabygirl]

Finesse !

[runawayandchasetime]

Omg that was my post! You used my post!!! 😊😊 I’m so glad you got the answer you were looking for, and I’m glad my post could be used like this!!!

[omgwtfmia-deactivated20170313]

So nice to see the OP is happy about her post being used ☺️☺️☺️

[bisou-bisou-bisou-bisou-deactiv]

Runaway, your post indeed gave me this light bulb! Kudos and thank you for the amazing inspiration!! I’m now waiting on the response 😁

[sugarabg]

Guide to Becoming a Sugar Baby

Part 1 - Should You Even Sugar?

If you don’t have the right answers to these questions, then I suggest you do some personal growth (which is essential to every person and not just for sugaring) before you get into the bowl.

Are you grown? - If you are underage, DON’T SUGAR! I shouldn’t have to explain why this is bad. And I’m not even talking about just age. I’m talking about maturity. The men you will be dealing with will most likely be 20+ years your senior, and you need to be on their level. The thing that scares me about super young, brand-new sugar babies is that a lot of them are not even mature enough to understand the limits of their maturity. So this will go right over their head anyway… and I pray for them.

How are you supporting yourself currently? - I think once you have some experience and skills under your belt it’s okay to do sugaring only and not hold another occupation. Something I wouldn’t personally do, but if it works for you, sure. But when you are starting out, you will not be good at it, and you most likely shouldn’t rely on it. You know how a lot of jobs will have you as part time and then give you full time position once you know what you’re doing? Sugaring is also like that. And if you need the money desperately, sharks can and will smell your desperation and take advantage of it. Get a vanilla job. Especially if you just turned 18 and never really worked before. Practicing work ethic, having professional interactions with people, understanding authority and all other experiences that come with having regular jobs is something you need to have before you start sugaring, and the experience and skills from sugaring in turn aids in your vanilla career.

Are you good at saying no? - This is something I struggled with a lot as a rookie. So believe me when I say, if you can’t put your foot down you are going to have a bad time. I’ve accepted less desirable offers because I couldn’t reject it or demand more. I’ve done things I’m uncomfortable with because I felt like I had to. If you find that absolutely ridiculous, you are good to go. But I know a lot of people, including myself, who are this way and are getting into the bowl. Learn to be assertive before you start sugaring.

Are you good at asking for things? - Saying no is only half the equation. The other half is actually asking for what you want and, those two are entirely different. I learned to say no rather quickly; Men offering outrageously low offers made it easy for me. But growing up, I was the child that hardly ever asked for any toys or anything. I guess I had the fear of coming off selfish and greedy. It followed me to my twenties. And believe me, men will have a field day with your inability to be assertive.

Are you choosing sugaring because you think it’s less prostitution-like than other forms of sex work? - Unfortunately this is the case for a lot of sugar babies, and I’m telling you now whorephobia will hold you back. It will keep you from taking full advantage of this lifestyle.

How experienced are you with men in general? - If you haven’t handled basic ass vanilla men, how are you going to deal with men of higher caliber? To finesse men, you need to understand men. You need to be able to see through men’s bullshit without them seeing through your bullshit, and that skill can only be acquired through experiences, lots of it.

How much do you care about what other people think of you? - This isn’t even about what your POT or SD thinks of you. If anything, you should care a little bit if you want their money, although you should be confident and always put yourself first. But part of this lifestyle is being seen arm-in-arm with men twice your age. Everyone who sees you know the deal and you know that they know. If that bothers you, you are not equipped to sugar. If you aren’t enjoying your time uninhibitedly, (or at the very least faking it very well) the guy can sense it and it will inhibit him from enjoying his time with you. And if he doesn’t enjoy his time with you what is he paying you for? This is one of the ways the fear of being seen as a whore will hold you back. I’ve seen so many young girls at restaurants, hotels, etc. that were so self-conscious and inhibited. If I can tell from the other side of the hall, the guy sitting right in front of you most definitely can. Don’t sugar until you can say, “Fuck it.”

[sugarabg]

Part 2 - Preparation for Getting Into the Bowl

So say you have all the right answers to the questions above. What now? I suggest you prepare the following.

Fake name and back story - What is your job, where did you go to school, where do you live, when is your birthday… have answers for these questions beforehand so you don’t have to make it up on the go and make a mistake. You may have to reveal your real name (later on after trust is built) so prepare an explanation for that too. I usually tell them I go by a simpler name different from my legal name because foreigners find it difficult to pronounce my Asian name properly.

Email address to go with fake name - this part is super easy

“Hoe phone” - You could use Google Voice or other apps like that, but it’s better if you don’t have to physically have your real phone with you when hoeing. You can use a cheap phone or an old phone and have a basic plan. My SD replaced my old hoe phone with a newer one so now I have a better hoe phone than my actual phone but whatever…

**when I go for a spoilt girlfriend approach, sometimes I will use my real identity. Not that I recommend it…

Date/freestyle looks - hair, makeup, outfit, you do need to try and look your best. You don’t need a ton of expensive stuff; I’ve landed several daddies with a black dress I got from a thrift store for like $5.

Establish a maintenance routine - skincare, eyebrows, nails, hair, etc. but also reading, journaling, things like that. You need to be a bad bitch, outside and inside.

Set your boundaries - your dealbreakers, sexual or otherwise. Ready to be assertive about them because men will try to cross them.

Decide what to ask for - allowance, list of gifts you want, etc. I know we often say know your worth and don’t settle for less, but you likely aren’t gonna get 10k right away, so it’s ok to start small, then start getting more as you upgrade yourself.

Learn your city - I have lived in my hometown city for 20+ years but I didn’t know where all the ★ ★ ★ ★ ★  places are because I didn’t have a reason to go there until now. I knew where the bougie areas are in a general sense, but I didn’t know those areas inside and out. You need to, especially if you freestyle, which you probably should. Go to expensive areas, get familiar and comfortable, as if you belong there, because you do.

Dating app profiles - whether it’s sugar specific site one SA (advised against these days) or vanilla dating ones like Tinder. The details on sugar dating online will be part 3 or 4 of this series, so for now I’ll just say, start selecting/taking good pictures for it. Also, the YouTube channel I talked about has videos on this. Part 2 Part 3

Edit because I forgot smh: hoe notebook - used for keeping track of pot and SD information as well as your schedule of meeting them. Arranging two meetings at the same time of the same day because you forgot is embarassing.

I suggest you read the links on my tips page as well.

[sugarabg]

Part 3 - Using Online Dating to Sugar

We all say SA is a sea of salts, but I just reactivated my account (back on my bullshit) and it seems… it’s gotten a little better, at least in my city? I’ve already been pulling hella dough from it. But everything they say about SA is true. While I’ve been pulling arrangements I’m content with from SA, real whales aren’t on SA. I suggest securing an arrangement or two on SA (if SA in your area isn’t total garbage) and keep collecting cash while you find a whale and finesse him freestyle, as that may require more time.

I’ve also had great results from Tinder, where I go for a more SGF route than SA.

Note: on vanilla apps like Tinder, don’t talk money until you’ve moved onto a different messaging app or get them to text you on your hoe phone number. Say, “Tinder app isn’t great for messaging. Do you have (whatever message app you prefer), perhaps?” Mentioning arrangements and whatnot might cause salty guys to report your profile out of spite, which can result in your account getting deleted.

PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS

Put up as many photos as the app/website you’re using would allow.

This goes without saying, make sure all pics are good quality (no grainy pics) and your look is on point in all of them. No snapchat filters and stuff like that, it makes you look immature.

I would suggest having at least 1 picture where you can see your face clearly. I know you’re worried about being exposed but men won’t take your profile seriously if they don’t see your face. Also smile in the picture men love smile smh

At least 1 picture where they can see your full body (flaunt what you have, but don’t post pictures that are too sexually suggestive)

At least 1 picture that demonstrates your lifestyle (fancy vacation, high end venues, etc.)

DO NOT use pics that are also on your vanilla social media. Image search is a bitch

Bio still matters

On sugar dating apps like SA and on vanilla apps like Tinder alike, description sets you apart from other girls. I can’t tell you what to write because it needs to be unique and you. Try to use full sentences with proper spelling and grammar.

Some sentences I’ve used to convey “expensive” without saying it directly.

“I am well traveled, but I still have many places to go.”

“Let’s get to know each other over dinner at (the most high-end restaurant in the area) or (another high-end restaurant)”

“I work hard during the week in (bougie-ish office area), so sometimes I need to recuperate at (area known for rich people’s vacation)”

“I like a well-dressed gentleman.”

I’ve finessed rich guys that didn’t even read the bio, to tell you the truth, but the ones that read the bio are usually more worthy of your time.

I tend to stay away from wording like “spoiled” or “princess” and whatnot because it can give off gold digger vibes that push them away. (Although “princess”, for some reason, has worked in my favor in the past) If you’re going for the bag right away, then it may work for you, but I am playing for the longer run, especially on vanilla apps like Tinder.

Messaging men

Full sentences and good spelling/grammar still applies.

I prefer to let them message me first. On certain apps like Bumble you have to message first, which is why I stopped using them. In my opinion the most important thing about finesse is making them think everything is their idea, and that starts with the first message. I prefer to make them think they are courting me, not the other way around. If they are interested, they will message you.

On SA, you can be direct. Just say what you’re looking for. Or ask what they are looking for and what allowance range they are thinking of, to make sure you are on the same page. That’s literally what sugar apps are for, so if anyone gives you shit, just block.

“Hi thank you for messaging me. I’m looking for a long term arrangement with someone who treats me well. Just so we are on the same page, allowance wise my expectation is xxxx. Of course, we would have to meet and see if we are compatible first, before we discuss our arrangement. Would you like to go on a date Wednesday evening?”

Sounds asinine, I know, but it worked well enough for me. 

You can go that route from Tinder and its likes (at least after you’ve started using a different messaging app) but this might turn off men who has potential to spend lots on you. Do whatever suits you best. I meet them in a more vanilla setting and then use one of my tactics, which are on my tips page, to see if they have potential.

If you were to be more forward with your intentions: “I’m young, with many goals and ambitions. I prefer to spend my time with someone older, who guides me and supports me while I get ahead in life. Would that interest you? I am fun, energetic and I make a great companion. I’m sure we can have a great time together ;)” or some shit like that… I don’t do it much.

They usually ask me on a date and I go from there to feel them out and finesse. That way at least I get free dinners. That part is coming later.

[baetology]

Stop letting your heart and your pussy choose your men.

[trapbinch]

I’m confused, what is left…

[trapbinch]

Oh nvm lmao my brain. You right sis lol you is right

[baetology]

You really forgot your whole brain.

[pussylipgloss]

she read this post with her pussy

[royalblackpirate-blog]

Sugar baby tip:

Wear red on the first date. Men are more likely to do what you say.

[cocoalocosb]

This is a psychological fact. Also try to wear a fragrance with vanilla notes. Men are allured by the scent of vanilla.

[eliteplatinumbaby]

Coco mademoiselle always pulls them in 🙃a fact tested and approved

[i-alwayslikedstrangecharacters]

[melanin-mami]

anyone whos 20 pls just click the thing. i needed this

[clevertits]

“20 is for firing dudes when they don’t act right”

Damn, I needed this strong female energy today~💓

[5headsupremacist]

watch me play this all through-out my 20th year of life. 

[5headsupremacist]

Throughout my twenties **

[mateavisage]

[citycrowdpleaser-deactivated201]

Keep in mind

[goddess-lair]

How to Be a Stepford Wife (Part I): Mentorship

From Palm Springs to Paris, Dublin to Dubai–2015 was an AMAZING year! 

I am so grateful to live a life that I love, and know I would not be here without the fabulous women who mentored and coached me along the way. I am living proof that it CAN be done, and in style!

I truly am committed to sharing the wealth with all of the aspiring kept women, trophy wives, boss ladies, and sugars out there. If you are ready to take yourself to higher heights in 2016 do not hesitate to get in contact to learn more about the coaching services I offer.

In the meantime, please enjoy Part I of my 5-Part Series How to Be a Stepford Wife. 

Here are 9 Tips to Getting it ALL:

1. Realize that things will happen, therefore you MUST always have a plan. Don’t just have a plan B, honeys, have plans B-Z. Whatever you do, don’t give up.

2. Seek out mentors in ALL areas of your life: financial, spiritual, emotional, relationship, academic, etc. Every successful person has this in common. They consistently tapped into the human resources available to them.

3. Cut off, and cut out EVERY negative person, place, thing, or idea that comes your way. Don’t give emotional vampires the time of day! Who gives a flying flip about what some nay-saying other has to say about your personal goals? Remember darlings, those that matter don’t mind, and those that mind don’t matter.

4. Do not settle, EVER. Don’t accept anything less than EXACTLY what you are seeking, desiring, hoping, wishing, believing, manifesting. If you hold out long enough, the space that it being reserved will be filled. In order to attract something, you must make room for its arrival.

5. Invest in your best life NOW. Begin to invest in quality over quantity, even if it costs you in the short term (i.e. no coffee, no clubbing, no overpriced designer gear). Save up for the things you desire later, rather than renting a lifestyle now–being generous with yourself is how you will attract genuinely generous people to you. Don’t be the nuveau riche girl wearing head to toe labels. Instead, connect with a style mentor who can help you to refine your image.

6. Know YOURSELF. For each hour you spend researching wealthy men, sugaring tips, and this lifestyle, spend two more learning yourself. A woman who knows herself inside and out cannot be taken lightly, manipulated, or easily taken advantage of–give them a run for their money by being intelligent, elegant, articulate, and refined. THIS is how you attract elegant, refined, wealthy gentleman.

7. Ask for help! If you don’t know something, do not be afraid to ask others to help you in a respectful manner. Be prepared to reciprocate and be there for them in return. Nothing in life is ‘free’, honeys. NOTHING. We all have to pay to play, and the greatest investment tends to yield the highest return.

8. Master the art of MYSTERY. Swans, stop putting your whole life on social media! I cannot say this enough. I was on the scene right before social media blew up, thank goodness. So, I never got caught in the temptation to advertise my whole life online. This proved a saving grace, because the affluent men I befriended appreciated my coyness, discretion, and mysteriousness. This reassured them that they too could trust me to be part of their lives in a mutually beneficial way.

9. Have gratitude. This life is by far not an easy one. I do live well, but it comes at a cost to both my Mr. and me. However, regardless of what does or does not happen, I remain grateful to have been fortunate to marry well. Learn to appreciate the little things, so that when the bigger and better things come your way, you have the wherewithal to recognize them. You may not always be young, thin, “hot”, and en vogue–so, learn to appreciate what else makes you YOU?

Whether you are seeking mentorship for your sugar/kept lifestyle goals, or vanilla career and/or life, I am here to help! As a qualified mental health professional and certified life transformation and relationship coach, I specialize in RESULTS.

Success is in the hands of those who are consistently persistent. Don’t let 2015′s circumstances and setbacks carry you any further off track. Success, prosperity, health, and happiness are YOUR BIRTHRIGHT. Don’t stop until you get it ALL, honeys. GET.IT.ALL.

In the coming year, be the sensual, intelligent, savvy courtesan you truly are! Love you bunches.

XO,

Mrs. Stepford

[uwiguwi]

if you’re reading this

a lump sum of money is on the way to you

[therealsb-valeria-deactivated20]

Works every time 🤷🏼‍♀️

[cyborgsmanifesto]

dealing with the worst case scenario

your condom breaks

you feel a lump on your breast

your friends are ignoring you

you’re stranded on an island 

you got rejected by a crush

you get into a car accident

you got stung by a bee/wasp

you got fired from your job

you’re in an earthquake

your tattoo gets infected

your house is on fire

you’re lost in the woods

you get arrested abroad

you get robbed

your partner cheated on you

you’re on a ship that’s sinking

you fall into ice

you’re stuck in an elevator

you hit a deer with your car

you have food poisoning

your pet passed away

you fall off of a horse

you or your friend has alcohol poisoning

you have toxic shock syndrome

your house has a gas leak

[4velitta4]

I feel like this could be useful in my future

[astrologypixies-deactivated2016]

REBLOG THIS. I CANNOT STRESS HOW IMPORTANT THIS GUIDES ARE, BOOST THIS SHIT

[getupoffyourcassbutt]

If I don’t reblog this one of these things is definitely going to happen to me

[theunmarkedjournal]

Start reblogging the money blessings post…

If you haven’t already done it…. Go hit that reblog button. Do what you have to, just do that too.

Like seriously. Just find one and reblog it real quick. I post a couple yesterday and put into the universe that I actually wanted it

Only been at work for a couple and I get this at as a tip! (tips ain’t normal at ALL in here)

Come on now!!

Let it work for y’all too

[theunmarkedjournal]

YALL!! THERE HAS BEEN AN INCREASE!! (I don’t know how your bank account is set up, but $55 dollars in tips counts as a blessing over here!)

*sending out money blessing vibes to y’all*

[theunmarkedjournal]

Counting my blessing and they total up to $60 today. (Got another $5 tip not too long ago)

Today was good. Im trying to maintain this same energy all this week to see what will come of it

[majaminxx22]

I don’t care, I ain’t playin. Imma need one of these damn thangs to work, now.

[glitterboywednesday]

I might as well not reblogging aint gone put money in my pocket

[theunmarkedjournal]

Let the universe know what you want

[poisonedblacklotus]

Cash app $drinabee if you tryna bless me

[theunmarkedjournal]

That works too I guess 😂😂 #BeTheBlessing

[liferuining-soulsnatcher]

I mean if someone would like to bless a struggling college student, mine $neshao and I have Venmo 👀

[partyandrepeat]

Same if somebody wanna help me out $camjam21 😌

[56blogsstillcrazy]

cash app me my birthday next year january $EzekielCrawford

gone be thirty and im scared help every dollar helps

[poisonedblacklotus]

Somebody sent $20 for my graduation 🎓 Saturday, cash app $drinabee if you want to donate too

[go-h0e-or-go-h0me-deactivated20]

Yo I reblogged that goat one and I ended up getting 27 dollars in my back account cause I got a refund on a sex toy that didnt work the day after i reblogged that shit

[theunmarkedjournal]

😂💀 blessings come in every shape and form

[go-h0e-or-go-h0me-deactivated20]

Exactly mine was just unconventional 😂

[thattinycookiemonster]

always taking donations $ChanteEunan

[theboudoirbunny2k7]

Tryna start burlesque dancing and i need cute shit $noeyyyy

[kashhippie]

$Katiana93 ❤️

[13ofstars]

$ashleykatina thanks in advance loves ❤️

[totheonedegree]

PayPal: https://paypal.me/luciag9. ❤️❤️

[alternativeblkgal]

why not lol 🙏🏾

[myakahla]

I am constantly attracting abundance and opportunity

[myakahla]

Hey, it worked! 😁 $56 tip on a $44 bill

[theunmarkedjournal]

Y’all seeing this and y’all still not believing yet. Maaaane just hit button and watch it work

[melaninprincess520-deactivated2]

$Tyciana Amen 🙏

[poisonedblacklotus]

I just want like $15 lol cash app $DrinaBee

[freudian-roses]

Job Train

I pray that everyone who likes/reblogs this gets the job they’re looking for. 🙏🙏🙏🙏Good vibes sent 💸💸💸💸💸

[alternativeblkgal]

I NEED THIS SO BAD RIGHT NOW

[lady-gambino]

I no lie just got hired today!! I am amazed.

Originally posted by thecynicalcrayon

[freudian-roses]

Omg bless

Originally posted by jeunefillebiensoustousrapports

[gonebutnotforgottenlmao-deactiv]

GOD BLESS THIS POST

[imoverallofit]

Please

[shinewithshanice-deactivated201]

GUYS I BELIEVE THIS WORKED FOR ME I JUST GOT THE JOB OPPORTUNITY OF MY LIFE!!!

[breezybsaidso]

In process! I will let you know if I get the job!

[nnfirnid]

Job Interview today,I need this

[imdopeshitbro]

It really worked

[iashvee-deactivated20190311]

Not missing this chance to not reblog this. Send all the good juju my way, I need it& bad!!!

[afrorevolution]

😩😩😩

[threalz-deactivated20160121]

🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[mhmm-honeybee]

@insertepithethere

[insertepithethere]

Need this

[murdermalo]

Ooh yes I applied today

[marieeismyname]

I want this GSM or GM position 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[karayray1-deactivated20230129]

I really needed this yall… hopefully the universe listens

[ruinedchildhood]

Reblog for Good luck🙏🏼

[beneficeduvagin-deactivated2019]

[makeitrainsugar]

For those of us who've been out of the game for a while and a tad rusty or just looking to sharpen our skills. What are some great tips you can give us regarding the areas of teasing, seduction, flirting, charm, and manipulation?

 Tbh I’ve been so busy working since I’ve left Japan, trying to work on projects that will get me ahead in my field that I’m also a tad rusty right now.

 I can’t tell you about any new sites or any new glitzy scenes for freestyling, but interaction I can do.

 Here are my personal first date tips:

 - Wear black.

- No colourful eyeshadow, matte red lips.

- Wear heels and stockings with a garter belt. This is important because at some point during the date you will re-cross your legs and give him a glimpse of it. That’s all the flirting he needs and you haven’t said anything.

- “Your tie is crooked.” Readjust it. “That’s better.” Smile with your chin on your hand.

- Tell a ‘funny’ story that will get his imagination going. Your friend once pushed you into a freezing cold pool and you were braless wearing white! Tee-hee, right? 

- Ask him to choose your drink. Old men love stupid shit like that.

- Want a free holiday? Pick a country and say you’ve ALWAYS wanted to go there if ONLY you could.

- “If my ex was as smart as you, I’d never have left him.”

- Raise your glass in a toast to ‘us’. *gag*

- When he asks for a kiss, offer your hand.

  That’s how you play into the femme fatale male fantasy. Just try not to vomit.

[hyrude]

this is the text of good fortune, reblog in 60 seconds and $1200 will spontaneously materialize in your bank account🙏🙌💪🏻😤

[smutconnoissuer-deactivated2018]

Yes hello universe hello beep beep ring ring hi yes hello halp yes

[sj0]

you have been visited by the seven magic dragon balls your biggest wish will be granted but only if you reblog

[hersheyhipster]

Couldn’t risk it.

[anancientheart]

ok universe, i’m ready to feel good things. make me feel good things.

[anancientheart]

whenever i post this it works  reblog if u want to feel good things & the universe will bring u something sweet 

[jazzime216]

Yes!