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now that’s what i call ineffective tumblr discourse! featuring such hits as “why aren’t you talking about this thing you didn’t know about”, “this 3-hour-old post has 20k notes instead of 100k clearly you’re all willfully ignoring it”, “if you don’t reblog this you’re a bad person”, & more manipulative bullshit that only exists to make the person saying it feel holier than thou!

stargazing-enby

“if you can’t reblog this unfollow me” 0/10, no creativity

“[x people] MUST reblog this” 2/10 I was already going to until you said that

“if you can’t reblog this we can’t be mutuals” 5/10 kinda funny because the person who added that is usually a complete rando. Still probably unfollowing whoever put this on my dash though

“you can reblog this actually” 1/10 no shit, sherlock. Did adding that to the post make you feel good, or something???

“people who like this post but don’t reblog it are all hypocrites looking for woke points” 8/10 extra points for creativity and for actually riling me up. That’s really not how tumblr likes work btw

“look, you’re not obligated to reblog this if you really don’t want to, but think hard about WHY it is you don’t want to” -10000/10 I don’t want to SOLELY because you said that. You ruined a perfectly good post is what you did. Look at it. It’s anxiety-inducing

mikkeneko

“I don’t care if this doesn’t fit your blog ~aesthetic~” yeah my blog aesthetic is not sending my followers into panic/guilt spirals about things they can’t do anything to change or help

vincent-van-gtg

fitnessdesire

Can’t risk it

laderdesders1

The duck of creativity. I waited so long for it.

anxietyproblem

zero-two-ten

this site has one setting

jenroses

I’m laughing, but there’s a super useful corollary, which my husband calls “the Red Balloon.” He was a defense lawyer and had a fair number of drug addicts come through, and there is a thing where if you’re like, on your first offense, they’ll do a thing where you can go to treatment and if you complete it they’ll take the conviction off your record. And he would tell his clients, “Look, everyone’s going to tell you not to do drugs. They’re going to say it over and over again. And it’s like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you’re going to think of a white elephant. But the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon. So you need to find your red balloon. For some people it’s yoga. For others it’s woodworking. For some people it’s scrapbooking or gardening or any of a long list of things to do. They focus on that, it’s a lot easier to succeed in ignoring the white elephant.” So yeah, “watch yourself” is one thing… but the better idea is to watch something else. (Even if it’s fanfic about werewolves fucking.)

It’s a form of productive dissociation, and is super, super helpful. It’s easy for me to get bogged down in how much pain I’m in… but some of the most painful periods of my life have also been the most productive, writing-wise, because writing is one of my red balloons.

kittydorkling

There is a phrase I use A LOT in my parenting and my son gets very sick of it, but it’s true:

The thing you practise is the thing you get good at.

You may not intentionally be practicing “being grumpy” but if you don’t put effort into practicing “not being grumpy” then I’m afraid that’s what you’re doing. It’s hard! It’s really hard! Sometimes, for some things, it’s pretty much impossible and that sucks!

But being carefully aware that you are going to get good at the things you do most of is a good way to be more careful of what those things are. If that makes sense.

bogleech

You gotta appreciate sometimes how tumblr works in such a way that everyone who wants to reblog this interesting or useful psychological advice is also forced to reblog the thing about werewolf fucking

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

i am delighted to inform you of the existence of the Rosefinch, which is a real actual bird that exists!

dustyheartmug

I would like to add,, strawberry finches

They’re dating🥰

burningdarkfire

putting everything else aside, i have sincere gratitude for liam o’brien and matthew mercer for giving me two characters irrevocably held together by the idea that we are not born with venom in our veins - we learn it, and we can unlearn it, and we can save ourselves. love absolutely can be enough

i fucking needed caleb and essek, and i didn’t realize how much i needed them until i had them. what an incredible ride it’s been

catjacket-scribbles

“My interests leave me trusting no one.” // “Our paths crossing has shaken me to the core.”

whatever else happens i’m proud of him

dicaxasinus

essek thelyss IS howl from howls moving castle

- multiple identities - avoiding the government - wizard

can we get that au going

shadowgastrights

Essek really said

"I wouldn't change a thing in the past because it led me to being here with you"

Knowing it meant LIVING HIS LIFE IN HIDING FOR FOREVER

pitchblackkoi

i’m laughing bc like. essek is like fuck it i’ll try gardening. i wld call it a mid life crisis except he’s in the drow equivalent of his twenties. he’s a spymaster to the bright queen being like i will actually take time off to garden with my friends.

magicallarynx

Can we just talk for a second about Essek Thelyss, sacrificing half of his movement to drag Caleb with him, and calling out to Caleb for comfort when Ikithon saved from his attacks.

Stoic, Selfish Shadowhand no longer. Utterly transformed by love.

punishandenslavesuckers

All I care about are The Adventures of Reani & Essek now. That’s all I care about. Insane aasimar do-gooder hauling around the incognito drow wizard on missions of heroism. Said wizard screaming the whole time. This is karma. Reani is Essek’s punishment.

maddyscrsideblog

[ID: A digital sketch of Essek Thelyss, Fjord, and Caduceus Clay from Critical Role. At the top of the image Fjord talks reassuringly to Essek who is crying. Fjord says "It's not fair, but as I'm sure my wise friend Caduceus would tell you, life goes on". At the bottom of the image is Caduceus who is seen from behind, there is an arrow pointing to him labelled "Cad in the corner". Caduceus yells at the sky in all caps "Mom! Mom please put it back!". End description.]

It's a nice sentiment Fjord, but Caduceus says it's divine intervention time

caitmayart

tw: slight body horror

That Dispel Magic was mlm wlw solidarity and no one can tell me otherwise

GOSH it feels good to draw CR art again!! This episode was BANANAS and I can’t wait for more!

holographography

idk who needs to hear this but “depressing quotes” blogs and stuff like this may express how you’re feeling but seeing a constant stream of negativity and romanticised sadness is only going to make you feel worse. Even if you only unfollow one blog and follow a puppy blog instead, you’ll feel a little better

resiliencewithin

There is a fine line between acknowledging and accepting your feelings, and dwelling and living in them.

viciousmollymaukery

honestly? good on essek for drawing that boundary with regards to working with trent. not only did the Mighty Nein need some sense smacked into them but it's good that he said it. having the ability to go "this is a hard line for me" to the people you care about even in the midst of working to rebuild your trust and friendship and redeem yourself to them is Very Good, Actually.