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The book has the parental discussion with Ilya and Shane in a lounge room, on sofas - shifting this to the dining table really highlights the framing intention during the last Hollander family meal - the sad empty space where Shane's partner should be [...] "Are we expecting anyone else?" Yeah, he finally arrived.

mikesbasementbeets

Mike Wheeler and Will Byers in Stranger Things 5 Chapter 4. Sorcerer

forestgreenlesbian

crazy how every time you go on a walk it’s like ohh that’s why i’m alive

anancientheart

do you know how to fill a void? sometimes i feel empty inside and the feeling does not go away

I don’t think you need to do things with the intention of filling the void but instead do things with the intention of bringing yourself joy and meaning. If you can focus on experiencing good things as fully as you can that will take you away from the emptiness. Voids fill up in their own time while you are giving yourself love. Emptiness is not always a bad thing. It has something to teach you if you can listen every once in a while and be still with it, meet it, write with it. Have a conversation with this emptiness. Then treat yourself to openness with life, something new, something gentle. Even a small thing. Fill yourself up with lots of small loves for the world.

milo-hypno

I'm certain this is on Tumblr somewhere, but I haven't seen it around, so I'm sharing it myself

borderlinereminders

Are you really not making progress, or are you just constantly raising the bar?

It’s likely you’ve made more progress than you realize. It’s easy to get stuck on seeing how far we have to go, and we often forget about how far we’ve come.

We also are a lot harder on ourselves than we would be others. Would you be proud of the progress if it was a friend and not you? That might be a sign you’re being too hard on yourself.

And sometimes, we do go backwards and that’s okay. It doesn’t erase your progress. And you can get back to where you were and behind.

You deserve to be proud of yourself for everything you’ve made it through, for making it to where you are and surviving.

queermania

i think before you marry someone, you should sit down and go through the AITA subreddit with them and see what their take on those situations is

queermania

does your potential future spouse think it's reasonable for their mother to be involved in your family planning? or to make comments about your body? do you? how does your future spouse feel about girls and/or boys nights? situations involving exes? cancelling trips last minute? under what circumstances do they think it's reasonable to host somebody in your home and for how long? etc.

and the goal of doing this isn't to agree one-hundred percent on every single thing. it's to understand how you both view obligations, family, friends, finances, conflict, etc. and to make sure that even if you don't have the exact same perspective, you can understand where the other person is coming from without feeling like they're a crazy person. you have to be able to come to reasonable compromises and sometimes that involves one person fully caving, and sometimes it involves the other person fully caving, and sometimes it's both of you giving a little, but you need to understand what things you both are and aren't willing to compromise on because those types of situations are going to come up in a marriage.

queermania

also, since this has turned into actual advice: you should talk through why you think what you think, even when you agree, because you might not be agreeing for the same reasons.

catcrumb

stuckinapril

i’d say the best thing i have learned this year is to just let people be who they naturally are. no psychoanalyzing them, no overthinking my actions, no asking what i could possibly do to keep their presence in my life. i just bring my best self to the table and always move from a place of love and respect. how that person responds is ultimately up to them. if that causes them to exit my life, i just let it happen. i will never be in the business of changing people. people are only ever ready to change when they’ve made the conscious decision to. all i can do is check myself and be kind always.

h0ezi3r

The worst part about Liam Payne dying is that people are posting about “the switch up is crazy”

Like no. He was an abuser and made horrible decisions, but nobody wanted him to die. He was getting hate for an INCREDIBLY valid reason, but we all recognized that he needed mental and physical help. He needed to go to rehab. He needed to get away from drugs and alcohol and improve upon himself away from the public. No one wanted him to die.

We’re not mourning the life of an abuser, we are mourning the part of him that we adored and looked up to for a massive part of our childhood/ teenage years. He was a huge part of how I was introduced to my love of music. And yes, he did horrible things and made horrible decisions and over the last few years has been anything but admirable, but none of us wanted this.

Maya didn’t want this. And everyone saying that it’s her fault can actually go burn in hell. She likely already blames herself enough. She likely already wishes she hadn’t spoken up about it out of the guilt that she likely feels. You guys commenting all over the socials about how this is her fault and “are you happy now?” Are actually horrible people.

A 7 year old boy just lost his father. A woman just lost her long term boyfriend. Two parents just lost their son. Several young children just lost their uncle. Show some fucking respect. Joking about it and hating on people who had nothing to do with what happened is not doing anything but twist the knife for the people who this has ACTUALLY effected.

slow-drowned-angels

“Do it scared” but please realize that, if you Do It Scared too much and don’t let yourself rest + relax + have fun in between, you will fuck yourself up. If you “do it scared” all day every day, you will burn out badly and quickly. Sometimes this is temporarily necessary but please keep this in mind.