Nia Marie

25 | Queer | Autistic | Aquarius | San Diego I mostly reblog pictures of puppies, LGBTQIA+ issues, writing tips, and YouTube things. I sometimes write stuff. I originally got a Tumblr because I was too afraid to post gay stuff on Facebook. I have since conquered that fear. Archive Page

[lettersiarrange]

New writing rule: Checkov’s friend

If you introduce a named character with a relationship to a protagonist, their character arc must be resolved in a way that feels reasonable and satisfying

Which is to say: they can’t just dissappear when they’re no longer a convenient plot device

[cluegrrl]

Thor’s Mum rule – If you’re going to kill a character who’s carried any part of the plot, take a bit to reimagine the plot as if she were the main character, and the story ends when she dies.  If it’s unsatisfying, rewrite either her plot points, or her death, to make both more meaningful.

Which is to say – don’t treat side characters as ammo with which to hurt your main guy.  ESPECIALLY if they’re women.

[dr-dendritic-trees]

I’m reblogging because this second part is the best explanation of how I distinguish between fridged characters and other characters who just die.

And yes, it is intrinsically a bit subjective and that’s okay.

[cllynchauthor]

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Screen cap of a Facebook post, reading:

Something ironic that I’ve noticed from being in both autistic mom groups and NT mom groups. Let’s pretend a child cries every time they have to be buckled in the car seat..

NT mom group: “tell them to deal with it, it’s for their safety” “ignore the outbursts, they’ll get used to it” “maybe the straps are too tight? If not, and nothing seems to be wrong with the seat, let them cry it out, safety is most important.” “Sometimes, you just gotta deal with it, hugs mama, sorry this is happening.”

Autistic mom group: “is your child verbal enough to express or show why they’re in distress?” “is the fabric of the car seat scratchy?” “Are the windows tinted? If not the sun may hurt.” “Maybe he wants someone to hold his hand, can you reach back and hold it maybe? anxiety is a real bitch” “transitions can be hard, especially on little humans, maybe give advance notice that you will be leaving in the car at x time?” “Obviously something has him distressed, does he have a toy he’s attached too and can hold?”

And they say autistics do not experience empathy.

[infiniteglitterfall]

This is extremely fucking true. Our friends are always marveling at how attentive we are to what our toddler is trying to communicate. I’m like… that’s… how you communicate with someone who you don’t share enough language with… that’s how you communicate with someone who’s ~~“”“"nonverbal”“”“”“~~~

the intersection of ageism and ableism is awful, and it really shows up squared in the way that abled adults just assume that there’s no way to communicate with neurodiverse kids. and babies, tbh, who they think of in a similar way.

[zedayacoleman]

ZENDAYA AS RUE Euphoria, June 16

[zedayacoleman]

yes, her character is gay. GAY gay. she likes girls. lesbianic.

[cloudybakery]

Also!  The other actress is a trans woman! She’s really cool! 

[zedayacoleman]

[maureen2musings]

Sound on…

myroommateisacat

peek-a-boo

[jack-the-lion]

THIS IS SO PRECIOUS

[xoblxrryfxce-deactivated2023071]

“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.”

— J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

[chekovsphaser]

Yesterday I had a friend over and we were working on something so we were in my mum’s office, and I asked her if she wanted us to leave and she said no. This morning, she tells me that I shouldn’t ask because I am putting the onus of being a “bad guy” onto the other person. That I should just know if someone is lying about stuff being okay or not and act accordingly. That if I didn’t even ask and just stayed I would be insensitive, and if I asked I was aggressive and manipulative. This turned into a huge fight.

So what I’m getting from this is politeness is all about being a mind reader and that you have no way of knowing if someone who is nice to you is genuine or just doing it because they have to while secretly resenting you. Great. Allistics are fucking weird why can’t you just way what you fucking mean. 

[brobeckology]

i am a simple autism. you mention my special interest and my body begins to vibrate

[missmentelle]

The only way we’re ever going to solve homelessness is by giving free housing to homeless people. 

Not cots in homeless shelters. Not beds in domestic violence shelters. Real, actual, permanent housing, with a door they can lock and the freedom to come and go as they please. 

It seems like a stupidly simple solution to an incredibly complicated problem, but this is the only way we’re ever going to end homelessness for good. Everything we’re doing right now is like flinging thimbles of water onto a house fire, and it’s time to call the fire department. Don’t believe me? Consider that:

Providing free housing is actually cheaper than what we’re doing right now. Even when you factor in the cost of having round-the-clock mental health staff on hand in housing facilities, giving the homeless housing costs about one-third as much as leaving them on the streets. How is that possible? People who sleep on the streets go to the hospital a whole lot more than anyone else. Being homeless is hard on your health - you are more likely to be assaulted, experience frostbite or heatstroke, or fail to manage a medical condition like diabetes. Homeless people are also more likely to get arrested for minor things like public urination or loitering, and it’s hugely expensive to arrest them, process them, put them in prison and put them through court dates. We save so much money and eliminate so many problems by just giving them somewhere to live. 

It’s extremely difficult to get a job when you don’t have an address. There’s a huge amount of prejudice against homeless people, and the same people who shout “get a job!” are the first to toss someone’s application in the trash as soon as they see “no fixed address”. Having an address also makes it easier to vote, open a bank account, keep up with your taxes and obey the terms of your probation. 

Homeless people waste a lot of time standing in line for shelters and services. Shelters have limited space available, and if you want to make sure you have a bed for the night, you need to be there long before the doors open. The same thing applies to soup kitchens. When your whole life revolves around being in line for vital services for hours on end, it’s hard to make much progress in getting your life together. Providing people with housing gives them more time and more flexibility to return to school, find jobs, or reconnect with family. 

It’s virtually impossible to manage a mental health condition or recover from addiction when you have no permanent housing. It’s just not going to happen. Recovering from a mental health issue requires stability, routine and a safe place to retreat to, which are impossible when you live on the streets. Living rough makes it extremely difficult to show up to appointments, hang on to your prescription medications and avoid trauma. It’s more efficient for everyone involved to provide housing to the mentally ill first, and bring mental health services right to their doors. 

It’s hard to make much progress in life when you can’t accumulate possessions. Think about how hard your life would be if you had no safe place to store your things. When you’re homeless and sleeping in shelters, you can only keep as much stuff as you can carry with you, and most of your energy is going to go towards keeping that stuff safe. You can’t take advantage of clothing drives, because you can’t carry too many clothes. You eat a lot of fast food, because you have nowhere to store or prepare groceries. Showing up to appointments, interviews or shifts is difficult, because you have to lug everything you own with you to ensure nothing is stolen. Having a room with a lock changes everything. 

It keeps children out of the foster system. Ending up on the streets often means losing your children - if you can’t provide children with a stable home, that’s grounds to take them away. Families fleeing domestic violence can find themselves re-traumatized when children are placed in foster care due to inadequate housing. Providing stable housing allows families to stay together and minimizes trauma for children and parents, as well as foster care costs. 

It preserves basic human dignity. It’s hard for most of us to imagine how humiliating and dehumanizing it is to be homeless. Imagine not having access to regular showers, or even toilets. Having nowhere to clean your laundry. Having your schedule dictated by a homeless shelter. Sleeping in rooms with dozens or hundreds of other people, with absolutely no privacy. Being chased out of businesses and public places. Enduring the crushing boredom of having nowhere to go. Being treated as less than human. It’s impossible to maintain hope and dignity in those conditions, and no human being should have to endure that. 

We live in a society that treats housing like something you have to “earn” by proving yourself worthy of it, and that toxic thinking has put us in a position where we’re literally willing to spend more money to have people sleeping in the streets. It has to stop. Housing is a bare minimum requirement for human dignity, and it should be a human right. Everyone deserves a safe and private space of their own, regardless of their abilities, mental health or circumstances. No one is asking for luxury condos here - dorm-style settings with private rooms and shared bathroom and kitchen facilities have proven to be effective. This isn’t about who “deserves” housing; if you are a human being, you deserve a safe place to call home. 

[valtsv]

remember when you were a kid and whenever your parents came into the room while you were doing something for pleasure like looking at something on the computer or watching tv and you’d immediately close the thing like you’d just been caught watching porn when you were actually doing nothing wrong this post was made by strict parents with no boundaries gang

[valtsv]

my dad: walks into the room while i’m playing club penguin the family computer

me:

[bellygangstaboo]

[msladyjay]

GO 👏 THE 👏 FUCK 👏 OFF. Also, the American educational system is trash. I applaud this child’s parents for giving her a voice and standing up against bias authority.

[fridakahloblvd]

(Can someone caption this?)

[nico-incognito]

Classroom full of mostly black and brown students:

Black student: [unintelligible—and then]  …and then throwing everything away beneath it because it doesn’t pertain to you. I’m sorry —

White teacher: —you know what, I’m sorry -I’m sorry…

Black student: —No, no, no…I let you talk -I let you talk, you’re gonna let me talk.

[Other students gasps]

White student: Go ahead. Finish.

Black student: I’m sorry that this is the way that it is. You’re right, it is fucked up. But white people control everything…and that’s not fair. And when anybody, any other minority tries to say anything about it or change it, we’re complaining or we’re ungrateful or all this other stuff because we still have this or that. But then you say something about ‘Oh, I don’t want—there’s too many Latinos and there’s too many—’

White teacher: I didn’t say that—

[Various students disagree]

White teacher: I said I want to control the border!

Black student: You said you don’t want this to turn into a Latin country because there’ll be too many 

White teacher: I did not say that.

[Various students disagree]

Student 2: You said you want to preserve the American culture.

Black student: There is no American culture. American culture is EVERYTHING.

[Various students agree]

Random: Mayonnaise!

[Students laugh]

Black student: And because you are white and so closed-minded, you refuse to accept that, you refuse to accept—

White teacher: Don’t tell me I’m closed-minded—

Black student: Everything you’ve said to me is closed-minded.

White teacher: Just because I don’t agree with you doesn’t mean I’m closed-minded.

Black student: You don’t need to agree—I -I’ve had conversations with people that don’t agree with me, but if they at least listen and try to accept—you’re not accepting the truth.

White teacher: Why do I have to accept what you think is right?

Black student: You need to accept the truth! Not what I think is right, what is actually happening right—

White teacher: Well, let me tell you what I think. You said white people have been in control of everything….who is the president of the United States right now?!

Students: A black man!

*Various sounds of incredulity*

Black student: WITH A WHITE CONGRESS! WITH A WHITE SENATE! WITH WHITE EVERYTHING ELSE! HE DOESN’T HAVE THE CONTROL OF EVERYTHING!

Random: GO OFF 

Other Random: GO OFF–

*The class is in an uproar*

Random student: YOU ARE SO PRIVILEGED THAT YOU JUST DON’T SEE IT!

White teacher: Do we have to yell?!

Black student: Yes, because I’m mad.

[suitepetite]

Reblogging for the captioning. Thanks!

[bando--grand-scamyon]

YES, BECAUSE I’M MAD.

[lordrachaelmarissa-deactivated2]

This gives me hope. I’m 22. I’m not that old, but I’m assuming I’m older than these students in the video. To see this young intelligent woman school her teacher on white privilege and the affects of white supremacy gives me hope. They are young and using their voice! This is gives me hope ya’ll. 

[hogwartsfemme-deactivated-deact]

this👏student👏deserves👏an👏award👏for👏putting👏up👏with👏that👏teacher👏

[stuckinreversemode]

#relationship goals

[myautisticmoods]

I’ve seen a lot of posts lately that are generally saying “don’t give advice or try to help if they don’t want it!!”

And my thoughts on this are: I just like to help people bc I don’t want them to be sad. And how am I supposed to know if they want help or not if they don’t tell me??

Like people will vent to me and I’ll be like “oh well you can always do ___” and then they get more upset saying they just wanted to vent not get advice. But they didn’t make that clear from the beginning.

Just,,, don’t expect people to just know what your intentions are ya know?

[heyitsniamarie]

You can ask! Something that is helpful for me is asking, “do you want advice or is it helpful to just vent?” They usually don’t mind and will answe honestly

[hundondestiny]

anyways please support sex workers during this. donate / support what content you can. reblog posts with their information if they’re choosing to move to another platform. don’t treat their livelihoods as a footnote in these discussions of these new policies.

[maa-iingan]

URGENT!! THIS IS MY LAST CHANCE!!!! (This is the post to boost!!)

My health is actually failing. I’m not being dramatic when I say I could die If I don’t get the medical help I need.

READ THIS - https://www.gofundme.com/6bo0xo8?pc=ot_co_dashboard_a&rcid=dcd3b6ebb8eb49b18f129aabd7ab6b9e

I need to have access to good health care. I’m chronically ill with horrible and scary diseases. I’ve already almost died three times, and have been on my death bed twice..

I’m in and out of hospitals constantly.

I NEED HELP. I NEED TO LEAVE AND MOVE IN ORDER TO SURVIVE!!!

Please fucking help me!! Boost my links, donate whatever! I’m grateful for anything !!

I don’t want to DIE I’ve been fighting for my life since I was 16. I’m taking my health seriously and using the little bit of energy that I have to get shit done.

I’m honestly only asking for the bare minimum of what I need to move, necessaties, and just for my medical shit. That’s all..

I’m trying to move to Colorado to escape (my abuser and stalker that I have a really traumatic history with. Violence and including assaults) I’m stuck in my hometown right now in northern MN. Where I’m at right now IS NOT safe for me and I need to leave..

My friend in Colorado has a place that I can move into ASAP, I just need first and last months rent. I have to move this month or she has to find a different roommate because of her own financial situation, so this is my ONE and only lucky chance!!

I NEED to move to Colorado for access to better health care (to keep me alive), and for my own safety.. This is VITAL for my health (mentally and physically).

PLEASE DONATE OR BOOST MY LINKS!!!!!!

NOW IS THE TIME TO SHOW YOUR SUPPORT AND BE AN ALLY !!

https://www.paypal.me/YvesOrage

https://www.paypal.me/YvesOrage

ALSO PLEASE READ AND SHARE MY STORY/LINKS!! REPOST, & REBLOG!! Copy and paste my links & story & share on ALL your social media’s (twitter, Facebook, tumblr and Instagram!!!!) it helps me so much !

USING PayPal IS A DIRECT WAY TO HELP ME (Gofundme takes forever to send donations and they only do it in chunks & and need help NOW) but also getting my story out there helps as well and is so important !!

If you donate, message me so I can thank you personally !!! Thank you ♥️

[maa-iingan]

This is the one I need y’all to boost. I STILL NEED HELP AND HAVE NO TIME!!!

[meggomyeggo210]

!!!!! GUYS HELP

[anarchy-kisses]

PLS DONATE TO THE PAYPAL LINK AND IF YOU SEND ME PROOF THAT YOU DONATED I’LL SEND U A NUDE

[maa-iingan]

I STILL NEED HELP!!! FUCKING HELP KEEP ME ALIVE!!

https://www.paypal.me/YvesOrage

https://venmo.com/code?user_id=2272988271476736476

[maa-iingan]

I STILL NEED HELP!!! I DONT HAVE ENOUGH FUNDS TO MOVE YET! Please donate and share !! ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING COUNTS! I only have a couple of days… I’m scared. I NEED TO MOVE TO STAY ALIVE

[christinecanigula-archive]

growing up on this site sucked so deeply

[christinecanigula-archive]

can i get a hell yeah for my mentally ill/lgbt kids who turned to this site at a very young age because we saw it as an outlet to express everything we were conditioned not to express in real life and then subsequently got exposed to so much unhealthy shit

[alexbam]

[french-verbz]

Well now I can correctly moonwalk away from uncomfortable situations

[timecouldnever]

Because everyone deserves to know how to do a mean moonwalk.

[whosfuckingbad]

guYS THIS IS IMPORTANT

[bisexuanal]

I definitely reblogged this sitting down not getting up to do the moonwalk at all

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“I know that feeling. You have to do something. You have to change something radically, because you can’t stay like you are for another second, or you’re going to explode.”

— Jennifer Echols