Hola Mapi,
Humberto Ramos
He/Him, 26 (And staying this age until I die)
Virgo
Residing in Weslaco, aka Wesloco, Weslahoe, TX
Gender & Sexuality:
Sexuality? Very gay. Although, it’s so funny how wide the sexuality spectrum runs. I’ve always been attracted to men, but I do admit I sometimes I am also attracted to women but VERY rarely. I’ve also had my share of experiences with “str8” men, who really don’t like to admit what they are because they feel more than one way. So I always find it fascinating how the human sexuality evolves and changes so often.
Gender? Depends on the day to be quite honest. I know I am definitely more effeminate than most guys. So I think I’m like a butch princess.
Just like most people growing up I always thought gender was what we were told. I think now, it’s as to how we see ourselves in the mix of all the colors of people in the world. We’re not all the same one color. It’s okay if we are too. But there’s almost an infinite possibility of who we can be as people.
Aesthetic Trademark:
OVERDRESSED. Definitely polished and fitted! But I do like to have fun with colors and patterns and silhouettes. It’s taken me a while to feel comfortable in my skin. A little more than a year ago I was barely 100 lbs so it was hard for me to fit in clothes the way I wanted. But after a lil weight gain I feel more comfortable trying on clothes and exploring more fits. I also don’t like under-dressing. Even when I’m only going to the store I overdress.
I admit I catch myself following more trends nowadays, but I think it’s all about exploring new styles and fits. I don’t always like what I see on the mannequins or on magazine covers so I try to just mix in and wear what I like to wear. I try to also dress for the season. Shorter shorts in the summer and longer sleeves for the winter.
What does it mean to be Latino?
To me, it simply means we can learn to identify ourselves how we please, and how simply inclusive it is to just call everyone by their preferred pronouns & names. Is it really hard to just do that as people? We have war, famine, genocide in the 21st century but people have their undies in a wad over a simple thing like this. Then again, humanity is going to eat itself by its asshole. Whichever way one sees it, being part of this community is so enriching. We’re all so different yet have so much in common. I like to think I’m a weird concoction of a person. I was born in Monterrey, Nuevo Leon, but I grew up in a tiny town outside called, Melchor Ocampo. I don’t think there were more than 200 people in town but I can’t remember. I immigrated to the U.S. in 2001, and I hit the ground running. No transition period or anything. I went from socializing in a school where my grade had 15 kids to a school with dozens and dozens. I didn’t speak a word of English and I’m pretty sure everyone was calling me “joto” from day one and I hadn’t even said a word. I was culture-shocked the entire first 3 years I lived here. I didn’t really learn to socialize with other kids easily because I came from the rancho. I didn’t know any movie references, I didn’t listen to any English music, didn’t read anything in English. All aspect of my childhood was Mexican, not Hispanic/Latino, but Mexican. It all differentiates from country to country. But we all share even a little bit in common. So I get to see much more color living in our community. We all get the same short sticks, Latinxs/Hispanxs, AND queer, in this economy?!?! AND I’m a DACA Recipient so just a tad bit worse in some aspects. But I don’t know if I would have it any other way, I think growing up the way we do, we see the world from a more empathetic viewpoint than most Americans do. It’s hard for others to relate to us but we can relate to each other. I also think we grow up much quicker than others.
Hobbies & Passions:
It’s a little cliche but I’m actually writing and planning out a novel. I have this ex who told me not to tell anyone about the time we broke up. He said to “Keep it between us,” so I decided a couple of years ago to write about it. As you can tell, I internalized what he told me since 2012 so here I am 5 years later, still petty enough to write a whole novel about it and what it could’ve been. I’m hoping 2019 really puts me in order to do something with all of these feelings and thoughts I’ve had for years. I tend to internalize my feelings and not express them properly, so I’m working through them instead. I hope I get to be on the best sellers list some day, maybe meet Oprah, write out the screenplay and win an Oscar for it? Quien sabe. A ver que.
What do you love most about yourself?
It’s cliche but I definitely love my wit and how I argue about things. I spent so much time as a teenager being angry with no reasoning, and now I’m an adult, still a bit angry, but at least now I know how to argue and debate rather than just yelling. I also like how I can’t take serious situations seriously. I do know when things are really serious but I can almost always lighten up a room and I really enjoy making people laugh.
Current Obsessions:
So one of my best friends told me months ago to listen to Kacey Musgraves, and I kept forgetting, then one day I finally decided to look up her new album “Golden Hour” and I AM OBSESSED. I do love the title song the most, and it’s so different than what you expect country to be or sound like, but it’s very honest and is not trying to be something it’s not.
One of the last films I truly enjoyed watching was Roma on Netflix. It’s not the film for the crowds, I wish it were though so they could see how beautifully it was directed and casted. It’s very raw and captivating.
If you could say something to your younger self, what would you tell them?
DO NOT PLUCK OUT YOUR EYEBROWS AND DO NOT LET NORA THE BARBER CUT OFF ALL YOUR HAIR BECAUSE SHE SAYS SHE NEVER CUTS HAIR ON MEN WITH SCISSORS. She’s a liar and a con artist and do not let her buzz off your entire head. It will take you 3 months to grow back your hair how you wanted it. Also, don’t machine dry your blacks, wash them in delicates. Hug mami y papi more. No boy is worth feeling shitty about yourself. And for fuck’s sake, get some sleep.