Lesbian Renfriguy @holliday-inn - Tumblr Blog

I’m just a guy out here on the internet.

I go by a lot of names. I tend to get called Holliday a lot because of my URL. It/it’s, Fae/faer, Hy/hymn, and thee/thim/thers pronouns.

I’m an old guy with an unspecified age for personal safety, but I’m 18+

I literally don’t care who interacts for the most part. I believe in ship and let ship and generally just shitpost here. I DO ASK THAT FEEDERISM BLOGS DO NOT INTERACT I DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR KINKS I JUST DON’T WANT TO SEE IT SPECIFICALLY

I play banjo, write fic (sometimes of the dark variety), and I’m into some fandoms. I do art on @renfroodles

I have this thing called Dick Ingenuity Disorder (DID) and sometimes don’t remember vast periods of time. This is normal for me

My current main fandoms are The Witcher (Books), The Locked Tomb, Dead By Daylight, Baru Cormorant, Law and Order: SVU, The Cosmic Wheel Sisterhood, The Fall Of The House Of Usher, Baldur’s Gate 3, Yellowjackets, and TTRPGs. I also like TMA, Red Dead, Bloodborne, Alice & The Nightmare, The Mechanisms, Steam Powered Giraffe, and a few other things.

I’m also Alterhuman/otherkin/therian or whatever you call it. My brain says I’m inhuman and I just vibe with it. Local butch werewolf. Sometimes I post about it, and sometimes I post about my butch identity. Generally a mess of a blog.

I don’t tolerate Witcher Show bashing on this page (bashing ≠ criticism, I acknowledge it’s fuck ups) and I would rather keep that content off of here.

#witcherposting - my in house Witcher shenanigans tag for my original posts. Usually book-adjacent.

#witcherposting (sexual style) - my in house Witcher shenanigans posts. But the ones that might be horny.

muzzlesbian

you have to love the tgirl but you have to let her love you back too

muzzlesbian

transfem affection and attraction is painted as inherently predatory to a degree that drives us to be constantly on edge. it makes us fucking paranoid. do you know how awful it is to worry if it’s safe to lean your head on your close friend’s shoulder? to be openly desired and even flirted with but never flirt back for fear of being labeled a creep? to be unable to cuddle up with your date because you’re terrified of how they might respond? do you know how much that fucks a person up?

you have to let the tgirl love you back. you have to.

ordinarytalk

Recovering from autistic burnout as a high-masking adult:

To recover, you literally need to manually learn skills that most people learn as a toddler

You need to learn what makes your body uncomfortable, and what to do to fix it

If you are high-masking, that usually means that you have learned to ignore every distress signal your body sends unless it is a distress signal that a neurotypical person would recognize. People have likely been unintentionally gaslighting you about your lived experience your entire life

If you feel bad or panicked for no reason, stop and try to pay attention to your body. Are you tense? You are likely feeling physical pain somewhere. If you've been gaslit about your pain your entire life, you might not be able to identify it.

Go through a sensory checklist.

SIGHT: Try closing and covering your eyes. If this gives you relief, the lights are probably too bright. You may also need differently-colored lights

SOUND: Cover your ears. Does this give you relief? If so, you may need earplugs or noise canceling headphones. You may also benefit from a neutral or pleasant background noise, like soft music or brown noise.

TOUCH: Are your clothes uncomfortable? Your chair? Your body? Do you feel greasy, like you need a shower? Do you need softer, sensory-friendly clothing?

TASTE: Do you need to brush your teeth or tongue? Would chewing on something help?

SMELL: Is there a strong or unpleasant smell in the room? Do you need to clean or empty a trash can? Would an air purifier help? Would a pleasant smell like a candle help?

INTEROCEPTION: Are you hungry? Thirsty? Tired? How is your posture? Are any of your muscles tight or sore? Scan your body slowly from head to feet, tensing and loosening each group of muscles. Going for a walk or doing a series of quick stretches may help a lot.

Learning how to do this stuff is not intuitive, if you've had an entire lifetime of gaslighting telling you that everything hurting you isn't a big deal and you're being dramatic over nothing.

This takes time, it takes work, it's not intuitive, and it's hard. Most people forget how hard it is, because they learned this as toddlers.

If you want to recover, you need to relearn your whole body. And get over your idea of "normal" and just wear the damn sunglasses and put on the headphones. If people stare, fuck em. You're disabled and they can deal with that.

nerdery-and-shenanigans

THIS! THIS! THIS!

magneatio

donutdrawsthings

I was thinking of a pride art challenge people could do with their OCs, because I thought it'd be cute! A queer/trans artist with their creations.

but then I realised that same challenge would be infinitely more funny with folks who have atypical or horror OCs

estro-boi

we gotta get back to torrent distribution, i just watched someone eat eight grand in bandwidth charges because they ran a direct-download piracy site with local file hosting through cloudflare. torrents were invented literally for this exact reason

estro-boi

torrents work like this

i have a file or folder on my pc that i want to share with other people. let's call it gayshit.mp3

unfortunately gayshit.mp3 is 750mb and im not paying for discord nitro so i need another way to send it

i put it into qbittorrent and it makes a torrent file. this is essentially a very small file that points to gayshit.mp3 so other computers can find it. kinda like a treasure map

i send this tiny file to my friend, who loads it into qbittorrent. their computer takes a moment to find mine over the vast expanse of cyberspace and then (as long as my pc is running and the file is still where it should be), it gets copied from my hard drive to theirs

this is the cool part: if somebody else loads that tiny file, they can download it from both of us. if i'm offline but my friend is on, the third person can still get it. this also means that if two people have separate halves of the file, they can download the other half from each other. as long as some combination of people have the pieces between them, they can all have the whole thing.

crucially this does not require a server!!! you can just upload the file to a few people and as long as they keep it, it's still accessible. as long as somebody, somewhere is still connected, it's available forever. the only way it goes away is if everybody disconnects from it.

please learn to torrent

macleod

An expert guide to get started using torrentsTorrents are one of the most popular forms of file sharing on the internet, accounting for over

always use qbittorrent, do not use bittorrent or utorrent.

touchmytylenol

people only wanna call when ur rubbing one out & it’s fucking rude

clockyclockyclockwork

new job is an inclusive workplace for dolls and dollies

awawandroid

Tips for Working with Dollies

Avoid sudden loud sounds

Do not raise your voice at Dollies

You may need to remind Dollies to blink or simulate breathing if they are not doing so

If you notice tears on a Dolly's face, gently guide it away from customers to dry storage and leave it be there

Some "awawa"s are to be expected from a Dolly, but notify a manager immediately if "awawa" becomes the only response to stimulus

Do not attempt to stop a Dolly from eating products, including products which are inedible to humans.

Do not leave two or more Dollies together unsupervised during operating hours

If two or more Dollies have been left unsupervised together for any length of time, prepare a degreaser bottle and mop bucket with sanitizer solution, and wait for the Dollies to emerge of their own accord

Do not ask Dollies to handle Drive-Through orders. They do not understand microphones

b0tster

'why do ur lesbian ocs need condoms?'

bsky replies: its not uncommon for some tops to put condoms on the strap because its still possible to transmit std's. also it could just be a joke and shes just doing it cuz shes bisexual or something and has them lying around maybe and its funny cuz they dont need them?

tumblr replies: 'because bia has a massive cock'

b0tster

just saw someone say 'well trans woman are infertile so they wouldnt need condoms' and that is so many layers of incorrect i had to sit down lol 💀

audible-smiles

My memory of The Birdcage (1996) is always that it's more dated and more difficult to watch than it actually is. You hear "drag-themed comedy from the 90s based on a musical from the 80s based on a play from the 70s" and you brace yourself just a little, right? But the film has a strong gay perspective, so the fruity fag jokes mostly come off as warmly affectionate. There is a surprising amount of poignancy in Robin Williams' portrayal of Armand, grudgingly agreeing to his beloved son's request that he go back into the closet for an evening ("do me a favor and don't talk to me for a while"). The drag club's staff attempting to redecorate the apartment with stuff straight people might like (a taxidermy moose head, an enormous crucifix, and Playboy magazine) is extremely funny. Albert's histrionics are a point of tension because he does often come off as a stereotypically pathetic/comic figure, but towards the end of the movie he makes it very clear that he's aware of how people see him, and asserts that trying to copy a stoic masculinity he doesn't possess for the sake of social approval would be more pathetic. In the 1983 musical adaptation, they give "Albert" (Albin) the only good song in the whole show, "I Am What I Am", which Gloria Gaynor covered to the delight of gays everywhere. Apparently Nathan Lane wasn't (publicly) out yet in 1996, which is amazing because it means that at one point in this movie you're watching a gay man playing a straight man playing a gay man playing a straight man, in a movie about how it's important to be yourself, an absurdity that does seem to encapsulate the state of gay America in the 90s.

silverhand

I'm seeing a couple of posts circulating about the gay 90s and this movie. The above is a very good summary, and I think it's worth adding a few other points.

This movie got made because Robin Williams said yes to it (and it's important that Gene Hackman did as well). Williams in the 90s was a mega-star of a type that's not present in the current media environment (maybe Tom Cruise, but I personally think that's echo from his salad days). Even his flops made money on the back end in the video rental market, which also doesn't exist anymore (streaming is different). Hackman was on the other side of his A-list career but still Hollywood nobility if not full royalty.

Playing gay was considered career suicide in the 90s. There had been a number of actors who put lie to that belief stretching back decades, but this was Williams and Hackman (yes, being on screen next to a gay character was enough to get you blacklisted) saying "screw that" and doing it anyway.

Being gay and out was career suicide in the 90s.

Nathan Lane had a really nice gig going for himself. The Lion King put him into the Disney rep company with people like Williams, Bette Midler, and Whoopie Goldberg (check their IMBD list from the 90s--they were making bank at Disney).

Lane didn't come out until several years later (nice summary: https://deadline.com/2024/06/nathan-lane-robin-williams-advice-coming-out-birdcage-1235975010/).

I don't want to imply that this was a Sorkinized moment where everything changed because of one thing, but this was a very important movie that caused real movement in the needle on queer acceptance.

It also proved that there was a market for films with gay characters, which had the knock-on effect of gay filmmakers being able to find distributors of their gay-themed films. Which meant that more people than ever (queer and non-queer) got to see representation on-screen.

foxes-in-love

changelingcoded

keep getting glimpses into an alternate timeline where plurality is more normalized and you can buy shitty tshirts and mugs about it

blixandco

Like this?

catboyandroid

Everyone say thank you to trans femmes for showing us a version of femininity born from joy and desire instead of just through coercion

Everyone say thank you to trans mascs for showing us a version of masculinity born from joy and desire instead of just through coercion

Everyone say thank you to all people outside of the cis gender binary for showing us a version of gender born from joy and desire instead of just through a simple frame work in which our oppressor have used to kill, erase, and censor us.

Thank you for showing us the existence of a history before and a future ahead.