[homewrecking]

Coyote, adult, his/hers

No Fucking Zionists Oh My Goddd. Transmisogynists and transandrophobes gtfo. If you think transfems systemically oppress transmascs or that it’s okay to come into my inbox whining about women feel free to re-read the last sentence. I also don’t argue with cis people about trans issues online because I’m fucking tired of y’all.

If you find yourself unable to throw in the occasional “she” or “ma’am” when you’re referring to me, I’d rather you use no pronouns at all. Thank you!

[homewrecking]

This may sound crazy but I think you can encourage nervous people to give HRT a try without becoming a full blown transmedicalist. Just a thought

[homewrecking]

Kinda awesome how the only kinda lgbt+ person it’s acceptable to tell to “man the fuck up” is trans men. You can’t even say that shit to a grown ass white cis gay man without everyone around you immediately becoming aggro’d and rightfully ripping u to shreds But I do think it is good to tell the transsexual guy you’re mad at that he isn’t man enough and that he needs to grow a pair (oh wait 🤭) omg Yesssss. 2000 reblogs 70% of them cis gay men calling him a stupid clueless tranny and the keys to the city. This is so praxis

[hotnfreshtakes]

on this trans day of remembrance i'm remembering every trans man and masc whose murder was written off as a femicide. i'm remembering every trans man and masc whose sexual assault was added to a list of women's statistics. i'm remembering every trans man and masc with the wrong name on their grave. i'm remembering every trans man and masc whose voice was drowned out and their identity erased, even in death. you deserved so much better

[kattheamazingcat]

💕 Help me get back on my feet after mom's suicide in April & an eviction 💕

Hi everyone. I talked to my housing worker & all applications are in for emergency housing. Completely homeles now. Tonight I'm wandering the streets and it's nearly 6 am EST. I don't have enough for a hotel, the wheelchair accessible room is $120/night I desperately need some solid sleep. I also require personal support workers to help me. That cost $22/hr because I'm having to pay privately at the moment.

I also got to thinking that I'm stable enough to do a work at home position. But need laptop and hotel to work from to get back on my feet. This is an URGENT need so I can start making an income. I chose a laptop that can support gaming so I can start doing Twitch to hopefully help me stay afloat. I also have some personal items I think are cool on there for when I get a place if you want to buy me something to cheer me up!

Urgent needs for today:

0/120 for hotel

0/44 (2 hrs PSW care)

0/25 for food

Click here to donate for laptop

Click here to donate for expenses

[dyspunktional-leviathan]

@7yrannic @lesbiansforboromir @homewrecking

[homewrecking]

It's not quite the same but it is related - it has been fascinating to me how parents react to the fact that I just naturally kind of intimidate babies and toddlers (I don't want to, but uh I work at a library and see a lot of them !!). It's always been the case, but now that I have been on T for a while, they tend to say it's because of my voice ?? ... I think it's more because I tend to have a pretty flat voice (esp. since it's been true pre transition too), but I've been fascinated with how my voice has been interpreted as "scary" by parents now ??

No that’s so real. I’ve been told that my Flat/Calm Voice is scarier than my regular upset/crying voice so I get where you’re coming from. It’s kind of a no-win scenario especially for autistic people who already struggle to convey tone lol 🥲.

I’m sorry you gotta hear that from your parents, though. That must suck.

[kattheamazingcat]

💟 EXTRA URGENT MUTUAL AID FOR MYSELF, A TRANS, DISABLED, CHRONI1CALLY ILL INDIVIDUAL TO STAY OFF THE STREETS WHILE WAITING FOR SHELTER BED 💟

I'm so hungry. I'm homeless, living in a hotel, which I might lose this Thursday if I don't raise the funds it's $500/week. Can anyone send a bit so I can eat food and also pay for the hotel? I'll have nowhere to go this Thursday, so this is EXTREMELY URGENT. I am chronically ill and highly physically disabled so I would die on the streets.

Goals:

$0/35 (food for Sept 8)

$100/500 (hotel)

Here's my Chuffed campaign:

Help me avoid homelessness

Hi everyone. As many of you know, my mom passed away by suicide in April. It has been such a cruel time trying to recover from this loss. Sh

[kattheamazingcat]

Please share, it's really important. 🥺😭

[kattheamazingcat]

I've been in a soiled brief for over 24 hours. I desperately need funds to pay for the hotel, PSW, food, and meds for my lupus that aren't covered. I'm going to get sepsis again from my pressure sore being contaminated with poop, so the PSW is urgent!!

[kattheamazingcat]

No donations for 18 hours now. ITS URGENT SO I DONT DIE FROM A REOCCURRING BLOOD INFECTION!

As of last night, my best friend told me that I could stay at her place, so I am. However, her place is not wheelchair accessible aside from being able to fit through the front door. So I'm having to sleep in my wheelchair and as a result, my bone deep pressure sore is getting worse. I need PSW care and nursing care desperately but I need to have steady funds. THESE FUNDS ARE LIFESAVING.

Please share everywhere!! 🙏

[dyspunktional-leviathan]

@7yrannic @kyra45-helping-others

[dyspunktional-leviathan]

No donations for two days. I'm tagging everyone I can think of.

You may get a portrait drawing from me if you donate any amount (art blog @whatruwaitingfor-draw-spades).

@genderkoolaid @flowercrowncrip @evpath @quixoticanarchy @kyivfangirlchronicles @homewrecking @queeranarchism @queeranarchist whom I at first tagged by accident @i-suggest-aro @dragon-in-a-fez @wifegideonnav @gideonisms @space-glasgow @blumineck @sandymybeloved @lesbiansforboromir @cosmik-homo @rokkazu @reachartwork @soldiereclipse @our-grey-experience @milo-by-the-fishtank @sufferingisbad @brick-van-dyke @catboybiologist @cypheramnesia @lifeafterpsychiatry @skyeventide @crownlessliestheking @nyancrimew @shiftythrifting @bugthingsdaily @kevinbparry @adhd-alien @ako-kipali @tepkunset @cock-holliday @nothorses @patrochilles-or-bust @jewishvitya @vaspider @starlightomatic @closet-keys @transgendz @transmutationisms @virovac @queerautism

[homewrecking]

I'm sorry. You complained about people complaining about scary man voice so I thought you'd like it if I was contrarian and told you to double down.

Aw no need to apologize anon. I’m gonna double down by pretending I sound like the big fucked up wolf mother from Princess Mononoke, dw.

[homewrecking]

Can you pick a voice actor for a villain and start mimicking them so you can have a scarier man voice?

I would ideally like to not have my voice be treated as a scary thing at all, especially when I am using it to express excitement, because ngl it makes me a little dysphoric to think of my voice as a “man voice”. Like, I’m pretty openly bigender and don’t get me wrong, I love my voice, I just hate when people assign a gender to it. But as it stands 1) I understand why that is, I guess & 2) Wanna sound like. Moro princess mononoke. ungh. no point being evil on purpose if i cant sound like english dub moro </3. fuck my life😢

[homewrecking]

I’m kinda surprised that some people don’t seem to have heard of the tboy “scary man voice”. I feel awful for the anon that made me think on this, but is that not a universal experience? Scary Man Voice? Like, that thing where you go on T and then regardless of what your actual gender is, everybody you know tells you that your voice is terrifying and begs you to never emote too loudly or often again because the result of your transition is inherently frightening? One of the main reasons anyone on T isn’t allowed to be openly angry or upset virtually ever? It’s why I have to pitch my voice up when I speak? Usually people’ll literally call it your ‘scary man voice’? Hello?

Is this less common than I’d thought? Because I feel like it happens so often it should be a like. A documented phenomenon. Maybe it’s just not something anyone has thought to mention, I dunno.

[homewrecking]

And to think I had no idea that bitch was in the morgue as I wrote this. Yet another pleasant surprise

[homewrecking]

The other day another autistic guy I was making conversation with in-line for pizza paused mid-infodump to ask whether or not I was a boy or a girl. My first time meeting him btw. Usually this question makes me incredibly nervous because so many people react poorly to my answer regardless, plus despite being open & out, ‘bigender’ can be difficult to explain especially to strangers so I was just like “um. I’m a guy” to which he immediately responded by patting my chest for like a full minute out of excitement.

He was asking to make sure he wasn’t groping me. 😭 And he thumped my chest like “my guy!!!!!” despite the obvious padding. I hope this doesn’t sound weird but it was really lovely, maybe the first time I haven’t felt like I’m being regarded as some sort of animal after being asked about my gender by a stranger, unexpectedly affirming. Like, it’s scary out here but I love the world & living in it. I love pleasant surprises. I’m glad I exist.

[homewrecking]

“There’s a word for identifying as your asab and you aren’t gonna like it” “[x trans woman] can’t be transfem she’s in the transandrophobia tags shes probably a transmasc” You are telling women that they act like boys and men that they act like girls. There’s a word for when you do that to trans people but you aren’t gonna like it

[ftmtftm]

Just a reminder that oppression is what happens under institutions of systemic power.

Transgender people of every gender do not have the systemic power to oppress each other along gendered lines because we are not accepted as our genders by the system of gender hierarchy. We are oppressed by the same systems in different ways, but they're still literally the exact same systems.

Lateral transphobia/transmisogyny/transandrophobia/exorsexism/etc. exists in the trans community and there are trans people out there who will go out of their way to police and throttle other trans people — but that is not oppression. It's called lateral bigotry for a reason.

I'm really sick of seeing predominantly white trans people who are absolutely obsessed with trying to find a hierarchy of gendered power and privilege within the trans community under the guise of intersectionality while also completely ignoring the fact that race statistically has a larger impact on a trans person's access to housing, access to economic stability, their ability to transition, their experiences with violence, etc. etc. than just their gender alone.

It's straight up just white feminism. It's part of the well documented history of racist/race blind white queers subconsciously thinking queer identity somehow exists void of race because they view themselves as void of race. It's the white logic of "race is something that happens to PoC, not white people" and it is the exact shit that was alienating queer, Black writers like James Baldwin and Audre Lorde 40-50 years ago. Nothing has changed. It's still the same shit that continues to alienate trans PoC now.

Do better.

[xmimikyuusx]

you could make the most eloquent explanation in the world about why being a transgender man means you're oppressed with like statistics about how much we're abused. And then trans man mcgee will walk out of the nearest bush and go "um..... I'm god's favourite and nothing bad has ever happened to me in my entire life. Are you sure you're not lying for attention?" And then like 30 people will call you a terf mra radfem incel and demand you kill yourself in the name of #feminism

[homewrecking]

Somebody needs to beat the shit out of Mullenweg with a fistful of domperidone

[mr-weirdo-mcgee]

Motherfuckers on TikTok will be saying "If trans men can be lesbians trans women can be gay" as a gotcha to me saying trans men can be lesbians and like ....did you think that was a valid gotcha moment? Because obviously I also support them?? Why would THAT be crossing a line for me? It's just the opposite version of lesboys.

[roboticutie]

Many trans women have also identified as/been gay men during and after transitioning long before anyone arguing against these things was born. And many are here, alive, and know more than any of us.

Trans people have always experienced sexuality and romantic relationships differently because many of us have a completely different relationship to gender than someone who has never experienced transition in some way (explicitly including intersex people who also resonate with this), which is a core piece of sexual/romantic identity, whether defined by gender preference or by lack of.

There's been lesbian men and gay women for as long as we've used those labels, especially in the cis-centric basing of those terms in our current cultures. When you don't make room for gender variance from the beginning, your shit will get a little fucked up because it was inherently flawed and limited in a world without nearly as many limits to existence as assumed. Life is fluid.