too young to get into forever

beth. 24. learning as I go.

[hungry-like-virginia-woolf]

Okay. So. I have been around several tr*ns people recently, men and women. And I have been so respectful and empathetic towards them. I even use their preferred pr*nouns in my own head, because hell, what does it matter if that's what they want, I hate the concept but it's their life and they're not hurting anyone.

Then I met this person at a party the other night, having been told beforehand that they are a man who goes by 'she/th*y'. Okay. Look. None of my business. Fine. I meet them.

They're wearing a plain clingy dress. And the outline of their penis is on full display. Like, when you're looking them in the eyes talking to them it's in your peripheral vision. The dress has nothing about it that would draw your eye away / distract you from this bulge. It juts out of their body. It's genuinely the wildest thing I've ever seen at a social gathering.

And at first I felt sorry for them. Like, oh, they must not have realised, how embarrassing. And I let that pity displace my actual first instinctive reaction, which was discomfort. And over the last few days that discomfort has grown more and more, and become, frankly, anger.

Because they must have realised. They'd have seen it if they'd just glanced down at themselves. And I refuse to believe that was the only 'girly' item of clothing they owned, if they're presenting as 'female' in life. They have a job. There's no way.

So they chose to wear that dress, knowing it put their penis on display like that.

But it's not a fetish. And it's not entitlement. And I'm not allowed to say what I saw to anyone, because they'll think I'm tr*nsphobic. I'm not allowed to express discomfort. I am, to put it bluntly, to reject the evidence of my eyes and ears. Okay. Okay. Cool cool cool.

[joannerowling]

When it comes to Cho, i think JKR either made her name genuinely thinking it was correct, but based on available ressources that weren't all that trustworthy; and/or she intended for her to be half Japanese, half Chinese (much like Blaise Zabini has a French-Italian name) in order to be more broadly representative. It makes sense because in Japanese Cho (or Chou) means "butterfly" which just fits with how Jo tends to name her characters in HP (non-main female characters often have flowery or graceful names, and Cho is a Quidditch player + Harry's love interest, naming her after a delicate flying creature makes sense). Cho first appears in PoA, which was written around 1997 (and the character itself was probably designed before that), when the internet was in its infancy. Jo was also a lower middle class white woman, with little reason to have connected directly with anyone Chinese in the UK between the 1960s and 1990s. All in all i don't see how you can conceive of this as offensive, let alone as racism, unless you WANT to. At best it's a bit of cluelessness, not any different than, for example, some of the weirder European-sounding names in mangas like FMA.

[mister-rad-boy-deactivated20260]

This reminds me of people getting on Rowling’s case when she said she saw Dumbledore as gay despite not overtly showing it in the books. They just assumed that she made it up for brownie points, and that she had no excuse not to explicitly write him as gay even though she was a female author, which is a struggle in itself, and people would have been much more reluctant back then to publish her work if she did. Being openly accepting of gay people wasn’t seen as profitable back then, even if it was legal. These people want to find any reason to believe that she’s some shallow grifter who is “akshully really bad at world building and is secretly the embodiment of evil ☝️🤓.”

[lentilsdotcom]

sibling relationships are so strange... like i love you. you will never understand me in a way that matters. we are the same person in drastically different ways. we are sewn together. we don't talk. we are attached at the hip. you wish i was never born. can i call you. let's eat together. i forgive you. etc

[lentilsdotcom]

i don't have enough photos of you on my phone to make one your contact picture. we got the same tattoo completely by coincidence. why do you always get to be mario. i love the meals you cook. we live in different universes. you can stay at my house if you need. we have never been friends. you are more important to me than anyone on this earth

[ozempicofficial]

[basedhighsenberg]

[hungry-like-virginia-woolf]

any man who feels the need to personally go after JK Rowling, I assume is trying to hide something about himself.

[relatablepicturesofmargesimpson]

[masc-mandate]

[hungry-like-virginia-woolf]

all the LGB girls I was in school with (including me) are now in relationships with men, or trans, or non-binary, or some combination of the three, and I don't know what to do with the incoherent rage I feel about it

[majchic]

[userparamore]

eyes that light up, eyes look through you / cover up the blank spots / hit me on the head

TALKING HEADS | THIS MUST BE THE PLACE (NAIVE MELODY) Stop Making Sense (1984) | dir. Jonathan Demme

[avpdvoidspace]

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

[savouryduck]

when I was in high school, I overheard two older students talking about a friend of theirs.

One of them said something like, "it doesn't bother me that [Friend] was in residential mental health treatment, I just wish they wouldn't talk about it ALL the time".

The other replied, "Well, that was all of last year for them. So when they say 'when I was in treatment,' it's like when you say 'last year'."

I try to remember that any time someone says something that sounds Shocking to me. sometimes one person's scary special crisis is another person's last year.

[logophilestudies]

'thanks the sex-worker community' by doing what? donating to help prostituted women and children leave exploitation? get access to life-saving healthcare? what about abortion?

oh no, you just mean glamorizing it to encourage more newly-turned 18yr-olds into only-fans-prostitution? got it...

[logophilestudies]

glad ppl are waking up

[logophilestudies]

another one. it would be great if there’s larger backlash I’m sure there won’t be but. well.

[pineapplecake555]

The year is 2032 and prostitution has been legalized but is ruled that it must be 100% OSHA compliant.

A john calls to make an appointment for a home visit but it’s after 4pm on a Friday and Monday is a union holiday. Frustrated he calls Tuesday and is told the soonest a technician can come out is next Wednesday between 9am and 2pm. When the next Wednesday finally comes, the technician shows up at 3:30pm in full Hazmat gear. His name is Mike and he’s 46 and married with two kids. By law, all he can safely provide is a dry hand job. He’s on a Bluetooth call arguing with his brother in law about a truck the entire time. It hurts a lot and costs $1100.

Edit: this escaped containment and I’m getting filthy MAGA bros thinking this is a joke about government overreach and brain dead libs that think it’s a joke about how silly it is to try and protect “sex workers”.

I’m a radical feminist and this joke hates men, hates sex “positivity” that is actually just sexual exploitation of women, and rapist johns. Everyone that purchases sex is a rapist and everyone that defends the sex industry is a rape enabler.

[justacynicalromantic]

Viral photo from today's meeting of world leaders in Kyiv:

Ukrainian already making memes:

[vollesroah]

Fingers crossed there will be an agreement not including Trump.

[hungry-like-virginia-woolf]

people saying it's laughable and ridiculous that Hunter Schafer's passport now (correctly) identifies him as male...we really do live in a society.

"b-b-but she has long blond hair and dresses in a feminine way! what kind of bigoted nonsense is this?"

I fucking hate Trump and all that he is. and I fucking hate that people are talking about this instead of literally anything else he's doing.

[darlingofdots]

been stewing on an analytical approach to fiction which I call "is this book afraid of me?" and in order to answer this question you determine how hard the book is trying to make sure you don't come after the writer on twitter

[majchic]