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Hi. I'm Gnargrim. I'm @fenmere's life partner, and fellow system member of @theinmara. That's me in the middle left of their profile pic.

I've fronted far more often that anyone initially realized in our system, and got my name way back in our twenties, right about the same time Fenmere got hers. But I didn't become a regular pilot until after we played a TTRPG with our girlfriend, angille, and made a character for me in that setting. After three years of gaming with her, it just feels natural to front when she's around, and we live with her, so here I am a lot of the time.

There's a good chance I'm the one doing most of the typing in Fenmere's blog, in fact, proxying for her and trying to write what she would say.

I don't typically spend a lot of time online as myself, and we thought it would be nice if I gave myself a way to do so.

I'm our brood guardian, which is a way of saying that I'm a parental figure for all of our children and grandchildren (internal and external), and big sibling and baby sitter for all our internal siblings that are younger than me and Fenmere. And, I suppose, if you're going to classify any of us via outworlder system roles, I'd be one of the protectors.

I suspect when I'm not piloting the system or sleeping, I'm often acting as captain (which is a role similar to gatekeeper, but far more organic, democratic, and representational, in our case). Others have captained far more than I have, but again, our current living situation just results in me taking control a lot. Being captain is part of what makes me comfortable representing and proxying for others when I'm being pilot and fronting. It's all about making sure that as much of the system gets a chance to influence the front as possible, and in a fair way.

I haven't really appeared in any of our novels yet. But I'm thinking about it. We'll see.

My intent here is mostly to be another draconic presence on Tumblr, and to be sickeningly cute with Fenmere.

#introduction post #pinned post #pinned intro

a-lonely-dunadan

Having your own OC as your Blorbo is great because you will never have to see a bad Fannon brainrot take or awful but inexplicably popular ship involving them, but also I Have To Do Everything Myself Around Here Augh

@i-am-gnargrim

@fenmere

no matter what you’re anticipating, it will not be what you think it will be.

aniseandspearmint

Me: a little goat? Why would a little goat be surpi- oh. OH. Yeah okay i wasn’t expecting that.

#WAHT?!?

apolladay

Do you clean your lint trap every time use your dryer?

Yes

No, I didn't know you were supposed to do this

No, I know you're supposed to but I don't care enough to do it every time/at all

I don't use a dryer

Voting ended onSep 8, 2024

ineffectualdemon

Fun fact!

I told off my husband for not cleaning the lint trap and he got made and said he always cleaned it

And when I showed him the lint trap uncleaned he got quiet and said "I didn't know that was there"

But before I got too smug I asked him what he thought was the lint trap and he showed me a second lint trap I didn't know about

It was the most net zero argument ever

cicadako

A lady with cold hands

ayviedoesthings

I'm having my first ever DnD session and I did the one thing I always wanted to do, I drew my character!

I'll be a brass dragon monk who hunted for knowledge about dragons before finally learning how to be one, and is now enjoying its new body by punching people for money

I picked the brass dragon type instantly when I saw they have ADHD

Very original, very mindful

i-am-gnargrim

Ooh! Buddy? Sparring partner? Rival?

If rivals, I'd have to get creative regarding your apparent ability to fly. (Also, I come from a very different game system, so porting me over to D&D might be tricky.)

creekfiend

what's my biggest pet peeve well it's when someone makes a text post on tumblr dot com in which they are trying to romanticize the notion of the livestock guardian dog but they don't know the distinction between a livestock guardian dog and a herding dog and also they've never met a livestock guardian dog and do not realize what their attitudes towards the sheep that they protect actually are

creekfiend

and to be fair it varies from dog to dog let their precise relationship is to their herd or flock. for example I have seen livestock guardian dogs whose herds or flocks love them and hang out with them and nuzzle them and sleep next to them and stuff. but poor Blue is just a longsuffering unappreciated butler to a bunch of goats who don't respect her as a person. it's a good thing that she is fundamentally optimistic in nature and finds her job really rewarding anyway

derinthescarletpescatarian

More eyes need to see this

drafty-castle

@glitter-bat-xoxo

Think these things can herd cats?

i-am-gnargrim

OK, yeah. This is me. I do this.

I'm not a livestock guardian dog. I'm the system protector and a Brood Guardian.

But to express this, when I played myself in a TTRPG, my story was that my people had stopped laying eggs for a while and so I'd looked for something else that was small and childlike that I could guard, and that was the party of PCs.

It was great fun.

When we came across a hunting party of kobolds, I just added them to my brood. It worked out fantastically!

fenmere

Today has been International Wolf Day. And tonight we're feeling a strong need for some therian company and community.

If you are a therian or otherkin, and you have artwork of your true self you're willing to share, can you reblog this with that artwork? Could be drawings, commissioned paintings, or photos of faceclaims. Name, pronouns, and species would be cool, too. Let's all have a brief moment of being in each other's company, even if it's just online. Here's me:

Fenmere (she/her), Ktletaccete taking the form of a cartoon dragon. I'm having a hard time coaxing any of our wolves forward. Maybe seeing a few of their kin will help them perk up.

sunpoweredog

Hi Fenmere! I like dragons and you look very cool! (also your name sounds awesome)

I've made a similar post a few days ago, but it's always fun getting to know more otherkin and share artwork <з

I'm ingrid, a silken windhound (mostly she/it, but any pronouns except he/him will do). I don't really usually feel myself as an anthro, mostly like a feral animal standing weirdly on its hind legs, but this piece still is one of my favourites. It's a commission I got from redborzoi!

neddalian

Hey y’all! :D

You both look amazing! I love getting visuals of how everyone truly looks in the non/alterhuman community, and also here’s mine!

I’m a tripodal species called </•\ from a low-grav rocky planet :>

My name is written as ^V but I’ve also been calling myself Whimsical. And since my pronouns would just be a shorthand version of my name’s hand signal, I tend to use Whim/Whimself instead of the more dictionary-acknowledged sets

Looking forward to see who else adds on! —💫

i-am-gnargrim

Thank you both for replying to my partner Fen's post! It's so good to meet you. I'll just keep it rolling here.

I'm Gnargrim (they/them), a Brood Guardian of the Ktletaccete, and this is what I look like most of the time. Pretty close to an adolescent Ktletaccete, but us Brood Guardians tend to grow up to look like really enormous kids.

I'm pouncing in this sketch because it was for a TTRPG I got to play with our girlfriend as GM. The pouch is for carrying kobold snacks.

woofplushz

why are you alterhuman/nonhuman? wrong answers only

I'll go first: instead of using normal lotion on me, my mom used lotion made for horse, cattle, cats, and dogs

defrostedvertebrae

Was spawned in on a sunday and you're not supposed to do any labor on sunday

ohthatphage

humans weren't popular yet when they made me

ashwin-the-artless

I should have taken that left turn at Proxima 7

i-am-gnargrim

fell into a Build a Bear while it was still running

voices-and-gemstones

After seeing a post or two about "the future is singlet not plural" and a few other criticisms of the phrase, I wanted to toss my confused two cents in to ask for clarification.

I thought "the future is plural" was meant for like. DID & OSDD awareness to destigmatize the disorders.

That it was about how the future should allow for systems to seek healthcare as they need, and allowing the idea that final fusion and functional multiplicity can coexist as options for systems.

I don't think anyone should be traumatized to make the future plural. For us, The Future is Plural is about accepting systems and multiples that already exist and will form anyway and fighting for space in the world.

For example, when I told my friend I was trans she went "oh cool, so do you have a preferred name?"

When I told her I was a system, she became very uncomfortable. She was worried and didn't want to talk to others. She said it was okay as long as they didn't talk to her and I was the "original."

Seeing as I am not the original host or personality, but I have been our host and for several years now, this experience fucking sucked. It took a lot of trust to open up to her about this fact only for her to immediately jump to conclusions and show her biases.

I would have much preferred if she had just said "oh cool, so what's your name? Or is it the same?"

The future is plural to me means that saying "I have DID" isn't met with horror. Sympathy and pity, sure, the same way someone would if you said you had PTSD. It sucks to be a system sometimes and it sucks [understatement] to be traumatized to the point of splitting. But i don't want people to be scared of us/angry at us for existing.

We deserve to exist without being afraid.

Being told the future is plural is reassuring because it promises research and community and hope. Spreading trauma is not the point, and we honestly don't know what to think of the idea that it was ever intended as the point.

Am I misunderstanding this?

sophieinwonderland

Speaking as a tulpa system, this is pretty much what I intended when I started using the phrase, but obviously for all plurals and not just DID/OSDD systems. And I will note, as a tulpa system, I certainly wouldn't mind if more people learned about tulpamancy and similar practices and voluntarily used them to become plural, especially since research is showing that tulpamancy can have a positive affect on mental health.

But yeah, making more plurals isn't the goal.

I have a dream of a world where plurality is no longer regarded as strange or something to be scorned.

A world with vast wealths of resources made to accommodate plurality. (Imagine, for instance, if pluralkit-like features were directly integrated into major social media websites.)

A world where plurality is accepted and respected, and plurals can be out in public without feeling like they're putting their jobs or personal relationships at risk because they let people know.

A world where knowledge and awareness of plurality is so widespread that no young system ever has to feel crazy while not having words to describe their own experiences, and can have role models to look up to with experiences just like their own.

A world where plurality is part of psych 101 and every single therapist is trained to treat plurals and recognize DID so we won't have young systems constantly misdiagnosed with psychotic disorders or BPD for years before getting a correct diagnosis.

And while "the future is plural" is a chant to inspire hope, I also believe it as a statement of fact. Of inevitability. The question for me is not if the future is plural but when we'll get there and if we'll be able to see that in our lifetimes.