[willmackshipper]

his laugh is the best

[i-am-sochi]

My childhood friends hate me.. they've thrown away years of friendship.. after everything we've been through together...

My best friends moved across the continent..

I've never had real family..

Is this just life? Does it ever just.. settle down?

[officialorangejuice]

what others call a rebellious phase I call the sudden realization I don’t deserve to be treated like garabge

[thebitterbite-deactivated201505]

IT HAS BEEN SAID

[hazel2468]

How many of y’all started getting called “rebellious”, told you had an “attitude”, or punished for “talking back” once you started expressing your opinions and standing up for yourself when you felt you were being treated unfairly?

Cuz I did. Fuck, I still get told I am “rebellious” and have an “attitude” by older adults in my life- I’m fucking 24!

[oftoxicparents]

[oftoxicparents]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[furiousgoldfish]

I spent my entire childhood hoping someone would love me enough to save me from my parents

[depresseddisneyprincess]

[cuddlycryptid]

listen. if you had an abusive parent who is good at behaving themselves around other people- ones who stay calm, and smile, and speak kindly when interacting with the public despite never doing that with you? you’re amazing. if you had to hear “your dad seems cool” or “i love your mom” and nod and feel the way they hurt you go unnoticed? you’re so strong.

it can feel like you’re making it up, because all your teachers really like them. or it can sting, when you see how theyre capable of being thoughtful and polite but they choose to hurt you anyways. but you are wonderful, and brave, and things will get better. you will have people who acknowledge how they treated you. you will thrive. keep fighting.

[kintatsujo]

Me: I don’t know if I ever want to be pregnant, I’d rather adopt a kid or two that are a bit older

Someone: Are you SURE? Older adoptees present UNIQUE CHALLENGES

Me: We are discussing human beings not digital pets

[plenoptic07]

Literally every child every born and/or parented presents unique challenges. It’s like people are unique individuals…..or something………….

[kintatsujo]

An amazing and revolutionary concept

[indigo-night-wisp]

When people ask me, “Why do you want to adopt teenagers?” I always answer, “Because you asked like that.”

I’m real over it. If I become a foster mom to a 17 year old kid and I get the privilege of the option to adopt them? You better believe I am legally making that kid mine.

“They’ll be a legal adult in no time, why spend the money to adopt? They’ll be aged out of the system.”

There’s no aging out of family, Marvin.

“They might be rebellious or smoke or do drugs or steal things! What if they won’t listen to you?”

Then I guess I’ll have to step up and do some fruxking parenting, Stanley.

“You want to adopt problem children then?”

All. Children. Are. Problem. Children. If you’re not prepared to deal with the fact that at some point, any child ever, whether you birthed them yourself or adopted them at any age, could become a problem? Then you are NOT ready to have children, and should really just step off and let the people who actually want to be parents live in peace with their kids.

[tearyourcurtainsdown]

Hey I’m so glad this post is picking up

[pulsinghurricanespell-deactivat]

The parents who think that most children aren’t problem children are usually the worst parents around. They think just because their kid won’t show it that they’re not struggling with mental health issues or addiction or bullying or unmet special needs because the moment that kid isn’t normal and obedient enough they’ll throw a fit.

[deadly-academic]

~Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult children of emotionally immature parents

[hexalt]

[ID: plain text that reads, “emotional immaturity in parents guarantees that their children will experience significant emotional neglect. However, this emotional deprivation is often a silent and invisible experience for children.”

text highlighted in yellow, “these children will feel the emptiness but won’t know what to call it. They’ll grow up suffering from emotional loneliness, but won’t know what’s wrong. They’ll just feel different from people who seem truly at ease.”

[gahdamnpunk]

Honestly!!! This is just psychological trauma in the making

[toastbutteregg]

THANK YOU

[aphony-cree]

I’ve asked parents about this and they always say they are teaching the child responsibility and “respect for other people’s things.” If I point out that the child accidentally broke their own toy they always say “I bought them that toy” or “my sister gave that to them.”

The problem is that parents view all possessions as not really belonging to the child. A part of them always seems to think that the adult who provided the money is the real owner

If a parent breaks a dish they see it as breaking something that already belonged to them, but if a child breaks it they see it as the child breaking something that belonged to the parents

People raising children need to realize that household possessions belong to the entire household. If everyone has to use that plate then it belongs to everyone and anyone can have a forgivable accident with it. It’s okay to deem certain possessions as just yours and ask everyone in the house to respect that, but extend the same respect to your child’s belongings

[cannilyuncanny]

Big mood. I know most of these are talking about little little kids, but here’s a tale from middle school. I had forgotten to charge my phone one night, and this was back when cell phones used to beep loudly when they were low on battery. I kept hearing the noise throughout the afternoon and not recognizing what it was because I’d never heard it before. When I finally did realize what it was, I was in science class and my fellow classmates were making presentations. I reached into my bag to try to turn off the phone, and then the low-battery sound went off, loud enough for the teacher to hear it. She confiscated my phone in front of everyone, and I didn’t get it back until after the weekend because it was a Friday. I was really embarrassed, especially to tell my parents.

When I got my phone back that Monday, my teacher said it was important for me to learn this lesson now since in college they wouldn’t tolerate phones going off. Fast forward to when I was in college, any time someone’s phone went off, either the professor would tell them to turn it off, or they would say, “Oh, my bad,” and turn it off themselves, and everyone would move on. I even had a professor who danced around while someone’s phone went off, and it was a welcome moment of levity during the lecture.

I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.

[a-system-of-broken-parts]

Sourced from ‘real depression project’ on Instagram.

Pictures with white writing on purple backgrounds, first & last pictures are pink writing on purple backgrounds. Words in quotation marks are also pink.

Picture 1; ‘childhood trauma isn’t just the result of being abused. It can also be the result of…’

Picture 2; ‘Being left to “fend for yourself” when you needed safety and security’.

Picture 3; ‘Having your feelings invalidated and denied whenever your sought emotional support’.

Picture 4; ‘Being forced to “self sooth” alone and find escape from your painful reality (eg. Video games)’.

Picture 5; ‘Having to hide your true self because it wasn’t accepted by those you craved to be understood by’.

Picture 6; ‘Having your parents constantly prioritise themselves (or their work) over yourself’.

Picture 7; ‘Feeling like you have to compete/prove yourself to receive the love and attention you sought’.

Picture 8; ‘Please know you are worthy of love & compassion- don’t let your parents inability to give you this make you conclude otherwise’.

[flyingpurplepizzaeater]

Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”

and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.

[i-am-sochi]

Day 30: A song that reminds you of yourself

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Feel Bad - Katelyn Tarver

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This is pretty sad but it’s true.. Also this challenge has shown that I really do love Katelyn.

Also, today it the last day!!! Happy completed song challenge :)

[i-am-sochi]

Day 29: A song you remember from your childhood

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Hold On - Jonas Brothers

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The Jonas Brothers are everything.

[i-am-sochi]

Day 28: A song by an artist whose voice you love

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Exhale - Sabrina Carpenter

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Honestly her voice is ridiculously amazing. It makes me so mad but i love it. She’s going to go far and I’m so happy I’ve gotten to see her live twice!