Here works..I guess. I am currently staying with my inlaws. We've moved from Germany to Texas to to say I am far from my friends is an understatement. My husband is still in Germany, and I am sure he doesn't want to hear me hitch about his father. So, helllo tumblr, my venting outlet. I love my father in law. He is a nice guy most of the time, but then there are other times that he just drives me banana sandwich. Tonight, somewhere in our talks, I told him I could not live in a loveless marriage just for our kids. He says marriage isn't about love, it's about your relationship as best friends. I'm not saying that isn't important , the friend part, but so is love. Love is VERY important. I wouldn't want my kiddos to feel guilt because I stayed unhappy in a loveless marriage for them. My father in law keeps saying my belief will change. Love isn't important, blah blah blah. I may not be an emotional person, but I love love. He constantly says my views will change. I think after 25, almost 26 years, my few will pretty much stay the same. Maybe not dead on, but not far off. Then he tells me that the way I raise my kids is from my bloodline. Which, no. No it isnt. I am raising my kids almost opposite of my mom. My grandma wasn't a good mom. My mom was raised by my great gma whom I've never met and my family was from the bad, poor part of town.. there are some things I took with me from my mom, but I am not raising them from my bloodline. I'm raising them from my experiences, just as my husband raises them from his. Anyhoo, long story short so I can explain my annoyance further is.. my husbands dad wasn't in his life until after we had our twins. Not totally by choice, but not the point. He had no hand raising my husband. When his mom left him, he was raised by his Oma in Germany, where he stayed until he was 20. Now, my husband is a modern man, he helps around the house and he helps with the kids. His father, is old school. He is the , "Women should stay at home," or the, "why should men come home after a hard days work and have to clean / help with the kiddos?" OR! OR! My favorite, "your job isn't hard. I can keep a house clean all day with 5 kids." ...............then. once I told my fil that HIS SON isn't like that and that we are equals in our house, he said, "it's cause I haven't gotten my fingers on him yet." Like, bitch please. I give you guarantee that once your son starts acting like we aren't equals and like I'm just a woman... I'm deucing out. So basically, a man who had no hand in raising his kids is telling me how it's done.. a man with a broken family is telling me how things will go in the future. I have 1 yr of this shit.. and I am argumentative, so this should be interesting. Yay me! Also,.. The greatest gift you'll ever learn, is just to love, and be loved, in return.
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