I'm Aro, I'm Ace, I'll Punch You In The Face

okay okay fine I'll make an aroace side blog | 24 | Ryder | xe/xim/xyr and they/them | romance neutral-to-favorable | sex repulsed and neutral (it's complicated lol) | fuck amatonormativity | wtf even is romantic/sexual attraction. I think y'all are lying to me

[pawthorn]

Shout out to Tamora Pierce specifically for making her lead female protagonist have a crush on a friend, not act on it, and eventually out-grow that crush and feel grateful that she never said anything.

There are so few stories that affirm choices like that, that admit that feelings don’t always last forever and that choosing not to pursue romance is actually a very valid choice. I love the Protector of the Small series for a lot of reasons, but this is a big one.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is watching allos in fandom completely disregard the diversity and complexities of platonic relationships in the canon media in favor of obsessing over canon or not canon romantic relationships

*angrily shakes fist at sky*

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[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is being worried about your social anxiety and awkwardness around new people being perceived as a crush

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[sycamorality]

polyamory and aromanticism would solve so many stupid relationship issues

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

“Aroace people are predators!” To who? Fucking garlic bread??

[mongeese]

The Murderbot Diaries are a power fantasy about being aromantic and still developing extremely important dedicated emotionally intimate partnerships where you are a top priority in a person's life, equal to their other family or romantic attachments despite your own emotional difficulties. And having guns in your arms

[rivertigo]

the only thing I’ll ever love romantically is music

[aromantic-diaries]

@ partnering aro/ace people: you deserve to be with someone who doesn't see your orientation as a defect

[william-s-churros]

i think i saw a movie like this once

[maidslime]

Ok I needed to know the story and

Guy makes a really stupid decision and gets in a car accident -> no real damage from accident but insurance goes up -> starts beating himself up over his stupid decision -> gets depressed -> starts to realize he's single and had crash been worse he'd die alone -> realizes he's never had a relationship or even a crush and starts wondering what he'd want out of a relationship -> starts to realize he doesn't really like girls so he thinks he must be gay -> realizes he likes girls and boys about the same amount, so he must be bi -> later realizes that "same amount" is none at all -> he's ace

[spiltspit]

Happy pride to my fellow aro & ace homies ! ⚔️

[justarandomart]

happy pride month!! some aro ace Phantumps to celebrate!

[the-irreverend]

And stay safe everyone!

[blkaroculture]

Happy pride Black aros! Remember that all you need to do is exist, be yourself unapologetically, simply that helps in changing our world. Be regular, be flashy! Be social, be alone! Have amazing sex, be proud in your sexual aversion! Pride is not just a time of advocacy but self discovery, acceptance and joy. Be proud and love your culture down, know you’re not alone. Black aromanticism is so necessary, and all you need to do is be you.

[coloredlion]

Day ONE of filling this with aro and/or ace characters

Starting off strong with Ryland Grace from Project Hail Mary!! While he is not canonically aroace, I felt as though he’s really spearheaded the aroace community these past few months and helped many people feel seen and accepted :)

[penicillium-pusher]

What I hate most about queerplatonic relationship discussions/arguments is the complete unwillingness from some people to admit that QPRs entail aspects that are absolutely not found in common friendships. People will literally go to their graves insisting that it is totally normalized in society for friends to live together forever, share finances, raise children, base all major life decisions on each other. Like…. genuinely in what fucking universe are you living in lmfao

[mxjackparker]

Kinship Between Asexuals and Sex Workers

An article about how the experiences of many sex workers overlap with those of asexual people (particularly asexual people who have sex), and the way acephobic bigotry harms both groups. Solidarity with asexual people is not only necessary, it's also something I feel very viscerally as an allosexual sex worker who almost exclusively has sex with people I'm not attracted to.

Kinship Between Asexuals and Sex Workers

Asexual people who have sex with others for closeness, intimacy, and even physical pleasure in the absence of attraction, were my gateway to

[tenitchyfingers]

“We chose the term “asexual” to describe ourselves because both “celibate” and “anti-sexual” have connotations we wished to avoid: the first implies that one has sacrificed sexuality for some higher good, the second that sexuality is degrading or somehow inherently bad. “Asexual”, as we use it, does not mean “without sex” but “relating sexually to no one”. This does not, of course, exclude masturbation but implies that if one has sexual feelings they do not require another person for their expression. Asexuality is, simply, self-contained sexuality.”

— The Asexual Manifesto, Lisa Orlando and Barbara Getz, 1972

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

Note the date, people:

That’s 1972

29 years before AVEN was started online,

and 47 years before the present.

And that’s only the date that Manifesto was written, so asexuals as members of a community must have existed at least some time before that.

So, no: we are not just Tumblr trenders. Get out of here with that.

[queerhumanbeing]

supporting my asexual friends and foes by rebbloging this

[freyjawriter24]

It’s 50 years this month since the first version of the Asexual Manifesto was written. Aces have been writing about our experiences under this name for at least half a century. We are not an internet fad.