Alienation - The act of cutting off or interfering with an individual’s relationships with others.
Baiting - A provocative act used to solicit an angry, aggressive or emotional response from another individual.
Blaming - The practice of identifying a person or people responsible for creating a problem, rather than identifying ways of dealing with the problem.
Bullying - Any systematic action of hurting a person from a position of relative physical, social, economic or emotional strength.
Harassment - Any sustained or chronic pattern of unwelcome behavior by one individual towards another.
http://outofthefog.website/top-100-trait-blog/2015/11/4/emotional-abuse
Name calling, too, can be explicit or subtle. Explicit name calling can consist in calling the victim of the abuse a “cunt” a “whore” or a “bitch”. But it can also be more subtle, calling the other person things that are implicitly hurtful, for instance, “You are such a victim” or “You think you are so precious, don’t you?”
Any form of ordering or demanding is a form of verbal abuse. It falls under the general issue of control.
Denial is abusive when it consists in denying bad behavior and failing to realize the consequences of one’s behavior. An abuser will find a way to justify and rationalize his behavior. This is a way of denying that he has done anything wrong.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mysteries-love/201503/15-kinds-verbal-abuse
Often those who are witnessing abuse and are abuse survivors go into “survival mode.” In survivor mode you side with the abuser so you don’t become the target. The person who is abusive knows this and uses it to their advantage.
If you have ever said things such as: I don’t want to get on their bad side, or, I’m glad that isn’t me. You then purposely align yourself with that person maybe you should reevaluate that relationship.
If the person is controlling this is a form of abuse. Telling you and others if you speak with someone or interact with someone they will no longer be friends with you is manipulative and controlling. It’s a form of isolation and abusive bonding. If this happens you should reevaluate the relationship.
Keep in mind abusers like to isolate their victims. They will manipulate people around them to do that. If a healthy person doesn’t like someone or something someone is doing they don’t interact with them. As an adult they don’t try and get everyone they know to target the person. This is because healthy people know it’s wrong to target someone. Furthermore they don’t say if you’re not on my side you are a bad person too.
You have the right as an individual to make your own decisions. You have the right to choose who you interact with whether or not someone agrees.
While I understand people do things we don’t like and disagree with this doesn’t give me the “right” to be abusive in any form.
If someone justifies abusive behavior for example: I’m protecting you. They deserved it because of their behavior (blaming) you need to reevaluate that relationship.
It’s one thing to express disagreement with someone’s behavior. It’s another to abuse them.
As a survivor of abuse it’s important to recognize when abuse is occurring. Whether it’s happening to you or someone else.
Saying something is abusive doesn’t mean you’re agreeing with the actions of the victim. It means you’re disagreeing with the abuser. It is saying no one deserves to be treated like this no matter what they did.
We rationally know cussing at someone is abusive. We know continuing to target someone is abusive. We know tearing someone down is abusive. We know “reporting” back to someone so the person is continuing to be targeted is abusive. Rationally we know we wouldn’t want that to happen to us so why do it to others?
There is no justification for abusive behavior.
