arospec sideblog

he/him - girlboy loveless aro

[individualisticaro]

sal. 15 yrs old. arospec blog

[individualisticaro]

IT HAS BEGUN

HAPPY AROMANTIC AWARENESS WEEK

[schrodingers-lesbian]

i urge people to maybe approach their relationships (of any kind!) from a less hierarchical perspective, and focus more on how the relationships are different from each other and fill different needs for you. amatonormativity is just as unhealthy as heteronormativity but isnt talked about nearly as much in queer spaces.

[kissimirrit]

actually, while i’m on the topic of aromanticism: i find it funny there are aphobes who hear about loveless aros and aplatonic folk and go “uhm there’s no such thing, that’s just major depression. get therapy.” but finding the loveless aro community and identifying as loveless has made me feel 100x more confident and more secure in my aromanticism? it has strengthened my ability to build and maintain friendships, because i now understand that not feeling platonic love or any other kind of love doesn’t make me some flaky, fake excuse of a person— it just means i don’t experience some emotions that others might. and i can better navigate those experiences instead of feeling guilty and like i’m some horrible, irredeemable person. it sincerely has given me a brighter outlook with how i interact with others socially and build friendships.

i don’t NEED to compensate for something i don’t feel, i can simply just exist as i am.

[aroplatonic]

post tagged "aromantic" is actually just completely about asexuality hundreds dead thousands injured

[individualisticaro]

hows aroblr doing

[mutt-the-punk]

Lgbtqia+ blinkies & stamps 4 you! (Part 2)

[arodabi]

I need some aro horror protagonists

I feel like we could really Subvert The Tropes

[notawesternspy]

Alloromantics who headcanon only cold and unfeeling and/or evil characters as aromantic is bad and stems from amatonormativity but me, an arospec doing so is cool and based because I only do it because I like them

[individualisticaro]

i was explaining this poly ship i have w my ocs and one of them is aro and how he saw everyone in a more friendly kind of way blabla and they started lecturing me about how aro ppl love others but arent interested in romance

like i guess but i know more than you

[individualisticaro]

ngl guys amatonormativity still kicks my ass sometimes

[autcore]

Some reasons people may identify as non-SAM aro or “just aro”:

They may have a complex/confusing sexuality they find difficult to label, so decide not to.

They be aroace and prioritise their aromanticism

They may be alloaro with no intention to act on their sexual attraction, so feel no need to disclose it

They may feel their sexuality is not relevant to their experiences, while their aromanticism is

They may not be comfortable talking about their sexuality or it may be private

They may have no use for sexuality labels

They may have any number of other reasons not mentioned here

If someone identities as non-SAM aro or “just aro” it may be because the exact details are personal, you don’t have to understand each person’s individual relationship with sexual attraction to be polite and support their identity.

[aro-rambles]

I think amatonormativity got everyone a little fucked up. Like the people who have endured awful relationships because they thought it was better than being alone. The people who have given up everything for "love", maybe their careers, maybe their friends, who knows, because they thought it'd make them happier.

There's probably more examples of this but I wanted to emphasize how this is not just a problem for aromantics, how it affects everyone including allos

[individualisticaro]

im autistic and aromantic yay

[individualisticaro]

best friend from fifth grade basically just squashes their face on my cheek

them: that wasn't a kiss by the way. i didn't kiss you.

me: good.

[individualisticaro]

sorry for rbing that 1d guy i was scrolling through an icons account for my sideblog we're back in our usual programming now lol

[individualisticaro]

i had to