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not now bro i’m accepting things i cannot change

swampreligion-deactivated202501

i love my misandrist mother i asked her one time if she liked lord of the rings and she said “i’m tired of men going on adventures”

mewvore

"we detected a mature post" yeah I'm in my 30s

house-of-mirrors

Post about increasingly niche stuff that nobody follows you for and barely has a tumblr presence NOW

house-of-mirrors

That indie game no one else has played. That show from the 1980s that isn't big in the pop culture osmosis. Your deep dive into Tudor history. A liveblog of your experience learning C++. Your welding skills. Post all of it. This is your house

werepires

The children yearn for 22 episode seasons

makingtrouble

It's my cat's birthday (anniversary of me getting him) so I told him the story of his life while petting him real good

Highlights include:

For your first two years (when you were small) you lived in a foster home with people who raised you into a very polite young man. Two is like you plus me, that's what two is.

Some people adopted you before me and they called you Timmy (which is a stupid name) and they returned your ass almost immediately because you were so annoying at that age.

Like think about how annoying you are right now at seven years old, but way worse.

I'm better than them though, I don't call you Timmy and I wore earplugs to bed for three years because you love to scream at bedtime. Earplugs are like when I roll over and go back to sleep even when you are yelling so so so loud.

I got you at a time in my life when I was really sick (being sick is like when I'm up late because I'm throwing up and you are a very handsome good boy who sits with me) and they had to put me asleep for a procedure. A procedure is like what happened to you when they put you asleep and took your balls away.

Now you've lived with me for five years. Five is like the number of toe beans on one of your feet. When I clip your nails five is when we're halfway done. But we're hopefully not even halfway done with how long we get to be together. I'm gonna have to figure out new ways to help you count.

makingtrouble

Actually I've decided this is a poem

luna-azzurra

What helped me write trauma better is remembering that the nervous system learns predictions. If danger used to come after quiet, calm can feel threatening. If kindness used to come with a price, kindness can feel suspicious. So healing is not just “they know they’re safe now.” Healing is the slow, annoying, deeply unfair process of teaching the body that the old prediction is not always the present truth.

draconym

I just saw an acquaintance use "👖🛝" in place of the word genocide and. like. at what point are we going to decide that this kind of self-censorship is too degrading to abide anymore.

draconym

"grape" "sewer-slide" "the panini" I feel like I'm surrounded by Rugrats who overheard the grown ups talking about the news.

draconym

I'm tired of seeing people excuse algospeak because "corporations are making us do it." Why are we all letting them do that. The Internet is real life. Get mad about it.

fairycosmos

my dead wife. the ad free internet

b1rd1e

tmi doesn't exist to me. I love information

b1rd1e

This is what TMI means to me

greelin

“must everything be homoerotic” no. but many things are, you will find

greelin

and if not, rest assured. I will find a way

shamebats

For disability pride I'd like to talk about how people with headache disorders are failed by both doctors and insurance companies so much, it's standard to be put on meds with a known low probability of working and terrible side effects for no reason other than bc CGRP inhibitors are expensive. You often have to fail several cheaper medications before you can get on the ones that actually work long-term for the largest % of people.

We also often have headache-specific rescue meds like triptans restricted and rationed which, when we cannot access proper preventatives, puts especially those us of with chronic headaches at risk of overusing OTC painkillers like paracetamol or ibuprofen instead, or—depending on how bad the headaches are—folks might even resort to street drugs to numb the pain.

Migraine specially is one of the most common health conditions. Cluster headaches are considered to be the most painful chronic pain condition. Yet, most of the time, patients with these & similar conditions do not receive the medical care they'd need to properly manage their pain, and are often dismissived as overdramatic, too sensitive, "just stressed" or drug-seeking.

shamebats

Hell, many people with headache disorders don't even know that preventives & abortives are an option. Because they're told by everyone including their doctors that they just need to improve their lifestyle — stuff like drink more water, lose weight, watch what you eat, reduce your stress, get enough sleep. Which, as you know if you have one, is all very hard to do with an unmedicated chronic pain condition.

shamebats

There are in fact lots of options that work for many people. My chronic cluster headaches are completely managed with a specific blood pressure medication (verapamil) and a CGRP inhibitor. Down from an average of 16 attacks per month and up to 3 per day during my last cluster period/bout to 0-2 a month since the verapamil started working. Proper meds can genuinely change your life.

emi--rose

And even if you have a family doctor who is confident and good at prescribing and managing cgrp inhibitors, the fucking insurance companies just say fucking no. I regularly am filled with hate for having to try alllll kinds of bullshit before the Medication That Works. Or they make me give my patient atogepant (the cgrp inhibitor that has the highest side effect rate and that I just do not prescribe because of how it sucks shit) and wait for them to get sick from it before dragging ass on literally anything else that works. Grrrrrrrrrr

english-mace

gone from 'migraine every day that the sun shone for more than thirty minutes' to nothing, since getting put on topiramate for prevention, though holy hell was it a bad couple months finding a way to mitigate the side effects (constant nausea & random collapse - turns out the answer was 'gatorade'!). turns out I was close to maxing out my weekly triptan dosage, not that I'd remembered being told there was one - possibly due to getting prescribed it while, you know, half blind with migraine...

but! did you know migraine is one of a cluster of linked chronic conditions often co-occurring in patients with ADHD or autism? & that this can/should impact how your physician approaches treatment?

well. now you do.