I feel what we don't talk enough about is the other side, or rather reason, of broken friendships. We've heard of, yeah they didn't love me as anything more than a friend and I really thought they could be the one, but what about I really wanted them to love me as a friend and I never thought this would hurt so bad?!
Picture this: Guy and Girl besties since second grade and everyone around them thinks they'll obviously hit it off in the future bcz thank you rom-coms and portrayal of young love in the media. But, they don't! Bcz the girl never liked the guy as anything more than a bestie!
Now usually, the story would focus on how the guy felt - all broken and sad bcz he thought she actually liked him like that what with all the shoulder punches, the being her shoulder to cry on, the always hanging out together, and now he's lost everything™.
But what people miss out on usually is what the girl must have felt! She just lost her best friend since childhood! The only person she ever felt safe enough to confide in, all the inside jokes, the tea spilling, the late night drunk texts, the heartbreaks, the fights, the side eye IYKYK stares, the non verbal communication, ALL GONE!
She just lost years worth of friendship wherein she actually had plans to convert it into a beautiful bond where she'd live next door to her bestie and distance would no longer be an issue, wherein her kids would be best friends with his kids, and wherein he would teach her kids how to break someone's nose of they were mean to you/ slight of hand to impress the ladies, and she would be the cool aunt his kids would come to for dating advice and sneaking out and make-up tips!
She just lost a best friendship that took years to build and a bond she was proud of as the only one to stand the test of time all this while, all gone in the blink of an eye, bcz he thought they should be something more and she wasn't ready for it and even though he begged her to give them a chance, she just couldn't and it broke his heart, but not more than hers, bcz now she questions whether it was what he wanted all along and never wanted to be her friend in the first place! She questions whether all those intimate conversations, all those friendly gestures, all those inside jokes had been a way to get her to fall for him as more than a friend. She questions everything she ever believed about her friendship to be true, bcz she can no longer look at him without knowing he probably never saw her as his best friend; just a potential girlfriend.
What about this other side of a broken friendship wherein you ask yourself where did you go wrong in being a good friend? Wherein you blame yourself for unknowingly igniting all those feelings in your bestie and being so helpless knowing you could never feel the same, and at the same time being upset at thought that you really wanted them to be your friend till the end!?
#broken friendships hurt the most #im not crying you are #it could happen both ways #it could also be the guy feeling all this instead of the girl
