Just A New Mom Aspiring For Greatness

Hello everyone! Name is Kate, I’m a working mom and wife, who just wants a place where I can post all me and the families cute selfies, while posting about my life as a mom and wife and find some tips and tricks on the way!

[goawfma]

this way too sweet

[ogsplendapapi]

Grandpa swag on 5hunna

[dragon-in-a-fez]

just a reminder:

kids and teens are allowed to be angry without having that anger dismissed as a “tantrum” or “hormones”. they’re allowed to be angry with adults, including their parents and teachers, without being dismissed as “disrespectful”.

they’re allowed to be sad without being dismissed as being “moody” or “whiny”. they’re allowed to feel resentment without being dismissed as “ungrateful”. they’re allowed to be uncomfortable without being dismissed as “oversensitive”.

they’re allowed to feel restless without being dismissed as “badly behaved”. they’re allowed to feel lonely without being dismissed as “attention-seeking”. they’re allowed to be tired without being dismissed as “lazy”.

young people’s emotions are valid, despite the fact that our language has an entire vocabulary designed to make them feel otherwise.

[spiderman-anti]

I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS TBH

[mostly-gohstly-deactivated20190]

In my car, car seat safety is NOT an option.

I don’t care if “that’s how they ride in my car” or “they’ve always been fine.” If your kid’s car seat is going in my car, it WILL:

Face the recommended way for their age

Be secured to the seat properly- this does NOT mean a seat belt loosely wrapped around it

Have the chest clip in the proper spot

Be tightened snuggly so the child is actually secured

Not have a child wearing a puffy coat sitting in it

Car seat safety is not an option or parenting choice. It’s a matter of life and death. As parents we can drive cautiously, but that doesn’t mean everyone else is. If you and your children are in an accident, wouldn’t you want to know EVERYONE did everything they could to save their life? I’ve got news for you, that everyone includes you and the choice you make to follow or ignore car seat safety guidelines.

[kaseybrigs-deactivated20180609]

parenting is a lot like the bar scene

everyone’s yelling, everything’s sticky, same music over & over, and occasionally someone pukes

[mykidjustsaid]

Z is for zzzzeriously scared.

[introvertmama-blog1]

Haha so funny!!

[theintrovertnation]

JOIN THE INTROVERT NATION MOVEMENT

[ienjoybeinghealthy]

Next time you are upset about your weight remember that you have a heart made of gold, muscles made of iron and nerves made of steel and those things are not light.

[introvertmama-blog1]

I love this!

[caliner-deactivated20250930-dea]

Be a better you, for you.

Inara Bueno (via caliner)

And for my baby 😍

[motivation-and-fitness]

[introvertmama-blog1]

Yesssssss!

[the-fuckk-up-deactivated2023102]

“What are you into?” Is such a broad question, Like do I reply with a tv series or choking….

[theyellowbrickroad]

[scenicroutes]

#big comfy couch was soo fucking real about it

[ambivalent-peaks-deactivated202]

This explains so much about my life

[submissivefeminist]

I never thought I would reblog the Big Comfy Couch on this blog…

[nekoise]

Why WOULDN’T you reblog Big Comfy Couch on your blog?

[00oo00oo0o0oo00ooo0-deactivated]

That was perfect * claps*

[deansurvived]

At 17, I was a depressed teenager who self harmed and wondered about just how painful it could possibly be to end my life.

Right now, I’m laying on the couch, and I can hear my husband reading our four year old a bedtime story using silly voices.

Life gets better. Make sure you’re there to see it.

[mockiato-deactivated20200315]

From the moment a child is born, they crave touch. They want to be held, not just to eat, but for safety, for warmth, for comfort, for affection–for love. A newborn will show preference in who they want to be held by, especially when they’re tired or sick or scared. We are born ready to be loved. Our first need is to be cared for, to be fed and changed, and held. To learn that we are loved.

Don’t let anyone, anyone tell you have to be able to love yourself before you can be loved. You were born ready to be loved wholly, and having self-esteem issues or a mental illness doesn’t make you any less lovable.

You don’t need to fulfill any condition. You are worth loving. You deserve to be loved, and have deserved to be loved since the moment you were born. You are worth loving.

[harmony-is-happiness]

[gennyescsecsemo]

[jewmanji]

goodbye

[gallicinvasion]

Another woman utterly failed by our society’s devaluation of women’s reproductive health. We can’t wait around for male doctors to decide what we need to know. This is why we need to take control and educate ourselves about our own bodies.

[gallicinvasion]

and here’s some comments i saw under the post. why is this a pattern?? why is this a recurring theme?? why is this information not common knowledge? what the fuck are doctors doing??

[sora2522]

This is news to me so let’s share it so people will know!

[halfhardtorock]

Gross tmi: but i passed a pretty big clot after having my daughter. It was about the size of a baseball. It actually hurt worse because while 15 hours of labor opened my cervix, i passed the clot in 30 minutes. I knew it was a possibility because of my midwife and reading, but everyone Ive told after this (mostly other pregnant women) were shocked that this could happen.

In our culture, it’s much more common to do deep research about what family cars we want to buy than we do about childbirth when we ’re pregnant.

[skeleton-warrior-deactivated201]

Tmi: I passed a huge clot after birth in the bathroom of my hospital room and called the nurse sobbing because I didn’t know it was normal. She treated me like an idiot, but NO ONE told me it was a possibility. And the pain associated with healing for the first couple of weeks after birth was worse than the labor imo. Again, I had no idea. They didn’t tell me a thing besides “sitz bath regularly and change your pads.” Before discharging me from the hospital.

[evashandor]

I was most definitely told about this in school. Fucking hell, 4-6 weeks of bleeding? My periods were/are bad enough, why the hell don’t we get told this?

[love-pro-choice]

I didn’t know it could last so long, wtf? Is the bleeding inevitable after birth? 

[rosietwiggs]

Bleeding is inevitable after birth - your uterine wall is shedding a fuck ton of lining. It can last from three to six weeks (possible longer) and it tapers off.

More TMI - I passed a MASSIVE clot after my fourth birth. At this point I already knew this could happen - it’s normal. What I DIDN’T know, was that I had caused it.

My post birth contractions were so bad after the birth that it felt like full transition labor. And they don’t give you anything for the pain. So I used a hot water bottle, without the nurses knowing, and it caused me to bleed even more. I lost so much blood that by the first time they sat me up to go to the bathroom, I fainted. It took three more tries until I could sit up.

Anyway, that’s not the point. The point is, the next morning I passed a clot the SIZE OF ANOTHER PLACENTA I KID YOU NOT, and I know what is and is not normal. So I called for the nurse and through the door told her I had passed a huge clot, and her response was - “It’s not big. I know what big is.” She hadn’t even looked. So I rolled my eyes and said, “Yeah, no. It’s big, I’m telling you.”

So, sounding extremely put upon, she asked me to open the door. I did, and after a long pause she goes, “Okay, yeah, that’s a little big.”

YOU DON’T SAY.

The point I’m trying to get across is that this shit is so common - women not knowing this stuff is so expected, and it keeps getting reinforced. People don’t expect you to know anything, don’t teach you anything, and then make you feel like you’re totally ignorant and a burden for your lack of knowledge when THEY WON’T SHARE.

Fucking learn EVERYTHING you can when it comes to childbirth, girls. It is the single most empowering thing you can do for yourself. And if you missed something, that’s okay. But the more knowledge you arm yourself with, the more in control of your situation you’ll be.

A few post partum tips:

DON’T use a hot water bottle - lol.

ONLY pads - NO tampons. Tampons can cause severe infection, not to mention, you probably don’t want to be shoving anything up there any time soon.

If you’ve had stitches, sitz baths DO help relieve the pain. Another great pain reliever? Dampen some pads and freeze them. Let one thaw slightly and use it on top of another pad. This will help with the pain as well as reduce swelling. Change the pad out as soon as it’s thawed completely. This REALLY helps on the first couple days after giving birth.

If you pass a clot, don’t sweat it. Even the one I passed, which was fucking massive, just required that we keep an eye out to make sure it didn’t happen again. If it does, talk to your doctor.

Take a pain killer half an hour before nursing. Because YES - your uterus is contracting after you give birth, to get back to its original size, and nursing causes much stronger contractions. Taking nursing-safe painkillers won’t prevent the pain, but it will reduce it. 

Buy disposable underwear for the first few days after birth. They will get VERY dirty. Or use your ratty old pairs that you’re ready to get rid of. Double up on pads - line them all the way up your ass-crack. I am so serious. And wear dark pants.

Pee in the shower. You do NOT want to wipe down there right after birth because ow. Peeing in the shower lets you just rinse afterwards. Especially if you’ve had stitches, peeing in the shower, with the shower-head rinsing AS you go, keeps stinging to a minimum. And fuck everyone else - keep on peeing in the shower until you feel ready to move back to toilet paper. Middle of the night and need to pee? Get your pants off - get in the shower and just go.

This is just a few things, but PLEASE feel free to send me an ask if you have any questions about ANYTHING childbirth/pregnancy/nursing related. I have four incredible kids. I’ve done it all - c-section, vacuume birth, episiotimy, stitches, with an epidural, without an epidural. I’m here.

[thehangryslush]

….I know I keep reblogging this but people keep adding super important information.

[typingsdrawings]

I feel like no one tells women this stuff because if a woman was even a little on the fence about having a baby before this would kinda make them run for the damn hills.

[kaxen]

…..you are correct, typing.

300% EXTRA SURE I’M NOT HAVING BABIES. 

[petitedeath]

peri bottles, witch hazel or anti-pain anticeptic spray are your friends. Also passing large clots after birth is a WARNING SIGN. Bigger than a half dollar is a sign that you have not passed your entire placenta (this is most common in hospital vaginal births where the mother is not allowed to naturally birth the placenta and instead has it ripped out by the doctor) if there is any placenta left in your uterus you can get extremely ill. This happened to both myself and my mother in law

[un-ptit-spleen]

WOW I didn’t know any of this and I’m terrified of what more I’m unaware of about my own body :( Honestly when will we fucking abolish this taboo about the female body…

[artsortment]

I had pretty great sex ed in school (lots of contraceptive information, and totally acknowledged that teenagers might have sex) and all of this is news to me.

And, as a 28-year-old person with a uterus, I’m extremely appalled I’m just learning this.

[deanplease]

Long, but very important information, even for those who don’t plan to have children, because you will almost certainly know someone who will, and you might be able to to help them. Or at least increase your level of empathy for them.

[brandx]

…HOLY HELL. REBLOG TO SAVE A LIFE, SERIOUSLY.

[astro-vee]

people loooove to make out like pregnancy and childbirth are this beautiful thing that a woman’s body is made to do, and leave out all this incredibly important and scary info.

the healthcare system fails women in so so many ways, especially around sexual and reproductive health, and it needs to stop.

[enchantedpineseed]

More TMI but no one told me what pregnancy discharge was and it was horrible. Like it’s a greater quantity of liquid coming out of you than on the heaviest day of your period. Sometimes I would stand up and a bunch would just run out of me. I was so scared and unprepared. Also, tampons are a VERY bad idea when your cervix is still dialated.

[mrskandymandy]

Guess who’s definitely not having kids?

[silverlullabies]

The discharge thing is so true. When I was pregnant with Alice I stood up and gushed liquid. I was 30 weeks and thought my water had broke. I went to the hospital only for them to treat me like I was an idiot.

[introvertmama-blog1]

Momblr challenge day 2

I had my baby girl at 22, but got pregnant at 21. I look like I’m barely 16 sometimes especially without makeup, so I get a lot of looks when I’m with my baby, and actually tried to make mom friends at my apartment complex while walking with the stroller, I saw 2 other moms walking and they thought I was babysitting my younger sister 🙄 but at 22 I totally feel good enough to have my baby. I was a manager at my job, only stepped down to spend time with my baby but I still get my manager pay, we have 4 cars, a large apartment until we find a house, and my baby is spoiled with things beyond belief. So I am glad to have my baby at this age because I’m still young enough to enjoy it but old enough to be ready! Sorry this is all over the place I just felt answering 22 was too boring lol!!!