irene

being myself without anyone's permission She/her. bi - aroace 🍂🌻☁️❄️🫐 aroasexual activist of 🇬🇷 organiser of asexual greek community.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is explaining that we can find love without finding romance

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[cah-culture-is]

suspected ncah culture is me being diagnosed with pcos like 8 years ago yet only just finding out ncah is a thing from an instagram post like a week ago. Because doctors don’t tell you. And I’m literally ashkenazi. On a related note… anybody have advice on asking doctors about getting tested? I’ve had many a things dismissed by doctors because ‘it wouldn’t make a difference if you’re diagnosed or not’ and I fear this might get a similar response since I read treatment is this same as for pcos.

Questioning NCAH culture is...

psst, while I might not have advice personally at the moment sadly— PCOS was renamed to Polyendocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome (PMOS) recently! /info

[ireneswanyu]

- Grief during Pride -

6 months ago my mother died from cancer.

Don't want to talk about details, but on top of everything she was in a coma like situation, I couldn't communicate with her for about a month before she finally passed and this really messes with my brain...

Was she feeling scared or alone?

Was she okay cause she was sleeping most of the time?

Was she aware she was getting sicker?

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She...had no clue who I really am.

I knew she wouldn't understand.

I knew she didn't want to understand.

No need to come out to her.

I already knew her beliefs.

I wasn't included.

I became a master at not living my authentic life.

I didn't know who I was because I wanted to create space for her and be her caregiver, (even though I'm the child...)

It's tough and I hate to admit it but she only loved the idea of me, in her mind, but she never really wanted to be part of my life and actually know me... this type of parent can never truly love their child...or so I read.

It wasn't love. And I have to spend the rest of my life trying to find words to explain this to little me.

And she's "lucky" in a sense cause her love can be under conditions but the same doesn't apply for me.

No matter how her rejection hurts me, no matter how good I am at choosing myself and keeping distance from such family, I can't choose not to love her.

Protecting myself and keeping my distance is pure logic but if I had one chance to save her life by let's say donating my organ, I would do it in a breath.

And it pisses me off I couldn't save her.

I want to break her graves marbles, I'm so angry (grief).

I can't unlove her like she would if she knew my sexuality.

I want to save the life of someone who doesn't believe in me, who doesn't want me to live as my original self, who doesn't think it's normal, who doesn't see me ...

I wanted to save her life and only have to check with her once per day and no giving her a clue about anything else that's going on in my life, she wasn't part of it. She wouldn't want to be anyways.

no acceptance, never stand by me and support my rights.

She wouldn't be proud of me completely.

I love that so many parents are proud of their kids and will be together with them at Pride this weekend.

I'm proud of such beautiful families and I wish mine would have been the same... thankfully, I have my own little community and support system at this stage of my life and I'm truly grateful of them.

[intersexcultureis]

Intersex culture is, I wanna be loud and proud about it this pride month, but also, being extremely scared of going to pride with my intersex flag because of intersexism. Also, I might meet people I'm not out to as intersex, and I'm scared of how they'd react if they learned.

— ⚠️🪡 anon

intersex culture is...

i very much feel the same way. ill be going to a few pride events with my intersexuality as the focus and i do worry how people will react. but regardless i do think some things u kinda have to do scared so ill do it scared.. we can do it scared together

[ireneswanyu]

Planning to attend my first Pride, excited but also proud cause we are going together with the whole aro and ace community we held since September of last year and we are planning not only to celebrate our existence but also to share awareness about our community all over Athens Pride for the first time in history. 🥹

(in picture: I crocheted these bracelets as a cute little project😊)

PS.: aro/ace fellow Athenians, if you wanna join us in Pride, or attend any of our monthly hangouts, ask me for more info.

Or click here:

Pride post:

Community and more:

https://www.instagram.com/therealgreekgarlicbread?igsh=dXIxbDZlMW0zb2Nw

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is dreaming about living in a huge house with your friends where everyone has their own apartment and you can hang out whenever you want

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[ireneswanyu]

Haven't been here in... I don't even remember... anyways, I got gayer.

Happy Pride month.

[gazazabad]

Being aromantic did in fact make me gayer in ways that are beyond comprehension

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is getting a fortune cookie at Pei Wei that says "You will find romance soon" and going "OH GOD 😨"

oh fuck run fast! :P

[aro-culture-is]

Lonely aro culture is being fine for years until you get into a romantic relationship and then suddenly you feel so happy, not because of the romance, but because of the companionship, the affection, the physical comfort. Only for the relationship to fail because... Well duh. And now you're left with this empty feeling, this touch starvedness that you didn't have before, and you mistakenly attribute it to enjoying romantic relationships. Causing you to not realize you're aromatic for years because you just want that comfort. You want to hold someone's hand and know they're there, that you're safe, that you're ok. You want to sleep next to someone so you're not left alone again, you're not stuck with your own thoughts. You want kisses and hugs and cuddles and head pats and arms around your shoulders while you sit close to someone, not because it's romantic, but because it makes you feel safe. But society will never tell you that, they'll insist that what you feel is romance, and you'll be stuck in an unhealthy, toxic back-to-back relationship cycle with abusive person after abusive person because you don't realize you don't need a romantic relationship to get affection.

and to be clear: we all can have healthy relationships, and they are not required to be romantic or partnerships at all.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is asking your allo friends what romantic attraction feels like and wondering how in the world anyone finds that enjoyable, pleasant, or even wants it

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[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is frequently asking my allo friend whether things i see about romance are "real" or exaggerated for media and being shocked every time they aren't exaggeration

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[moon-soo-ah]

HANYU YUZURU -『Mass Destruction -Reload-』from 『Echoes of Life』

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is turning every single ship you like into aromantic relationships with platonic intimacy and sex 👏👏

based

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is God knew I would be to powerful if I was a lesbian so he made me aromantic

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[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is God knew I would be to powerful if I was a lesbian so he made me aromantic

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[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is feeling jealous of how close your friends are (cuddling, sitting on each other's laps, sleeping in each other's arms) and wanting that closeness with them too, only to later realize when they get together that they weren't just being "friends" but we're actively falling in love. and then feeling a hole in your chest because you realize you will never be that close with another person without it being interpreted as romantic

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