irretrievably lost

est. 1999 wandering these lands once again

[king-carnivore]

what really fucks me up about watching the truman show in 2025 is how it's not fictional. truman is fictional, but the truman show isn't.

there's thousands of truman shows. you find them on youtube, tiktok, instagram... family and mommy vloggers, sad beige moms and now the trend of neglectful moms showing the "reality" of parenting. all of them using their kids for entertainment. each child their own truman; living a life manufactured by their parents, a camera watching their every moment, broadcasted for the entire world to see.

[king-carnivore]

tbh, i didn't even think about that when i made my post and holy shit you're so fucking right

[pisceanpharies]

[kitchenalia]

occasionally, we all need to do some internal reality checks. step back from ideals and activism for a few minutes to actually see and understand the women in the world – the housewives who will never leave their husbands, the lesbians who don’t have a single activist bone in their bodies, the women who can’t understand the point of separatism, the women who swear that they’re happy doing what they do, the old women who spent their entire lives with a man and are therefore too boring for you, the women who never want to work a job, the women who will never have time for activism because they do nothing but work a job, the women who are “stuck in their ways,” the women who have distanced and isolated themselves from any of the other women in their lives…

the world isn’t made up of ideologically pure women or noble, flawless victims of the patriarchy who are damaged but do no damage themselves. the world isn’t split into good, interesting, politically active women & bad women who you can ignore (unless you feel like making fun of them). the world is primarily composed of women who do not already agree with you. and they’re still worthwhile women who deserve to be liberated as much as the ones who do agree with you.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[sweetredapples]

it’s 2026 i think it’s high time we left mind-body dualism behind us as a species. let’s go into 2027 with the full understanding that we are our bodies and that our consciousness cannot be separated from them thank you

[marbleguard]

The three most basic changes of the vulva when women reach sexual maturity

Abundance of pubic hair

Longer inner labia

Darkening / pigmentation of labia

all happen to be the exact, specific things that men single out as “unappealing” traits for a vulva.

[sister-in-samsara]

Notice how we are being conditioned to like the childlike features of the vulva. That applies to men in particular, but the society in general is being taught that those natural traits are ugly and unhygienic. I had a conversation about this with a male friend and he was acting like pubic hair was a fetish, meanwhile they just grow there. Removing them should be considered a fetish, but it sells, so it's called normal.

[irretrievablylost]

had an unplanned but absolutely reinvigorating hour-and-a-half long conversation with a professor in my department and i haven't felt such lust for my discipline in a while. i might actually be able to write this dissertation!

[unrespectability]

PSA to all the women sexually victimized and groomed at a young age

(especially at the early stages of their sexual development or just leading up to it)

you are fine if at the time you found your grooming process to be "erotic", enticing or arousing;

you are fine if the grooming process and your conditioned response to it shaped your sexuality for years to come;

you are fine if your sexuality is still influenced by your grooming to any degree;

you are fine if you feel you had "invited" your grooming (that's not have any of this works);

you are fine if your conditioned response does not align with what you understand to be your authentic sexual orientation (the effects of grooming do not define it);

you are fine if your conditioned response does align with what you understand to be your authentic sexual orientation (the perpetrator being of a sex you are generally attracted to does not mean you "enjoyed" or "invited" your victimization any more than another woman, nor does it make it any less traumatizing);

you are fine if the fear, pain or disgust you feel over your victimization are fully or mostly retroactive;

you are fine if you were influenced by cultural depictions and scripts that mirrored your grooming, and if pornographic exposure, whether it was prompted by the direct perpetrator or not, played a part in your grooming

love you all and you are FINE. let shame change sides. 🫶🏻

[whiteofwinter]

The older i've gotten the more i've come to think that a substantial amount of people (mostly men) don't really have an internal sense of morality. Like there are two questions they ask themselves when deciding to do something and that is 1. will this benefit me and 2. will i face negative consequences for doing it. and that's it. No asking themselves if it negatively impacts others, just selfishness.

[loserdogma]

I haven’t been able to get over the grief of all human history being held back by the subjugation of women and I actually don’t think I will. Could you even imagine. Thousands of years of recorded history and women have only just (not everywhere and not fully) been able to really get the opportunities that led to the men of history we all know now. Everyone knows Socrates but so few know Aspasia. The amount of philosophy, technology, theory, and humanity lost due to the oppression of women is a genuine travesty. I think of it all the time; how many geniuses were confined to the home? How many Albert Einstein’s were forced to be wives and mothers? How much of human history is corroded by the subjugation of women? All of it?

[thesituation]

ppl who think pedophilia is strictly a mental disorder are some of the biggest most gullible morons on earth. mental illness that makes you assault and traumatize children ?? are you serious? pedophiles don’t have a mental disorder, they are just people who prioritize their sexual gratification over anything else and use children/the thought of children to get off because they don’t understand what’s going on or how to effectively say no to an adult. they aren’t suffering from OCD or anything actually uncontrollable. they are just bad people who don’t care about the effects their actions have. they can stop anytime. no sympathy for a pedophile is deserved. they deserve whatever they get because they choose to be what they are.

[irretrievablylost]

best friend finally broke up with her shitty boyfriend. nature is healing. 💖

[malheureuxmarxist-deactivated20]

Audre Lorde on BDSM and choice

[fidnru]

Leigh: What about the doctrine of “live and let live” and civil liberties issues?

Audre: I don’t see that as the point. I’m not questioning anyone’s right to live. I’m saying we must observe the courses and implications of our lives. If we are talking about feminism then the personal is political and we can subject everything in our lives to scrutiny. We have been nurtured in a sick, abnormal society, and we should be in the process of reclaiming ourselves, not the terms of that society. This is complex. I speak not about condemnation but about recognizing what is happening and questioning what it means. I’m not willing to regiment anyone’s life. If we are to scrutinize our human relationships, we must be willing to scrutinize all aspects of those relationships. The subject of revolution is ourselves, is our lives.

Sadomasochism is an institutionalized celebration of dominant/subordinate relationships. And, it prepares us either to accept subordination or to enforce dominance. Even in play, to affirm that the exertion of power over powerlessness is erotic, is empowering, is to set the emotional and social stage for the continuation of that relationship, politically, socially and economically.

Sadomasochism feeds the belief that domination is inevitable. It can be compared to the phenomenon of worshipping a godhead with two faces, and worshipping only the white part on the full moon and the black part on the dark of the moon, as if totally separate. But you cannot corral any aspect within your life, divorce its implications, whether it’s what you eat for breakfast or how you say goodbye. This is what integrity means.

[quinntheestallion]

PEAK thread- people who peaked recently within the last two years- can you share your experience and what sent you over the edge. I’m curious

[irretrievablylost]

tim professor in my department sexually harassed several grad students and I realized that I should've listened way sooner to my discomfort with them parading around in fishnets and being married to a former grad student. a tif grad student in the department was worried about their accusation coming off as transphobic. I realized at that point that we were more preoccupied with a man's comfort and freedom to sexually harass people than with the actual safety of students in our department. decided to go see what the Tumblr radfems have been up to and realized that I'm not the only one who had been ignoring my gut.

[anjomecanico]

[1eos]

[fem-lit]

One trouble with soft-core sexual imagery aimed at young men is that the women photographed are not actually responding sexually to anything; young men grow up trained to eroticize images that teach them nothing about female desire. Nor are young women taught to eroticize female desire. Both men and women, then, tend to eroticize only the woman’s body and the man’s desire. That means that women are exaggeratedly sensitive to male desire for their own arousal, and men are exaggeratedly insensitive to female desire for theirs.

— Naomi Wolf (1990) The Beauty Myth