My Experince With a Manipulative Start-Up
I recently cut my ties to an abusive and emotionally manipulative start-up as a part time game developer. Hereās my story:
I was at a networking event and made a friend who has a start-up which writes cases studies and develops a virtual reality game to educate corporations on me too situations. Even though Iāve never personally been through any sexual harassment/discrimination as a woman in engineering, I support preventing those situations.
I was interested in knowing more about the company and the next thing, I was hired. I joined the start up as a part time game developer back in April/May 2019. The start-up began in October 2018 and didnāt even have a business plan - just a 20% filled template with some brainstorming. I thought it would be a good experience learning about how to grow a company and learn more about the whole situation.
Unfortunately, the reality of the company wasnāt as sunshine and rainbows as how the co-founder made it seem. It wasnāt until after I expressed interest in joining that the co-founder told me that the role is un-paid. Since she was āso nice,ā I didnāt want to turn her down.
On top of that, they had no game project to show for or even a organized description of the game (literally just a scene in unity with a character from the asset store that moves around with the asset store rigs with three pieces of furniture from the asset store). Their project management was also missing, so they literally had to ask me to teach them project management and communication/teamwork skills using Trello/SCRUM. Additionally, I was asked to work on the front-end part of their website on top of their game. I agreed to work extra with no compensation or agreement of compensation because they were āso nice.ā
During these past two months, Iāve seen two people quit out of the 7 total people. Half the people donāt even regularly show up to meetings (and say that they canāt make the meeting like 5 mins after it starts) and I was asked to attend all of the meetings (5 hours a week of just meetings total when actually half the time Iām sharing my screen and showing them how to organize a project, use Unity, or design UI/UX all while unpaid) I wouldnāt mind working for them as itās also good experience doing more things. However, the thing is that they keep changing their mind about things so I feel like this is going nowhere that every time I receive a message about the start-up, I cringe and feel uncomfortable.
On top of that, I am at least 5 years younger than everyone at the start-up. As a recent college graduate, I have little experience compared to them so they decided to take advantage of my background. I previously did not know that signing an unpaid contract (not even equity/stocks for the ācompanyā when Iām doing all this work for free) was a red flag because they were ākind people.ā
They also know that Iām very involved with school organizations/extracurriculars and have larger networks outside of school than them, so they asked me to reach out to my network to see if anyone is interested in investing and working for them. I thought this was all fine because they were āso niceā as they continued to over-complement everything about my work and background as they added more tasks for me. I felt like I owed them my knowledge and experience because of the way they complemented me.
This start-up has abused my time, energy, skills, assets, and network by emotionally persuading me to give them all this free labor and knowledge/tutorials with no agreement of compensation. They manipulated my emotions into believing that they are āgood people.ā I felt so guilty and mean speaking up about this for months because I thought they were āso niceā and didnāt want to make them ālook badā when they just sweet-talked to me for my assets. This is so ironic as the start-upās mission statement is to create a safe and non-toxic workplace. I should have listened to my gut feeling.
I thank my family and my MapleStory M guild, Era, for talking me about this situation right when I needed it the most, encouraging me to know my worth, and giving me courage to quit the company and speak up about my experiences.
Itās hard to see in the moment, but looking back, this was a valuable life lesson. Now, Iām ready to open up and be honest about what really happened.