Is Anti-Masculinity Real Today?

This blog is dedicated to the validation of experiences with anti-masculinity, as well as archiving examples of such things.

[is-antimasculinity-real]

Welcome to the Is Antimasculinity Real Blog!

This blog is run by one moderator (Dez, all pronouns). I will not be sharing any information about my gender alignment or personal experiences, because it's not relevant to this blog.

This blog runs on queue. The queue will post 15 times a day. If you have examples of transandrophobia or butchphobia, feel free to submit them. It's helpful if you can add the relevant tags (#antimasculinity, #examples of transandrophobia, #examples of butchphobia, etc.) so that I don't have to do so manually. Much appreciated!

See #is antimasculinity real for validation of your experiences. See #examples of transandrophobia and #examples of butchphobia for exactly what it says on the tin. Trigger warnings for violence and transphobia are not tagged, so please proceed with caution.

Resources on anti-transmasculine violence compiled by genderkoolaid [link].

Asks and submissions are open if you have questions, comments, or feedback. Thanks for visiting!

[what-even-is-thiss]

Seeing people say that trans men don’t experience specific oppression because “women don’t have power over men” wow boy do I have a long list of things you could be made aware of my friend

[phosphorusab]

This is the average response perisex trans men and mascs get when they try to advocate for their trans specific uterine reproductive rights

If your response to a trans man talking about his experience of being a trans person with a uterus is ‘this is offensive to trans women because they are dysphoric for not having been born with a uterus’ or ‘one day, trans women will be able to get someone else’s uterus inside them and have kids that way, so your problems aren’t important’ You Are A Misogynist, Full Stop

This is just misogyny to me in the same way a cis woman who can’t give birth feels entitled to someone else’s fetus. You’re not entitled to anyone else’s uterus - people like this like to thump ‘it’s basic feminism’ over our heads until the conversation is about reproductive rights for trans people born with uteri

This person is genuinely resentful that trans men and mascs because they were born with uteri and they weren’t. So for the sake of “solidarity”, we should ignore material reality of trans people born with uteri, because maybe one day science fiction could become a reality? Some trans people’s sufferings must be endured quietly so we can spare the other trans people’s feelings?

Am I the only person who thinks that’s completely insane and inappropriate?

[transmanrageroom]

epidemic of self hating trans men currently… “i don’t care if people call me girl or queen because it’s more important to not misgender women then to not misgender men” “one thing trans men should do is take up less space” “we objectively face less oppression and have privilege over both trans and cis women” “you can misgender me as a joke it’s okay” “yeah it really is such a shame that i’m a man now haha” “we don’t actually need transmasc support groups” pleaseee get up dude stop trying to be One Of The Good Ones

[m4lk1n]

Agab language is very intersexist for a ton of reasons but its also quite transphobic, separating trans people into binary groups based on the gender they forced into as children is transphobic its literally just going back to forcing people into a "male"/"female" binary, that's what reactionaries do to us, why are we defining ourselves using their framework.

It's also just inaccurate, if you mean "has a dick" just say "has a dick" its literally more accurate, a lot of trans men have dicks and a lot of trans women don't, a lot of nonbinary people have a dick and a lot don't. you're not being inclusive by erasing what people actually are in favor of defining them by what they were forced to be.

Also assigning a person a gender is not a neutral act its violent and usually traumatic and I think its kind of fucked up to refer to people based on a process that was very traumatic for most of us, its not inclusive or useful its just repackaged bioessentialism.

[redhairandpronouns]

transandrophobes act like "trans" and "man" are two separate modifiers where "trans" (oppressed) and "man" (privileged) cancel out (or somehow "man" is the stronger modifier and makes the entire identity privileged) when in reality you cannot separate your gender from [checks notes] your gender

[transgender-vulture]

Hey so is anybody going to talk about how the state of the union specifically brought up a story about how someone was "forced to be a trans man by her school" and how it was fake and meant to scare about "young confused girls being forced to become boys" or are we still going to sit here and pretend that trans men arent affected by current politics and that we're spared?

[hisuian-zoruas]

Man, it sucks that so much of the transfeminism tag is just people shitting on trans man/mascs and bending over backwards to justify mistreating us (and also denying our material realities as people that are widely seen as failed women and are thus treated as such).

No, your hatred of trans men/mascs is not somehow justified because you can couch it in a bunch of pseudo-intellectual jargon. No, acknowledging that trans men/mascs are mostly viewed as and subsequently treated like failed women in the eyes of society is not us "clinging to our AGAB" or weaponizing it against trans women/fems. No, trans men/mascs talking about our experiences or using a word you don't like to describe our experiences doesn't mean we're antifeminist. Yes, you are an asshole and need to reconsider your life choices if you disagree with any of this.

[genderrat]

oh my god I just found out why the entire "minority men aren't oppressed for being men theyre oppressed for [insert other minority]" bothers me. It sets men as the default, again. It frames men as a default and allows people to skip over and perpetrate bigoted ideals with little backlash while dorectly going against intersectionality. Racism against a black man is " just racism", youre not allowed to talk about it outside of that. Marking something as "just" racism, "just" transphobia, "just" abelsim ect lessens the idea of it. Its JUST the default, after all.

Intersectionality states that all facets of someones identity and situation leads to the type of oppression they face, you cannot seperate one thing from another. Race, sex, gender identity, wealth, where you live, sexuality, health. None of these can be seperated when talking about challeneges and bigotry an indiviual faces. Setting bigotry against minority men as a default perpetuates and upholds patriarchal bigotry and makes room for microagressions and macroagressions to be diminished and overlooked as we've seen time and time again. This idea that "man" excludes someone from facing targeted bigotry somehow is wrong, men of color are opressed on the axis of being MEN of color, same woth disabled men and trans men and intersex men. You can't just dismiss bigotry on the basis of gender or sex.

If you dont want men set as the default, stop setting them as the default.

[idiotduckbox]

"I simply do not believe that one aspect of myself can possibly profit from the oppression of any other part of my identity.

...

"Within the lesbian community I am Black, and within the Black community I am a lesbian. Any attack against Black people is a lesbian and gay issue, because I and thousands of other Black women are part of the lesbian community. Any attack against lesbians and gays is a Black issue, because thousands of lesbians and gay men are Black. There is no hierarchy of oppression.

"I cannot afford the luxury of fighting one form of oppression only. I cannot afford to believe that freedom from intolerance is the right of only one particular group. And I cannot afford to choose between the fronts upon which I must battle these forces of discrimination, wherever they appear to destroy me. And when they appear to destroy me, it will not be long before they appear to destroy you."

-Audre Lorde, in "There is no Hierarchy of Oppressions," ~1980s

[learn-how-to-love]

Extremely funny phenomena I’ve seen is trans bigots on this site doing their equivalent of the conservative bit of “well I’m going to start wearing a dress and going in women’s restrooms and see how YOU like it!” And having no response when the people they’re trying to get a rise out of are like “okay that’s awesome I hope you have fun”

[sidedere]

this is literally the TRF version of "my pronouns are nor/mal" or "my pronouns are attack/helicopter"

[sysfreak-archive]

"youre a MAN you dont know what misogyny is like!!" right because I, as someone with a uterus, have never been reduced to just that organ. I, as someone with AFAB written on my birth certificate, have never been reduced to just that label. I, as someone born a woman, have never been mistreated and judged simply because I was born with certain parts. clearly I've never experienced misogyny simply because I prefer to be called a man. cleary society is so accepting of trans people that the moment someone says "hey, I know that you view me as a woman and have for many years, but I'm a man" everyone has said "oh okay, welcome to the top of the patriarchy" in response instead of "you're just a delusional woman".

[leaky-heart]

Self made man ⚙️⛓️

[oncemorewithqueering]

fun fact! oppressed minorities are oppressed

[kdotlover]

i dont think there's something that can be described as "appropriating (transfem) culture" on behalf of other trans people sorry. i dont think some guy enjoying blahajs is as impactful as a white person (opressor) appropriating poc culture (opressed) because trans people aren't opressors of eachother. we are the whole group. quit looking for stupid reasons to divide the community and create infighting

[boywithfish]

is this a good time to mention that Tara Knight’s rhetoric specifically helped lead to me losing the entire irl trans community group I helped build last year because one of the women who founded it with me kept calling me slurs endorsed by Tara and the rest of her gaggle of TRFs?

can we finally acknowledge that inter-community arguing about who is and isn’t a Real Tranny leads to the loss of community altogether for whatever marginalized identity group gets the short end of the stick?

can we finally admit that sometimes said marginalized identity group are transmasculine people?

[crybabysatan]

Me, a black trans man on tumblr: *exists and talks about the specific oppressions I face and how solving one or more could solve the same issue for many others like me as well as those not like me*

Some rando being spooned terf rhetoric: “STFU and stop complaining we should just get our own movement and stop trying to be a part of others movements cause it’s not about us specifically”

Me: “okay but…isn’t that what we don’t want cause it splits us up and makes the whole group weaker, as well as causes dissent and infighting when we inevitably step on each others toes(ya know bc we’re all tryna fight the same battle)?”

Rando: “no it’s cause that’s for them and ours is for us and the two should never intersect bc they’ll taint each other and also bc trans men will fuck it up with our ingrained natures.”

Me: “…………………you mean the fUCKING SEGREGATION??????”

[i-suggest-leaving-minors-alone]

If you say transmascs have male privilege/more privilege than cis women I am going to assume you've never went outside or met a transmasc person irl because that type of thinking is something you can only have if you're chronically online