I Suggest Intersectionality

Trans feminism is not crying that trans men want a word to describe the unique oppression they face. It's fighting for trans rights against the fascists that want us all dead.

[suggestingforcefem]

The youthlib in question

And much more archived on @i-suggest-therapy

And want to see the youth she's liberating?

Thanks to @isuggestgirl this minor feels safe and proud to be friends with pedophiles!

But reduce everything to her identity and call anyone who criticizes her transmisogynistic, as if it's not trans girls her rhetoric is normalizing pedophilia to!

[isuggesttransfeminism]

Don't forget that when people defend ISFF, this is what is being defended. The vagueposts and fancy paragraphs of purple prose are an attempt to make people feel like even seeking this information out rather than accepting the narrative being fed to them blindly is in and of itself a violent act of bigotry. Don't ever let someone else control what information you can seek out.

[isuggesttransfeminism]

People say it's transmisogyny to care enough to run a blog like this when there's worse people who are cis, and I'd like to try to explain my logic.

Why do I, a trans person myself, critique her? Why don't I just leave her and her friends alone?

Unfortunately, we're in the same community, a community that I care about and want to keep safe to the best of my ability.

When I see a prominent community member comparing being anti pedophilia to Drop the T, I can't just let that slide!

Some will say "You're feeding into the Stranger Pedophile Myth! Most Abuse Happens at Home!" Many trans and queer youths, especially now, live a secret life online. They keep secrets from the adults in their life for their safety. They deserve to not have that vulnerability exploited, but are seen as easy targets by terrible people.

While ISFF did say "let's fuck the two year old headmate with mama," the bulk of my critique of her is not about her own potential paraphilias because telling people that they should be a proud friend of pedophiles is bad enough whether or not she personally is one. So I disagree with the "pedojacketing" claim.

This is a lot of words, who has time to read?

When someone is popular in your community and says or does something dangerous, what are you supposed to do?

Many will insist that you simply block and move on. Who does that protect?

It sucks to be seen as evil, as a threat when you're only trying to protect others the best way that you can think to.

I don't think reblogging unconsenting strangers, some of whom were minors, suggesting forcefem, a kink term, is the best way to protect trans kids. Especially not on a blog that also reblogs incest, ageplay, etc.

I don't talk about my own kinks on here because this page isn't about me, but I have many. I'm not against kink, in fact I love and live the kinky life! And the first thing I learned about kink was three words "Safe, Sane, Consensual." Most kinksters have those three words drilled in early.

This is not a witch hunt against a kinky trans woman. And it's not murder either, never thought I'd have to clarify that not wanting pedophile defenders in your community is not murder, but here we are.

I love trans women. I love transfems. I love the whole trans community! If I ever encounter a popular trans man or transmasc blog saying and doing the same thing ISFF has, I will be there critiquing that blog just as intensely! If I ever see a popular nonbinary or intersex blog do this, I will be critiquing that blog just as much!

I know that most people have already made up their mind. You can hate me and say that the real danger to the community is anyone calling for accountability. Call me a freak, loser, stalker (I don't know or criticize ISFF's name, age, appearance, location, anything but her own words, so I must really suck at stalking if that's what you want to call this blog,) but that doesn't matter because this isn't and has never been about me.

I don't matter, when I die, someone else will also try to protect the community in much the same way as I have. You won't know about my death because you don't know me. My deadname will be on my obituary like many, I will be cremated looking nothing like myself. I will be forgotten with ease. But while I was here I tried to help.

[isuggesttransfeminism]

Bad news she's already back

[suggestingforcefem]

The youthlib in question

And much more archived on @i-suggest-therapy

And want to see the youth she's liberating?

Thanks to @isuggestgirl this minor feels safe and proud to be friends with pedophiles!

But reduce everything to her identity and call anyone who criticizes her transmisogynistic, as if it's not trans girls her rhetoric is normalizing pedophilia to!

[suggestingforcefem]

The youthlib in question

And much more archived on @i-suggest-therapy

And want to see the youth she's liberating?

Thanks to @isuggestgirl this minor feels safe and proud to be friends with pedophiles!

But reduce everything to her identity and call anyone who criticizes her transmisogynistic, as if it's not trans girls her rhetoric is normalizing pedophilia to!

[i-suggest-therapy]

I really want to keep this blog focused on her predatory behavior but I really wanted to talk more about this post.

She didn't just have horrible takes on pedophilia, she also just completely lacks respect for any group of women she wasn't personally attracted to. Loooove trans women! Unless they don't fit my idea of feminity and womanhood of course.

[isuggesttransfeminism]

Don't let people forget her harmful words and actions just because she made a new blog @isuggestgirl to ban evade

[isuggesttransfeminism]

"They'll kill you for it." Says proud friend of pedophiles who is still alive to blog the gaslighting

This is not about transmisogyny, this is about the trans minors you made think it's okay to be friends with pedophiles. This is about the danger you're putting them in! You can't just use your identity to absolve you of all wrongdoing, especially after comparing being anti pedophilia to Drop the T!

[i-suggest-force-estrogen]

ISFF appears to be back. go block @isuggestgirl if you mean to do that

oh brother, cry me a river (/idiom)…

it’s important for us to talk about ISFF and her compatriots because they’re either still here or coming back, continuing to spout pedophile apologia, radfem rhetoric, unsafe kink practice, kink space with minor interaction, butchphobia, intersexism, exorsexism, and forms of transphobia.

It’s also imperative for this to be discussed because people are still defending her, even minors. These users have formed unsafe communities for young transfems especially, as they are primarily the target audience to be abused and groomed. We must keep our sisters safe and not allow this harmful behaviour figures like her employ to hurt our fellow trans people and taint our communities.

Without an apology or change of behaviour, she should not be able to hold the community she has, she is not safe, nor should her bigotry be excused. Her deactivating her account and leaving this community, the internet, even, would have been best. Keep our sisters safe and away from her spaces

[isuggesttransfeminism]

Please be aware that ISFF has returned,

if you don't know who that is or what she's done, @i-suggest-therapy has archived her attempts at normalizing pedophilia, her butchphobia, her comparing being anti pedophilia to Drop the T, saying "let's fuck the two year old headmate with mama," being shitty towards trans guys, reblogging posts from pedophiles, saying that you should be proud to be friends with pedophiles, and of course her very gimmick is involving non consenting parties into her forcefem kink with zero regard for whether she was reblogging minors in the first place, that probably should have been more than a red flag!

[suggestingforcefem]

So ISFF's pedo friend frot-teen-malice made a new account but plans to abandon it and "stealth" for a while, so that's scary! Please remember that ISFF did not work alone to try normalizing pedophilia and do your best to keep minors away from the pedophile friends suggestrogen is so proud to have!

[isuggesttransfeminism]

Block this disgusting transmedicalist! Denying someone's identity and demanding she hand you her medical information for a crumb of respect is pathetic. She's a terrible person who defends and says terrible things, but we don't go around misgendering and treating cis pedo glazers like this. Someone's identity is not a privilege to be earned or taken away! This 4chan brainrotted loser is more concerned about being bigoted than the actual harm ISFF has done! Ew

[isuggesttransfeminism]

It's disgusting transmisogyny to try to make sure that pedophilia normalizing rhetoric is not excused.

I understand that OOP is a CSA survivor and if you bother her fuck you, she already said don't inform her about this topic, DO NOT CROSS THAT BOUNDARY FOR THE LOVE OF FUCK!

I encourage you to block and move on, but we can still benefit from dissecting the rhetoric being used WHILE STAYING THE FUCK AWAY FROM OOP FOR THE LOVE OF FUCK IF I FIND OUT ANY OF YOU CONTACTED HER AFTER THIS POST I WILL SCREAM!

"Everyone knows!" I see posts every other day asking what happened, not everyone is terminally online.

"You won as hard as it's possible to win!" She has over 1,000 defenders, is still active on bluesky, the ideas she spread hurt kids who are still not safe, this was never a fucking game to win

The idea that challenging her harmful rhetoric against trans men and mascs harms the image of those groups only works under your framework wherein this is some transmisogynistic hate mob

I haven't contacted anyone involved in this, I make a point of clarifying that this person's actions aren't reflective of the community, but you know what undeniably IS poorly reflective and worrying? The sheer number of trans people jumping to her defense. I'm terrified that some right wing outlet will catch wind of this and use that to make it even worse for us.

If adults want to shit and frot in a doodoo diaper idgaf, none of my fucking business. Kink between consenting adults is fine. I'll never shit on that, pun not intended.

This isn't some witch hunt of some innocent misunderstood transfem without victims. I have a post on here that shows one of the minors harmed by this rhetoric.

It's not enough that she deactivated if people still don't understand WHY pedophilia apologia CANNOT be excused! It's not enough while she's still out there and her supporters are still here defending her.

What do I want? For people to be able to take a stand any time they see rhetoric like this being spread in our community! OOP calling that transmisogynistic is the exact reason many are scared to speak up, it's how things got so bad.

Don't be afraid to keep us safe. Don't be afraid to hold bad actors in the community accountable, but more than just that, be sure to explain why those things are harmful and what to look out for!

Knowledge is power, if we can learn the signs of isolation and escalation that was used to control and convince so many people on here to be okay with this and that they were bigots if they dare call it out, we can hopefully call it out sooner next time. And sadly, there will always be a next time. But my hope is that next time it won't have to get this bad for people to speak up. If you see someone reblogging posts from minors with their kink, that alone should have been the point people pushed back!

[suggestingforcefem]

Over 1,000 people defending ISFF

This is the result of your "victimless thought crime" (normalizing pedophilia)

Thanks for making it easier for conservatives to call us groomers by fighting tooth and nail to defend a self proclaimed proud friend of pedophiles who compared being against pedophiles to Dropping the T from LGBT

You did it folks,

A minor made pedophile friends and feels so safe with pedophiles thanks to your cult leader!

[isuggesttransfeminism]

So you know how we were all worried that ISFF was normalizing pedophilia to minors?

If anyone trying to defend her thinks what she said was harmless, this MINOR THINKING IT'S NORMAL TO HAVE PEDOPHILES FOR FRIENDS IS THE END RESULT OF HER RHETORIC!!!!

[rainekittys]

To be clear btw, I love trans women. Trans women, trans men, and non-binary trans people are important members of the lesbian community, let alone the queer community at large, and as a butch I genuinely believe it’s my duty to protect my trans sisters. Trans people will exist, do exist, and have always existed. Trans women are beautiful people who deserve to be loved and protected. But no one should be allowed to get away with what ISFF has been spouting. We’re not calling her out because she’s a trans woman, we’re not calling her out for her transfem positivity posts and for creating a space on the internet for trans women. We’re calling her out for inviting pedophiles and irl incest supporters into said safe spaces. We’re calling her out for publicly supporting animal and child abusers. We’re calling her out for trying to align a very beautiful and fragile community of girls with a group of people who are so proud of their disordered attraction they refuse to get help so they won’t hurt people. Trans women are an incredible group of people and I know several online and in person who’ve been an incredible influence on my life. But being a trans woman doesn’t shield you from the natural consequences of your actions.

[fromthemouthofkings]

Just, take it from an ex-trad Catholic who has been abused by a woman. If you have a friend, a self-contained community, someone you look up to, an elder or an authority or a lover, who tells you that the rest of the world is out to get you, that they're the only ally you can rely on, that the outside world wants to kill you and you'll only ever be safe with them, RUN. They are setting you up to be isolated and abused. RUN. There is no magical gender or sexual relationship or group of people that is free from all abuse. The best protective factors against abuse are transparency and accountability around relationships and power dynamics, and maintaining a wide variety of safe connections outside of the group or relationship. Even when you really are marginalized and vulnerable. Even when some of Them really are out to get you. Anyone trying to get you to cut off connections with the outside world and put yourself under their exclusive control DOES NOT HAVE YOUR BEST INTERESTS AT HEART.

[mx-macintosh]

the world needs trans men more than it needs miserable cis women and the world needs trans women more than it needs miserable cis men and the world needs nonbinary people more than it needs miserable binary people