Taking back the skin I've been given

This is a body positive blog. There is no room for hate of any kind. This is a celebration of loving the body you have and taking back the skin you I have been given from society's beauty standards.

[gloomypunks-deactivated20220717]

hey psa to my fellow fat ppl: a few tips + tutorials for upsizing clothing that’s too small, that way if you’ve grown out of certain stuff and can’t afford new things, you can make it fit you– this has helped me a lot in the past 

my tips:

cutting off just the neckline of a shirt/dress can help SO much

cutting slits on the sides of tight shirts helps relieve tightness + you can add an accent fabric, lace, or fishnet material under there for an extra design element (or safety pin it back together for a really cool punk look!)

you can do that same thing with sleeves but i recommend doing it underneath (either on the seem if it has one or to the seem that connects it to the shirt) 

adding false pleats to skirts/dresses by cutting them up the sides and in the front and adding an accent fabric works really well with tightness around the legs

 you can do a lot of these side-cut things to pants but if you do, it’s a good idea to add elastic to the waist band! 

tutorials:

4 ways to upsize shirts

how to refit/re-elastic a waistband for a better fit

more upsizing shirts!

making a lace insert dress (could be substituted for other things like mesh/fishnet)

increasing the waist band on jeans

how to enlargen shorts

expanding a dress (from the bottom)

expanding a dress (from the bust)

[disconnection-notice-deactivate]

Don't talk about weight loss and diets to your daughter, don't talk about weight loss and diets around your daughter, don't comment on your daughter's weight, don't tell her she has to weigh herself every once in a while, don't ruin your daughter's relationship with food, don't make her feel bad about the way she looks. I'm sorry if diet culture fucked you up but please try to break the cycle instead of perpetuating it. Thanks.

[oddlyaquaria]

im so thankful for Christine Sydelko speaking out about this and being a positive fat idol

[astrodidact]

The audacity of the governor to say every life is precious. Fucking liars!!

[sirrah1940]

The Talibama abortion law has nothing to do with saving children, it is strictly to hurt and punish women! Every man who voted for this law should be castrated!

[sprightlypixi]

Please share this! I can’t stress how important this is.

I’m not good at tagging things, add as you see fit.

[elfwreck]

Regarding Step 2: If someone notices you “look pregnant,” and ask about it: TELL THEM YOU ARE NOT. 

“Oh, I’m pretty sure I just put on a few pounds. Holiday snacks, you know.”

“Of course I’m not pregnant. I haven’t missed a period.” (Don’t mention the date of your last period. If pressed, “I don’t remember exactly.”)

“Ugh, really? Nooo! I do not want to look pregnant!”

…and so on. Adjust as appropriate for your communication style. Don’t admit it to anyone. Don’t say that it’s possible. Insist that you are certain you are not pregnant.

[ginger-ale-official]

This is important information to share friends

[dyke0clock-deactivated20210226]

Just to be real clear:

Polyamory is 👌🏼and great and awesome

Side chick culture is disgusting and horrible

They are in no way the same thing and lying to your partner about cheating makes you the ultimate douche bag no exceptions

[king-bran-stark-deactivated2019]

Jameela Jamil on fat discrimination in our society. She’s my hero.

[liquidfem]

[boostergold78]

I didn’t know Mr. T pityed fool’s that weren’t woke, but that’s awesome. #respect

[lordxeras]

“I think about my father being called ‘boy’, my uncle being called ‘boy’, my brother, coming back from Vietnam and being called ‘boy’. So I questioned myself: “What does a black man have to do before he’s given the respect as a man?” So when I was 18 years old, when I was old enough to fight and die for my country, old enough to drink, old enough to vote, I said I was old enough to be called a man. I self-ordained myself Mr. T so the first word out of everybody’s mouth is “Mr.” That’s a sign of respect that my father didn’t get, that my brother didn’t get, that my mother didn’t get.“

-Mr. T on the subject of his name

[kenyanxgyal-deactivated20191123]

I had no idea he put this much thought into this wow

[oxfordcommaforever]

I wonder why we dont hear about this…

[yinx1]

[mixedican-deactivated20190330]

Mr. T’s raw power vaporizing the guy in the last gif

[vanish]

[taichi-kungfu-online]

[swingsetindecember]

ok, i’m built like a noble ox. like i am 6′1 and i am sturdy lady. like thighs for days. if you try to move me. you will be moved. body images aside (lol, i am self conscious about my size, yeah it’s life) 

so like, i am very used to girls standing next to me in public places. i end up acquiring a pack of ladies. just because women are like, that lady is a lady men stay away from. i am jerk kryptonite (usually, i get my fair share of creeps, such is life) but most men have self preservation that this 6′1 ox will break them. and i will

so usually i am in my own phone and look up to another lady standing next to me. and i will immediately look up and make eye contact and nod. like, you know, that nod. i see you and you can talk if there is something wrong. i end up on a reg basis being a defacto bodyguard to these young ladies and small women while waiting for buses and in the metro. 

i am a large oak tree. i protect the other birds. 

ladies, we all got roles. find tree in the wild. we’re always happy to provide shelter from the creeps.

i’ve regularly said, “move on, she doesn’t want to be your friend”

[grimm-fairy]

I’m in love

[paranoidhousecats-deactivated20]

Story time: So I’m 6’2 and “big boned” as my mother would call it. This happens to me all the time and a couple years ago I managed to get the the front row of a Macklemore concert. This woman, probably 5’4, squeezes up next to me and says, “Hey, I’m here alone, do you mind if I stand in front of you?” Of course not. So we’re all having a good time, dancing around, when all of a sudden this Bro™️ is behind me telling me that I’m too tall to be in the front row and it’s not fair. Now, keep in mind that this concert was outside, in February, in Vail CO. It was FREEZING so not only am I of the stature I am but I had my hair up and a beanie on and a big coat and boots. We try our best to ignore him but Bro™️ is drunk and very clearly thinks I’m a man and proceeds to punch me in the back of the head.

LIL SIS WENT OFF, FOLKS. This tiny woman literally moved me out of the way, jumped up, and head butted Bro™️ in the face with such a fury. I thought she was going to kill him, it was truly a beautiful moment in my life.

The moral of the story is that for every tree in the wild there is a cute little birdy who will defend its shelter to the death. Stick together ladies👯‍♀️

[fahbee]

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Bonus:

[evolvingessence]

[howfloetic]

[la-laborista-republiko]

[hotgirltori-deactivated20181119]

i’m tired of wanting to be pretty. always wondering if people think i’m pretty. curating a social media existence so everyone thinks i’m constantly pretty. i’m still not gonna post ugly selfies but y’all get my point

[themushr000m]

*SIPS TEA IN FAT AND SURLY*

[thebibliosphere]

One of my long term fandom friends (back from ye olde message board days of yore) has been posting for weeks about how her teenage daughter is “out of control” and she just posted in the facebook group about how her daughter has ruined Christmas by deciding to be a lesbian and the whole group just went “Karen, you’ve been writing gay m/m slash fic for three decades” and she went “but that’s different, that’s not REAL” and I’ve never tried to actively set someone on fire with my brain before but

[thebibliosphere]

“I came to you guys for support not to be attacked”

That’s funny, that’s really funny, because that’s probably how your child feels. You fucking shitheel.

[thebibliosphere]

Two of the other mom’s in the group just offered to take M for Christmas and keep her with them when school restarts because she deserves to be loved. One of them actually said “deserves a real mother” and I just spat my tea everywhere.

[thebibliosphere]

We all just got banned from the group but for anyone concerned “Aunt” Bee (wonderful, great A+ person) just posted in her personal feed that M showed up at her house and is safe.

[starfieldcanvas]

crash course in why anyone who implies liking slash makes you an ally is talking out of their ass