Cringe & Proud

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[jester-shapeshifter]

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✩ ┊ ꒱ I post about my opinions here. Why? Because writing about them helps me know why I believe what I believe, and if I do it publicly, other people can help me refine them (with sources and civility). If I don't reblog a post but instead screenshot it, it's to avoid anything bad happening to the person and/or (as I'm a tiny blog so that first point is often just for good conscience) avoid sapping their energy if they don't wish to debate/just wanted to vent.

ᕬ⑅ᕬ ┊ ꒱ dni: none, i'll block if i want to, feel free to do the same if you don't vibe with me

[jester-shapeshifter]

If when I ask you what your pronouns are, you're genuinely confused and answer me man/woman, I'll check up like "so she/so he, right?" and it will end there.

However, if you are being a piece of shit about it, be sure your dumbass response will be your new pronouns (as a neopronoun user) ❤️

Also, all these answers where taken from a post asking fellow radfems what their answers were.

"I'm obviously a woman" "Woman/womans pronouns? Haven't seen anyone use these yet, how original!"

"I'm a cat" (no hate to therians, am one myself and animal themed pronouns are awesome /g) -> "Omgs cat did such a great thing the other night!"

"What are pronouns?" Did you want a grammar lesson? Cause I'm about to give you one ^^

"Any" -> I'll use any from the "basic" ones (they/she/he/it), in case you genuinely don't care, and if you do and are trying to be an ass it'll piss you off anyways

"I use sex-based pronouns" -> "Sex was at the club yesterday. Sex left sexes purse at my house."

"Oh just the normal ones" -> I resort to they/them unless people tell me their pronouns, so to me these are the normal ones

"I'm a female/I have a vagina" "I didn't ask what's in your pants, I don't want to have sex with you..."

"You can't tell that you're speaking to a woman?" "I certainely couldn't tell I was speaking to a Karen" / "And you couldn't tell you were speaking to a decent/polite human?" (If the setting is pro I'll smile politely, not answer, and use they/them)

"I’m not into that thing" "What thing? Polite questions?"

"Whatever they're calling normal women these days" "So their preffered pronouns?"

"What do you think? And why do you ask?" "I don't guess pronouns because assuming things about people is often shitty, and I ask because I'm a polite person"

"I'm a TERF! Cheers!" I'm leaving the function, blocking anyone who thinks being a terf is okay, and certainly getting that person out of my life. Proudly being a terf is stupid.

[pigeon-girl-punk]

As protests start ramping up and violence escalates please remember:

DO NOT PUT MILK IN YOUR EYES FOR PEPPER SPRAY OR TEAR GAS.

It can and will cause infection due to bacteria. Flush with water, distilled if possible, and never EVER wear contact lenses to protests where there may be police retaliation.

Please reblog. It may save someone's sight.

[marsivian]

I was thinking how funny it is that TRAs only decided to come out after LGB and women won the minimal rights (almost nothing) that they have, and they act as if they were the ones who fought and died for

[jester-shapeshifter]

As if black trans people didn't help the movement monumentaly with the riots of Stonewall... Way to say you don't know queer history

[baconnmeggs]

Do you have any proof to back up that claim it is it more complete bullshit coming from your side lol

[jester-shapeshifter]

I do actually!

First of, trans people and drag queens that helped in the Stonewall Riots, which kickstarted a lot of queer activism in America and gave us pride month: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marsha_P._Johnson https://www.biography.com/activists/marsha-p-johnson https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sylvia_Rivera https://www.biography.com/activists/sylvia-rivera https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a36319161/stonewall-riot-leaders/ https://www.biography.com/history-culture/stonewall-riots-history-leaders

Then, an example of a modern trans activist, helping the cause today: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexya_Salvador https://www.them.us/story/brazils-first-trans-pastor-alexya-salvador

And a more general article about trans activists helping other causes today: https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/human-rights-trans-people-are-fighting-for/

If you want more I can oblige! I put this together rather quickly /g

[jester-shapeshifter]

Love how they never responded because they either didn't want to read or even look at my sources or did and didn't like what they found X)

Remember everyone, people like this don't have sources and are just hateful of things changing/being different to them /g

[marsivian]

I was thinking how funny it is that TRAs only decided to come out after LGB and women won the minimal rights (almost nothing) that they have, and they act as if they were the ones who fought and died for

[jester-shapeshifter]

As if black trans people didn't help the movement monumentaly with the riots of Stonewall... Way to say you don't know queer history

[baconnmeggs]

Do you have any proof to back up that claim it is it more complete bullshit coming from your side lol

[jester-shapeshifter]

I do actually!

First of, trans people and drag queens that helped in the Stonewall Riots, which kickstarted a lot of queer activism in America and gave us pride month: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marsha_P._Johnson https://www.biography.com/activists/marsha-p-johnson https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sylvia_Rivera https://www.biography.com/activists/sylvia-rivera https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a36319161/stonewall-riot-leaders/ https://www.biography.com/history-culture/stonewall-riots-history-leaders

Then, an example of a modern trans activist, helping the cause today: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexya_Salvador https://www.them.us/story/brazils-first-trans-pastor-alexya-salvador

And a more general article about trans activists helping other causes today: https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/human-rights-trans-people-are-fighting-for/

If you want more I can oblige! I put this together rather quickly /g

[blackheartbiohazards]

"I don't want to read this" is totally valid.

"This is disgusting to me" is totally valid.

"I don't want to read this because it is disgusting to me" is totally valid.

"I don't think anyone should be allowed to read or write this because it is disgusting to me" is authoritarian.

[blackheartbiohazards]

"I don't think anyone should be allowed to read or write this because it is disgusting to me" is authoritarian.

[spellscarred]

Bro, blocking someone and then using their tag like this is, all offence, weak as fuck. Like all you had to say was, na bro I don't promote pedo protags on this here blog, because I wholly agree with the premise of your argument given contexts (i.e., writing abusive relationships to show the evils, great; writing abusive relationships to show the romance, yikes).

This response is so, so comically shitty within the context of that tag, oh my god.

[blackheartbiohazards]

"I don't think anyone should be allowed to read or write this because it is disgusting to me" is authoritarian.

[blackheartbiohazards]

"I don't think anyone should be allowed to read or write this because it is disgusting to me" is authoritarian.

[blackheartbiohazards]

"Censorship of some topics in fiction and art is good and I would be happy if it were to be enacted in a way I approved of"

and

"some things should be banned from ever being written or read about in fiction"

are both authoritarian viewpoints to hold and express, even if you don't have the power to enact them.

If you hold these viewpoints you are holding authoritarian viewpoints.

[averageidiotenby]

DUDE IT’S PEDO FICS EVERYBODY THINKS THEY’RE NASTY

[blackheartbiohazards]

Let me explain this to you in simple terms.

Something being nasty is not a good reason to ban fiction about it.

If we accept that "something being nasty is a good reason to bad fiction about it" then we give a foot in the door for all the people who truly, genuinely believe that queer people are nasty to ban all queer literature.

This is not about defending bad people this is about defending the freedom of good people from tyranny, you moron.

[kawaii-pigeon]

I think if you take it to its logical extreme. Say, banning people from writing stories of sexual abuse. That could then be said "well ANY talk about sexual abuse is bad."

And from that, you could ban books that talk about it irl. Or books like how to recover after being abuse. If its not something to be discussed AT ALL.

[plague-of-insomnia]

The fact that I’ve seen this post in some form on my dash like 100x and each time there’s new idiots who do not get that you can’t have *some* censorship.

Either you’re for it or you aren’t.

The moment you agree that something should never, ever exist in fiction is the moment that anything can be banned.

Remember a while back how Tumblr banned a bunch of tags, including many popular innocuous ones that even people who are for censorship used and were upset about?

When censorship happens, stuff YOU like can and will be banned. That’s how it works.

Remember how a bunch of people had their accounts terminated here only last year for writing about their own sexual abuse?

When you ban “pedo” topics, say, any talk of child sexual abuse in any form, that means people can no longer write about their own experiences. It means people cannot educate others so they can learn how to protect themselves or get help from these situations.

Censorship is authoritarian. Full stop.

Even if “everyone” agrees something is “gross” and “shouldn’t exist,” that does not fucking matter.

Do you know who generally believes queer people are gross and shouldn’t exist??

The same people who are banning books left and right solely because they have queer characters or relationships.

The same people who attack and kill queer folk for simply exisiting.

This is not just some fandom matter or a case of being chronically online.

Protecting freedom of expression is essential, and if you do not get that, I don’t know what to say to you.

[scientia-rex]

And the people who keep bringing up child sex abuse as a reason for censorship are doing it very specifically because everyone feels like then they HAVE to agree with the person in favor of censorship.

It’s not that there isn’t widespread societal agreement on this. It’s that they want you backed into a rhetorical corner where you feel compelled to agree with them.

[ruffboi-mags]

Also, like, we KNOW how this shit shakes out in fandom because it's happened before.

In 2007, Livejournal capitulated to the "pedophilia and sex crimes!" cries of (hate group) Warriors 4 Innocence, and you know what communities got shut down? Slashfic communities. Sexual assault survivor support communities. Authors who'd written non-smut m/m fic even got caught up in it. It was DEVASTATING to fandom spaces. I think pretty much everyone knew at least one person whose account was literally DELETED, or were a member of a community that was wiped off the map because they were considerate enough to include topics like "sexual assault" or "BDSM" in the profiles under the badly-named category of "interests" to indicate that posts on said blogs or communities may include discussion of things like that. Even if it was for a SUPPORT group. And it was because a group of religious bigots came to LJ and said essentially "EVERYONE thinks it's gross and that it's promoting CSA, we should ban it."

Like, strikethrough and boldthrough were a large part of what propelled AO3 out of a more unfocused conversation on one person's blog about hosting a site INTENDED for fandom content, into being an actual archive and nonprofit. And it's a large part of why you won't find AO3 banning topics that you find "gross".

Censorship is authoritarian and it will ALWAYS have more collateral damage than you can imagine.

[cowsabungus]

Make pride accessible for everyone!!!!

I made a post about this last year and the year before, and thought if I did it this way it gives people and orgs something to work towards. Often people forget that disabled people aren't just wheelchair users, and even those who are, need more than just that ramp!

My first ever pride, not only as a wheelchair but my first ever EVER pride, I went in expecting to feel at home.

Obviously I wasn't, I'm disabled, so why should I?

Instead there was just a ridiculous amount of uneven flooring, a steep ramp to the disabled toilet, no sanitary towel bin in the disabled toilet (???) no allowances to be let out of the festival to fetch things from my car, no where quiet and organisers who seemed genuinely surprised to see a wheelchair user!

My next pride, three years later, I was a seller, and while they had sorted their toilet problem (still no sanitary towel bin???), the hill to get in wouod have been genuinely impossible for me to get to if I hadn't been driving to get my stall in anyway, even with someone pushing me, no quiet areas, plenty of kerbs for me to get stuck at and again, genuine surprise.

Why is it so surprising to consider disabled people might be at pride? Not only do queer disabled people exist, but parents and family of queer kids and people, vendors and even entertainers!

Making pride accessible is crucial!

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[jester-shapeshifter]

Discovered that terfs call people who don't think like them about gender "gendies" and I kind of want to steal it- Like it's such a cute term??

[jester-shapeshifter]

Comme quoi, some people just don't wanna try to be accepting and look into things, they'd rather just be hateful (doesn't look great for them or their community/the ideas they're defending)

When that happens I let it be, I don't have energy to waste on people who genuinely want to stay hateful 🤷

[mipo-reposts]

do you ever just look up problematic tags on tumblr and feel as if you are walking into a circus with your rotten tomatoes ready

[jester-shapeshifter]

Yoinked this because they disabled their replies, so clearly me saying my opinion wasn't welcome on the og post /g /info

How though? Trans people aren't considered "normal" by the people you're (as in op and others who think like them) catering to yk? When you invite the face-eating leopard to eat xeno & neo users, whose face do you think they're gonna eat after they're done? Yours! They see no difference between us and you guys.

[marsivian]

I was thinking how funny it is that TRAs only decided to come out after LGB and women won the minimal rights (almost nothing) that they have, and they act as if they were the ones who fought and died for

[jester-shapeshifter]

As if black trans people didn't help the movement monumentaly with the riots of Stonewall... Way to say you don't know queer history

[jester-shapeshifter]

OMG I got a gem tonight

So I'm in the agere tags and I find this post of someone complaining that people are baby talking online. I genuinely ask why this is a problem, and it's like "didn't want your opinion" then blocks me. Fine tbh, but THEN!!! I get a DM of, you guessed it, unsollicited advice! "Didn't ask for your opinion" not only was it just a question, but also I didn't want your advice sweetie 💝

Here's the DM sent just before I got blocked, like it blocked me seconds after this XD

And yes, it was right: I'm having a laugh rn! Thanks for making my night ✨

Edit: corrected its pronouns as it asked /g

[rq-lif3styl3s]

If u think abortion is murder, get off of my page right fucking now.

Bc if u would look a girl that js got raped dead in the eye and say she's a murderer bc she needs an abortion, u are a terrible fucking person. Idc what anyone says,

THERE ARE SAFE FUCKING WAYS TO DO AN ABORTION. I DON'T FUCKING CARE. SOMETIMES, ABORTIONS ARE NECESSARY. SO GET OFF MY PAGE IF U THINK IT'S FUCKING MURDER BC THERE ARE WAYS TO STOP THE BABY FROM GROWING BEFORE IT'S EVEN A FUCKING FETUS. SO SHUT THE FUCK UP.

[jester-shapeshifter]

I'm seeing this legal argument a lot and it's tiring me.

Do antis know laws are different in different areas of the world, right? It's almost like they forget there's a world outside of the USA!

Not saying where I live, but I can tell you it's not in the USA, and as long as it's not realistic it's fine where I live 🤷‍♀️

Additionally, maws aren't the end all be all of morality, otherwise they'd be the same everywhere, don't you think? /g

[jester-shapeshifter]

I will block and delete replies from anyone who call others the r-slur btw, no matter the rest of your message or your stance on this!

Ableists are fucking gross and I won't have that on my page ❣️

[jester-shapeshifter]

hi ! i'm not a radqueer but i wanted to know something ， do you guys ( or at least some of you ) consider wanting to be a transID due the aesthetic of it "good faith" ? /genq

i agree with some trans ids but not all due this aah ｡

Hi! Not a radqueer either, more like "radqueer-adjacent" here /lh

I do consider that good faith! As long as the intentions are good, it's good faith!

Obviously, being transid of a mental illness for the aesthetic for example, while being good faith, is another issue, as it does hurt the people suffering from it (it stigmatises and minimalises the mental illness in this example).

Still, to me, educating people who do it, kindly and without forcing them to change, is the best option here. /g

[jester-shapeshifter]

Found this really nice visual depiction of privilege!