joanatherese

los angeles 12/30/09 special tags

[prophets-of-prog]

[thexfiles]

i’m mentally ill too but fucking listen to me here. you need to take responsibility for your actions regardless of whether or not they’re a product of your mental illness. you don’t get to manipulate, gaslight, take advantage of, or straight up abuse people because you’re mentally ill! you don’t! what the fuck! why are some of you still thinking it’s okay to say things like “manipulation is okay because i have _____ and need attention from my significant other”. oh my god. Don’t fucking do that

[crentist]

[joanatherese]

me drinking liquor

*sittin down drinking*

me: this shit weak. I ain't even drunk.

*stands up*

me: help

[goddessofidiocy-deactivated2019]

“not everything has to be gay” oh my god what tf are u watching where everything is gay. what is it. tell me

[pure]

as a general rule. if what we’re calling ‘cultural appropriation’ sounds like nazi ideology (i.e. ‘white people should only do white people things and black people should only do black people things’) with progressive language, we are performing a very very poor application of what ‘cultural appropriation’ means. this is troublingly popular in the blogosphere right now and i think we all need to be more critical of what it is we may be saying or implying, even unintentionally.

[pyrrhiccomedy]

There is nothing wrong with everyone enjoying each other’s cultures so long as those cultures have been shared. 

Eating Chinese food, watching Bollywood movies, going to see Cambodian dancers, or learning to speak Korean so you can watch every K drama in existence is totally fine. The invitation to participate in those things came from within those cultures. The Mexican family that owns the place where I get fajitas wants me to eat fajitas. Their whole business model kind of depends on it, actually. 

If you see something from another culture you think you might want to participate in, but you don’t know if that would be disrespectful or appropriative, you can just…ask. Like. A Jewish friend explained what a mezuzah was to me, recently. (It’s the little scroll-thing near their front doors that they touch when they come into their house. It basically means “this is a Jewish household.”)

“Oh, cool,” I said. “Can I touch it? Or is it only for Jewish people?”

“You can touch it or you can not touch it,” she said. “I don’t care.”

“Cool, I’m gonna touch it, then.”

“Cool.”

It’s not hard.

You want to twerk, twerk. I’ve never heard a black person say they didn’t think anybody else should be allowed to twerk. Just that they want us to acknowledge that they invented that shit, not Miley fucking Cyrus.

[notcayleb]

this is a good post.

[maskedriderbiocore]

Thank you, I was trying to sort this out in my head but you explained it very well.

[habibialkaysani]

#free exchange of culture is great - taking that culture without invite and pretending yours is an original take#(worse still profiting off it)#is cultural appropriation (by @gnimaerd)

[blackberryshawty]

I wanna live in Mariah Carey’s mind where it’s forever 1997 and it’s always sunny and champagne is always flowing

[bluenokia3210-deactivated201701]

what would you do if you went to a party and they was playing owl city fireflies

[greatbigsword]

Go hard

[porkfriedpussy]

Planet earth might turn slowly but this ass don’t

[britneyspears]

Hello, Tumblr peeps! I’m here!! Ask away…  

[jncoes]

i would take a bullet for you britney

[kinikxluna]

toytowns:

alittlebitnerdy:

yiffmaster:

can someone tell me what the difference between these two memes are

because I’m pretty certain they convey the exact same sentiment

No! @nintendette explained this to me the other day!

- Caveman Spongebob (SpongeGar) is when your primal instincts kick in - for example, this image has been used with the title “when you get up in the middle of the night to get food and you hear someone coming” KnowYourMeme page here - Mr Krabs conveys realization and panic - for example, this image has been paired with the title “when you turn in an exam and your classmates start talking and none of your answers match” KnowYourMeme page here

unga bunga vs whaddafuck

[daggers-drawn]

Fight or Flight

[theawesomeadventurer]

meme culture

[nihilisa-frank]

[freethehippies-deactivated20160]

[kingrudegyalchina]

Bruh

[vbdul]

Y they just flame him lmfao

[thagoodthings]

I ain’t gon lie tho I ain’t never seen white ppl cook someone like this

[brokebackboys]

who knew white ppl had it in them

[did-you-know]

This is how close you can zoom in to the moon with a Nikon P900. Source

[lostcampesinos]

another good art day today, I took out the most clunky, archaic projector from my university media shop and projected confessions around my house. things I wouldn’t and couldn’t say to my parents. this was perhaps the most cathartic thing I have done, I also did it whilst my parents were in the house, so I felt sorta James Bond as I was doing it

[thexfiles]

honestly everyone who has ever hurt me is so lucky i’m hyper empathetic and i’ve never told you about how you’ve hurt me! Congratulations on getting off the hook because I was afraid to hurt your feelings by telling you that you did bad things

[bis-muth]

What I mean when I say “I can’t do that”- Anxiety Version:

I am unable to do that

I am too stressed out to do that

I cannot face the humiliation of attempting to do that

My body will physically not allow me to do that

I am on the verge of a panic attack

I cannot do that

What people hear:

I am unwilling to do that

I am just shy

I am overreacting

I am lazy

I need to get more experience in social situation to help my anxiety

I need a push

I don’t want to do that

[d-o-llf-a-ce]

Proper response to someone saying “I can’t do that” because of anxiety:

Can I do it for you?

Would you like my help doing it?

Would you like to go somewhere where you feel can do that?

Is there anything I can do to either alleviate your anxiety or help you do it?

What about it can you not do? (And then, sub-sequentially, would you like help with that part/is there anything I can do to help with that)

these responses are literally SO important when you have anxiety

Sometimes things are really scary and if someone has confided in you that they can’t do something because of their anxiety, you should treat it as best you can

anything that goes along the lines of “I would like to help in any way I can” and away from “You are being a baby” is pretty great.

[bis-muth]

i’ve never seen this response attached to my post before!!!! thank you so much, this is an excellent addition

[dreamerpenelopi-blog]

My boyfriend was too anxious to check the status of his loans, when they would be due, and how to pay them back. All I had to do was help him find the phone numbers/sites he needed and narrow down/lay out what he needed to do to find the information and negotiate loan payment schedules. Since then, he’s gotten so much better at doing these payment and financial things. It’ls not babying to help someone with anxiety get started on these things. It may be what they need to understand and become familiar enough with a process to reduce their anxiety. 

[sdascension]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ All of this. Seriously, it is not babying, it is helping. Just get us started and help build us up.