Jay Campbell

Asexual/Aromantic, Polyamorous, Leather, and Queer. Please infodump to me about LGBTQ+ history. NSFW, I’m 23, He/They, sometimes She.

[jscampbell14]

About Me✨

Hi, friends!

I’m Jay, your resident femmeboy and all-around too-many-labels Queer. I’m asexual and aromantic, but I’m also polyamorous, nonbinary, and in love with the Leather scene.

I’m currently getting my master’s degree studying the intersection between asexuality and kink/BDSM, so if you want to hear me infodump about that, just send over an ask (or a DM, your choice).

I will never post photos of myself on here (is that even allowed anymore?) and tend not to of others, but I can’t guarantee otherwise. However, if you want gritty Queer history, dirty jokes, or education on BDSM/kink/Leather, feel free to stick around.

I exist in a liminal space between not blocking teenagers and not actively encouraging interactions for this blog (although i won’t follow you back). I do mark posts I think have sexually explicit content as mature, but it's up to you to decide how you want your age setting or what you want to see🤷🏼‍♀️ (however, if you are a teenager and DM me, just say so, ty)

I also have an insta and a Bluesky (formerly Twitter) under the same username, which I’m either more or less active on than here.

Love you, and have a great day!

[sandandglass]

The Muppets s01e01

[le-sad-demiurge]

Fozzy getting hit on by lots of twinks

[cheshireinthemiddle]

Happy Pride Month

[comicgeekscomicgeek]

Ten years later, this bit still slaps. They made a great pun and realized they could be nice/inclusive with it too.

[jscampbell14]

hey google, why tf do i get so effing horny on my period??? i’ve been turned on for HOURS but am regrettably asexual and pretty sex-averse so there’s not much i can do abt it

but i get nauseous and lose my appetite around my ovulation.

clearly my trans-boy body didn’t read the manual

[fagcrisis]

i hate the word spicy can we bring back calling things erotic

[maryoliveoil]

rolling up to Wendy's to get an erotic chicken sandwich

[demonprincex]

statements like "It's wrong to masturbate about a person without their consent" and "It's wrong to do something that quietly arouses you while you are in public even if no one can see it" show that a person's understanding of morality basically involves magical thinking. like I wrote this post on the toilet. That's not the same thing as me literally shitting on you

[demonprincex]

the only valid person in the replies like at all

[jscampbell14]

well… yes and no…

I’ve had friends who I’ve learned are purposefully masturbating about me because they asked to actually fuck me, and I told them no (due to my aceness)

While, yeah, you can’t control if a person/thought pops into your head while you’re doing it… you CAN control whether to purposefully and consciously Continue that action, knowing it would make that person (whom you assume to care about) Incredibly Uncomfortable and Violated

I am all, 100% for, everyone’s autonomy. But with this conversation, it is important to understand that sometimes, upholding one person’s autonomy diminishes another.

If someone you know has purposefully asked you Not to masturbate about them, or purposely get aroused in their presence without them knowing… and you want to continue having a positive relationship with that person… Stop???? That’s just basic respect.

I am not saying “no kink at pride” (i, in fact, will be incredibly kinky at pride), I am not saying you’re forbidden from wearing your vibrator to the grocery store (…that sounds hot, actually…)

What I am saying is that if someone has Specifically Revoked Their Consent, then It Is Revoked.

[max1461]

Disgust has absolutely no ethical weight. If you are basing your ethical positions on the emotion of disgust you should stop, it is entirely unjustified and leads to a huge amount of harm.

[word-for-today]

Word for today: wisdom of repugnance

The logical fallacy that because something disgusts you it must be bad

[obscenicon-deactivated20231123]

this is probably the funniest example of a tumblr user simply not reading the post theyre reblogging at all

[steelblue8]

Reblog if you are a freak who is justifying their gross actions

[donniehaspronouns]

this might piss some people off but I don’t think some of you actually ever tried to unlearn your hatefulness. you just came out as queer and decided your new targets really truly deserve it this time.

[donniehaspronouns]

you. you get it.

[souplover13]

image: tags. #you just want to be the boot. some of us think there should be no boots at all. big difference. end ID.

[swiftrunnerfelidae]

"Kill your local sex offender!" Oh, you mean the guy who went streaking at his local college football game on a dare one time? That's a sex crime.

"No, I mean-"

Oh, maybe the woman who had to pee in a public park that only had pay toilets, so she tried to hide behind the bushes but got caught? Public urination is a sex crime.

"What? No, I mean-"

Oh, maybe you mean the homeless guy who had to strip down to get his clothes in the laundromat to clean them for the first time in weeks? He tried being subtle, but someone called the cops on him, and now he's on the sex offender registry for public nudity.

"Rapists and pedophiles! Kill rapists and pedophiles!"

Oh, like the trans woman who got called a pedophile groomer for helping a trans kid escape her abusive parents?

Or maybe the black man who got labeled a rapist because he came on to another man's wife, and he decided to get back at him by charging him with rape?

How about the 17 year olds who were fooling around, fully consensually, in one of their bedrooms? That's still technically underage sex and thus rape of a minor.

Oh, or maybe you're talking about the doctor who performed genital reconstructive surgery in a state that just voted to get that classified as rape?

People will do everything they can to get you convinced rape and pedophilia are the worst crimes possible, then accuse whoever they like the least of being either a rapist, a pedophile, or both, counting on you turning on them just for being accused of the crime.

"Oh, so you're saying you don't want to kill a serial rapist?"

That's exactly what I'm goddamn saying.

Once we decide a group is okay to kill, the government will do everything they can to convince you that their political enemies are either part of that group, or just as bad as that group, to get you to kill their enemies for them.

The only way out is to accept every life as worth saving.

[raccoonmilf]

When I was in grade school I used to send emails to biologists and zoologists asking them questions to get answers to include in school projects I was working on, and would cry when they did not respond because I thought I was stupid for thinking that some random kid would ever be deserving of a response from someone who does something as smart and cool and important as *checks notes* studies frog fungus.

Now, at 29, I’m lowkey having a panic attack because my academic email is filled with middle schoolers wanting me to answer their questions about pygmy raccoons and I keep putting off answering them because I’m so overwhelmed with all the other raccoon stuff I have to do.

Anyway, greatest apologies to any scientist I ever emailed as a child and also an adult.

[raccoonmilf]

I know your research is really important and I appreciate all you are doing but this is so fucking funny

[human-pet-they]

🙂‍↕️ = head falling out of guillotine

[maidthings]

i really like how the milkman exists as an entirely fossilized character who now serves no purpose other than to fuck people's wives for the punchline

[tazetta]

if you've ever gone on a romantic "date" at olive garden just block me rn i literally can't deal with you proshippers -_-

[littlebigplanet]

what

[tazetta]

when you're there you're family

[lilcowzia]

why is it that ppl hear "fetish" and immediately think "devoid of morals" like ur genuinely not making sense. ppl dont actually become inhuman and beast-like when theyre turned on, thats something we are told bc it aligns with christian patriarcal values, u know that right? desire isnt actually bad. it doesnt make you evil, or incapable of having/respecting boundaries

[lilcowzia]

i got a response to this abt how men get horny and "lose their minds" and "causes" them to behave vile. i rlly rlly neeeeed ppl to understand that men behaving inappropriately when turned on is something they are *choosing* to do, and when you equate that to human nature you are enabling them and diminishing the seriousness of that choice

[odekiisu]

Call me whatever names you wish, but I think this is a much better (and healthier) attitude than “anyone under 18 should never be allowed to see any sexual imagery ever”

(For reference: this was at the Tom of Finland exhibition, containing actual, queer, kinky af pornography. There were definitely some young people there, perhaps in their late teens. There was even a parent with their baby who was probably too young to understand anything at all. And guess what, all those people are probably going to be fine.)

[ID: a sign saying “Please note: there is no age limit, but the exhibition is not recommended for children due to the explicit sexual imagery it contains. Parental or guardian discretion is advised.”]

[shootingstars-or-airplanes]

Hey this is a pretty cool approach maybe we should take that to the Internet instead of trying to invade the privacy of millions of adults because some parents can't parent their kids

[odekiisu]

Call me whatever names you wish, but I think this is a much better (and healthier) attitude than “anyone under 18 should never be allowed to see any sexual imagery ever”

(For reference: this was at the Tom of Finland exhibition, containing actual, queer, kinky af pornography. There were definitely some young people there, perhaps in their late teens. There was even a parent with their baby who was probably too young to understand anything at all. And guess what, all those people are probably going to be fine.)

[ID: a sign saying “Please note: there is no age limit, but the exhibition is not recommended for children due to the explicit sexual imagery it contains. Parental or guardian discretion is advised.”]

[shootingstars-or-airplanes]

Hey this is a pretty cool approach maybe we should take that to the Internet instead of trying to invade the privacy of millions of adults because some parents can't parent their kids

[ironelkarchive]

Today my art history professor gave some words of wisdom:

Nude is when your clothes are off. Naked is when your clothes are off and you’re up to something 

[cozcat]

[shieldofiron]

Many people forget when writing bdsm that the dom also wants to get a good grade in dom. And is trying so hard and is often nervous about it.