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nick / niko | 26 | he/him

[lonesomeroad]

Why are trans men constantly gaslit about our lived experiences?

We try to talk about how we’re denied reproductive care and are treated as others in gynecological spaces. We should not be outliers or things of ridicule or disgust in these spaces. These are spaces where we should be welcomed like any cis woman would be. We are treated like this even when we need gynecological care because we are trans men.

We try to talk about how TERFs oversexualize us while infantalizing and talking down to us. They act like they have ownership of our bodies, and like we need them to guide us to “accepting” ourselves as women. They do this because we are trans men. People have started calling them TWERFs instead, because they like to believe that we are included on behalf of TERFs wanting to change our minds and bodies, and claiming that they will have open arms for us when we’re “done with our phase.” (Being sexualized is especially true of straight trans men. Gay trans men will be constantly subjected to fatphobic stereotypes, and plenty of things that are just “LIBERAL SJW,” misogynistic stereotypes turned around and used against someone who it’s slightly more acceptable to hurt. This is okay to so many people because we are trans men.)

When we point out any ways that we face oppression, we have 500 people screaming that another group has it worse. Depending on the group, they claim that we’re either privileged men or privileged little girls complaining about nothing.

There is no way for us to win in society’s eyes. We are constantly silenced and spoken over, even by some of our siblings. Trans men deserve to be respected. Trans men deserve to be understood. Trans men deserve to be accepted.

Trans men deserve to be believed.

[cronenbois-manster]

To add on, TERFS and transphobic cis gays demonize gay trans men. We're labelled as dangerous, fetishizing rapists (Ppl claim this about Lou Sullivan, it is so vile) and our sex with gay cis men is labeled as conversion therapy. We're evil "women" trying to make gay men straight. Also, ties in with the fujoshi nonsense thrown at us as well.

But when we attempt to call out this transphobia we are now privileged whiny little "straight" girls who don't know "real" oppression.

Edit: don't get me started on how much everyone and I mean everyone immediately goes to make fun of our voices. Ppl conveniently forget the tranny voice era which pops up still. You know, one of our main traits of transness. I've been told directly that it's not transphobic to ridicule trans men's voices 🙃

[miderok]

skibidi toilet strade

[jaradraws]

DISCLAIMER: the blood is a feature, not a bug 🩸☎️

[werewolfgirldick]

[learninghoovess]

[alberteatsglass]

[werecreature-addicted]

Imagine a vampire sucked your blood and they didn't even pop a boner. not even half hard. fully flaccid the entire time they sucked your blood. I'd be so humiliated.

[pulchrasilva]

WHO is gonna enter a toxic unstable codependent blood marriage with me

[withastorytotell]

I know how it feels to suck. Your bed is not made, you are eating two days old fast food leftovers, you haven't moved your body for fun in weeks or years, you don't open a book to read or study unless you have no option, if you have a instrument it's probably rotting in the loft. I understand. I have been there and when you reflect on it, it sucks. We suck sometimes and it's not fine but it's normal. The thing with adulting is that you exactly get to decide where your life should go to wherever you may be led. So starting with a ten minute walk everyday is better than a four hour gym session once a week, reading a page a day is better than scrolling on instagram, drinking a smoothie is better than the chocolate milkshake. Life is too short to keep cutting out the good things. We can focus on adding on and swapping out while learning to live and love. We can binge on the good things and be better than the rest. It's true although, that sometimes we might suck.

[scheurbuik]

my dealer: got some straight gas 🔥😛 this strain is called "korea, 1950" 😳 you'll be zonked out of your gourd 💯

me: yeah whatever. i dont feel shit.

5 minutes later: dude i swear we've been here for 11 years.

my buddy hawkeye, pacing: who's responsible?

[juliannegriepp]

I dreamed I was alive one time before the world began

[venomous-snake]

[bigmonsteras]

[lady-of-the-spirit]

"I'm glad you're okay" but said by someone who has just had the shit beaten out of them, to someone who is not hurt at all, is a brilliant trope and I lose my mind every time.

[carnivallsarchive]

starting a collection

[apathetic-revenant]

“oh no, my audience has begun to guess the big twists of my story and are accurately predicting what will happen!”

incorrect response: write the rest of the story to be as twisty, shocking and counter to expectations as possible, regardless of whether this is a logical or satisfying way for the plot to go

correct response:

[thebourneultimatum]

can someone elaborate on the “make hoax” and “post angry tweet about “leak”“ part. i’m stupid and don’t understand things

[apathetic-revenant]

sure!

(you’re not stupid. I posted this thinking it would amuse a handful of mutuals who all knew the context and that would be about it, so I didn’t think about providing any other explanation. I had no idea it would spread this far.)

I’ll start from the very beginning just to be thorough. so this is Alex Hirsch, creator and head writer of Gravity Falls, a show which had a big focus on mystery, conspiracies, codes and ciphers, etc. the whole plot is kicked off by one of the main characters finding a mysterious old journal in the woods, which detailed all kinds of weird and supernatural things, but then ended abruptly with the author saying they had to hide the journal because they were being watched. the central driving mystery of the show, therefore, was the question of who wrote the journal and what happened to them.

now, the thing about Gravity Falls is that, while it must be said that the writers weren’t always quite as sure of their plans as we tend to like to think they are, it is very much a fair play mystery, with legitimate clues to what was going on. but the writers were caught off guard by how quickly the show attracted a dedicated audience, including a lot of people outside the primary presumed demographic, who started solving the clues faster than expected. so some of the fans were able to correctly guess who the author was before it was revealed in the show, and the theory started spreading. this put the writers in something of a panic, because this was THE mystery that the whole story revolved around, with ¾ of the show building up to the dramatic reveal in the middle of season 2. they wanted it to be a mystery that could be figured out, sure, but they weren’t prepared for people to solve it so far in advance of when it was planned to be revealed, which would have really taken away from the big moment. they weren’t going to change the main story itself, but having been caught unaware by how much attention the fans were paying, they wanted to up the ante and make the mystery more complex to solve going forward–but first they needed to buy some time and throw the fandom off the scent for a little longer.

hence, Alex’s plan as described above. they whipped up a fake shot that appears to give away the identity of the author as being another character in the show, put it on a screen in the studio as if it was a real animation frame, took a picture of it, and ‘leaked’ it online. it was initially decided to be a hoax (albeit, I think, presumed to be a hoax originating from outside the production team), until Alex posted this tweet:

…before quickly deleting it (though not so quickly that it didn’t get seen, of course).

it worked well enough to distract most people for a while, and wasn’t revealed as a hoax until a year later, when an episode aired that definitively proved that the supposed screenshot could never have happened, at which point Alex owned up to the whole thing as seen in the tweet above. by then the episode with the real reveal wasn’t far off, and while people did still work it out ahead of time, it was more of an “OH MY GOD I KNEW IT!” moment than a “booooooring, we’ve known that for ages” moment, which of course was what the writers wanted all along.

personally I find this a fascinating approach to dealing with the problem of spoilers, because it doesn’t affect the story itself at all; if you watch Gravity Falls today–or if you were watching it when it aired without any significant contact with the fandom–you’d never know about it. ultimately, the problem the writers were facing wasn’t that some people might guess the answer to the mystery–they never wanted to make it completely impossible to predict–so much as it was that they hadn’t designed the story to stand up to so many people working on the puzzle together, which resulted in a sort of total output of puzzle-solving ability that far outstripped the capability of any one solo human being. so their solution is something that’s very much targeted toward delaying that group problem-solving, without actually affecting the experience of any individual person watching the show.

plus, it’s very in keeping with the overall tone of the show.

and now you know!

[notaplaceofhonour]

if your audience guesses the ending of your story

don’t:

change the ending

do:

gaslight them

[thememedaddy]

me irl

[snarkysparkyv2]

[bumblebeebats]

Every time i purchase a moderately expensive item the Karl Marx on my shoulder is like "For shame... you purchase yet another pair of jeans when you have 5 already at home, you despicable commodity fetishist? In my time, a man with five outfits would consider himself blessed beyond measure, and yet you want for more, while there are children starving in the world??" to which the second Karl Marx on my other shoulder says "Objection! Those 5 pairs of jeans all wildly uncomfortable or have holes in the ass, due to the decline of clothing quality driven by the fast fashion industry, unfortunately making this purchase a necessity... Plus, by purchasing a slightly more expensive pair of jeans from an independent brand, seeking quality over 'brand recognition', they are deliberately trying to avoid engaging in conspicuous consumption!" to which the third Karl Marx clinging to my back like that beetle from Doctor Who says "Remember, my friend; the less you eat, drink, buy books, go to the theatre or to balls, or to the pub, and the less you think, love, theorize, sing, paint, fence, etc., the more you will be able to save and the greater will become your treasure which neither moth nor rust will corrupt — your capital. Buy the jeans," to which I say "I don't know if any of you have actually read Karl Marx"

[deltarebelsandpaper]

Harry Du Bois is that you???

[bumblebeebats]

[sapphling]

talking to a queer person you just met and slowly beginning to realize they're a category 10 normie is honestly horror movie material you're just saying your funny words seeing the recognition-as-human slowly drain from their eyes feeling the violins in the score swell as it dawns on you that this person has never even interacted with an armpit in a sexual context

[wolg-fang]

0 fucking sense of irony for someone to put this tag on this post. The call is coming from inside the house dude…

[parksrway]

he makes me so happy and so profoundly sad at the same time

[initforthecache]

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