The Careful Hands That Mold Us

Dedicated to the person I was made to be

[inthevasoline]

guys what should my 10,000th post be

[inthevasoline]

im so fucking stupid

[ginger-crvsh]

i'm crying laughing this is so funny

[moosiala-deactivated20250927]

[catholicapothecary]

my one friend always told me that those who are worth connecting with will extend grace to you in the times where you didn’t speak or act perfectly so don’t be too afraid of being weird or having a social hiccup

[nonaferatu]

This would have had me crucified on tumblr 10 years ago but maybe we are ready for this conversation now:

If you are a socially anxious person, you have to socialize. Your panic/anxiety attacks will only get worse and trigger more frequently if you constantly avoid contact with The Public. Not saying that you need to be a social butterfly- but there is a genuine problem with not being able to order your own meal at a restaurant. And it cannot be solved by always having someone else do it for you.

This is a PSA to about 3/4s of the Portland Youth populace

[nonaferatu]

everyone who reblogs this and is like "I ordered my own tea this week" or "I only barfed once when I had to give a presentation'- you are doing amazing sweetie. Have patience with yourself, you are relearning a skill so difficult that people get 4 year degrees to do it professionally.

[making-friendos]

Tiny alien visits a dog park

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

[nnjrwpu]

oh goodness! oh dear!! oh no!!!

[marisatomay]

Sometimes in a professional setting you’ll come across someone in their 60s who just cannot open a PDF in their email. And the thing is. They’re lowkey not old enough to be acting like that. You guys were in your early 30s at the latest when email took off. You’ve actually been doing this for longer than I have. Get real and click on the damn attachment.

[hellsite-yano]

definitely one of the weirder DNI criteria I've come across

[extremenegativeforce-deactivate]

SLUTS

[clusterduck28]

DNI if you think that reblogging before marriage is okay

[cl4ptrap-blog]

Star Wars: The Old Republic concept art [3/?] - Alderaan and Taris

[kidzbopdeathgrips]

it's really funny how the entire world basically just blew the fuck up six short years ago and nobody wants to admit that that may have had some lasting consequences lmao

[kidzbopdeathgrips]

like so much of Everything today is premised on the idea that the earth-shattering catastrophe which happened within living memory of everyone older than a third grader has had no meaningful material or psychological effects on the general public and i don't think that's good, lol.

"(some of) the top-line economic indicators (sorta) recovered (in most places) so everything is fine and we don't need to talk about it" is not a sustainable framework for interfacing with reality

[kidzbopdeathgrips]

"why is everyone so angry and paranoid now?" "why is politics so dysfunctional now?" "why is [x] [y] and [z] now? blah blah blah"

2020:

[supreme-leader-stoat]

Recipe: "It will take about 45 minutes to caramelize onions in your oven."

[supreme-leader-stoat]

[0nkret]

Celine felt terribly guilty that Rumi had lost so much of her humanity because of her. To help her accept the changes even a little, she got a tattoo very similar to the implant on Rumi’s back (not identical—she might have stolen secret technology, but she had still signed a mountain of NDAs she fully intended to honor; she wasn’t some petty criminal, after all).

There were many tears of emotion and one overheating incident.

[isriana]

This is what my poor twi’lek smuggler must have thought when I literally drag her into every single quest I could find on the planet… :D

[maemaybe]

I don't know who my intended audience is here, so whoever needs to hear this, I am begging you to learn to participate in conversations that are about things you aren't interested in.

Part of socializing and having friends is being a good listener even when you don't actually give a shit about the subject.

Your are hurting other people's feelings when you bluntly respond with "Anyway..." and then change the topic.

It can not always be about your preferred topic.

You are being rude. Yes, even if you are neurodivergent. You can be both autistic and rude.

[takemeapartputmebacktogether]

Hey! Hi! Howdy!

Autistic mom of two autistic kiddos here. I do something with my kids called playing the good friend game. I have them ask me a question like “what did you do this weekend” and then I respond with something they don’t like ie: “I ate some sushi for dinner on Saturday! It was delicious!” Their job is to not make a gross face and not to yuck my yum. They have to ask me a follow up question! Minimum one about what I liked about the sushi or who I went with or what I ordered etc. and they have to be kind. I change up what I answer with for the initial question and for all follow ups. It’s incredible!

You can learn how to chit chat about things because you care about the people around you. Small talk is banal and boring but the people in your life are real and lovely and nuanced. Get to know them. You can do it. You’ll build relationships that last. Don’t do it for the sake of small talk. Do it because you’re deeply invested in learning how to see the people around you as whole pictures.

To be seen is to be know. And to be known is to be loved. Love the people around you and that love with come back to you.

[baygeethefirst]

That game is genius, and sounds like it could teach most of us skills we don't seem to have.

[the-davest-of-uncles]

This is good advice for everyone, and a great way to teach kids about good listening to and talking with people.

[evenmoarmastodonfartzzzzzzzzzz]

reanimatrix’s request

[reanimatrix-blog]

Here is a better version, since I don’t want to take the card out of the plastic until I have somewhere safe to put it. OMG love it so much. <3

[supreme-leader-stoat]

DNI if you've ever:

Been to Greenland

Been to Denver

Buried treasure in St. Louis (or St. Paul for that matter)

Been to Moscow

Been to Tampa

Been to Boston (only if you went during the fall, though)

Hoisted a mainstay

Swabbed a poop deck

Veered to starboard

You know what just DNI if you've ever sailed at all

Walked a gangplank

Owned a parrot (I shouldn't have to explain this one)

Been to Boston in the fall (cannot overstate this)

[edgar-allan-possum]

Okay, but what if I've never plucked a rooster and I'm not too good at ping-pong, and I've never thrown my mashed potatoes up against the wall, and I've never kissed a chipmunk and I've never gotten head lice, and I've never been to Boston in the fall?

[supreme-leader-stoat]

You're safe

[meghan-xo]

I just really fucking love the Torian romance.

[reanimatrix-blog]

My favorite romance, OMG. <3 I love him so much.