Passing Time

Things and more things. Actor/Teaching Artist/Dancer/Choreographer, Washington, D.C. Spoonie Ask box is always open.

[indiemovies]

I’m gonna show you my secret skill.

[dont-call-me-handicapable]

DOES SHE HAVE EDS?????

[notsograndadventures]

Yes! She confirmed it recently on her instagram

[part-time-pessimist]

I CAN BEND WHICH CAUSES EXTREME SEXINESS

[theintrovertnation]

[date-a-jew-suggestions]

If you would report an undocumented immigrant to ICE you would have reported me to the Nazis and I don’t fucking trust you

[prismatic-bell]

A note:

I live in a state where you “have to” report anyone you suspect of being undocumented (that wonderful hellhole of Arizona). Now in practice this law has fallen far short, thank goodness. But if you live in such a place and they start enforcing it, here is how you get around it:

Assume everyone who doesn’t speak English is visiting.

Never ask about their job, because if they tell you they work here then you know they’re not visiting. You see them a lot for several weeks or months? Hm. Someone in the family must be ill. That’s terribly tough. They always dress in old, ratty laborers’ clothes? I feel you, my dude, I can’t afford new clothes either, and my dad has the fashion sense of an aardvark, so sometimes it’s not even about “affording” them. They say they’ve been here for years? You must have misunderstood. Spanish isn’t your first language, after all. First and last name? It never came up, or you don’t recall–you meet a lot of people.

And then, if you’re asked: no, you haven’t seen anyone residing illegally in the United States. Just people visiting.

[date-a-jew-suggestions]

Very good very important addition

[appropriately-inappropriate]

Essentially, this is the civil society version of a work-to-rule strike.

Don’t do more than is expressly asked of you, and do what you are asked with such an intense attention to protocol that not asking you at all becomes more effective than even bothering.

In this case:

“Have you seen an illegal immigrant?”

“Could you describe an illegal immigrant, officer?”

*officer describes a person who is in the country without appropriate paperwork, or who has crossed the border illegally*

“No, sir, I haven’t seen any illegal immigrant.”

And this is correct. You have NOT seen an illegal immigrant, because you have no way of knowing if Jose Fulano is here legally or not. And since you can’t see his paperwork (or lack thereof), and did not personally see him cross the border illegally, you are only answering precisely the question asked.

[dancingwiththelostboys]

I’m not American, and I have like, three followers, but this is important.

[thelawfulchaotic]

So, I’m a lawyer, who deals with immigration though does not specialize in it. But here’s the thing(s): 

1) Even someone who’s working could be here on a migrant (or other sort of) visa (hey, there are a few thousand per year, and *someone*’s got to get them, right?) or could be waiting for their case to resolve in immigration court, after having come to America to join a born or naturalized American family member. 

2) Even people who are working improperly could have come into the country legally – and just overstayed their visa or be violating the conditions of their visa, and you have no idea what the niggly little regulations that govern that might be. 

3) If a law enforcement officer asks you about a neighbor/friend/etc., take this moment to remind them that, unlike them, you cannot ask a random person off the street for their ID and be entitled to a response. 

4) Even if someone has told you that they are undocumented, you still don’t know, do you? Humans lie all the time. How could you know for sure? You can’t, because they can’t prove that they have a lack of papers. Just because you haven’t seen papers doesn’t mean they don’t exist! 

5) Don’t ever talk to cops in general. Why are you talking to a cop? Stop that, as soon as it is safe and feasible. 

Love,

a very tired public defender

[feministism]

[madamsledge-deactivated20200802]

Never have I ever reblogged something so fast and wholeheartedly BE A BITCH IF IT MEANS BEING SAFE, THEY AIN’T WORTH IT

[kaburn]

I don’t know, sometimes I still just don’t want to be alive.

[blackqueerblog]

being aware of the impact of things we can often not think about (like straws) is important if we’re to make strides on environmental preservation 

that does not eclipse the importance of being aware of how it impacts disabled people. they’re both conversations we need to have

[heyatleastitsnotcancer]

[heyatleastitsnotcancer]

Selma Blair rocked a cane at the Oscar’s and I am so damn proud of the representation. She’s kicking ass for her first public appearance since her MS diagnosis.

[dailyrothko]

Mark Rothko, Untitled, 1960

Oil on canvas

Overall: 79 ½ × 69 ¼ in. (201.93 × 175.9 cm)

Virginia Museum of Fine Arts

© 1998 Kate Rothko Prizel & Christopher Rothko/Artists Rights Society (ARS)

[millennial-review-deactivated20]

[drunkenhills]

I was waiting for the night bus at 1am the other night, eating fries, when a dude, high as fuck, tried to harass me. It took several “I don’t want to talk to you, please go away” for him to finally move, but I think it helped that another man was giving him the death stare and clicking his tongue at him. He then checked I was okay and whether I knew the guy or not. Good dude.

Shout out also the man who silently switched places with me on another night bus to be a buffer between me and a guy who had threatened me. Thank you

[dancinginthecenteroftheworld]

Men: this here? This here is what you need to be doing as allies. The men who harass and insult women are not likely to take our complaints about it seriously. But you, another man, they will listen to. 

[glass-kirin]

I was pumping gas at like 10 PM one night, and these bunch of drunk guys came walking up to the gas station, and one of them yelled over to me if I wanted to see his dick.  His friend says to him, “You don’t have anything she wants to see.” and apologized.  It was pretty awesome.

[bringmethehorizonandpizza-deact]

this is all we want from men. to recognize the wrongs done by other men, and acknowledge it. not give us shitass defense like, “not all men do that”

[levynite]

this is proper chivalry

[gingerly-writing]

no negativity this year we love ourselves like supervillains

[unit04-deactivated20160702]

[high-lord-of-bumbles-deactivate]

Rob Zombie confirmed for coll fuckin’ guy

[retrocatte]

[high-lord-of-bumbles-deactivate]

ROB ZOMBIE CONFIRMED FOR COOLEST FUCKING GUY

[akitchenwitch]

i love that Rob Zombie is now Baby Metal’s badass protective grandpa 

[murin-cryptique]

Are they actually trying to gatekeep metal from Rob fucking Zombie? Go cry some more, here’s Babymetal with Abbath.

[sciencebranchblues-deactivated2]

Rammstein accepted Babymetal as one of their own, that’s good enough for me.

[hella-lugosi]

Babymetal with Rob Halford

[kagetsukai]

Baby Metal is fantastic. You can die mad about it.

[overpricedvodka]

Reasons why Millennials prefer e-mail to phone in a work environment:

1) We don’t want to talk to you.

2) We don’t want to pause our music to talk to you.

3) We don’t even talk to each other on the phone — why would we want to talk to you?

But the biggest reason is A TRAIL. If I e-mail you back, you can see what was said in the future. You can’t tell me I forgot to tell you something because it’s right there. You can’t tell me I “never reached out” because we can both SEE it. I don’t have to trust your recollection.

And, in a group inbox, you can see who has been responded to. I got forwarded a voicemail from my supervisor (through e-mail! imagine that!) asking me to call some lady back for clarification. So I did, against my will of course…and she said somebody had called her yesterday.

Who? When? What did y’all talk about? Is follow-up necessary?

Phone calls back and forth only work in a workflow where the standard procedure is to *log* phone calls in a shared system with a brief summary of what was discussed. Otherwise, y’all need to let us e-mail. It’s not just about a generation gap. It’s also about efficiency.

Thanks for coming to my TED Talk. Any feedback can be proffered via e-mail.

EDIT

Also: let’s keep it real – we multi-task better than you do. If I’m on the phone with you, I’m FORCED to do that ONE thing and put whatever you want above all the other things I could’ve been doing. If you e-mail me, I can research what you want (while doing other things), find the solution (while doing other things), and offer it to you in a nice concise package (while doing other things) without sitting on the phone with you in awkward silence looking for the answer to whatever you think is urgent. (It’s not urgent. You’re not dying. I know it’s not urgent.)

[anais-ninja-bitch]

OP is being kind in saying “i don’t have to trust your recollection.” people straight up lie, especially customers.

[spoonie-living]

Self care... to defeat the Nazis!

Sometimes an extrinsic cause can light the fire under you way better than concerns about personal well-being. Today we share, with permission, Teshale Nuer’s viral Facebook post on finding motivation for self care:

I am not a firm believer in self-care; the idea of ‘taking care of me’ isn’t a mental shortcut that I have ever found productive. But recently, in my constant quest to be the #BestVersionofMe™ I have added the suffix -to defeat the Nazis, to everything I do.

Tonight, I must get enough sleep, to have the energy -to defeat the Nazis. I must eat well, to keep my body healthy -to defeat the Nazis.   I must manage addictive processes, go to therapy, see the sunshine, smile at babies, give strangers directions,  foster positive interactions, repair burned bridges, take deep breaths, go to doctor’s appointments, donate my time, meditate, teach, be creative, make love etc etc.. all JUST to defeat the nazis.

I don’t know if this is a helpful tool for you, but for today and every day- every single thing you do, whether it is taking a vitamin or listening to a song, napping on the train or coming twice today- it can be and it MUST be an intentional movement towards overthrowing, dismantling and destroying every single fucking Nazi.

Remember, your existence is resistance.

[oscarwildeboytoy-deactivated201]

Hey, unpopular opinion, apparently. But people don’t just “have pain for no reason” doctors say this all the time (especially to women and chronically ill people) and the truth is, Thats literally not possible. Even if your pains are psychosomatic (a word I hesitate to even use because of the way its used so often) there is a reason you are having those pains whether its mental illness, abuse, etc. If your doctor consistently tells you that “well some people just have pain for no reason” get a new doctor. That’s a doctor who is not going to give a shit what your actual symptoms or experiences are.

[kamorth]

I just wanna add to clarify the psychosomatic thing.

That word DOES NOT MEAN you’re making it up. It doesn’t mean you’re imagining the symptom. What it means is that the symptom ISN’T DIRECTLY CAUSED BY ANY OF THE THINGS THAT WOULD NORMALLY CAUSE IT.

I fought to get a PCOS diagnosis for 2 and a half years. For the ENTIRE time I was fighting, I was dealing with 3 cysts that were not going away by themselves and eventually required surgery to remove. At one point close to the end of the battle, I suddenly went blind. I was visiting my parents and was standing on the veranda looking out over the tree we had planted in memory of my dog and suddenly I got one of the shooting pains that I was quite frankly used to at that point and my vision started to go dark. It was like the sun was setting while being completely hidden behind storm clouds but it was 2pm in the middle of Summer on a clear day. Within about 30 seconds I couldn’t see ANYTHING. I was 27 years old and I was screaming for my mother.

My mum raced me to her doctor (he was a 15 minute drive away as opposed to 45 minutes to the nearest hospital) and he quickly worked out that there was nothing wrong with my eyes and what had happened was totally unrelated to them. Then he said it was psychosomatic and I freaked out, yelling that I was NOT making this up and I definitely wasn’t imagining it. Very quickly he calmed me down and said he believed me and I had misunderstood. He explained that whatever was going on with my abdominal pains (he suggested PCOS which I hadn’t even heard of at that point) had been ignored for so long that my body was starting to do things other than the normal pain response to try to draw my attention to the problem. My sight going was my body basically jumping around in front of me going “HEY ARE YOU EVEN LISTENING TO ME HELLLOOOOOOO??????”

He gave me some prescription strength painkillers and my sight started to come back as soon as they started to kick in. About 45 minutes after it started I could see well enough to walk around without help and within a day and a half I was back to normal. On top of that I finally had a scan booked to figure out what the hell was causing all the pain.

Psychosomatic symptoms are NOT imagined or fabricated or happening for “no reason”. Experiencing them DOES NOT make you a liar. It makes you someone who has been battling with something serious for so long that your own body has started to get impatient with you.

[oscarwildeboytoy-deactivated201]

I completely agree. Thank you for sharing this.

[antique-scarecrow]

Psychosomatic symptoms are literally your body flipping random alarm switches just to get any alarm blaring because you’ve been ignoring the regular ones

[winter-hoof]

That is a potty mouthed cat 

[humorstaff]

Teach me how to walk so graceful like this , I could never

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

i was gonna ask if the thong was really necessary, but then i realized it’s none of my business and he looks so happy and glowing

[inscrutablereynard]

the thong is 1000% necessary

[yachirobi]

Sometimes the manliest thing you can do is be femme.

And his back. SCULPTED. WOOF.

[eloquentlyunscathed]

He gotta be related to Rihanna

[callmebliss]

He swish He strut He work that sculpted butt