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OK YOU GOT ME I DID HAVE THEM KISS

as a tme person with a transfeminine sister it is extremely clear to me that we absolutely do not have an equivalent experience.

she did not experience "male socialization." when i look back on our childhood, it is easy to understand that there was no privilege to that concept. she was forced to try and shrink herself into the shape of a man, and was abused when she didn't succeed at playing the part. being "raised as a boy" only highlighted the stark incongruity between what was expected of her and what she was. this repeatedly led to her facing violence.

and to be clear i genuinely don't care if you think a rude comment from an exasperated trans woman online is as equally bad as the literal risk of her being murdered when she walks outside. this is not a competition, being the most visible is not a prize. i genuinely fear for my sister's life.

squidfeets

the understanding that I would be immediately, irreversibly marked for a lifetime of misogyny and hostility chilled me out of pursuing transition for years, and I'm not the only woman I know who has said the same. we are well aware of what we're getting into and we know it's not something that can ever be undone. we've seen all our lives how poorly women (and especially trans woman) are treated. but we are women, so our choice is to accept the reality of womanhood or die. painting us as naively grasping at a surface-level idea of womanhood denies our interiority as people and our existence as women.

no feminism can truly fight misogyny while erasing us.

folly-of-alexandria

Today a random clip of a F1nn5ter Q&A stream found its way into my feed.

Someone asked F1nn why it was that on her larger branded social media accounts she still listed herself as a femboy in some places while in more intracommunity spaces she more readily and comfortably identified as transfem.

Now, depending on who you ask that kind of question to you'll probably get a meandering answer on the complexities of how one defines their own identity. But instead F1nn gave a very quick and simple answer.

She gets less death threats or other general threats of violence from people when she calls herself a femboy vs calling herself transfem. It wasn't any deeper than that, and some people in her audience understood that, while others were confused that femboys were more palatable to cis people than transfems.

folly-of-alexandria

Another Clip of F1nn made its way across my feed today, she she mentioned a little bit more on the difference on being known as a Transfem streamer vs her old Femboy days.

"As soon as I came out as trans, it felt like everyone was an asshole and I had to adapt to it again...I don't know, people just don't like it if you're not [just] some funny guy."

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It was kind of incredible and sickening to witness how the wider internet shifted its opinion on F1nn when she came out. I went from seeing clips of her everywhere, to seeing clips of her talking about coming out, to not seeing anything. Soon after all I'm seeing about F1nn is that she's problematic, stupid drama being spread around for no reason. Even other transfems flipped on her, criticizing everything she does, saying she's bad for the community because she's a sex worker and other bullshit. She set up a thing to try and help people in the UK get hormones and somehow got hate from trans people about it. (I haven't looked into it that much, I could not care less what's happening on those islands.)

I've talked about it before but F1nn5ter is a pretty textbook example of how trans women are hated more than "femboys" and how even other trans women can be transmisogynistic to those they deem valid targets.

folly-of-alexandria

A Few Transmisogynistic Things I've seen in the last two years:

One of the "Former TERF" Transmascs who came up with Transandrophobia theory has dropped the former part, detransitioned, and is also now an avowed Nazi. Followers of the ideology claim that this is a non-issue on how they view the ideology.

Two separate transmascs and one cis woman "ally" made videos lolcowing "acceptable target" transfems.

One of the most prominent serial harassers of Trans women on this site was outed as a Kiwifarms user and fully bought into the Pizza-gate conspiracy. Many people who participated in the campaigns they ran are saying "Well I'm certain they were right about the ones I harassed."

Tumblr Staff's Rate of banning trans women reached a mass so noticeable that it made news. Tumblr claims that this was in error, but has continued to ban at the same rate, and hopes everyone forgets that they were previously sued (and settled) for anti-LGBTQ bias in its moderation, confessed to having moderators taking bribes to ban targeted users, and its own CEO stalked a trans woman across multiple social media sites.

Men (both cis and trans) unironically state with their full chest that the basic assertions of transfeminism are Misandry and harass trans women about this.

inked-ir1s

he said so

kuro-ye

himejoshikomaeda

it really pisses me off bad that professional english translators seem to think so consistently that not only can they write a better story than whatever they're translating, but that it is their right and privilege to subject you to their dogshit writing instead of making any attempt to actually convey what the original fucking text says

himejoshikomaeda

motherfuckers are changing characters' personalities. for real who do you think you are

pomarrillo

looked at so many photos of people hugging cows for this one

ardbert my goat

alfa-papa

categorical-abstract-ml-blog

ok but if you go to the actual article the person was buried with women’s accessories and in the manner reserved for women and from that they decided it must be a gay man which is sort of hilarious

rainbowobsidianbutterfly

So basically what you have here is a skeleton of someone that we’d assign CAMAB in modern, binarist colonial societies

being presented with accoutrements and signs of social recognition that are legible to us in said societies as “female” due to their association with skeletons we’d parse as CAFAB in the same cultural tradition

and the take is “it’s a gay man”

And yet people don’t wanna listen when you point out that part of transmisogyny is assuming that trans women are just weird men

like people just don’t think that’s a thing or the statement bounces off because they literally can’t see how it could be otherwise

supernovasolace

I'm not okay. Took a mental health day to do my part and make some art about it. No matter the opposition, we won't be erased. A world without trans people has never existed, and it never will! 🏳️‍⚧️

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