kayabeans

non-binary solarpunk /n she/it /n https://kayadoestyp.ing/pages/me

[khbsd]

someone please take away my keyboard dude im so fucking serious

[direhyenawoman-infinitebitestyle]

ejaculates a thank you nut to show my gratitude

[maidslime]

I need mentally ill trans girls out there to know they're loved, I need physically disabled trans girls out there to know they're loved. I know every day can feel like you're a burden and terrible, but you're loved and wanted, you are not a burden and even if you were we want to carry that burden.

[maidslime]

No more waiting, no more debating, go get your hrt. "I don't know if I'm really trans!" You are. Now go. "I'm scared!" We all were. Now go. "There's a long wait to be seen!" Go get your name on the list then. DIY if you need. "What if my friends don't accept me?" They weren't really your friends. Now go. "What if my spouse doesn't accept me?" Get a divorce. Now go. You do not need to continue to live in agony and depression to pretend to be someone else. Go get your hrt.

[puppetofall]

hi everyone.. its puppet again. its its 7th time getting terminated in two days. its so fucking tired. it just wants to play and make friends it never did anything to make noise..

its a homeless and disabled trans woman, this place is all it has, paypal here. puppet loves you until the end. please reblog to help

[waytoomuchinformation]

why the fuck are you teaching kids while wearing a chastity cage key around your neck. like not to sound like a purist but that *is* weird.

I’m not teaching kids lol

I am a fitness instructor for adults and if I’m wearing a chastity cage key it’s either under my shirt so no one can see it or in my damn pocket if I’m wearing a shirt I can’t have it under.

Also, you do sound like a purist prude. The person actually in chastity isn’t there, no one is seeing their cage and lots of people wear all kinds of keys as necklace pendants and you’d have to really be in the know to KNOW.

Get your panties out of a bunch. You’re not saving anyone with this kind of puritanical view point you’re just trying to alienate a queer kinkster.

[waytoomuchinformation]

Okay, I cannot yet move on from this ridiculous anon question.

I may have some alarming news for you.

MANY people are wearing things related to their fetishes EVERY DAY. Everywhere. With their own kids, around other kids, and everywhere tbh. That doesn’t mean they are interacting with those children or people as part of their fetish. People can and do compartmentalize ALL THE TIME.

Do you think women with a panty fetish shouldn’t wear panties while otherwise fully clothed around kids? Should men with a panty fetish not wear panties while otherwise fully clothed around kids?

If you said “no that’s fine” to the first one but “ew of course not” to the second one you’re not actually thinking about protecting kids, you’re actually just pushing puritanical viewpoints that have been used to oppress queer and kinky people for decades.

Most grown ass kinky adults can register that yes this piece of my fetish is on me, or with me or in full view of me *cough* shoe fetishists *cough* without imposing that on others around them.

[waytoomuchinformation]

And another thing, I AM weird. I do weird things. Weirdness does not cause harm.

Dear anon, look within at your basic ass way of looking at the world and realize that we are much more complex and nuanced beings than you’re making us out to be with this viewpoint.

[covington-shenanigans]

okay you know what i've already reblogged this once but i have more to say. even if OP was teaching kids and they saw her key necklace, so fucking what? the most likely scenario would go something like this:

kid: "what's your necklace?"

op: "it's a key!"

kid: "why are you wearing a key necklace?"

op: "because I like it!" OR "because it's pretty to me!" OR "because someone special gave it to me!" OR "I just like keys!" OR "it's the key to something I own and I don't want to lose it!" OR literally whatever other answer she wants to give, because she's kinky, not creepy, and is presumably smart enough to give an age-appropriate answer that will satisfy the kid's curiosity without revealing her adult private life to a 5-year-old

kid: "oh okay!" *goes off to play*

kink does not equal abuse. existing as a kinky adult around children does not equal abuse. wearing something related to your fetish around children does not equal abuse.

christ alive. if you can handle the concept of grown adults doing any activity that is not for children, you can handle this. I super prommy. just because you, idk, skydive with other adults on weekends and wear a t-shirt about skydiving around a child does not mean you're in favor of throwing that child out of a fucking airplane. jfc

please be serious, you fucking losers. stop pearl-clutching long enough to recognize how weird you're being about someone else's life and do anything to get a life of your own.

[pokeballvictimized]

i wonder if i'll still have a blog tomorrow when i wake up!!!! it looks like posts are getting deleted right off my blog so idkkkkkkkkkkkk

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

well that didn't take long, less than an hour. @staff do you wonder why we loathe you?

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

please note that none of you would have seen this if I hadn't reblogged it because I believed her. can you please believe me that it happens so much more often than you hear about? the only rare thing here is that it's too obvious to miss.

[harpsi-corpse]

The cards see all.

[ceruleanheaven]

month starting on a monday we have no excuse guys lets get to work and lock the fuck in

[ceruleanheaven]

yk its actually very chic and avant garde to start on tuesday the second

[ceruleanheaven]

many claim theres nothing more subversive and revolutionary than starting on wednesday the third

[felysha]

Jonathan Joss was an Indigenous, gay man who was murdered on the first day of Pride month as well as Indigenous History Month. He died protecting his trans husband. Homophobia and racism aren’t marks of the past, and this is a heart breaking reminder of that.

Praying for a safe journey back to the spirit world, Uncle ❤️‍🩹🦅

[felysha]

Today is the anniversary of the death of Jonathan Joss (King of the Hill, Parks and Rec). Jonathan Joss was an Indigenous, gay man who died protecting his transgender husband, on the first day of Pride month. Today we remember him and how he protected his family.

[orteil42]

given the current climate this pride especially i feel i must mention that i love my trans friends, i stand with trans people in the fight against transphobic legislation and those who would enforce it, and this blog is not a good place for you to be if you do not vibe with that

[nonaferatu]

people hate it when i say "black people getting cancer is racist" but im literally fucking right because systemic racism has led to chemical dumping being acceptable in black/brown neighborhoods and black people have higher rates of cancer as a result

[transgenderwerewolfautism]

For years there was literally a giant pile of used car tires just casually sitting in one of Dallas' Black neighborhoods and the city kept refusing to come get them for so long that people started developing respiratory issues just from having to live near it. Those people will almost definitely go the rest of their lives w/ a heightened risk of developing specific cancers.

[storyweavingspider]

I met more <50y/o Black women who actively had, survived, or regained cancer, within a year of living in one of the poorest neighborhoods of DC, than I did the rest of my time in living in/around DC.

[jingerpi]

"reblog to give a trans woman soup"

- 144k notes

"trans women experience misogyny because they're women"

- you are now on a blocklist

[mousidy]

a lot of my disillusionment with the trans "community" comes down to the fact that too many of you take "gender is different from sex" and go "ah ok, so instead of saying women are fragile and men are strong, I should say afabs are fragile and amabs are strong. to be Inclusive"

then you just treat gender like a surface level aesthetic draped over what someone "actually" is. really is indistinguishable from terf rhetoric

[mousidy]

you all need to unpack your bioessentialism, but we also need a better theory of gender than "it's just dressup." I will pick my words carefully here, but the word "gender" itself refers to so many different phenomena that have been lumped together, and we need to un-lump them

[mousidy]

in a feminist context, "gender" has historically referred to externally imposed categorization and the internalization and performance of said categories. in a paper I wrote on this subject, I called this sense of the word "extrinsic gender"

"intrinsic gender," on the other hand, is what I used to refer to the sense of the word "gender" that a lot of trans people are talking about when they discuss social gender dysphoria and euphoria. it's the internal sense of category that's resistant to external impositions

but then we also use the word "gender" to refer to subconscious sex, which is the term Julia Serano coins in Whipping Girl to name the phenomenon we're talking about when we talk about bodily dysphoria. it is the "gender" being "affirmed" by gender affirming healthcare like HRT and bottom surgery

so, "gender" is: a social classing system, a performance, and at least two internal phenomena as well. and I really don't know if it's doing us a service to conflate all of these things!

[mousidy]

a lot of people lately seem to be going heavy on the "performance" use of the word, ignoring (intentionally or otherwise) social classing, intrinsic gender, and subconscious sex. this seems to have led to a lot of "progressive" people treating trans women like men "amabs" who wear womanhood as a costume, and nobody understands why that's wrong because they also think gender is just a performance

[mousidy]

see also "why can't you just be a femboy/feminine man/etc"

[mousidy]

furthermore, some trans people experience social dysphoria but not bodily dysphoria, and vice versa. but bodily dysphoria in particular has gained some stigma in the last few years

because we use the word "gender" to discuss both "intrinsic gender" as I termed it above, and subconscious sex, there's been a certain strain of argument from some trans people that says that medical transition reaffirms societal gender norms about bodies, and that bodily dysphoria must only result from externally imposed norms about what kind of body corresponds to what gender, and thus it would just go away if the gendered associations were unlearned

I'm strongly of the opinion, though, that our bodies are not like clothes! gender dysphoria related to clothing would generally have to do with one's intrinsic gender clashing with the gendered norms of their culture surrounding clothes, but I believe "gender" dysphoria related to the body itself is really, in large part, subconscious sex dysphoria, and this component cannot be alleviated by changing norms or associations. I strongly believe I would still seek HRT and bottom surgery if I lived my whole life in a cultureless vacuum

you cannot sidestep my dysphoria by regendering parts of my body I'm trying to change, and frankly it causes me a lot of strife that fellow trans people who flirt with me think they can talk about my body however they like as long as they gender it correctly. the word "girlcock" is not a magic dysphoria repellent, because the dysphoria doesn't just come from the gendering

[transcendingirl]

I think it is incredibly interesting how much Butler had to push back on gender as consumer good - and how perfectly this aligns with Serano. Dare I be cynical, I'd say liberal feminism took what it could sell from Butler, and we see the consequences of this in Serano's indictment.

“Performativity has to do with repetition, very often the repetition of oppressive and painful gender norms to force them to resignify. This is not freedom, but a question of how to work the trap that one is inevitably in.” - Kotz, Liz;Butler, Judith, “The Body You Want: Liz Kotz Interviews Judith Butler”, in: Artforum 31/3, 1992, p. 82 - 89, p. 84.

"They seem empowered by the way these sayings give the impression that gender is merely a fiction. A facade. A figment of our imaginations. And of course, this is a convenient strategy, provided that you’re not a trans woman who lacks the means to change her legal sex to female, and who thus runs the very real risk of being locked up in an all-male jail cell. [...] It’s easy to fictionalize an issue when you are not fully in touch with all of the ways in which you are privileged by it. Almost every day of my life I deal with people who insist on seeing my femaleness as fake. [...] Because I’m transsexual, I am sometimes accused of impersonation or deception when I am simply being myself. So it seems to me that this strategy of fictionalizing gender will only ever serve to marginalize me further." - Serano, Julia, Excluded. Making Feminist and Queer Movements More Inclusive, California: Seal Press 2013, p. 106f.

[confirmedlesbian]

i love u black and latina lesbians

[thedreamthieves]

i think one of the worst things the left wing internet ever did was push the idea that oppression is basically a virtue, and being oppressed is a sign of your morality. it has made it like…impossible for some of you to hold the idea that most people are privileged in some ways and oppressed in others. AND a lot of you seem to have it in your mind that terrible people cannot be oppressed, and that oppressed people cannot do terrible things, which is a dangerous rhetoric to hold imo.

[irish-american-chan]

The Summertime Is A Little Different From The Normaltime

[irish-american-chan]

Did You Know Clovers Theyre Doing This Kind Of Thing Nowadays