Don't be Scared to be a Bitch 🖤🖤🖤

"When you are accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression"

[nansheonearth]

Sometimes I think about how gendered education is discouraged because boys do worse in all boys settings. Girls do better in all girls schools. Coed education is encouraged so that girls can be used as a buffer to bring up boys scores.

Sometimes I think about how men are the majority of killers of women. But men are also the majority of killers of men.

Sometimes I connect these two thoughts.

[bicreature]

[female-malice]

Don't come for women's sports! Female athletes aren't about to give up everything they've fought for!

[normalfeminist]

'The father contributed half of the genes to the fetus so he should have a say in keeping it or aborting 🥺'

Is he also going to do 50% of the pregnancy? Half of giving birth? Hell, you know he won't even do half of the child rearing so shut up!

[ronedob-deactivated20220805]

thinking about how many serial killers targeted prostitutes probably not because they had a specific hatred of them like so many people hypothesize but because they hated women in general and prostitutes were the only women who didn’t have the choice to stay away from them

[tobedltdsoon]

Does anyone else get kinda skeptical when they hear a trans person talking about “knowing they were a (gender) since they were 3/4/5?”

It isn’t just because I believe memories are vague at that time. It’s also because it’s hard to act like a child that young (especially a 3/4 year old, before entering proper schooling) has some sort of greater awareness of gender roles in society, or that they would restrict themselves to “I want to be a boy/girl” so much. I wanted to be a unicorn at around that age. My brother wanted to be a helicopter. Whilst I would still argue that’s an example of gender role socialisation, there really isn’t much of a difference between boys and girls at that age. Physically, it’s just hair and clothes. And I’m glad to see more parents dressing their daughters in practical clothes.

This is why I’m so curious about what it would truly be like to live in a society free of gender roles. What if your parents had just let you wear the dress, or play with the truck, and didn’t act like it was weird? What then?

[justsomeguycore]

also while i’m ranting about gender i always see debate about whether girls are rewarded for being tomboys or not and it’s like. actually girls are rewarded for mirroring whatever the situation demands of them. girls can’t be too prissy and refuse to play in the creek, but girls also can’t show up to girly events covered in mud. girls can’t have makeup art as a hobby or else they’re superficial, but if they never wear makeup they’re a slob and dumpy, etc. it’s not that girls are universally rewarded or punished for being tomboys, they’re rewarded for bending over backwards to always be exactly right for any given situation and punished for breaking those boundaries. so yes a classically pretty girl who cleans up nice is rewarded when she can ALSO be a tomboy. but a girl who is a tomboy all the time is definitely punished for never being able to achieve that prerequisite feminine side. this debate is over now thanks

[lousyfuckingratboy]

this is spot on. A woman's masculinity is rewarded as long as it doesn't conflict with being heteronormatively attractive and as long as the masculinity plays harmonising second fiddle to the masculinity of the men around her.

[stripedroseandsketchpads]

Essentially the goalposts for girls and women move situationally and based on who wants what because at the end of the day under patriarchy the only correct female presentation/behavior is “what is demanded of her/obedience”

[marbleguard]

An older woman I met at college (she was a non traditional student) is named Karen & she recently told me she’s decided not to use her real name anymore when in public or interacting with young people. For example, she told me how she went to pick up her order at a fast food place and when the employee called “order for Karen” the dipshit zoomer behind the counter started stifling laughter and the rest of the zoomer employees came to peek around the corner to look at her and giggle for no other reason than she is unfortunate enough to have a name that has become a misogynistic meme.

I’ll ask again, why is there no male equivalent to the Karen insult? Why are there not a bunch of men named, like, Dave, who get mocked so much they decide to use a fake name?

[marbleguard]

Please contact me when the Kyle meme becomes so widespread and insulting that men named Kyle are changing their names just to be taken seriously

[kielots]

interesting how the r/menrights sub is full of men basically saying "actually women aren’t oppressed" instead of actually talking about issues that… deal with men. it's only further proving men don’t have any actual issues if all they do is bitch about women

[theradicalbutch]

Exactly. They don’t care about trying to fix men’s problems, they just think that women should have less rights.

[bestyouuniveristy]

Abusers be like:

How dare you ruin my reputation by telling people things I did and said.

[bitterbadfem-harpy]

Now they can sue you for monetary damages

[whenwomenrefuse]

According to the police report, the girl’s mother brought the child to the apartment complex to do a woman’s hair.

The report said a man made an advance on another woman, got into an altercation, and opened fire into a car with the child and her mother inside.

“He can’t handle his rage. He can’t handle his anger,” parent Dineshia Smith said.

“You know that little girl is fighting for her life right now just because a young man doesn’t know how to take rejection,” Sledge said

[thentheysaidburnher]

Oh he handled his rage exactly how he wanted to. It was not out of control. It was very well controlled. He did not shoot a random child or himself, and because he didn’t want to. He controlled his rage and aimed it at the daughter of the woman he felt entitled to. It was not the rejection that hurt the girl. It was the man. The man decided the punishment for disobedience was the death (which was his intent if not yet the outcome) of the most loved person to this woman.

This is not a loss of control. This is exacting control.

And this is a perfect example of how all men benefit from women’s reinforced fear of being hurt, or having their loved ones hurt, if they say no. Now this attempted murder has entered our collective consciousness, and women will hesitate a little longer, cringe back their instinct to resist, and acquiesce when a man pressures her, because the punishment for saying no is having your daughter shot. This is how patriarchy functions as terrorism.

[wahtdahel-blog]

Women. Need. To. Stand. With. Each. Other.

[gahdamnpunk]

This gave me nausea..

[demi-terf-deactivated20231203]

“She’s a person”

“No, she’s a girl.”

[madolecence]

People act confused when we say men don’t see women as human beings and yet here they are, saying it word for fucking word.

[ihatemenandtherearereasons]

Exhibit 969

[radfem-is-rad]

You won’t se me defending Islam any time soon

[killtheteendream]

Pig didn’t even wait a week to jump on the bandwagon

[hymn-of-the-moon]

For those who don’t know (bcuz Jolie has tried to keep very quiet about it), Angelina Jolie is in a custody battle with Brad Pitt amidst their divorce, and cites claims of both child abuse and domestic violence in court. Her oldest son has testified against Pitt in court and is changing his surname to just “Jolie”. It was for him that the DCF was called on a child welfare incident after a reportedly drunk Pitt allegedly attacked the teen on the family’s private plane on September 14, 2016. Angelina filed for divorce on September 19, 2016.

So now Angelina Jolie sold her shares of the wine company (with court approval in 2021) and he is trying to sue her for damages and to nullify the sale on grounds of “breach of implied covenant of good faith and fair dealing” (and other nonsense) because she’s “forcing him to work with a stranger” which is somehow malicious.

Lo and behold, days after we were warned the Depp-Heard trial would open up the floodgates for abusers to easily harass their survivors with litigation abuse, an adored A-list actress & humanitarian is facing the same playbook–right down to the online harassment and vilification.

[genderisareligion]

[antilla-dean]

I spend a fair amount of time teaching women to kick men in the balls, and I’ve learned that this activity tends to generate controversy. Here, according to actual adults who have actually said these things to me, are some reasons you should not kick a guy in the balls:

1. It will make him angry.

I should hope so. I’m not sending him a friend request. If I kick him hard enough, there’s a good chance I’ll render him unable to act upon his anger. That’s my goal. His feelings are his problem.

2. It will make him hurt you worse.

Statistics say otherwise. And anyway, he’s already demonstrated his desire to hurt me. Why should I give him carte blanche to decide how much he’s going to hurt me? I’d rather be an active participant in that decision-making process.

3. Groin kicks aren’t really that devastating; I’ve seen lots of guys get hit in the balls and it hardly fazed them.

This response (almost universally from men) is so common I’ve come to think of it as “groinsplaining”—you can see it many of the YouTube comments in the videos linked above. These people rarely volunteer to demonstrate their own iron balls in a real kicking situation, but they confidently assert that men in general can shrug off all kinds of damage to the groin. All I can say is, I’ve seen two-year-olds take down grown men via the groin, and toddlers don’t even have any training. I do. I like my odds.

4. We shouldn’t be teaching people how to kick men in the balls; we should be teaching men not to do anything that would make us have to kick them in the balls.

Hey, that’s a great idea! Do you have a detailed, research-based plan for teaching all men everywhere to behave themselves all the time? And do you have funding for your efforts, and buy-in from politicians and community leaders, and a network of trained, experienced instructors who can effect this change? If not, better get started on your grant proposal. In the meantime, I’ll just be over here teaching people how to kick guys in the balls. That’s what I do.

5. Telling people they should kick an assailant in the balls is the same as telling victims who didn’t kick their assailant in the balls that they did something wrong.

No, it isn’t. It’s a practical way to reduce the number of future victims by giving them more viable options to disrupt and survive an assault.

Fact: We have the power to damage the bodies of men who try to hurt us. You’re saying we shouldn’t let people use that power. I’m offering people more choices; you’re trying to take them away.

6. Kicking a guy in the balls just makes the world a more violent place.

Maybe, in the short term. But if it stops him from killing someone, or putting them in the hospital, isn’t that a net win for non-violence? The Dalai Lama thinks so.

One in four women will have good reason to kick a guy in the balls at some point in her life. Luckily, it’s not rocket science. Anyone can do it! And ball-kicking’s efficacy is beyond dispute, as the men of MMA so nobly helped us illustrate here. Gentlemen, if any of you are reading this, and conscious: Cheers, and get well soon (the non-wife-beaters among you, anyway).

[appropriately-inappropriate]

AIA REPORTING FOR DUTY

okay, so!

There is a trick to it. You do NOT want to soccer kick the dude because that’s a little projectile aiming at a littler target.

It’ll do in a pinch, and it’ll hurt, but it won’t incapacitate, which is what you want. You don’t want “ouch!” Or even “FUCK!”

You want him puking on the floor, and this is how we do:

There’s two ranges where a groin kick works: close and mid-range.

Say someone grabs you face to face, or pins you to the wall, and your hands are blocked. Now you’re close-range. What do you do? You come in closer, as close as you can, and with every ounce of adrenaline and aggression in your body, you do a can-can kick.

You know the first step in the can-can, where you raise your knee up as high as it’ll go as strong as you can?

Do that, as hard as you can, repeatedly.

If that doesn’t work, here’s the alternative. You’re going to take your hand, grasp between the thighs underhand. Its going to feel like you’re “cradling” the testicles. Dig your fingertips into the fragile skin BEHIND the scrotum. Then, once you have a good grip, you turn your hand into a vise, with your fingers digging inwards to the material. If you do it right, you should feel the testes INSIDE the scrotum. You want, whenever possible, to hook your fingers under them.

Then, with your hands in a claw and your fingertips latched behind the testes, you turn your hand sharply, as though you were turning a doorknob. Simultaneously, haul your elbow back and up as hard as you can.

If done properly, this technique can tear the scrotal tissue, and done with enough force, can tear the testes out of your attacker’s body.

No matter HOW pissed he is, he’s gonna drop. I’ve tried this technique on guys wearing cups and even with protection, it is not a fun feeling.

If you’re mid-range and have enough room for a kick, the goal becomes to use your shin. The shin is actually called the tibia, which ounce for ounce is one of the strongest bones in your body. So, here’s what you do, my little bloodthirsty beaus:

You aim, you scream “DO NOT COME CLOSER I SAID NO!” (legal purposes, because now you’re officially exercising your right to self-defence). Maintain a 360 degree awareness, just in case he has friends, and then, when he’s close enough, connect your shin full on soccer kick with the delicate squish of his testicles.

What you want is as much upwards force as possible in combination with as much momentum as you can manage. When he collapses, which he will, then stomp on his groin again, and then run.

The latter has less of a trick to it. It’s primarily about momentum and force.

Remember, if you’re close enough to put your hands on him, use your knee. If he’s coming at you, use your shin.

If you can smell the nachos he had for dinner, rip his fucking balls off.

It’s easy to do, they’re tiny little squishiness wrapped in a delicate flap of skin about as thin as a toenail.

Remember: if he’s coming at you, he’s ALREADY out to hurt you. Might as well give the fucker a reason to be pissed.

[floranna2]

How to Kick a Guy in the Balls: An Illustrated Guide

[asmalltauhuey]

Someone once told me that the way to train a proper knee in the groin (with appropriate aggression if you want to hurt him enough to let you go is to train and act as if you’re not aiming your knee at the groin, but aiming for somewhere much higher so that your mind knows to really ram your knee upward.

[naamahdarling]

A male friend of a friend of the family once generously and kindly advised me that if anyone with nuts ever got up on me without me wanting him to do so, to “grab his balls as hard as you can, squeeze, and yank away from his body until they feel like marmalade. Then run.” I have never forgotten this advice.

[kiefbowl]

people really love the idea that men are abused. like I mean, they weirdly LOVE it. they're like yeeessss proof this is so exciting I'm so happy men are abused! okay freakazoid

[profetens-apenbaring]

It's because they don't care about victim of abuse. All they care about is painting women as equally bad

[rad-chocho]

@liketessering commented this on one of my posts and I think she hit the nail on the head