Asexuals involved in BDSM @kinkyasexuals - Tumblr Blog

M0ses sumny has an album called Aromanticism and has been included on aspec musician lists but today has said he isn't ace, aro or queer at all and doesn't like that people try to put him in a box, despite previously alluding to it all the time, and that his identity is to complex to be marketable (unlike aromanticism?) and that minoritized (?) Identities are limiting, I'm frustrated he's benefited from our label but now says he's above all that and he's never been explicit about is identity (...see album name) and it's frustrating people would assume he's aromantic, also instead of calling him out for anything everyone is congratulating him on being so deep, it feels like the kind of thing that only happens with aspec identities

slightlystars

@geoduckdude sorry idk how to reply pics, his Twitter is deleted now, I think something to do with fka twigs disclosing her abuse recently but I'm not sure what he said about that

The original thread was longer but I guess it's gone now

enbees-and-aros

[ID: Two tweets by Moses Sumney that read:

“I’m not aromantic. I've never explicitly said anywhere that I was. What I did was release a complex record about lovelessness that is pretty romantic, lyrically and sonically. And followed it up with a long album about how my identity is too complex for catch-all terms. Lol

The fact is if I had come out as anything, played the game as much as I've been told to, I would have a million more opportunities available to me. I've said no to queer brand looks $$ and magazine covers because I didn't want to take up that space. I haven't gained anything.” END ID]

godlessace

Hey, so I’m a fan of Moses Sumney, and I wrote an essay about his album Grae. These tweets are consistent with stuff that he’s said in the past. For example:

I have never identified, publicly or privately, as queer. But I don’t correct people when they say that. I try not to correct people too much these days, because the desire to do so stems from ego. And I realised at some point that proclamations of identification are largely for other people, not for the self.

(source at link)

As I argued, a major theme in Grae is the dangers of expressing yourself, because people think what you’re expressing is your whole self. Sing about aromanticism, and people assume it’s your whole identity, or that you “hate love” (his words). Personal experiences are often more complicated, with different parts in dialectic.

This is very resonant with gray experience. Moses Sumney has never identified with gray-romanticism, but our interpretation neither assumes nor relies on his identity.

And FWIW, the desire to avoid labels is kinda gray in itself. People in the gray areas feel ambivalent towards labels all the time. If a person express affinity with a label one day, and they disidentify with it another day, that’s not bait and switch, sometimes that’s just the gray life.

babblebunny

I’m calling this segment

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* Just Ace Things *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

I identify as “on the asexuality spectrum” and “not straight” (if I had to label it I’d say queer), but people don’t really understand when I tell them. How can I explain to people that in general you don’t need to use a specific label to not be allo, straight or cis?

There's a few of ways you can go about this:

- You can say that overall you haven't found a specific label that Fits Just Right, but you know you aren't straight.

- If you have, you can say you don't want to get into an (a)sexuality lesson with every person you meet.

- You can say that your sexuality is still in flux and therefore not sticking to a label is the easiest.

- You can tell them to grow up and get the fuck over it already, why do they care what terminology you use?

#anonymous #asexuality #labels labels labels

zemathememequeen

theaceandaroadvocacyproject

The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project (TAAAP) is planning on hosting a series of online chats for aro and ace people during Pride 2020. We’d like your input for what these chats should focus on!

deviantart and pinterest, with the occasional twitter discovered originally through tumblr

For previous anon.

#anonymous #anon replies

This humble anon would like to ask where everyone else on the autochorissexual spectrum find kinky erotic art ever since Tumblr did the thing where it got rid of all the content.

Well?

#anonymous #autochorissexuality #autochorissexual #erotica #erotic art #bdsm

jankyadd

the confused asexual before realizing they were asexual:

► “I’m not dating anyone because I want to focus on school and I’m too busy.” -said all through high school and college.

► “I don’t care how someone looks, I care about their personality.” - A common response to: ‘what’s your type??”

► Yeah, literally not having a ‘type’. Never understanding how people have ‘types’.

► “I’ll never have kids I am going to have dogs.”

► Never understanding fuck, marry, kill. Especially other peoples choices in the game.

► Getting really good at saying “Thank you for asking, but I’m just not interested in dating anyone right now.”

► Avoiding sexual conversations at all costs because they are uncomfortable, confusing or truly boring.

► Being a total hopeless romantic and wondering why people are more interested in how hot someone is versus them being kind?? or smart?? or funny?? what their hobbies are?? how they treat their mom??

► Being confused when people will go out of their way, even dangerously so, to please/impress someone they think is hot. Like why? You can see the heartbreak coming a million miles away because what even is sexual attraction.

► The explanation at all family dinners for not having a significant other is that you have more important things to be worrying about right now, LIKE SCHOOL.

► Being completely oblivious to others flirting at you and also not realizing when you might be coming off as flirty because you’re just a nice person and like to hold doors open for people.

► Anytime you find a good new song and then actually listen to the lyrics and sit there like??? What does this mean?

► Wondering why thinking about holding someones hand gives you butterflies in your stomach but if you even try to imagine having sex with them your mind goes blank.

Hey, if you’re ace, that’s chill. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or that you need to change. Some people just aren’t into people sexually and that’s fine. Be confident in yourself.

a-lot-of-ace-archive

Reblog with how many things of this list you experienced!

I’ve got 10/13 😅

wafflecaakes-deactivated2021072

9/13 LOL these are amazing

#7/13 tbh #long post

Warning: Upon looking on their website they do have “ally” as a field. However, they also have asexual and a variety of pronoun/gender options.

NOGLSTP Seeks Applicants for Out to InnovateTM Scholarships; Deadline is June 6, 2020

The National Organization of Gay and Lesbian Scientists and Technical Professionals (NOGLSTP) will be accepting applications beginning April 15th for its 2020 Out to Innovate Scholarships made possible by an Innovation Generation grant from the Motorola Solutions Foundation and private donations. In its 10th year, these scholarships are for undergraduate and graduate students pursuing degrees in science, technology, engineering or mathematics (STEM) programs who are either lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer (LGBTQ+) or an active ally of the LGBTQ+ community. They promote academic excellence and increased visibility of talented LGBTQ+ students in STEM careers. The scholarships are for 2020 fall academic year. The number of scholarships available will depend on funding available and must be used in support of the recipient’s education or research. As an embodiment of pride in LGBTQ+ and STEM communities, all scholarship applicants will receive a complimentary student membership in NOGLSTP. The winners will be honored at the November Out to InnovateTM two-day summit in conjunction with oSTEM’s National Conference in Anaheim, CA. Please see eligibility, more details, and application portal at: https://www.noglstp.org/programs-projects/scholarships/

Each are funded at a minimum of $2,500 up to $5000 each and will be awarded for the Fall 2020 academic year. Students at any U.S.-based college or university can apply based on these criteria:

Successful completion of a minimum of two years of post-high school education at an accredited college or university.

Maintenance of a minimum grade point average (GPA) of 3.0 for the entirety of college or university enrollment.

A declared major in an accredited STEM or STEM-related teaching field.

Be an active supporter of and participant in programs or organizations that promote LGBTQ+ inclusion and visibility.

More information on how to apply is available at http://www.noglstp.org/programs- projects/scholarships/ . Applications and supporting documentation are due no later than June 6, 2020. Recipients will be notified the first week of August. For more information, contact [email protected].

About NOGLSTP

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#long text post #scholarship opportunities #stem #LGBTQIAP+

asexualawarenessweek

The Ace Community Survey Team is currently looking for new volunteers, particularly people with programming or technical writing skills.

Our team designs and releases a survey every year, analyzes data, and produces reports. We seek to understand the diversity and well-being of ace communities, and educate activists and researchers with up to date information.

Click the link to see what kinds of skills the Ace Community Survey Team is looking for in volunteers, and to learn more about this opportunity!

Am I still ace if I get somewhat aroused at the idea of tieing up a partner or overstimulating them, regardless of their gender/sex? I don't think I'd be comfortable doing it irl (probably part self confidence issue part the fact I'm a virgin) Also it's generally in situations where it's kind of me but not really - kind of how you might make a game character that's based off of you. Maybe I'm autochorissexual? Idk

Can someone edit that gif of the guy clapping his hands and spreading them in a rainbow to say "You're still ace stop overthinking things" because it just needs to be a staple at this point.

#anonymous #yes everyone is still ace if it fits #regardless of what goes on in your head

sonseulsoleil

It’s hard being ace and experiencing strong aesthetic attraction because I’ll look at a cute person and think, momentarily, “is this sexual attraction?” but then I’ll look at a neatly organized bookshelf and feel the same way, and I’m almost completely sure that I don’t want to have sex with a bookshelf.

bookwyrm42

Are you sure tho?

Are you really sure?

Really really sure!?!?!!

angry-acehole-for-positivity

You have only succeeded in magnifying my confusion

pinkflamingllama

Shoutout to, like, 14 year old me who thought he was bi cause he felt 0 attraction to men and 0 attraction to women and 0=0 which is equal attraction THEREFORE I was surely equally attracted to both men and women and, thus, bisexual, thank you for coming to my tedtalk

angry-acehole-for-positivity

Fun Fact! Back in the Olden Days, the bisexual community welcomed asexuals for this exact reason!

biandaceunite

geekinglikeaboss

Please go watch Sex Explained on Netflix. Not only is it a great resource for the basic sex education that is sorely lacking in the U.S., but some of ya’ll need to take a deep breath and remember the difference between fantasy vs reality. This purity culture thing that we’re going through right now is directly harmful to responsible, healthy sexual expression. BTW this woman, Lisa Diamond, is a noted psychologist and has been pushing for greater understanding of womens sexuality as a whole.