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if i look back, i am lost
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I'd rather be in outer space 🛸
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I GOT A FUCKING RAISE THE POTATO WORKED WTF
This potato works. Every. Fucking. Time.
Then bring me luck
the day after I posted this last time I was notified that I was selected for a really cool mentorship gig and got an unrelated glowing review at work
That's not even.. what's going on (re the last tweet). People with ocd aren't contemplating sexually abusing kids, they're afraid they might sexually harm a child by mistake, or be a pedophile without realising, or any number of similar anxieties, but the point is that it becomes an anxious fixation because the person finds it so repellant. It's such an incredibly common ocd symptom, but most people are understandably terrified to talk about it
I remember reading a study where a therapist was helping people with similar anxieties - though not involving children - work through them. One client said she was afraid she was going to murder the therapist, not that she wanted to but that she'd somehow lose control of herself or an accident would happen. The solution? The therapist brought a kitchen knife to an appointment (with the patients consent), handed it to her and basically said "okay, what now?" Turns out nothing now, nothing happened, and it helped the client deal with the phobia
Obviously that approach isn't workable with something like pedophilia/csa anxiety but I think it highlights the true nature of what the anxiety actually is. It's irrational anxiety that comes from a deep fear and disgust of csa, not a desire to perpetrate it
OCD-haver: “I have ridiculous irrational fear disease, it causes me to have ridiculous irrational fears”
Enlightened normal-brainer: “that is ridiculous and irrational, clearly you’re worried because it’s secretly true”
OCD-Haver: [tired stare at camera]
Ever see a spider or a bug and your skin starts itching and you're terrified there might be a gross thing crawling around on you?
That is not the same as "oh damn, I wish gross things crawled around on me".
What "ML Cothran" there doesn't understand, or refuses to acknowledge (especially in that last reply), is that "I'm terrified I might be a bad person" is the very opposite of "I have the compulsion to be a bad person".
Class dismissed.
That is not the same
as “oh damn, I wish gross things
crawled around on me”.
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
The only valid thief is a magpie.
"magical fey shapeshifter surrounded by regular animals" is by far my favorite cartoon saloon trope
This is the funniest fucking addition anyone has ever made on one of my posts. Everyone else go home
Ngl I totally forgot fandom discourse was a thing. I don’t care man, I have car payments
starting a collection
Crow likes shiny stuff
you're not an horrible person you are 15 years old
"you can be 15 years old and also a terrible person" teenagers do stupid shit all the time, adults do stupid shit all the time, what matters is that you learn about that and that you don't let that define you. you are figuring out yourself and you never really stop doing that.
this is a thing i saw on tiktok and it's been bothering me forever and ever. okay yeah you took bad decisions/hurted people/etc. but that doesn't mean that you're destinated to hurt people or to be a bad person forever and ever. perhaps at the moment you thought what you were doing was good. perhaps you were trying to protect yourself. perhaps you just didn't know any better. perhaps you thought that it wouldn't be that bad. whatever thing you've might've done on the past doesn't define you in any sort of way. you are a human being and you will do a lot of mistakes until you die. putting yourself down won't help on anything. others putting you down doesn't mean anything. don't let your mistakes be something that defines you, but let them be a reminder that you're still here and that you can grow as a person.
if this breaches containment I'll be genuinely happy. be kinder to yourselfs. life is about growing and learning, not about punishing and denying.
Twurkey Danny
got commed by the delightful @dashing-through-ecto to create THIS beast
enjoy >:}
the og by butch is under the cut
ok question tho
ive actually fucking tried to google this but i cant find an answer, all i get are fics
where does the whole “five times _____ and one time ____” fic title thing come from??
is it a reference to something? or is it just a fanfiction thing?
It comes from Basingstoke, a writer from the Due South and Smallville fandoms.
I know she’s on Dreamwidth. I don’t know if she has an AO3 or not.
There might have been one or two REALLY early examples of that story form (like 1980s early), but she invented it as we know it.
ETA: As a matter of fact, here’s the first Five Things story ever: http://archiveofourown.org/works/9519
I just found the Fanlore article, and it looks like while Basingstoke invented the format, Strangecreature, a Torchwood writer, might be one of the first to have used “five times and one time.” But the original prompt was Basingstoke’s. And it’s definitely fanfiction only in origin.
I love it when conversations about this come around again! How cool is it that I know people in fannish history! (and how uncool is it that I never know it was Bas who invented this until recently – where was I, under a rock?)
tee hee. It wasn’t on purpose! I did the first Five Things and then people have been riffing on it for the past decade. It’s neat.
It’s SUPER neat. I love fandom.
the only bad artists are those whose work perpetuates discrimination or causes undeserved harm. there is no “aesthetic” excuse for fatphobia. humans are diverse. if you’d like to draw them, learn to draw fat bodies.
Phantom Will-O-Wisp
there’s absolutely something to be said about ‘booktok’ books being largely wattpad quality written erotica i’m certainly not reading them however having seen a guy on tiktok make a video like ‘all the women in your life are READING PORN’ about a book he picked up and read in his FEMALE FRIEND’S HOUSE in a tone of scandalised horror and disgust i actually don’t think men should be making those criticisms. he said he picked it up expecting a romance and was horrified it was GOONER SHIT he said specifically like ‘who are you getting your pussy wet FOR??’ in a tone of revulsion. idk man im not sure shes the weird one. i kind of wish you were dead
"a lot of books that are successful on booktok are not very good" and "people can read what they want and we need to stop being so fucking weird about women enjoying erotica" are both correct statements
unspinnable cube
lets see you rotate this in your mind, asshole.
do you ever have a good url just to flex on 90% of tumblr users
I mean...
please i love you i'm begging you bring back suspension of disbelief bring back trusting the audience like. i cannot handle any more dialogue that sounds like a legal document. "hello, i am here to talk to you about the incident from a few minutes ago, because i feel you might be unwell, and i am invested in your personal wellbeing." "thank you, i am unwell because the incident was hurtful to me due to my childhood, which was bad." I CANT!!!!
do you know how many people are mad that authors use "growled" as a word for "said"? it's just poetics! they do not literally mean "growled," it's just a common replacement for "said with force but in a low tone." it's normal! do you hear me!! help me i love you please let me out of here!!!
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