no, no, come back here and tell me how stupid it is to talk about how the power dynamics inherent to christianity are built upon the rhetoric that failure is unavoidable and there is never enough you can do to make up for it
I forget if I showed the beautiful Tyrian purple that they made in the synthesis chemistry lab that I collaborated with at the art museum. Theyāve been synthesizing mostly blue pigments and dyes from throughout history. This was my first time seeing Tyrian purple in person and I was so excited!
Historically it was made from murex snails and was hugely expensive and used by royalty, but chemically itās similar to indigo so the class was able to create it in the lab without snails.
Iām not Christian, I donāt go to church anymore, and my pastor died, but when he was alive Iād sometimes go to his sermons and I remember one time he said āit feels good to hate, but we know that it isnāt allowed, so when weāre told that weāre allowed to hate someone we get so excited that we forget weāre supposed to loveā, and if my humble atheist ass might borrow some church talk Iād like to perhaps submit that
Anyhow sometimes on the day to day I feel disgust or revulsion and I have to ask myself āis this a danger to anyone at all or am I just looking for something Iām allowed to hateā and a solid 98/100 times itās the latter so once again thank you pastor D
Following the rules of the church are less important than following the attitudes Jesus exemplified [in a debate about if it would be okay to break traditional rules and give the leftover loaf of communion bread to a hungry and poor attendee]
Donāt get so caught up in observing ceremonies and following traditions that you forget why they started to begin with
The words you use arenāt as important as what you mean when you use them [new kid was somehow wildly confused about his name and started respectfully calling him Batman]
You might like the teaching story that I heard often from my dad -
Two monks from a strict order that prohibits even *looking* at a woman are on a pilgrimage
Along the way they have to cross a small river
A woman is also trying to cross but is clearly struggling to find a safe place to wade in
One monk decides to help and carries her through the water and sets her down on the other side where she goes off on her own to wherever it is she's going
After a while walking in grumpy silence the second monk breaks and starts berating the first for breaking his vows! And so casually! The first monk says "I picked her up, I put her down, *you* are still carrying her.
My dad liked the idea that the rule exists to teach you something - and if you learn it, you don't need the rule - and if you don't learn it, the rule is doing you no good
Awhile ago when I was talking about wildland fire mitigation and how fires move through urban areas, I was struck by a visual of mitigation but make it Chutes & Ladders. It seemed like a potentially good educational aid, so I decided to make it into a poster!
I think the general movement dynamic of Chutes & Ladders does a good job of capturing the basics of how fire can move through urban areas and spread erratically, jumping and moving from one area to another while leaving some areas untouched.
I actually fell in love with this enough that I think I'm going to turn it into a full game at some point as well, with a full 100 square board. That version will have two sets of rules, one the basic Chutes & Ladders rules and then another that has points involved based on which houses you hit. Not sure when I'll get to it, but it's on my To Do list!
This version is totally playable, though! You can get the print file of this version, and a version that has a clear board, for free on my Payhip Store! The poster is 18x24" and the playable version comes with a second sheet with pieces you can cut out and play with.
Alt text for the text on the poster:
Top text: Don't play games with mitigation.
Game Rules:
Everyone select a flame piece, then each spin the spinner once. Whoever gets the highest number goes first.
All players start outside of square 1 in the bottom left corner, then move their flame the number of spaces they get on the spinner.
Winds: if your piece stops on a square at the BOTTOM of a wind gust you can ride it UP to the square where the wind gust ends, then move forward from there. Remember, wind gusts only lead UP!
Yellow Fences: If your piece stops on a square at the TOP of a yellow fence, you must move DOWN to the bottom of the fence, then move forward from there. Remember, yellow fences only lead DOWN.
You can only move along a yellow fence or wind gust if you land on a square where they start or end. If you land in the middle of one, you must keep moving forward normally.
The first player to reach square 49 wins!
Mitigation info banner: When wildfires impact neighborhoods, their movements become erratic and hard to fight. The best way to protect your home is to mitigate the danger before a fire ever arrives. For information on how, visit https://wildfirepartners.org/resources/wildfire-mitigation-basics/. Even a little mitigation can be the difference between losing your home and saving it.
Credit text: Poster created by Katy L. Wood in 2026. | www.Katy-L-Wood.com
Ok, I am not an astrophysicist, I am a scifi/fantasy author. That means my expertise is in coming up with explanations for entirely theoretical things based on a fistful of scanty data. So if a real astrophysicist would like to review my guess and tell me if it's good, cool. š
The problem is that the black hole has mega gravity, so my first concern is that it's gonna grab onto the Really Long Stick (RLS) and start schlorping that thang into its wretched gullet, and then whatever the RLS is attached to (e.g. hands, maybe with a lil wrist lanyard so you don't drop it; spaceship; a planet) will also be schlorped toward the black hole even if it had previously been a safe distance away. It's like when you have your dog on a leash and he starts dragging you towards a mud puddle. If you're standing still, it's way easier for him to yank you off balance and into the mud puddle.
However, if you're jogging past, then your momentum helps overcome his yanking and you go away mud-free. So we can't be hovering in space for this and slowly extending the RLS towards the black hole. My suggestion is that we attach the RLS to the bottom of the spaceship, pointing downwards, so that we look like a lollipop, and then we start a good distance away and go to faster-than-light speeds (light cannot escape a black hole, but *faster* than light maybe can) (suddenly i'm worried about whether WE turn into a black hole every time we're going FTL but that's a problem for another time). Point is, we angle our trajectory so the end of the stick dips into the black hole as we nyoom past.
I posit that one of three things will happen:
1. We will be slingshotted around the black hole because the gravity well still has enough force to curve our trajectory before we get out of it. As for the RLS, it: a) realistically probably breaks, or b) gets stretched like taffy so now we have an Even Really Longer Stick
2. Have you ever seen one of those coin whirl machines? This thing? This is what would normally happen if something heading past the black hole got too close to the gravity well to escape -- it spirals faster and faster the closer you get to the center, because the pull of gravity gets stronger. If matter traveling FTL cannot escape a black hole's gravity well, this will still happen to us, but it will happen at light speed as soon as our stick touches the event horizon. Because that's how fast we are already going. :))))))))
3. we successfully poke the stick into the black hole as we nyoom past, we don't get trapped, and it doesn't stretch or break. When we come out of FTL a safe distance away to check on the stick, we find that the end is covered in raspberry jam. Douglas Adams (speaking through a ouija board we brought with us for exactly this purpose) says, "Yeah, that seems right."
Really Long Stick into a black hole is an extremely fun game and let me tell you astrophysicists love to play mental games. Yes black holes do have heck of large gravity, but they donāt do much schlorping.
Iām going to assume several things here, the first of which is that by āintoā the black hole we mean āpast the event horizonā which is the point at which light cannot escape.
While in principle if you get close enough to poke at a black hole you should also be falling into it, Iām also assuming that we are far enough away and our stick is improbably long enough that I personally am not primarily under the influence of the black holes gravitational pull.
So in this situation your first and most immediate problem is that the force of gravity on your Black Hole Facing end of the RLS is going to be WAY stronger than the end that youāre holding onto, and so the stick will experience a stretching. Under most definitions of stick, stretch is not a thing they do very well, and so your stick will begin to fray, first by fracturing and then at an atomic level, into smaller and smaller pieces. If youāre poking a small (star sized) black hole this should happen well before you get to the event horizon. So small black holes will simply ānopeā the stick before it can touch it.
Large black holes will nope the stick after they get into the black hole and so pulling this stick back out (good luck) will give you a shredded, slightly less Really Long stick.
If you want to nyoom your way around the black hole while you do this, you sure can, but you have a momentum problem with the twisting motion of the stick now and the easiest thing is to just smash the stick into the side of the black hole (this will also fracture the stick and then shred the fractured bits into finest powder).
Probably the most fun you can have with a black hole is, instead of Poke with Stick, throw some gas at it. Not only is gas something that canāt get shredded (it already has no structural integrity), you can watch it do the doomed coin spiral from a distance. AND. As the gas spirals in, it will heat up to a ridiculous temperature and start to glow with visible light. (and x rays. Free scan of every single bone you have. Medical or astrophysical doctors do not recommend standing nearby.)
If youāre lucky, you still get raspberry jam (plasma edition) because you can find the chemical compound responsible for the flavor of raspberries out in space, and if it was in your gas cloud, you now have superheated raspberry flavor that irradiates your bones.
And this is why every SF/F writer should collect PhDs (that is, the people who have them, not necessarily the degrees themselves) š
Me: realistically.... based on what i know or can logically piece together..... you will stretch or break your Really Long Stick š¤
Local Passing Astrophysicist: yes but it will be more fucking hardcore and badass than you are envisioning
I always think of the description I saw years ago: Self-imposed deadlines don't help me, because I know the person who set them, and they're full of shit.
Give yourself the treat before you start. I'm serious. And ideally during the task and afterwards too.
Executive dysfunction comes from a lack of available dopamine. Common advice is wrong. You need to provide your own dopamine before you can start. Otherwise you're trying to run your car on empty.
"But what if I still don't do it" well you already weren't getting it done anyway. Now you have a little treat. Try again later.
You deserve kindness and care even when you aren't being productive.
(Also read How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis)
I give my students a LOT of techniques for starting writing when it feels overwhelming or daunting, but one of them is exactly this: dopamine load BEFOREHAND. It may sound weird to people on tumblr dot com, but a lot of people seriously struggle with executive dysfunction when it comes to writing literally anything, to the extent that it can cause such symptoms as panic, depression, and AI chatbot use.
I usually suggest this technique as a "Reverse Pomodoro." In the original Pomodoro, you work for 25 minutes and then take a break for 5 minutes (the times vary, but that's the essential ratio). People with executive dysfunction often find this insurmountable, and they get even more frustrated, and then the task seems even more difficult. So instead, flip those times.
FIRST, spend 25 minutes doing something energizing and engaging that you like to do. Not scrolling social media passively, not watching tv, not napping. Try something like colouring, doing yoga, running/walking around the block, talking about your favourite tv show with someone in real time, playing with the dog or cat, making and eating a lovely sandwich, hula hooping, something active. Having a little treat absolutely falls in this category!
(on the subject of little treats: refusing yourself food until you do work is for fucking Puritans and you can be kinder to yourself)
Then, after 25 minutes (or however long it takes to eat the sandwich or finish the yoga routine, it doesn't have to be exact), spend 5 minutes writing (or doing whatever you're struggling to start). Most people can coax themselves into doing something they find difficult for five minutes, if they have already filled up the joy/energy/engagement bucket. You can put a timer on for the 5 minutes if you want, or if you find that annoying, just work for as long as you like.
The other key is: don't push yourself to keep going when you're frustrated or tiredāthat will just reinforce the negative belief that you already have, which tells you that this task is painful to do, and needs to be avoided. If you've commonly had to force yourself to do this kind of task, that's likely part of why you think of it as painful and have trouble starting it now. Also, you should just, at a basic level, try not to put yourself in pain for the sake of productivity. So just do it till the good feelings run out. Then start hula hooping or colouring again for another 25 minutes. When the tank's refilled, try another 5 minutes of work, if you can. Adjust times to taste.
Not every technique works for everyone, but I've seen this one work for many students who are genuinely and seriously disabled by executive dysfunction. And many people find themselves getting more and more excited and engaged in the "difficult" taskābecause the good feelings from the hula hooping carry over, and because they're suddenly able to do the task without feeling pain, and feel accomplishment without feeling pain.
The problem with being married to someone super fit is that you just canāt be physically coercive in the cute ways you want to. This morning, I was trying to convince B to sleep in and cuddle and instead of being deterred by the fact that I was entirely wrapped around his torso, he justā¦got out of bed with me clinging to him and went about his business picking clothes in the closet and putting on pants and doing his skincare in the bathroom with me just there along for the ride. And when he finally tickled me into letting go so he could finish getting dressed, I was so completely awake from laughing so hard that I didnāt get to sleep in either. An outrage.