Noped On Out

an all-in-one aroace/bi solidarity package - has written soft romance in the most aroace way possible and will probably do it again - my gender is "gender gives me a headache but my pronouns are she/they and please use lady words and neutral terms to refer to me"

[kitlaurie]

Hey there!

Just a quick check in. I know I probably don't need to do this but I worry and I assume other people worry so here's an updated pinned post for my fellow worriers

I think my time 100% off tumblr has been good for me and I'm not sure what I want to be "getting out of" using this site right now. Lots of real life and adulting to deal with and my brain is doing better with less social media and less sensory input in my down time

I'll probably only be back here whenever I have something fun and creative to share again

But I'm good! Lot's of taking care of myself and being an adult!

[kitlaurie]

Removing myself from tumblr for a while again

I'll be fine I just think I've been using this site in a very unhealthy way recently

[capnledian]

i drew a vent comic on a covid testing strip guide and it got some traction on twitter so i thought i'd post it here too . general consensus is Big Emotions Its A Lot so cw covid/trauma

[kitlaurie]

To the submas artists who keep Ingo's :< mouth but turn it up just the slightest bit at the corners to show he's smiling,

Thank you for the serotonin

Also same to the people who just make him LOUDER the happier he gets

[maxaroniiiii]

my idea for their reunion

[oleanteri]

Shopping trip time!! 🎡🛍

[kitlaurie]

Realizing I'm not gonna have some magical "aha" moment that fixes everything and I have to put actual time and effort into my mental health and be patient and understanding with myself:

[mepomepo]

Local old man has many cats

[miiaocha]

Favourite child

[furiouskettle]

anyway i didnt wanna keep them separated so

[hoofpeet]

[occasional-sunshine-for-you]

You can't pick and choose which mental illnesses and neurological disorders you support.

Yes, keep supporting people with autism and ADHD.

Keep supporting people with Depression and Anxiety.

But also support people with Schizophrenia and Dissociative Identity Disorder.

Also support people with ASPD and NPD.

Also support people with OCD and BPD.

There are so many more, and you should support these people with them.

They are struggling with these.

They did not choose to have these.

[kitschycritter]

rural queers are braver than the us marines

[aranealux]

Having thoughts about intersecting conditions with conflicting symptoms and management.

About needing to stim and having movement-related pain, about antipsychotics and eating disorders, about understimulation while executive dysfunction prevents you from doing anything about it, or understimulation and anhedonia. About having verbal tics and selective mutism, about impulsiveness and anxiety, about paranoia so you can't trust other people and psychosis so you can't trust yourself. About mood swings and flat effect, about hyperfocus and brain fog, about incontinence and compulsions.

About symptoms which tear at eachother while you're in the crossfire, and when one comes on top it makes the other invisible.

[daffythefox]

having sensory issues that cause both bright lights to be damaging and make it hard to see detail in low light conditions (everything needs to be in a sweet spot)

having both impulsivity that makes you say things without thinking them through and rejection sensitivity

having a mental illness that both makes you require constant validation but is also so stigmatized that even doctors label you as an abuser

having impulsivity that wants you to break structure but also being obsessed with keeping to a schedule

having chronic migraines while also being understimulated and wanting stimulation but knowing that stimulation will make the migraine worse

[a-healthy-dose-of-apathy]

[hoofpeet]

Melli makes a mistake

[izukuwus]

Still reeling from the realization that bullet journaling was essentially created to be a disability aid and got legit fuckin gentrified

[izukuwus]

Like I'm at work and don't have the time to properly organize my thoughts atm but like.

-bullet journalling was invented by a man with a learning disability (99% sure it was ADHD but his website now just says learning disability so I can't be 100%) as a system for organizing his life/way to work WITH his learning disability

-the general concept is bullet point the important things you need to do and use a simple system of symbols to mark whether it's done, rescheduled, cancelled, etc. with very little fanfare, keeping it all in one notebook so you know where to easily find the information at a glance

-people pick it up and it starts getting popular

-bullet journaling becomes an aesthetic movement largely populated by white neurotypicals

-bullet journaling has turned into creating an extremely pretty notebook that has some function, but largely depends on complicated decoration and aesthetic function that takes more time to set up than is tenable for the people it was created for

-new entries to bullet journaling feel pressure to shop at particular stores, use particular brands, purchase lots of stationery purely for its aesthetic value, and prioritize the artistry of the pages rather than the information being stored on them

-people who would massively benefit from the original system can only really find information on it from members of the aesthetic movement. There is now a barrier to entry for ppl with ADHD and other similar conditions, as bullet journaling now requires a focus and motivation to start that these same people often lack or struggle to maintain consistently

-bullet journaling is no longer a disability aid and has become an aesthetic movement largely for middle class white neurotypicals, pushing out the people who the system was created for to begin with

[bibookmerm]

This is the original guide from the person who made bullet journalling. Super simple. Not at all high maintenance.

It was eye-opening to rewatch this after getting used to bullet journal meaning "work of highly decorative art you might journal in if it doesn't detract from the decoration" everywhere online.