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[mockiato-deactivated20200315]

Whoa, I didn’t realize that it was so deliberate, I honestly thought it was unconscious

[rainfelt]

Scary, scary.

[tres-calicos-deactivated2024032]

Gonna add on to this: From the other side of the bar, I see this crap all the time. Seriously. I work at a high-density bar, and let me tell you, I have anywhere from 10-20 guys every night come up and tell me to, “serve her a stronger drink, I’m trying to get lucky tonight, know what I mean?” usually accompanied with a wink and a gesture at a girl who, in my experience, is going to go from mildly buzzed to definitively hammered if I keep serving her. Now, I like to think I’m a responsible bartender, so I usually tell guys like that to piss off, and, if I can, try to tell the girl’s more sober friends that they need to keep an eye on her. But everyone- just so you know, most of the time, when someone you don’t know is buying you a drink, they’re NOT doing it out of a sense of cordiality, they’re buying you a drink for the sole purpose of making you let your guard down. So:

Tips for getting drinks-

1. ALWAYS GO TO THE BAR TO GET YOUR OWN DRINK, DO NOT LET STRANGERS CARRY YOUR DRINKS. This is an opportune time for dropping something into your cocktail, and you’re none the wiser.

2.IF YOU ORDER SOMETHING NON-ALCOHOLIC, I promise you, the bartender doesn’t give two shits that you’re not drinking cocktails with your friends, and often, totally understands that you don’t want to let your guard down around strangers. Usually, you can just tell the bartender that you’d like something light, and that’s a big clue to us that you’re uncomfortable with whomever you’re standing next to. Again, we see this all the time.

3. If you’re in a position to where you feel uncomfortable not ordering alcohol:

Here’s a list of light liquors, and mixers that won’t get you drunk, and will still look like an actual cocktail:

X-rated + sprite = easy to drink, sweet, and 12% alcoholic content. Not strong at all, usually runs $6-$8, depending on your state.

Amaretto + sour= sweet, not strong, 26%.

Peach Schnapps+ ginger ale= tastes like mellow butterscotch, 24%.

Melon liquor (Midori, in most bars) + soda water = not overly sweet, 21%

Coffee liquor (Kahlua) +soda = not super sweet, 20%.

Hope this helps someone out!

[greekgodohair]

Backing this up from years of bar tending.

[amayamiyaki]

Adding to this:

When I was a fresh bartender, I had a couple sitting in the corner, already drinking when I started my shift. They seemed like they knew each other really well considering how much they had their hands on one another. But I still came by and asked if they were okay. The man just waved me off while the woman said, “I need some water.”

The man laughed it off and told me, “She doesn’t need any water. She’s fine.”

She was not fine. Clearly. I decided I was going to cut the two off anyway and bring them some water. As I was filling up the glasses, I heard the woman say, “Stop. I said no. I don’t feel good.”

Her tone and attitude changed instantly. She kept pushing his hand away when he reached for her face, turned her head away when he tried to kiss her. Loudly told him, “Stop. I’m done for tonight.”

So I made sure to refill her water the moment she finished it, and I stayed within earshot of them the whole night. And every time I did, the man got mad at me, told me to leave them alone. Their friends were there, surrounding them and told me that those two always fought when they were drunk and apologized, so I relaxed a little. But the last time I refilled her drink, I heard a loud crash.

She fell out of her stool and hit her head on the floor. And he calmly drank his drink. Their friends didn’t even blink. I jumped over the bar to tend to her and he just said, “Don’t worry, I’ll take her home. She always ends up like this. She drinks too much.”

But it didn’t sound right.

Then the woman began convulsing.

I yelled for the other bartender to call 911 and when I did, the guy suddenly disappeared. I tried asking thr friends questions about him and they just blew it off as the woman being a black our drunk. And one of them said, “We’ll get her home. Don’t worry.”

But when thr EMTs showed up with the police, they all disappeared too.

A few days later the woman came with an attorney. She asked me and the other bartender who worked before me some questions. Turns out, she didn’t know any of those people. They weren’t her friends or her boyfriend. They had met that night, when the guy asked her if he could buy her a drink. At the hospital, they found traces of Rohypnol in her system.

The guy had Roofied her. And his friends were in on it.

The security camera footage showed he had put something in her drink when she left for the bathroom before my shift.

So seriously, it happens. You have to be careful with your drinks! Always watch it, don’t let anyone handle it, and take it with you wherever you go–even the bathroom. Or if you’re a regular at that bar, ask the bartender to put it behind the bar. We’ll do it.

[moonlady9]

Rb for that last add, don’t ever worry about being polite! Protect urself!

[chris-evans-indian-fanfic]

REBLOG AND SPREAD THE WORD!

[ohmymypo-deactivated20210603]

I feel like EVERYONE should know this, even if you don’t drink.

[mitski-miyawakis]

View this post on Instagram, it shows how easy it is to slip something into your drink, even if you’re the one holding it

A post shared by Mel | Renaissance Womanhood (@renaissancewomanhood) on Aug 26, 2020 at 7:49am PDT

[instructor144]

BOOST.

[shylittleprincess666]

[h0nnybunnysstuff]

Guys, you need to stop thinking that you are daddies just because you like hard sex, and that having a baby is just to treat her like your sex toy. Really, having a baby is a responsability; you have to take care of her, love her, worry about her, pamper her, ask her how her day was and, above all, never make her feel like she is just your slut.

Stop message me if you only want sex, i mean it. Its disgusting.

[lildinonugget]

💗 all true

[daddyslilhoneybee]

“Nope. I’m not saying anything else until you tell me what’s wrong babygirl. I want to take some of that burden from you.”

- Daddy ❤️

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[daddysrottenbabygirl]

[keptmathilda]

I've been living with my dom for a year now. We work together too (met in the church, we are both very religious, considering marriage, and he is 30 years my senior but still works as a chiropractor-I am his receptionist/medical secretary). My fiance doesn't like me talking to men (I am attractive) and think of retiring. He wants me to depend on him entirely. He suggested that we use wheel chair (I don't need one) so I depend on him for movement. Is this a good idea? I'm so crazy about him...

You maybe don’t like to hear this, but you asked for my opinion and I feel obligated to be honest and blunt rather than sugarcoating the (in my opinion) truth…

No, what he is planning there for your relationship - retirement, putting you in a wheelchair etc in order to prevent you from interacting with other people/men - is most certainly NOT ‘a good idea’!

Because:

This is control freak behavior. Which is for itself not necessarily a bad thing if it matches the partner’s needs, my Master is a control freak too and I like being controlled. But there are two kinds of control freaks:

1.) Control freak by character. He has a strong need for control because he is a leader, an ‘alpha person’, a disciplined mind, a fan of order, a ‘organizer’, a ‘planner’ by character (not all people with this character are control freaks but all control freaks of this kind have these traits). He has little tolerance for bullshit and no tolerance for anarchy, that’s why he needs to be in charge, because it’s the only way to ensure that there is no bullshit and anarchy. Chaos disturbs his inner harmony extremely, he needs things to be organized in order to be happy. He just IS like that, it’s how he works, it’s his deepest need.

2.) Control freak out of insecurity. He is most likely *not* a leader by character, he lacks confidence, he has self-worth problems and needs to compensate for this by controlfreakery. He is afraid that things he doesn’t control run away from him or get lost somehow because he doesn’t feel like having the natural degree of attractiveness, of ‘cohesion’, to keep someone or something with him in his life.

In a context of a Ds Dynamic this means: For the character control freak doing all these nice BDSM kind of things like restraining, making you ask permission, make decisions for you etc are *tools*. He doesn’t restrain you to restrain you, because he is afraid you run away otherwise, but he restrains you for a hundred other reasons, to show you he owns you, to help you calm down, to get turned on by it and so on. The insecure control freak restrains you to disable you to run away, he makes decisions for you to disable you to decide something against him. The first kind ENables you by control, the second kind DISables you by control.

My Master for example is a pretty extreme control freak I would say. His ideal is to control virtually everything about me, after only 12 weeks or so of being together He started to keep me in chains almost 24/7 for example. But He is not in the slightest a jealous person, He is in no way insecure about His role in my life, He trusts me completely and implicitly in every possible way, He is absolutely sure about my love for and loyalty to Him. I can chat with whomever I want, Dom and Sub, male and female. He has no problem with me going out on my own. I didn’t make any friends yet here after moving to a new city but if I had, He would never forbid me to spend time with them, alone if I needed it. I have an Ex-Dom who is still in love with me and trying to get me back and my Master has no trouble or bad feelings about letting me talk to him, in private, to finally shut this behavior down. He *knows* I’m all His, He knows I love Him and only Him, He knows I’m endlessly loyal to Him, He knows that He owns me. And you know what, this feeling of security He radiates is so much sexier and feels so much better than jealous clinging ever could. 

Jealous clinging is not a compliment, it’s an accusation! Putting you in a wheelchair *in order to prevent you from running away or talking to someone* is not BDSM, not ownership, it’s a manifestation of insecurity and distrust. And it won’t fulfill your submissive needs. You may like to be restrained, but why do you like that? Because it makes you feel owned and safe and calms your mind. If you’re restrained out of jealousy, you won’t feel that, you only feel restricted without these positive effects. Getting controlled out of your Dom’s insecurity will make you feel like a prisoner, and I don’t mean the sexy kind.

Your relationship issues have nothing to do with Ds, but you have a general trust issue. This you have to solve first before engaging or going further in any kind of Ds Dynamic because Ds without the foundation of trust and confidence and faith in each other will only lead to suffering.

Follow-up Ask by the same author

[the-faculty]

In a D/s relationship, how do you “argue”? Life is life and when your D is working on a problem (say a car problem or something) and it’s tough, he’s mad it’s not going well, you as a sub try to offer suggestions or support/help and he snaps at you and gets frustrated so you get frustrated back and then somehow you’re in the wrong because you’re the sub and you’re not supposed to back talk or challenge your Dom. So how do you all navigate this?

Personally I love this writing below. It shows how conflict resolution in bdsm needs to be discussed before there is the conflict - so that mechanisms are in place to keep control within whatever the disagreement is about. This obviously then involves both sides working together, to positively deal with conflict. So if this article resonates with you, share it with your Dominant.

https://www.google.com.au/amp/s/beautifullybrokensubmissive.com/2016/07/29/conflict-within-a-ds-relationship-dynamic/amp/

Heels 👠👠

[daddybrad80]

💯💯

@texasbikerdom49

[doctordaddysir]

Your stories make it seem like you worship women. Why treat them so good? They belong to you so why worry about things like cumming, making them feel good, and so on. I don't get it.

I'm not even sure where to start with this disaster of an ask!!

First, I do love women, I guess worship in a way. Here's what I worship. I worship a relationship with a sub that she is proud to be part of. I worship a relationship where she's proud to submit to me. I worship a relationship where she trusts me so completely that she submits deeper and deeper and allows us to explore my control of her body, her life, her well being, etc.

I treat anyone Im with very well because they deserve it. They allow me to be a Dom. Yes, they allow me to be a Dom. Without my partner, my sub, I'm not a Dom. Without her trust, her belief that I will take care of her I have nothing. It's her decision to submit. It's her decision to allow me to control.

Once that control is given to me I do reward them with many many ways to feel good, to cum, to play, to love our relationship. I treat my sub well so she will trust me to be her Dom and she will trust herself to be my sub.

I have had relationahips where my sub may cum 20-30 times a day and I've had them where she may cum once a month. I've had a sub that loved degradation, some pretty intense torture, water play, pain, etc. I've had a sub that loved and craved sweet soft cuddles and kisses and a very light touch with very little to know pain. The thing they all had in common is they all trusted me to lead them with what they needed and craved because they trusted that no matter what we did I truly cared and would be there for aftercare and be there to help them through everything that came up.

If you think because you're a Dom that you no longer have to treat them well you're just a douchebag. If you think once you have someone you can treat them however you want, abuse them, etc then you're a douchebag. If you think once you have a sub that what she needs is no longer an issue then you're a douchebag.

When I have a sub, I have consentual power, consentual control, and consentual submission that she can choose at anytime to tell me when one of those needs work for her to have trust in me as her Dom.

I am and will always be in absolute control of my sub, once she understands and trusts me to give that to me, but I have to keep working to maintain that trust or I'm just a worthless abuser. I work to keep my sub In submission by making sure she knows that I will ALWAYS take care of her and her needs first.

Period. End of story

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[slave6935]

Question…

So i’m struggling… my Master and i are in a LDR and we were lucky enough to spend 5 weeks together. The time together was so amazing and i felt so good, peaceful and happy… but last weekend he had to go home. Now i’m feeling depressed and feeling off… not following my daily protocols, struggling at work and at home with normal cleaning, cooking and whatnot. Does anyone have any advice or has anyone had this happen to them? i feel like a shitty sub… and partner.

i’m tagging those i have learned from their posts or respect your opinions… so please if this is not okay with you please let me know and i will edit my post.

@the-faculty @instructor144 @lovemysub @submissive-seeking

Thank you

[submissive-seeking]

My 2 cents …

I’m proud of you for addressing this head on and seeking out advice. We subby types are resistant to reach out and ask.

Sounds like a nasty case of sub drop to me. But I also have concerns that you are risk of heading into depression if you are unable to get a hold of it.

My first suggestion, as always, is to keep your Master informed as to your feelings, condition, etc.

Your brain and body were on chemical overload with 5 weeks of the intensity of the connection and experience with your Master. Your brain got to expect all those yummy chemicals, especially the love hormone, oxytocin. And now suddenly, that’s been pulled away from you. Your brain has gone into a rebound, like suddenly kicking a drug. With a little extra help, it should kick back into gear.

Let’s make sure you’re on your nutrition. Stay away from high processed, sweet comfort foods for now. Focus on whole foods and lean protein. Get as much natural light as you can everyday.

Now let’s get you back to your routine. If possible, ask your Master to record (at least audio) of Himself giving you commands for the most important functions/protocols. Play them. Over and over if you need to. Your slave heart will feel the pull to obey his spoken command. Also setup immediate follow through check-ins to up your accountability as well as getting to feel that subby pride for having done it. Try taking pics of your food for meal reporting and text before eating. Use your phone for location checkins too. (Whatsapp has a location feature, simply tap it and it sends it)

Now I’m going to tell you the hard truth ….

You need, in my opinion, to do it whether you’re struggling or not. It won’t “feel” right for a little while. But doing your protocols is NECESSARY to get those “feelings” back in line. And if in another two weeks, you’re in the exact same place, or worse, you get your subby butt into a doctor (kink aware if you can) and get evaluated for depression. Part of our responsibilities to our owner is to keep their property in good working condition. That includes mental health. Brains get goofy sometimes. Sudden and severe subdrop leaves a brain in a fragile condition. Sometimes our brains need medical help.

Now that you know you’re vulnerable to severe subdrop, put your head together with your Master and work on prevention and a plan for next time.

And keep asking for help! Thank you for tagging me and including me in such an esteemed list. I hope I’ve been able to be of service. (((HUGS)))

[submissive-seeking]

I suspect post holiday “rebound” is abundant out there, add o a reblog seems in order ….

[reflectedtruthsblog]

I’m so glad you reblogged this, @submissive-seeking ! I never saw it the first time around, but it is great information and aligns with some of my past experience as well.

[timbllr]

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