The thing a lot of the men reblogging donât get â they think this post is telling women to lie. They think this post is telling women to start a fake argument and to be manipulative.
Actually, this post is doing the opposite. This post is telling women to be straightforward, and forthright, and upfront about their values and opinions.
This post is telling women, âI know youâve been socialized and conditioned to nod and smile at everything a man says your whole life, since you were 4 years old and your grandma told you that little girls should be seen and not heard. I know that by now itâs second nature to you, and you probably donât even realize youâre doing it half the time. You donât even realize that the laugh that just came out of your mouth is a laugh of appeasement, rather than a laugh of genuine humor. â
Itâs telling women, âForce yourself to resist your conditioning. Consciously make an effort to be open and honest in that initial conversation, when youâre making small talk, about small things. If he says something you donât quite agree with (and he inevitably will, because nobody agrees on everything), donât smile and concede the point like youâve been trained to do. Consciously make a point of vocalizing your real opinion.â
Itâs telling women âIf a man doesnât respect your real opinion about a small, insignificant issue when you first meet him, then heâs not going to respect your real boundaries later on when youâre in a serious relationship.â
