[herkind]

Another advice for girls and young women: love and sex is supposed to be fun, happy and make your life better. If it’s not, if it’s making you miserable, if it’s making you love yourself less, if it’s making you doubt yourself, and if you feel like you have to sacrifice yourself or put up with things you don’t want to, you are absolutely entitled to throw it out from your life. In fact, you should, because your life is so, so valuable and you have the right to be happy. Being a girl does not mean having to accept misery and pain, even if that’s what we’re often taught. You are allowed to decide what comes into your life. Let it be happy and beautiful.

[probablyaterf]

Pain is not a part of female sexuality.

[xx-fadingaway-xx]

tbh wearing a hijab doesn’t even make you “more respected”  the fact that people have this idea is disrespect of women itself. Your saying that a woman’s freakin hair is so evil and seductive that she must censor it or deal with being treated badly..for being female and having female hair….and that its justified bc in order to be respected she has to cover up.

men either respect women or dont. Muslim women are covered up but arent respected, because they’re viewed as objects that will be tainted if they dont stay in their restricting lane. thats not respect. Thats like saying you respect gay people as long as they stay in the closet and stay shut about their sexuality and hide it. That’s not respect, that’s just rewarding and respecting their submission, bc you hate them and want them to be oppressed. 

[aunt-mimi]

It’s also a lie. I wear both the hijab and abaya and I got sexually harassed, felt up, and grabbed from behind while wearing it.

[westafricanbaby]

I am so here for children and teenagers killing older men that try to rape them😊. You are doing amazing sweetie 👏🏾👏🏾

They need to free this girl. She did nothing wrong at all. STOP MARRYING CHILDREN!!

[thatkindoffeminist]

He didn't ’try to have sex with her’. He was going to RAPE her. Why do they not use the word rape once?

[westafricanbaby]

EXACTLY!!!!

[dariadorms]

He ran into her knife 11 times. He got what he deserved. I hope she's safe.

[discyours]

I wish people understood how severely completely normalised things actually hurt women. Like makeup culture has led to a view that women’s natural faces are dirty, unkempt, unprofessional. Mainstream porn has not just normalised but sexualised violence against women, and it’s normalising sex work, pushing people to disregard that 90% of prostitutes want an escape. The completely accepted idea that women are just overly emotional and exaggerate pain leads to women getting worse medical care, which can and has killed women. 

If people understood how many fundamental parts of our society had to change if not disappear completely just for us to live in the society they believe we’re already in then maybe they’d stop thinking that “radical reordering of society” means putting men in concentration camps. 

[ruthwaswrite]

Ladies, women, girls, I am writing this message to remind you of something vitally important: your bodies are made to be loved, not used.

The anatomy between your legs is not a ‘pay to play’. Your womb is not a vacant room up for rent to barren, bitter couples that want to exploit it. Your biology is not a debatable topic for discussion and dissection.

You are empowered by every good choice, you are loved, you are deserving of respect. Don’t forget it.

[pigmenting]

something i wish i had realized earlier: you can write poems on the same subject more than once. you can write, paint, draw the same thing over and over if you want to. you can spend your whole life making art about oranges. i think i always felt this pressure to get it right the first time like i couldn’t go back and use that inspiration again. but you can. you can go back and revisit it. you can pick up the conversation again and again if you have more to say.

[lilacbreastedroller]

i think high heeled winter boots are the cruelest trick played on women. here’s some footwear specifically designed for cold weather and rough, slick terrain, but we went ahead and made it less functional so you can look more fuckable. don’t slip baby! that’s it that’s womenswear distilled down to its purest core

[kcloveletter]

my thoughts exactly but also about high-heeled hiking boots

[lilacbreastedroller]

high heeled WHAT NOWS

[dusky-phantom]

But have you seen the Teva hiking/working stiletto?

[lilacbreastedroller]

UM

[bluelris]

What the fuck

[spiderman-anti]

just looking at these broke both my ankles

[actualgirl]

hello everyone, safewords are merely a reflection of rape culture and if your partner screaming "no" and "stop" turns you on you have the mentality of a rapist 🤫

[bulldyke-rider-deactivated20251]

Idk who needs to hear this, but saying you're shaving for yourself doesn't change the fact that if you were a man, the idea of shaving all your body hair to have a soft leg would sound crazy to you.

Your body hair eventually softens. You get uses to seeing it. You get used to your body.

[mattefier-deactivated20221118]

Conservative family: Would you really burn bridges between u-

Me, without a second thought:

[mehreenkasana]

For many, their value as a woman is tied up in being a peacemaker, in being a fixer of problems, in being “nice,” even at a cost to themselves. “I’ve done this,” these women said. “I’ve stayed.” “I’ve even made breakfast for the guy.”

It’s been documented time and again by psychologists and counsellors who work with assault survivors: in reaction to trauma, many women will do things they later regret because they felt somehow compelled to “be nice.” It’s a bit of social conditioning – be deferential, fix problems, avoid conflict at all costs – that keeps women uniquely vulnerable as they recriminate themselves for things that aren’t their fault. Even though no one but rapists are to blame for rape, many women carry their pacifist conditioning over into the aftermath of sexual assault, especially when they know the attacker: Maybe I’m overreacting? Maybe I misinterpreted? Maybe it was me?

Zosia Bielski, How Politeness Conditioning Can Lead To Confusion About Sexual Assaults

[gustavowasright-deactivated2022]

For many victims, behaving passively or even warmly afterward is also about self-protection: rearranging a bad story in your head into something less traumatizing. Survivors often don’t want to see what happened to them as sexual assault, nor do they want to label men they know as abusers or rapists.

“It may be too much to deal with the actual fact that someone we know, someone we love, someone we care about, someone who’s been deemed a nice guy or a good guy, can hurt us,” says Farrah Khan, co-ordinator of sexual violence education and support at Ryerson University. “Sometimes to make sense of things and to feel safe, we instantly go to that place of trying to make it better, to appease and to befriend the person who’s harmed us.”

[dhaaruni]

(From this piece about Taylor Swift’s sexual assault trial)

[jenpsaki]

“I was so smart when I was 17. I’m so much smarter than I am now. I had read Gloria Steinem and bell hooks and Audre Lorde. I was taking advanced feminist studies. And yet I still decided to have sex with this boy because it seemed like the polite thing to do.”

–Heidi Schreck, What the Constitution Means to Me

[toastpotent-deactivated20250619]

male animals vs female animals

male animals vs female animals in children's animated movies

[whitepeopletwitter]

[orhraa-yusu]

The worst police and spies are those that you live with

[appropriately-inappropriate]

He’s a domestic terrorist who attempted a coup d’état. I think that’s worse than living with a snitch.

After all, if he hasn’t been a domestic terrorist, she wouldn’t have to turn him in.

[lizbethborden]

Like, sorry, but lesbians have to be the subject of thinkpieces, essays, books, YouTube videos, Twitter threads, not to mention the harassment and interrogation on a personal level from individuals, demanding that WE “examine” our identities and WE “unpack” why we feel X or do Y, but the minute that WE say “examine,” the minute that WE try to apply a little analysis, suddenly everybody’s identities are sacred and untouchable and not to be critiqued?????? Hello?

[padre-conceptual]

Homophobes only care about lesbians “examining” our identities in the context of trying to convince us to like men. If we ever dare to examine things and reach the conclusion that lesbians exist, that we are indeed lesbians, that ftm can be lesbians and that women who like men (mtf are included in the “men” category) are either bisexual or heterosexual, they get big mad because they haven’t reached their goal of making lesbians feel ashamed of their sexuality/convince them to pretend to be attracted to men. That’s why they deem all the examining we did prior, back when we discovered we were homosexual, as “not valid”.

[sheabutterbitch]

The secret language of lesbian love

The wives, mothers and friends who hide their sexuality

Crying over this article exploring how lesbians in Burundi [where homosexuality is illegal] connect and communicate through secret codes in memes, on clothing, and even body language.

“My girlfriend,” she writes, by way of a virtual introduction. “Aren’t we cute?”

It’s the first time she’s been able to introduce her that way to someone, she says. It feels good.”

[dr-im0tep]

The whole article is worth reading.

[windsdaughter]

no ones gonna convince me that all young women need to start visiting a special doctor who will penetrate their bodies with speculums, forceps, etc. and force their way into our pelvic centers on at least a yearly basis for the rest of their lives

humiliation trauma ritual to initiate us into lifelong submission to the industrial medical system, solidifying the false belief that we need white coats to manage and control our every bodily function especially those parts of our bodies which are the most intimate and sacred

[mossig-deactivated20210112]

Yes, TMI, skip if you want to: I had to have an exam with my GP, and he just pushed the speculum in as if it was not going inside of me? Rather almost like he was giving a handshake? With force? And it hurt?! And I was like “ooooww” and he was like; “oh yes its cold right?”, and i was shocked by the fact that he thought it was cold! The fact that it HURT didn’t even come to his mind. Then a year later or so I had to have an exam again and his female assistant did it and she was super gentle, and I told her that last time he just pushed it in and she sighed and said “yes men don’t know what they do...” and i was thinking like: wtf, he is not just a “man” he is a DOCTOR that does this FREQUENTLY. It’s really f-ed up.

[bitterbadfem-harpy]

I understand not enjoying pap smears but they're extremely important in order to screen for cervical cancer.

Human Papillomavirus will usually be taken care of by your own immune system. It can also, however, cause cervical cancer that will, if left undetected and untreated, kill you.

Men need to not be OB/GYNs but also it's important for a doctor to check your cervix for abnormal cell growth. It sucks that there still isn't a way to do that without dilating our vaginas in order to physically examine our cervix, but it's an extremely important aspect of preventative healthcare.

[smallwelshmonastery-deactivated]

God Emma Eckstein aka Irma of ‘Irma’s injection’ fame had the most fucked up Freud experience of anyone I think. Imagine you go to your doctor about PMS and a stomach ache and he says it’s bc you masturbate excessively and then does this to you

[dykemind]

i have no fucking words for this imagine being so wrapped up in your baseless fantasy god complex that you just casually and openly torture a woman to “cure” her from what is essentially her femaleness and never face even a single consequence for it… not to mention the sheer psychological horror of having everyone around you convince you you’re desperately fucked up for having completely normal human experiences and believing it and playing into it your entire life only to be basically forgotten and disregarded while the dickcreature running his mouth gets immortal notoriety for his absolute nonsense… and this is a tale as old as time! this is the oldest story in the fucking book oh my god

[danykha]

Une raison de plus de détester Freud…

[kybelesdaughter]

How can someone be this fucked up?🤢