Laa-a

Just for my own entertainment.

[anxietyproblem]

[charl0ttan]

i swear to god that social cue wasnt there before

[holohedral]

i am not well understood. which is also my fault

[celecatto]

i dont let them research me

[redstonedust]

yknow when you can tell that someones opinion on the homeless is dictacted by the fact they seem to imagine every homeless person just like. spawned in the back alleys of a city as a fully grown scruffy hobo with no life goals other than scrounging enough pocket change for a hit of Drugs™ . like you suggest that perhaps a homeless person was not always homeless and probably had a life and a childhood like the rest of us and they blank like they genuinely didnt consider it. like they forgot thats a human being too.

[alienaficionados]

““When I was about 20 years old, I met an old pastor’s wife who told me that when she was young and had her first child, she didn’t believe in striking children, although spanking kids with a switch pulled from a tree was standard punishment at the time. But one day, when her son was four or five, he did something that she felt warranted a spanking–the first in his life. She told him that he would have to go outside himself and find a switch for her to hit him with. The boy was gone a long time. And when he came back in, he was crying. He said to her, “Mama, I couldn’t find a switch, but here’s a rock that you can throw at me.” All of a sudden the mother understood how the situation felt from the child’s point of view: that if my mother wants to hurt me, then it makes no difference what she does it with; she might as well do it with a stone. And the mother took the boy into her lap and they both cried. Then she laid the rock on a shelf in the kitchen to remind herself forever: never violence. And that is something I think everyone should keep in mind. Because if violence begins in the nursery one can raise children into violence.””

— Astrid Lindgren, author of Pippi Longstocking, 1978 Peace Prize Acceptance Speech (via jillymomcraftypants)

[shamebats]

In 1978, when she received the Peace Prize of the German Book Trade, Lindgren spoke against corporal punishment of children in a speech entitled Never Violence! After that, she teamed up with scientists, journalists and politicians to promote non-violent upbringing. In 1979, a law was introduced in Sweden prohibiting violence against children in response to her demands. Until then there was no such law anywhere in the world.

What a legacy. We’re so lucky to have had her.

[8nin]

hi *without intention or ability to start a conversation*

[spellthief]

If I’m able to, then perhaps I’ll be closer to portraying a true expression of love.

         -Hayao Miyazaki (x)

[stringcage]

Years of personal growth can be unraveled in 2 days at your parents house

[gardenofdelete998]

can you tell i missed out on smth fundamental in my formative years 😏

[yongmuney]

this is an appreciation post for anyone who has ever tolerated me

[frontmansdog]

if all you did this year was survive, I am proud of you

[anxietyproblem]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[birble-bobble]

Yeah so the Big Think is literally owned by big oil. They’re making shit up so people feel too exhausted to fight for any change. Ignore this kind of environmental nihilism, all it does it help the rich avoid change.

[crinosg]

Yeah every time you see one of these things where someone is saying “Its actually you killing the environment because you leave the lights on in a room”, that guy is a cop paid by some rich guy to be like

[discodeerdiary]

Something that I first applied to working with children, and have applied in a limited form to working with adults: you don't need to tell someone when they read your instructions wrong. Sometimes it's enough to point out what they did right and then whatever they didn't do? You ask them to do it in more precise words, and you make it sound like it's a new request. Remarkable how fast things get done this way.

[discodeerdiary]

This is also a habit I built up from emergency response training. If I say "I need you to bring me a first aid kit and an accident report" and you bring me just a first aid kit, it's so much more efficient to say "thanks now can you bring me an accident report" than "I asked you to bring an accident report why didn't you bring me one".

[discodeerdiary]

Once you've internalized "a person bleeding out is one of the worst times to start an argument" you start to wonder what other tasks could get accomplished without arguing

[virgomoon]

you can never go back. this is your one life. you had a bad childhood and that's it. you lost your teen years to mental illness and that's it. you're miserable in your 20s and that's it. you just go forward

[sentientsky]

[munat-suuhun]

SHIT IS UNFAIR AND FUCKED, MENTAL ILLNESSES ARE SHIT. YOU DIDN'T DESERVE ALL THE PAIN AND TO BE THE ONE TO HEAL IT ALL. BUT TO GIVE UP IS TO FORGET WHAT CAN BE DONE.

LOVE THOSE YOU KNOW WILL LOVE YOU BACK. CHERISH THINGS THAT MAKE YOU JOYFUL. TOO LONG HAS SHIT FUCKED BADLY, SO NOW SHIT FUCK GOODLY. HEALING IS HARD BUT IT WILL BE EASIER IN TIME AND YOU CAN THEN HAVE MORE TIME TO LOVE. FRIENDS, THOSE YOU SEE AS FAMILY, PETS, JUST A NICE BARISTA WHO SAYS MORNING TO YOU. YOU CAN LOVE THEM AS FELLOW HUMANS AND WITH JOY

AND FUCK IT, WHO CARES, HAVE CHILDHOOD JOYS NOW. IN THE LONG RUN, AS LONG AS YOU NEVER HURT ANYONE, YOU CAN BE AS WHIMSY AND CHILDISH AS YOU WANT TO BE.

[phantomrose96]

*sends out email I've been putting off* ah finally :). ah that's a weight off my shoulders :). ah I can relax an-- *receive response to email* what the fuck. what the fuck. what the fuckkkk

[alchemistdoctor]

I am begging you. Please learn about stress/discomfort tolerance. Practice raising it. You need this to survive. If someone online can ruin your day with a throwaway comment, you desperately need to understand discomfort tolerance and consciously, systematically build that shit.

Also! Stress tolerance is such an important skill that having a learning disability in that area is a major symptom of a whole lot of other disabilities/mental illnesses! Struggling with it is a huge part of life! It sucks!

Am I saying everyone with misophonia needs to listen to chewing noises all day? No. But you need to find ways to tolerate it enough that you don't treat others like shit if they make a mouth noise near you.

No, you don't have to read the fic with your trigger tags. But you do need to be able to handle scrolling past the tags without being upset.

It is hard! But not having it also makes you so so so easy to manipulate. That grandma is racist AF because her mom raised her to be uncomfortable around black people and she never fought that discomfort. Trans people make so many cis people uncomfortable and that discomfort turns into bigotry real fast.

Letting your discomfort dictate your actions and beliefs about things is a great way to become a terrible person. Learn. Discomfort. Tolerance.