cyn runs a blog

~traveler~ yogi~ lover of all living things~ Ig: cynspirals_ Denver, Co

[loveridden1999]

top 3 hobbies for young adults:

1. borrowing misery from future

2. carrying grief of the past

3. agonizing over the present

[anarchistmemedistro]

[noneedtofearorhope]

i think guns and bombs might be up there too

[isuggestrevolution]

these are also useful tools for my suggestion

[ruinedchildhood]

[beef-estrogenoff-deactivated-de]

"this suicidal person is so stupid for believing nobody will miss them. i remember people i haven't talked to in years lol"

ok but are you present in their life enough for them to realize that?

[beef-estrogenoff-deactivated-de]

we can all say after the fact that we cared for our friend who committed or disappeared or whatever. we can even mean it when we say it. we can think about them. but did we ever act on it? did we ever even make them feel like we were there? "nobody would care if i disappeared" is not a literal phrase. of course they know that people would care. what the phrase conveys is a deep sense of alienation that can't be mended by implying stupidity on their part.

[diekingdomcome]

Y’all don’t like Black Women and I’m not here for it. If you don’t like Black Women don’t interact with my blog

[wetheurban]

Being a kind person means being kind to yourself as well.

[tepkunset]

when you ask a knowledge keeper something and they say "good question"

[dreamgirlvibes]

The sexiest thing you could ever do for me is consider me.

[dafancyuhinspiration]

[mewvore]

you have to go outside or you will forget what women look like and before you go "this is about nerds and anime women I don't need this information" you do okay because this is about filters, AI, algorithms, Instagram, tiktoks, shorts, etc you are being given a barrage of the most statistically pleasing facial structures through a machine built to learn and return the optimal image to keep you engaged longer some women do in fact look like the goddess Aphrodite but the machine is giving you 10,000 of them in short order you were not meant to see that many you were meant to go to the walmart to get a 10 pack of hanes underwear and see a slightly tired mom with an absolute shelf for a butt and thank the heavens you were born in just the right time to live to witness her

[mr-deep-downer]

[sailatina3]

[herecomesthementalmeltdown]

[threeninesfine]

The suburbs dream of violence. Asleep in their drowsy villas, sheltered by benevolent shopping malls, they wait patiently for the nightmares that will wake them into a more passionate world.

—J.G. Ballard, Kingdom Come

[butchspace]

[Image description: A panel from an Alison Bechdel comic, where an adult explains to two children, “Okay, there’s your problem. Lame, stupid things aren’t gay. Only cool, excellent things are gay”. /End ID]

[sandersstudies]

“They’re just looking for attention.”

Oh, a human being is seeking a social response? Human being, the social animal wired to make and track social connection? A human desires the vital blood that permitted their species to survive for millennia? The human being who was born completely helpless and primed in every way by nature to seek attention and help from their community?

Wow that’s crazy. How embarrassing. Humiliating even. Should we isolate them from community? Should we call Wire Mother?

[inkskinned]

"you have to let parents make their own choices about vaccines!!"

if the very idea of autism frightens you so much that you would allow your child to die of a preventable disease: you do not deserve to be a parent. i understand that people can be led astray; i understand they have their excuses. i am just never going to forgive any fucking ableist who sat back and pretended like neurodivergence was a fate literally worse than death.

[pondnaravit]

[iamtheconfusedman]

Her speech physically dropped me to my knees.

[atelier-tamamoland]

sixpencee got less hate for straight-up admitting to owning a child slave than I do for saying children shouldn't be treated as property

[atelier-tamamoland]

like i'll say "parents should not be able to unilaterally override their child's consent" and some dipshit will see the word consent and the smoke from the hollowed-out crater that used to be their critical thinking skills will immediately coalesce into a message in my ask box calling me a pedo. no fucking hope for any of you

[atelier-tamamoland]

which I say, by the way, because one of my closest friends was able to be effectively disappeared off the face of the earth and sent into the woods to be sexually abused and tortured into being straight due to parents effectively owning their children as property. if you are a minor your consent simply does not actually matter - whether you get vaccinated, whether you get to go to school, whether people get to hug touch you, what you wear, how your hair is cut, what your hobbies are, whether you get to have friends, and yes, whether you want to be sent to a torture camp in the woods or not - your consent is entirely meaningless because your parents can simply override it, and there's fuckall you can do about it, because you aren't a person, you're just property. the family dog has more protections against being abused than children do

but! if you ever point this out you get called a rapist

[mihai-florescu]

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Except, critically, at bedtime.

[findersfeeders]

Ravings and urges get miscoded over time. Let’s say you’re thirsty, and you live in a strawberry field. Strawberries contain some water and a bunch of sugar so, over time, you may start to crave strawberries when you are thirsty because you get a reward and some relief in shorter time from the need starting than the trek to the stream. This can happen for every need: sleep, food, whatever.

Trevor Noah has a great tip, that when he craves ice cream at night he breaks it down into parts: I want something cold, I want something sweet. He drinks a glass of cold water then waits to see if he still has the ice cream craving. Usually he doesn’t.

So listening to your body isn’t “follow every urge” but “decompose the urge to discover the underlying need.”

If you always feel like getting cozy in bed you may be: cold, dehydrated, and/or malnourished (maybe a need for high calories that are bioaccessible…not processed).

If you do not feel tired at bedtime you may: need to eat dinner earlier because your body is still digesting, need to exercise or go outside more during the day, get the fuck off your screen for an hour so your brain can enter sleep mode.

Hope this helps someone.

P.S. notice i said nothing about neurodivergence. Not that it’s not a likelihood but the over-pathologization of behaviors prevents us from taking simple actions to improve our wellbeing. Also, these tips are pretty accessible and applicable to most brain variations.

[brightlotusmoon]