> I am a genderqueer gay man but I don't mind interaction from any gender, so long as you are respectful of everyone's boundaries. If I reblog anything referencing "girls" or fems I'm probably thinking of myself in that position
> I am aromantic and currently partnered :-) we are open and you're free to message me, but keep in mind that I'm Only interested sexually
Kinks & limits under the cut
I am a sub & a bottom, with very few exceptions. My more specific points of interest include:
> receiving pain & marking (bruises, etc)
> bondage
> leather
> robot stuff (wires, electricity, disassembly, etc but Not in a dehumanizing way. I am a real a person.)
> temperature play (hot wax, cold metal, ice, etc)
> I'm also exploring puppyplay, & I like trying new things :-)
// My hard limits are:
> verbal degradation, objectification, do not use it/its for me under any circumstances
> using the word "mutt" to refer to a person
> ageplay & all variants (i.e. cgl, ddlg, etc)
> daddy as a title
> slave as a title
> anything alluding to incest
> anything, like. Actually irl harmful or bigoted etc
> the genitals situation is complicated and I can be very specific about the ways I like to be touched; ask first
Anything not listed here you can presume I'm neutral about & ask before sending me
it's a little ironic that "sadists/CNC doms/etc. should never actively want to do that they should be doing it in service of their sub and finding their sub's limits" is outright wayyyyy more rapey than anything a Scary Dom has ever said to me in the context of a scene. mfw i think people should be having sex they don't want to have but progressive
Even for stones! Like idk I don't strongly identify as stone since objectively I enjoy many positions, configurations, and roles, but like there have been times where i am exclusively interested in giving pleasure by receiving it, and even then, even if I am absolute 100% pillow princess, it is an active sexual role.
Doing it well requires communication--verbal and nonverbal--and a level of mindfulness and presence in the moment. Am I still enjoying this? Is the physical sensation good? If there is pain or discomfort, what do I need to communicate to the top to alleviate it? Am I in the here and now? Does the top seem to be enjoying this as much as I am?
Like you're not supposed to be asking these questions to yourself like it's a worksheet, y'know, when someone's wearing my asshole like a glove I don't need to stop and like poke and prod at these things, but I just need to be willing to ask myself these questions and take action when the answer seems like it could be "no"
At a party a few months ago, I was playing with this doll and had a lovely time--got hit, got fucked, and then got fisted. Eventually she and I wrapped up, but there was another doll I wanted to play with. So I communicated the desire, she was down, and we went at it. But like 5 or so minutes in, I realized I was in a bit of pain and that my hole had kinda taken everything it could for the day, even though i wanted to want to keep going. And all it took was saying "hey, I'm enjoying myself with you but I think shops closed for the night," so we ended up stopping and like doing some lower intensity play and still had a nice time.
If I hadn't said anything, I probably wouldn't be looking back at that encounter with a warm glow, y'know? Like if I let the people pleasing win, I wouldve actually felt kinda shitty and like probably made the top feel like she was doing a bad job when she was doing great! So idk, all that to say, if you can't communicate your needs and check in with yourself about them, you probably need to work on that to be a successful bottom
Finished another pair of gloves last week, this time in dark brown leather from ItalianSkins and sewn up with some olive green silk thread that was a very lucky thrift store find. (It was in a mixed baggie and I didn't know it was silk until I got home!)
In my glove video I mentioned wanting to re-draw my pattern so the fingers are angled in more tightly, and so the thumb piece is longer, and I did that for these. The thumb fits much better, and the bases of the fingers are no longer too loose.
I also tried the straighter style of fourchettes, but didn't like them as much as the V shaped ones. I think the curved edges put a bit too much material onto the backs of the fingers and made them wrinklier. (Though this particular leather is not the stretchiest, so it may be better with a stretchier one.)
I did 3 rows of feather stitch on the back of the hand, since I'd seen that on an extant pair and thought it looked nice. I used a regular needle for that part because I was worried a leather needle would damage the thread.
Really fascinated by that phenomenon of typically very young or otherwise new to the scene kinksters being like "I have No limits" because yes you do, you just haven't found them yet. And it is a red flag because you Need to set boundaries to be safe and have fun but the like 2% dom in me wants to say Well... we can find out about that
When somebody wanders in and introduces themself like "hi I'm 19 and you can do ANYTHING to me :)" they never ever know what they're asking for. But there is something about it. Like well ok then, pick a safeword & count yourself lucky I'd start out slow with you
i miss that thing when ur being fucked in doggy but then they start pounding into u harder n ur knees cant hold u up anymore and u eventually end up flat on your tummy with them fucking all their weight into you and holding ur head down for leverage
sorry i thought abt them forcing their cock all the way down my throat n pushing my nose into the lil patch of pubic hair n how it smells the most like them right there n all i can do is breathe in their scent n let them rock into my throat n i almost. blacked out
