Tenderness

Stone. Fem. 25 Politics, coping and surviving. Main: Dyketionary

[melodramasarchive]

MONTERO (2021) dir. Lil Nas X & Tanu Muino

[vympr]

just posted a video on the unhinged white woman trope 🥰 watch for the deconstruction of evil white women in cinema & what amy dunne can teach us about white femininity 💖

[guccixcucci]

Black teenagers are on tiktok educating people and making things easy to understand. All if June people were sharing really good resources all over social media. My mutuals are smart af and teach me shit all the time. Reading lists are all over Twitter, instagram and tumblr. Personal essays, academic journals. Literally at your finger tips.

If you honestly and truly wanted to educate yourself you would do it because it's not as if the info is hidden. Stop expecting black people to sit down and hold your hand to educate you.

[latinadyke]

trans girls are single handedly keeping tumblr alive

[left-reminders]

[dead---planet]

Forever repost.

[guerrillatech]

mood

[eucalyptus-sage]

whenever i see "low in calories" im just like??? u mean. low in energy?? low in energy. that is what u r promoting to me??

a calorie is a literal unit of measurement for how much energy something gives u, so when a product is like "low in calories" im like. great. so the exact opposite I'm looking for in food.

[the-sunshine-cult-deactivated20]

I want you to know that this post has genuinely helped me feel better about eating, even if I’m not eating “”healthy”” things. When I start feeling bad, I remember that I’m fueling my body to get through the day and so it’s okay if the food is high in calories!!

Very genuinely, you helped at least one person with an ED feel better about the food they eat.

[dankmemeuniversity]

[lavenderlundi]

Why Closed Practices ARENT Racist

Smudging

Voodoo

Hoodoo

Santeria

Brujeria

Ifa

Kulam

These are all apart of a long list of closed practices.

This means that unless you are:

•A Native American you CANNOT Smudge. Smudging is apart of an important ritual ceremony specific to Native Americans.

•A Black person you cannot practice Hoodoo, Ifa, or Voodoo

•A Latino/ Latino Black person you cannot practice Santa Muerte focused Brujeria or Santeria

“Well Lavenderlundi this is racist!”

“You can’t dictate other people’s practices!”

“So skin color determines what practices you can follow?!”

“Guess now Celtic paganism is only for white people.”

“If someone educates themselves on a closed religion and is respectful they can practice it.”

“If A God/Goddess/Spirit calls on a person they can work with them!”

These are common responses PoC often get from posts like this when we try to tell others to stay out of our closed cultures. And I’m going to explain why they are illogical and untrue.

“Well Lavenderlundi this is racist!”

Actually it’s not. The entire reason for closed cultures is for the preservation of said culture. As well as the fact that many of these cultures and religions are from minorities who’ve been either mass murdered, enslaved, pillaged, or exploited in some way by Europeans at some point in time or another. (Id also like to point out that that time is also now as poc face racism and discrimination and even death every day due to this.) The reason the culture that invented the spiritual practice and/or religion is the only one who can practice it is also because 1) They created it, it’s their right and 2) PRESERVATION OF CULTURE! Not like when white supremacy groups want to preserve

“white culture” but like how black and brown people have been forced to disown their own cultures for centuries and convert to white religions and cultures.

Yeah wasn’t expecting that were you. Moving on.

“You can’t dictate other people’s practices!”

Actually I’m not dictating anything. I’m spreading actual factual information. Cultural appropriation is harmful to minorities and their culture! Poc have been forced to give up their culture for generations! Even going as far as having their children taken away from them and put into conversion schools to wipe away their history and heritage. Similar things are happening today with the active injustices poc face so please don’t say “But why are you blaming me for what my ancestors did 100 years ago?!” I’m not I’m blaming you for what you are doing now in 2019. Which is appropriating closed cultural practices when you already have thousands of open practices.

“So skin color determines what practices you can follow?!”

Way to not read a single thing I said! Skin color determines NOTHING you can be the palest black person in the world and still be allowed to practice voodoo, Ifa, or any other closed CULTURAL practice. It’s about your CULTURE! Meaning you either have a mother or a father from that culture, you identify with said culture, and you work actively to improve the community outside and within that culture.

“Guess now Celtic paganism is only for white people.”

Ahhh my favorite. The most common response to telling non-poc that they can’t appropriate closed cultures and steal from other cultures.

Celtic paganism, Hellenistic paganism, Wicca, Christianity and any other European religion/practice is almost always 100% guaranteed to be open to anyone and you know how I know this?

Because back in the day Europeans spent half the time converting people to their religion.

ALSO hundreds of thousands of celts or Nordic practitioners aren’t begging and demanding nonceltic people to leave their practice alone. Also these practices aren’t being misrepresented or demonized by poc the same way our practices our.

“If someone educates themselves on a closed religion and is respectful they can practice it.”

If someone actually educated themselves and respected said closed religion then they WOULDN’T invade closed practices! Being respectful INCLUDES respecting actual practitioners and what they have to say! And if they actually educated themselves they wouldn’t be trying to jump on the culture culture bandwagon in the first place. They’d understand how important this practice is and respect that it is closed.

“If A God/Goddess/Spirit calls on a person they can work with them!”

Look I’m going to be honest. Half the time it when you wonder “Oh wow I feel this desire/urge to work with XYZ from a closed practice! What is this feeling?”

It’s your entitlement. Plain and simple. No deeper explanation needed.

There is a lot of racism and bias in the spiritual community and it’s disgusting how in 2019 I even have to explain this to people!

Respect people of color and their closed practices!

[treeshidingleprechauns]

This tiktok about someone’s pre-transition self is so so SO tender and I just want anyone who has transitioned and may be mourning their old self to see this and to know it’s okay. It’s okay to miss that person you once were, it’s okay to wish you had embraced what you had and who you were before transitioning. It doesn’t mean you regret it, and it doesn’t mean you made the wrong decisions.

It’s okay to think about that person, it’s okay to mourn them, and it’s okay to wonder. The person you were before transitioning may have been a trick of the light, but it doesn’t mean they weren’t special while they were here.

Everyone’s experience is different… but if you find yourself feeling this, just know it’s okay. You don’t have to completely block out every aspect and memory of who you were before. It’s okay if you do, but you don’t have to.

[desarea-doodles]

♥️♥️♥️

[raevenlywrites]

Holy shit that legit gave me goosebumps. This the most beautiful thing I’ve ever heard

[rorytelling]

That picture of Elliot Page looking up at Lavern Cox at the GLAAD awards is so much better now

[lesbian-bookworm]

*AGRESSIVLY THROWS SPOONS AT ALL MY SPOONIE FOLLOWERS*

I HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT FUCKING YEAR FULL

OF HIGH SPOON DAYS,

LOW PAIN,

PLENTY OF ACCOMIDATIOMS,

GREAT ACCESABILITY,

NO ABLEISM FROM FAMILY OR RANDOM ASSHOLES,

USEFUL AND AFORDABLE MOBILITY AIDS/MEDICINE,

HELPFUL FUCKING DOCTORS,

AND NO NEGITIVE PROGRESSION OF ILLNESSES

[ndiecity-deactivated20241101]

Stop saying terfs started "queer is a slur" please for the love of god i am begging you. Reclaiming it for yourself is fine but it is still literally a slur and all you're doing is diluting the definition of terf to mean "any person who has holds the 'bad' opinion in lgbt discourse".

[radicalgraff]

Graffiti mural painted by BLU on an ‪‎EU‬ border wall in ‪Morocco

[heavyweightheart]

Messaging about how everyone is an addict bc of the prevalence of e.g. caffeine dependency that aims to destigmatize other addiction (e.g. to illicit drugs) doesn’t really do the trick, unfortunately. It ends up backfiring in the sense that now people feel guilty about their caffeine use and aren’t likely more sympathetic to illicit drug users.

We’ve really got to get to the heart of the matter, which is that people are self-soothing, self-medicating, coping in whatever ways they can find with intolerable circumstances. We’re not bad bc we feel we need caffeine, or a hit, or a drink!! Ever, at all! Let’s ask: in what ways are our basic needs not being met? For sleep, for food, for safety, for connection? Why do we need substances for energy, motivation, or relaxation? To function or to escape?

The substances we call drugs have always been around in some form. Widespread addiction hasn’t. That’s a construct (w some biological components ofc), a way we stigmatize reliance on substances in a world that’s unbearable and whose demands we can’t meet. We don’t want to say “addiction is bad and widespread,” we want to say “why are so many people unable to function in the world as it is?”

[sadclowncentral]

today i intimidated a men's barber into cutting my hair??

[sadclowncentral]

barber: sorry we don't do women's hair here.

me: okay.

(stare at each other for thirty seconds)

barber: I have an appointment free tomorrow at 2?

[mothirly]

Me: I have five (5) spoons

*Something that should only be mildly upsetting happens*

Me: I have zero (0) spoons and I am also going to pass away