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Hi I love your blog and energy so much 🥺

Is there another way to find soulmates but romantic only ? 💜

hiya you lil ray of sunshine, imma smooch your cheeks, thank you so much, yeeee ! 😤🤍

yes there are ! what i mentioned last time is just one way that i personally like in order to easily find someone from the same soul family as you, but they don't always have to me romantic, and just like everything in life : there are a few exceptions ! the synastry/composite always have to be read as a whole ! <3

now, if you ask me, i'd say that for romantic soulmates and romantic soulmates only :

eros & psyche conjunction in synastry (make sure that the orb isn't too wide for the energy to be strongly felt)

any aspect of eros and psyche in composite, but especially conjunction and opposition for a romantic feeling

i'd suggest you to read about eros & psyche's story if you feel like it, it's goosebumps worthy if you're a hopeless romantic bahahaha <3

on a more serious note, eros and psyche are natural mates and lovers, when they're conjunct in a synastry, it is an undeniable indication of a soulmate connection, the smaller the orb the stronger it is, but either way it is rarely a platonic relationship when these two asteroids come in conjunction

eros & psyche were mythical lovers brought together by fate when they expected it the least, it is a transformative, genuine and deep love, full of hardships and heartache but so worth it

psyche had to turn the world upside down in order to finally be reunited with eros, psyche persevered and was able to be with the one she loved from the depths of her soul at last, it wasn't easy, but this type of love is worth the hardships

this relationship usually is bound to be significant in your life, in one way or another, it'll transform and teach you many things

it'll teach you how to love someone for who they truly are, for everything that they are - it'll teach you to love someone's soul, to love them at their worst just as much you can love them at their best

often the person who's psyche (in the synastry chart) will be the one to feel connected to the eros person even before their meeting (it could be through dreams when they haven't met yet or just by noticing them first) - and if you never meet each other (let's say you've got this with an idol, for example) then the love you'll have towards them will be a huge teaching lesson as to what truly loving someone feels like - but be assured that if they knew you, they'd probably feel it too

the eros person will love psyche for their beauty on every level, external as well as internal beauty, they'll love psyche's soul, they'll love them as whole, and vice versa

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now when it comes to the composite chart it is a bit different, but the idea is still the same, opposition will be more intense & and may be too extreme for people who usually avoid facing strong emotions whilst the conjunction will be a little bit easier to handle overall, but still not a piece of cake either way - romantic soul connection is indicated

and you don't need to know each other in real life in order for your souls to be connected in higher realms <3

it is a transformative love that hurts so good

the kind of love that shakes up your world & soul

there's so much to learn here, and if you persevere, a beautiful love story lies ahead

look for eros (433) and psyche (16) in both your synastry and composite chart

look out for a conjunction in the synastry

and a conjunction or opposition in the composite

the provided picture is the only example i have within one of my personal synastries of an eros-psyche conjunction ! the orb is a bit wide but knowing of how fast psyche moves in the sky compared to eros, it is still at a degree that can be strongly felt <3 now if eros were to be at the beginning of one sign and psyche at the very end of the same sign, that'd be a bit too wide indeed !

hope this helped, the other aspects can indicate a soul connection as well but doing composites/synastries readings i observed the concerned people weren't always romantically involved or even felt romantically towards each other, whereas the aspects mentioned above usually are (99% of the time) romantically felt <3

smoochies on your cheekies ! yeeeehaw ! 🤸🏻‍♀️💨💜

less-than-improbable

So interesting!

saint-nobody-blog

11 Things Everyone Dealing With BDD Should Say (But Can’t).

1. “I’m sorry that I’m constantly focused on my appearance; I don’t mean to irritate anybody. But I can’t stop.”

2. “When I rant about how shitty I look, it’s not to get sympathy, and it’s definitely not to make anybody else feel worse about themselves. It’s actually just how I see myself, every day - And sometimes I just get sick of it.”

3. “Please don’t tell me it’s all in my head. It doesn’t help.”

4. “Don’t tell me I’m being ‘superficial’, ‘trivial’, or ‘obsessive’. I’m already fully fucking aware - trust me.”

5. “I’m sorry I can’t stop fixating on diets, or surgery, or whatever fucking fix I think I need. Again, I’m fully aware that I’m as obsessive as hell.”

6. “I don’t mean to give off the impression that looks are all that matter. They’re not. I know they’re not, but it feels like they are.”

7. “The only person I’m judging by these insane standards is myself.”

8. “Every time I’m in public, I can tell people are staring at me. I know they might not be, I know they probably couldn’t care less about a random passer-by like me, but I can tell they’re staring at me.”

9. “I hate myself every time I look in the mirror - and not knowing if what I’m seeing is ‘real’, an ‘exaggeration’, or ‘not as bad as I think it is’, only makes me feel worse.”

10. “I’m sorry if you’re feeling fed up with me. I’m pretty damn fed up with me too.”

11. “I don’t want to be perfect. I just want to be more than this.”

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idk why i just remembered this but all throughout kindergarten and first grade i used to draw a lil snail in the corner of every paper i had to turn in because it was a happy snail so i thought it would make my teachers happy when they were grading papers because i was a pure and simple child but in 2nd grade my teacher would take off 2 points if i drew it on my homework and 5 points if i drew it on a quiz or test so i stopped but like it was so harmless it was just a lil shitty doodle of a smiling snail it wasn’t distracting me or anything from the task at hand so i’d like to say to mrs whoeverthefuck that snail was supposed to be a happy thing u bitch

hill-creature-deactivated202103

This perfectly describes what is wrong with our education system

becumsh

fics mentioned:

The Pieces That Fall to Earth - @librarylock.

(Never) Turn Your Back to The Sea - @discordantwords

fullfilling for other people - misselene

Nocturne - @atikiology.

A Weird Place - @toyhto

The Thing Which I Greatly Feared Is Come Upon Me - ancientreader

Bridges - sussexbound

Calico Jack - Glenmore

Ten Years - @toyhto

A Slice of Sumatra - blueink3

The Hour Goes By - philalethia

FAQ - ancientreader

The Fabric of Life - orphan_account

The Way To A Man’s Heart - SwissMiss

Storm Warning - @atikiology.

Another Country - Chryse

thebibliosphere

His Inescapable Penis Vice Gripped Her From Inside.

I found some of my old editing work on a flash drive, and there was one novel which grabbed my attention and I immediately started screeching like a pterodactyl . Thankfully It never actually made it to publication because it was so bad, and the editor above me got fired for letting it get past the vetting process.

Mostly I’m just reading through it and cringing, but then I came across some of my own commentary at the side.

It starts out pretty tame. And yes, some people DO forget the names of their MC’s half way through a book. (Or the second chapter in this case, switching back and forth between Karen and Kate so much I eventually gave up.)

Then starts to become a little bit eeeeeh, and I have to make several of these changes and suggestions, mostly prompting for the language to be removed and rewritten entirely as it was VILE.

Then about chapter five I have lost my mind and well…:

hollowedskin

this shouldn’t make me wish i was an editor but i wish i was an editor.

tenoko1

I just spat perfectly good coffee out.

mephrum

I debated whether I should actually reblog this, because fucking Christ this ia horrible.

thebibliosphere

Okay who the fuck brought this back.

sharpestrose

I have had an experience very similar to this and pmuch every other person I know who has ever done any editing has also.

No matter how much you hate your own writing, working for any length of time as an editor of professionally published work will give you perspective.

mizuaoi

@bernerstahp

celebrity-pharmacist

Part of Jen’s comments on Jeffrey Tambor’s speech tonight reminded me of something and now I gotta wonder how much longer we’re gonna have to keep saying this

celebrity-pharmacist

Y'all can reblog this, especially if you’re cis

mocha-notes

Guide on How to Catch Up in Your Classes

I often see master posts and tips about how to become organized and have better study habits but not about what to do when you have essentially messed up. I just wanted to share some of the things I do when I fall behind and how I recover. Unfortunately, this is an experience I am very familiar with but I am actively working on changing.

Please do NOT use this guide as a justification to fall behind. This is a guide for those who for whatever reason are already in this predicament and need help ASAP!

1) List everything you have to get done. Absolutely everything, down to the smallest detail.

For example, do not write down “readings for class X” but rather list out every chapter, and if you want every subsection of that chapter. This makes it easier to gauge how much time you need for every assignment and will motivate you when you check them off!

I like using apps like OneNote and Momentum to make my to do lists or just standard sheets of paper.

2) Calm down.

If you are anything like me, after you have made your long to do list you will start to panic. (I do, every single time!) Do your best to calm down, a calm mind is a sharper and smarter mind!

Personally, I like taking a moment outside to just concentrate on taking deep breaths of fresh air. This helps bring my heart rate down. (It’s something a bit similar to meditating)

For meditation, stretching, yoga, exercise, and power-naps you can use the app Fabulous (I use it often during the day for these purposes.)

Do not use this time to procrastinate! Try to find a relaxing activity that is not time consuming (i.e, DO NOT watch an episode on Netflix, play a video game, or anything that can easily feed into your procrastination) Although, these can all be relaxing activities, you will unconsciously negatively reinforce your habit of procrastinating to relieve anxiety and, thus, will consistently want to procrastinate when you are distressed or overwhelmed by your classes. Essentially, creating a cycle of procrastination.

Ex: I am behind and am experience a lot of distress and anxiety. Watching Netflix (i.e. procrastinating) gives me temporary relief by distracting me from my responsibilities. Once my episode finishes, however, I feel the anxiety from my workload again and will decide to watch another episode etc. etc. It’s an endless cycle.

3) Plan out your week and dedicate each day predominantly to one class.

Now we have all the assignments and studying you have to do for every class and you are calm. Make sure to pay extra attention to due dates and plan which days you will be dedicating to each class. Plan a whole week and remember to plan wisely!

Prioritize by amount of weekly workload and proximity of due dates.

Does a class have assignments due every week? That class is most important since small assignments can eventually add up to a big portion of your grade. These assignments are due the soonest and, therefore, need to be done ASAP. Dedicate the whole day to just that class.

For example, for my Life Science course I have weekly quizzes and clicker points during class. If I am behind, I will dedicate a whole day to doing readings for that class first.

Have two different assignments for different classes due on the same day? Plan in advance so that you will still dedicate a whole day to each class rather than working on both assignments the same day (which would most likely be the day before, am i rite? ;) -> No, seriously don’t do this.)

If it is utterly necessary to do both assignments on the same day, then do split up your day.

4) Plan out your day. Every single hour. Seriously.

I literally will make a list of available times for each day and will schedule in assignments, meals, breaks, interviews, everything.

Try to be realistic! (I struggle with this a lot.)

Estimate the amount of time for an activity and then add a few more minutes to that.

Do not forget to schedule in essential personal care time. You need to eat, you need to take breaks, you need to shower, and you need to sleep. By doing this, you will be able to curve fatigue and to overall be in a better mental and physical health which is important for productivity.

Interweave your studies/assignments for a class.

What I mean by this is that you are behind and need to not only do the assignments but most likely need to learn it QUICKLY for the upcoming exam.

So an example of interweaving would be actively going back and forth b/w reading a chapter and your lecture notes. When I am behind I will take notes on the chapter I am currently reading and add those notes to what was said in lecture. Therefore, I am catching up but also making sure I am understanding the readings in terms of what is being taught in class. This saves time and you are learning!

Re-plan.

Some assignments will take longer than expected or a day will simply not be as productive as you thought it would be. It’s okay. Do not get discouraged. Simply, re-plan, adjust your days and continue moving forward! In order for this to work, you need to be flexible and learn what are the most important assignments you should be spending your time on.

5) Do not procrastinate!

I know this is easier said than done, but you (and I) are behind so we really have to stick to this one. Procrastinating may feel good at the moment but you will feel terrible about it later.

Here are some tools to help: Self-control (for macs), and Forest (for phones and computers.)

6) Go to the library or a quite isolated space.

Go. Go now.

Studying in your dorm room or at home gives you too many opportunities to be distracted and you simply do not have the time to take the risk. Food and people are my main distractions!

Also, being in a space where others are working will motivate you to do the same.

Get hungry while on campus? Pack your lunch AND dinner when you go to class and just spend the rest of your day in the library.

If you are starting to feel mentally fatigued, go somewhere else, take a small break, and continue. Go to a cafe, a computer lab, a grass field, anywhere. A change of scenery while studying can help you feel refreshed!

7) Give yourself rewards for accomplishments

I prefer to keep my rewards small. They tend to be having a small talk with my roommate, experimenting while making coffee, making myself a really nice dinner, or pressing flowers.

Do not over extend or continually take breaks. Again, do not reward yourself with something that you associate with procrastination or could procrastinate with!

8) SLEEP!

Last one! I know everyone and their moms say this, but sleep is very important for learning and (if your cramming) retention. After a certain point your brain will be too fatigued and will not retain anything you try to cram into it, so why not spend that time doing something better? Like sleeping!

Before I even start studying, I give myself a cut-off time. This is a time when I will stop, no matter how much work I have gotten done, and will prepare to go to sleep.

I wake up at 8am, so mine tends to be around 12:00am.

Your cut-off time should be strict and should give you at least 6-8 hours of sleep, so plan wisely!

Consistency is the key to success.

Studies have shown that inconsistent sleep affects your learning retention and academic abilities the next day. So, really try to stick to this one, if anything!

Again, the Fabulous app can help you stick to your cut-off time and maintain a regular sleep pattern.

I could go on and on about this but this post has already become more lengthy than I had anticipated!

Remember these are the things I do when I am behind (usually severely), this does not consist of my daily study habits when I am caught up. Therefore, some of these tips aren’t efficient for long-term learning but are definitely better than cramming (in my opinion and experience.) Catching up is by no means fun, therefore, once you are caught up, please try to implement better time management and daily study habits. (If anyone is interested in tips for those, let me know and I can make a post about it!)

Lastly, you can do this! I mean it. I do not know you personally but I have seen people do the most astonishing things in the face of adversity. So please trust me when I say, I believe in you wholeheartedly!

Good luck!

Jessica

Fri, Jan. 29th 2016 | 12:00pm

rosetylecr

It’s coming, Donna. It’s coming from across the stars and nothing can stop it. What is? The darkness. Well, what do you keep telling me for? What am I supposed to do?