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‘Nothing material has changed’ well they thought they were female now they know they’re not, their understanding of the material reality has changed, so their attraction has too. A lesbian is not going to be attracted to a man; this reads like conversion therapy rhetoric ffs
If this doesn’t peak you idk what will. Women are told to move aside and shut up when talking about our biology, told to modify our language to stop being exclusive, but transwomen can be as loud and proud as they want about their dicks and not only is it totally 100% inclusive, but also now the pinnacle of womanhood and “bio-women” need to shut up and let them talk.
Peak male entitlement. Even with gender politics aside, day in and day out women, everyone needs to tolerate dick visibility. Whether it’s casually taking up too much space on the metro bc “muh dick n balls”, drawing random dicks on walls or windshields, coming up with stupid memes like ~big dick energy~, or what else it’s publicly accepted.
Whereas a women acknowledging female biology is seen as vulgar and repulsive. Remember that Japanese artists that made a kayak in the shape of her vulva/vestibule was imprisoned for that but the same country has an annual penis festival to worship those disgusting things.
You can’t convince me that trans “women” of the modern age are anything other than men completing a natural phase of historical erasure through invasion and imitation. We see this with ethnicity (white people who are “part” Cherokee or Rachel Dolezal) and now it is present in sex/gender…
If you have to remind people to include trans women on women’s day then maybe it means that women’s day is not for them. I never see anyone posting trans men on men’s day or apologizing to trans men for not including them.
Lmaooooo they fucking wish they looked like this. Yup sure, Jan, transwomen look like a porny female body with a dick just stuck on.
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Some peak stories from the banned gender critical reddit
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I am once again furious there isn't a dyke version of grindr
If there was, it would likely get taken over by males/AGPs or sued like Giggle.
Literally every 'lesbian' dating app is just overwhelmed with TIMs.
They really are. I'm on Her and have nerdy interests and I swear the AGPs are at least 50% of my likes. Most of them put that they are trans women or are easily clocked and avoided but one fooled me the other day. Had a whole conversation before she mentioned that my profile says "vagitarian" on it x.x
Have any other women ever been accused of abuse by a male, only to realize years later that their accusation was purely a manipulation tactic? It's a pretty wild thing to come to terms with after years of thinking I was at some point an abuser, and torturing myself trying to figure out what I did so wrong in order to fix myself. Turns out nope I wasn't abusive, I just pissed that man off a few times 🤷♀️
this post is about an ex btw, not my current partner
I was accused of abuse by a TIM I dated. My first relationship. It was because I asked him to clean up after himself and shower and got upset when he would promise to do those things and continuously not do them. To him any displeasure from me was abuse. Any argument was abuse. I was supposed to take his financial and emotional abuse quietly, or else I was the abuser.
It tore me up inside to think I was capable of abusing a partner. I believed everything he said about me and apologized and promised to do better. He used that to keep me trapped, because I felt like I owed it to him to be kind and loving after what I put him through. I thought I was so lucky he still was willing to give me another chance.
He was truly a manipulative, useless leech of a man in every way, and I was too blind to see it. I feel that if I had perceived him as male from the outset I would've been able to call it out, but because of his perpetual victim status as a "trans woman" I thought I must be the problem.
To this day people I tell this story to will side with him. People who don't even know him. Because they think I had the power in that relationship. I was the oppressor. This framing keeps me from meaningfully describing my experience, which is tied to his unique self-described identity. By labeling himself as the most oppressed of all women, he's redefining the abuse with me as the aggressor.
That's why I'm a radical feminist. I would've never cared about any of this unless I'd been through it. That's why I won't shut up about this. He thinks he has the power to silence me, but I will continue to tell my story and fight against the harmful and misogynist rhetoric of the trans movement.
This one conversation between my dad and a friend of his always sticks with me.
My dad was talking about this time when we were on vacation and really needed somewhere to pee, so we went into this random bar and asked if we could use their bathroom. I was 12 at the time and just remember everyone in there being really nice (especially since it was noon and hardly anyone was there).
But later I come to find out, it was a gay bar. My dad was retelling this story at dinner to his friend. It was a family thing; I was probably around 22 by that time. It really struck me then, the way my dad talked about it. He talked about how uncomfortable for him it felt to be there. It wasn’t like anyone was hitting on him or anything. But just being in an environment, surrounded by people he knew were attracted to him and could be sizing him up…he said that made him feel uncomfortable and objectified. He said the skimpy posters of men in speedos in the bathroom made him feel like that too.
It really pissed me off. I didn’t let it show, but I asked him this simple question: “Dad, did you ever consider that how you felt in that gay bar is how I feel every time I step into public, as a woman?” He had absolutely no response. He was completely taken aback by that consideration.
Because it’s true. I’ve been catcalled since age 14, probably earlier without knowing. I’ve lived my whole life knowing that a lot of men—who I am absolutely disgusted at being seen/touched by too, by the way—are constantly looking at me, constantly thinking sexual thoughts about me, and constantly undressing me with their eyes. Since I was a toddler, I have been bombarded with images of airbrushed models in bikinis advertising things as simple as toothpaste to me. And I considered it normal because of how frequently it happened to me and how it was expected of women to accept that kind of treatment.
I’m not saying my dad is a bad person. But men in general have no idea how it feels to be raised under conditions like that and the psychological damage it does to you. They fundamentally do not understand and probably never will. And yet they still think they have the right to speak over us whenever possible.
the thing is some people will say things like its ok to 'have a genital preference' but you just shouldnt call yourself gay/lesbian because those words refer to gender. so like ok what r we supposed to call ourselves then. what is the word for a person who is only attracted to someone with the same primary sex characteristics as them. what word can we use that you won't wrinkle your nose in disgust at. why are you even bothering to pretend its the word you have a problem with and not just the actual fucking homosexuality of it all.
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Despite there being next to zero cases of women physically attacking trans women and killing trans women (while I can find multiple cases of trans women killing women) it is the women they hate most. Not the men killing them, not the men that they're supposedly terrified of sharing a bathroom with. Because it's us women who break their delusion, who break their porn fantasy. Women who ruin their sexual gratification by bringing them back to Earth and telling them no. And misogynistic men hate nothing more than a woman telling them no.
The influx of young girls buying anti-aging products really does just feed into the idea that a woman's natural state is ugly. We're expected to shave the hair off our bodies, never look older than 25, dye our hair, put on makeup, get cosmetic surgery. The beauty industry's goal is to make money off our insecurity, and the younger they reel you in, the more they make and the more likely you are to believe you will need those products to just be allowed to exist.
You can exist in your natural state. In fact, doing so is a rebellion. It's telling the men around you that you are more than a rating on a scale from 1 to 10, you have an inherent value that is unaffected by what you put on your body. You are not made for their enjoyment or approval. You're not playing this game they invented to sell us on the lie that we need to alter ourselves to be accepted and loved.
Free yourself by existing as yourself unapologetically. You don't owe it to anyone to look young or beautiful or feminine. You certainly don't owe it to yourself.
Yes, a woman is defined as an adult human female. But maybe it would be easier to tell you what does not define a woman.
A woman is not defined by things you add to your body. Makeup, spinny skirts, and bras don't make you a woman. There is no way you can dress or present yourself that will change you into a woman. Injecting cross-sex hormones does not make you a woman. Having a hormonal make-up similar to a woman's does not mean you are one.
A woman is not defined as a man without certain body parts. Shaving down your brow bone and Adam's apple will not make you a woman. Having surgery on your genitals to make them appear more like a woman's will not make you a woman.
A woman is not defined by her attributes: submissive, bimboified, girl-brained. A woman can be all of these things or none of these things, and she is still a woman.
A woman is not the thoughts you think or the urges you have. It is not the way you see your body or the way you picture or draw yourself.
A woman is not shared pain and trauma. Struggling with things that women have historically struggled with does not make you one. Experiencing hate because you are perceived feminine does not make you a woman.
Looking like, talking like, and sounding like a woman does not change your sex to female. There is nothing you can do, no action you can take, no surgery you can have, no drug you can inject, no official document you can change from M to F, that will make you female. And that is why you will never be a woman.
I was always jealous of boys. I knew from a young age they had something I didn't. Different toys, different hobbies, different roles. My dad made it no secret that he wanted a boy. Someone he could teach to play football and game with. It hurt me that he never thought I could be that person. I thought I must've been born wrong somehow, that I was a mistake, that I should've been different.
I remember when I first discovered that you could change your gender, and you could do it just by deciding that you were something else and maybe taking some medicine. It would change me, but I never wanted to be myself anyway, so maybe this would be better. I was on board. I changed my name, cut my hair, bound my breasts. I never wanted to be a girl anyway. I wouldn't miss it. I found a doctor that would prescribe me testosterone and started looking into a double mastectomy. I felt like I finally knew why I was so broken, and this would fix me.
I panicked a week in and cancelled the whole thing. People were confused. They had supported me, for the most part, and now they thought I was lying. They thought I was backing out because I was scared. And I was scared, because I just wasn't sure this was the answer I was looking for. I just wanted to time to decide if I was sure. But the gears were already turning. People had decided I was a boy now from the instant I said so. But I was unwell. Very unwell. And I had always been, and people tried to convince me that transition would fix that. It would cure me.
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder two months ago. After years of psych visits and evaluations and hospitalizations, years of people ignoring and downplaying my symptoms. I just turned 30. It's likely that I have been suffering from this disorder for the last 15 or so years without the proper assistance. This is how long it took for a multitude of doctors to find out what was wrong with me.
And do you what really scares me? The fact that it took this long to diagnose me with a lifelong medical condition, yet when I expressed that I MIGHT be trans, I was IMMEDIATELY told that I needed to make major medical changes. I almost signed myself up for a lifetime of the wrong treatment because people were so concerned about validating my identity that they didn't even stop to ask if I was sure.
I don't know which is worse: not being diagnosed with bipolar for 15 year, or being diagnosed as trans inside of a week. I think both are examples of the failure of the mental health system. Where is the balance? How are women supposed to lead healthy lives when they're either ignored for years or immediately prescribed permanent life-altering treatment that might not be right for them?
I want to understand and be accepting of people. I want the people around me to feel heard and loved. I just can't help wondering how many girls like me thought they might be boys because everything in their life just sucks, and they desperately need a change. I see doctors from gender clinics coming out and saying that the majority of their patients are women with serious mental health issues and trauma. And I just think, that could've so easily been me.
My entire life has been defined by my existence as a girl and a woman. And I always hated that. But it's not because I was never meant to be a female; it's not because I was born wrong. It's because being a female in a patriarchal society is utter fucking shit. And I owe it to every girl like me to help fix that.
For everyone that thinks I should've known my ex was abusive, I should've seen the signs, I shouldn't have put up with it for so long: I wish all abuse worked like that. That you could just spot it clearly and easily, and that as soon as you did, you could have the courage to leave.
I never liked the way he talked to me. The way he put me down and minimized everything I did while expecting praise for completing basic tasks. The way he called my major easy, my job easy, every single thing I struggled with so EASY when it was clearly a challenge for me with my neurodivergent brain. I didn't like the way no opinion or emotional reaction could go unchallenged or unmocked. I told him this many times. He always said he didn't mean it that way. It was a joke. I was too sensitive. Why did I have to be so defensive all the time?
I'm not sure at what point my relationship with him became a form of self abuse. I would tell him things about me that I knew would make him call me stupid, melodramatic, crazy, because it fueled my self hatred. I could have hidden those things, but instead I thought, "no, I deserve my punishment." I thought I deserved to be with someone who constantly put me down and made me feel lesser. I thought I was being a poor sport because I didn't go along with my joke, I didn't look contrite and guilty of all the things he accused me of.
The thing about abuse is, it's hard to recognize the level of abuse while you're in it. It's only after taking a step back that you realize the magnitude of what you've been through, what you tolerated. And other people telling you he's abusive doesn't always ring true to the image of him you hold in your mind. You explain it away, minimize it, insists that he does plenty of good things too. And you're not perfect either, so who are you to judge? You think you need him to keep you in check; you think without those moments where he's sweet or supportive you would just fall apart.
It takes a true act of kindness to yourself to leave. When you're not used to being kind to yourself, it feels impossible. It feels like you're stuck, and you always will be, because you love him and need him. You don't realize he's like a toxin, and the longer you stay, the weaker you will be when it's time to leave.
Have courage. Be kind. Leave him, and don't look back.
did you see the /actuallesbians drama with /justunsubbed? this lesbian was like "trans women are valid uwu but like it's weird to post about loving penises in a lesbian subreddit" and people in the comments lost it.
yeah, I was there live :)
THE GIRLS ARE PEAKINGGGGGGGG
well maybe I wasnt live there, but when it happened and it honestly made my day
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love her analysis
(for everyone who doesn't know, the "lesbians" subreddit is a porn subreddit, so the lesbians made a second subreddit called "actuallesbians" to discuss issues that actually concern same-sex attracted women, and it was taken over by men (again))
WOHOOOO
God I miss r/gendercritical.
I have tried to date trans women. I have tried to date non-binary people AMAB. I was pressured and guilted into these relationships because I wanted to be accepting, and they said they were not technically men so I should be fine dating them. And I thought maybe it would be okay and that they were right because they were smarter than me. My attraction must just be attraction to non-men. They were so sure they knew better than I did, so I let them tell me things about myself that were not true.
I feel like I have given this enough shots to say I do not like dick. But the reality is, I shouldn't have had to prove it. It shouldn't have taken four years of sexless relationships thinking I was the problem.
They should have accepted my answer when I told them. Because I did tell them. They always found a way to explain it away. And when I inevitably pulled away from sex after "giving it my best" I was shamed into thinking there was something wrong with me. So I stayed. I have wasted years of my life on people I was not really attracted to but happened to be there at a vulnerable moment in my life. And I clung to that just because they were nice to me, and I SHOULD be attracted to them, so why wasn't I?
There is nothing wrong with being a homosexual woman. My real flaw is that I let people stomp all over my boundaries because I want to make them happy and be accepted. Because I was socialized to be this way, raised religious, told I needed someone to complete me.
I am done. I am complete. And now, finally, I am not going to let anyone tell me that my attraction is wrong. I will stand up for myself and my needs as a LESBIAN. Because this is who I am, who I always have been, and I will no longer deny it.
