a few people reblogged my original post without the further commentary w tags like this, so i'd like to clarify.
ADAPTABILITY IS recognizing that the situation you have found yourself in is making you miserable in some way and changing something, internally or externally, in order to make it tenable. changes, depending on the situation, may include but are not limited to:
looking at something ultimately harmless but frustrating to you from a different perspective and shifting your outlook towards it accordingly. for example, sometimes annoying but harmless behaviors from loved ones are genuinely how they show care and thoughtfulness, and recognizing that can genuinely make them no longer frustrating. it sounds stupid but it's true. (obviously there's nuance here, but this post isn't about that)
recognizing bodily pain from the situation and taking preventative measures in the future so that it doesn't get worse, i.e. wearing a wrist brace when drawing if you've recognized that drawing is beginning to hurt your hand, or wearing a knee brace if you work a very labor-intensive job and are experiencing knee pain
recognizing a current organizational system is no longer working in your favor and either changing the problem elements of it or finding a new one. sticking with one that doesn't work any more in the hopes that it just randomly will again is only gonna leave you in limbo, embrace the pivot.
as said in my commentary, blocking a tag or user of a website that annoys you rather than stewing in frustration every time you see them. you're on the internet to have fun, there's literally no point in letting your limited free time in this world suck when you can make it so it doesn't.
recognizing a minor annoyance your partner or friend is causing and working around this so that it is no longer a concern. key word MINOR. for example, if you're annoyed they never put the toaster back to the right setting and you keep burning your toast because of it, it's going to be better for both of you if you just realize that that's always going to happen and just double check the setting yourself before trying to make toast. (again, nuance, but this post isn't about that)
recognizing your own shortcomings as a singular person and the benefits of being a social animal and asking for outside assistance. adaptability sometimes means knowing when you can't do it by yourself. yes, really.
ADAPTABILITY IS NOT just fucking grinning and bearing it. something that is harming you actively breaks you down over time. an animal in a new environment is not adapting to that environment if it's still hurting them. either they change so that it can't hurt them any more, or they change the environment around them to suit them.
if you are able to adapt to something, you should be, baseline, comfortable with it at the end of the day. not "kinda frustrated but it's fine", not "upset but it is what it is" - you should be comfortable.
if you are living in ambient misery instead, that is not adaptability, that is tolerance, and eventually that tolerance is going to meet its threshold and you are going to crack.
you do not have to let that happen.
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