work in progress pinned post - last updated august 8th, 2026
this blog is a refuge, a prayer, and a spell ✨ (now with an archive of dyke/queer studies!) NSFW. UNDER 18YO DNI. please respect my boundaries and make your age clearly visible before you click "follow," or we can't have fun together. also blocking blogs that reference the wizard franchise on sight. zero tolerance for hate disguised as whimsy. transmysogynists, TERFS, and transphobes will be met with hostile ejection.
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flowers in the window were courtesy of @jayneedsadarling! thank you so much, my friend! 😊 it might be time for some new ones tho…
i'm down for horny asks, once i get to know you. this blog, and thus the ask box, is for sapphics, dykes, queer folks, and lesbians. if you see m/f content, no you didn't. it's butchfemme/studfemme now. 25 and older for NSFW interaction. (if you have sex ed questions, 18yo+ is fine) the threshold for sexy interaction has nothing to do with any supposed benchmark of frontal lobe development, i’m just generally not interested in people that much younger than me. please include your pronouns if you want to be addressed in any way. if you just wanna confess something juicy and you don't require a response, that's ok too 💋 i love anonymous gossip. 25yo threshold applies to anything intended to get anybody wet, please.
i am looking for something serious. i am extraordinarily picky, if you couldn't tell yet.
follows are gonna be from my main, hearthfire-heartfire. ✨i’d especially love to be mutuals with other bipoc folks in their 30’s or older (where are my asian queers??), so if that describes you, reply under one of my posts and let me know!✨
two-spirit, intersex, transmasc, transfem, fluid, non-binary, etc. count for dykey behavior if that’s how you identify. anatomy or stage of transition doesn't factor into it for me.
i won’t judge you for your kinks if i don't have them in common with you but obviously i reserve the right not to engage and/or to use the block button.
taken anons: 🧡
-personal stuff is under #lore drop. extremely personal stuff is under #vulnerability is a superpower ✨ -i have a few recordings i made of me reading some of my erotic writing posts on here, those are tagged with #read aloud. i encourage you to share them if you like them! -i host a clinic called 💞flirting fridays💞 for folks 18+ to talk about topics and issues related to flirting in a low-pressure environment. tag is #welcome to flirting fridays -pics of anything other than my hands are not to be shared or reposted. you may screenshot for your personal use if you can beg in my asks nicely enough. friends and lovers only, tho. good lucking finding them... -sex ed tag is #your friend in reproductive health. my background is in midwifery specifically which is why i've phrased it like that -i don't proselytize, or talk about spiritual/religious dogma much in specific on this blog but if anyone needs to filter #shinto or #state shinto mention, i am tagging it. i am anti-imperialist in my practice, i do a lot of work to try and extract the influence of empire and the imperial family from the folk traditions of my heritage. my spirituality influences how i experience sensuality, among other things, so i mention it here 🙏🏼 gasshou
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green flags:
-yearning, sensuality and sensory descriptions, teasing. specificity. do you call everyone ‘baby’? then do me one better. get creative. get lyrical. get a thesaurus
-i was gonna put “voice kink” because that is 100% true, the tone and timbre of a person’s voice Does Things to my body. but also, communication more broadly. talk me thru the process of opening up my body (or my heart) to you. tell me how it feels for you. let me know if you’ve got me.
-switchy witch. domme lean lately. i’m exclusively into being a bottom tho. that's what i wanna explore right now, even if i've been vers in the past. what role i’m gonna wanna play in a power exchange appears to be highly dependent on my partner of choice and i seem to get writing inspiration from anywhere. pillow princess aspirations #bossy thoughts
-worship. devotion. transcendence. ecstatic experiences (ecstasy - from “ex” “stasis,” outside of the mundane) animist nature porn, i.e. eroticizing the aliveness of all creation
-praise kink, giving or receiving. not your “good girl” but maybe you can be vocal about how much you appreciate me, hmmm? and i will thank you very sweetly in return
-breeding. hold me in place and pour your desire into me. if you find release in me over and over and over again, if you stroke it deep enough, it could happen. if i don’t walk away pregnant from the strap, you’ll have to try again… #full moon posting
-massage as foreplay and aftercare. healing arts are necessary and sexy.
-rope play/bondage. bonus points to anyone who actually knows how shibari utilizes pressure points #nope bunny
-exhibitionism. isn’t it intoxicating when everyone around falls in love with us, too?
-group stuff i guess. like have done, would do again with the right partner(s). not a main focus of the blog tho. #the more the merrier
-biting, hickeys. tagged under #marking
-nonsexual erogenous zones. touch me everywhere.
-overstimulation. my record so far is about 40+ orgasms in a session before i lost count and cramped up from electrolyte loss, because squirting. as you do.
-squirting. speaking of. this is also an academic interest of mine if you wanna talk about it from a physiological perspective too. i have pdfs and doi numbers 😉
-intoxication. i prefer the herbal variety
-monsterfucking. more of a seasoning than a main component of the blog, but there's wolves and beasties about.
-afterglow. that sleepy sweaty feeling is worth fantasizing about too
-safe sex! talk to me about condoms and dental dams. let's talk about accessibility accommodations and body mechanics we can use to avoid repetitive stress injuries (carpal tunnel = bed death). safety is sexy
-our mutual liberation. not kidding when i say 'lesbian love saves lives.' our continued survival should be celebrated carnally, imho
-decolonization and power exchange. our preferences around D/s dynamics are shaped by the world around us and i’m seeking people who can engage with that intentionally
-courtship. “please” and “thank you”s. dancing. SEDUCTION
-can do a little bullying/condescending femme energy but i think of it more like challenging u rather than degrading, if that makes sense. my existence is a challenge to meet me where i’m at and i’m much more cognizant of my worth these days.
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yellow flags:
-teasing, delectable most of the time. ❌ can’t mess around with edging or orgasm denial rn 😅❌ my default state is orgasm denial. i need to cum lots
-#collars and leashes. seems to be very popular with subby studs mascs and butches, and therefore i am invested in learning about the erotic charge they carry, and how best to wield it 💅🏼💅🏼💅🏼 collars are triggering for me in the submissive role, tho, which is why they are under the yellow flag topics
-sadism. like a liiiiiiiiittle bit. i am not in the mood 98% of the time but when that 2% hits i'm working something out on somebody's flesh. there's like two posts in my #mean femme era
-foot stuff. doesn’t really do it for me but if you want someone to step on you, it might be fun.
-impact play. i enjoy it but it’s also bordering on vanilla at this point. kinda bored of it on the receiving end unless you wanna put in the work to get me really hot beforehand. chronic pain shit complicates the pleasure response if we go in cold. might be up to giving tho.
-spit. don't like spitting, don't like drooling. it is hot to see it in evidence tho. i suppose i just don't enjoy play that makes spit the focus
-hard fucking. not to knock it, but i do think sometimes the enthusiasm is to make up for a lack of experience. tell me about your stroke game, if you have one.
-ass play. pretty neutral about receiving, enthusiastic about giving if that’s what you’re into, in the rare moods when i want to top. even in fantasy, i would prefer imagining a dental dam for rim jobs tho lol
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red flags/triggers:
-raceplay, racial fetishization. instablock. at best.
-hatefucking, degradation, humiliation.
-anything involving the words “patriarchy,” “supremacy,” or “-breaking.”
-pain during penetration. it doesn't 'hurt so good,' it just hurts
-choking, gagging
-noncon/dubcon. there is a “cnc” tag on this blog. DO NOT SEND ME CNC ANONS OR INTERACT WITH ME IN THIS WAY. talking about consent and times where desire might skirt that edge is not the same thing as inviting cnc play.
-bodily wastes, injury or injured bleeding (💚❣️🩸period sex a-ok! 🩸❣️💚 just more a fact of life than an erotic thing for me)
-ageplay
-locks, especially on collars it seems. barbed wire
dividers are by littlestpersimmon on tumblr (not tagging in case he doesn't wanna see all the above 😅) and the last one is an art nouveau ornamentation in the public domain
